Bem, all dads are good dads. They just express their love differently. Diba?
Daddy is very emotional, dili lang siya open to show it. Sa una, dili na siya mo say, 'I love you' but as we got older, he says it more often. Or mo show siya--very obvious.
I think ing ana man jud na ang Filipino Dads. B/c when i grew up, Kiams, i would go to my friends houses (white, black, latin) etc and notice that American dads are very vocal about their concern to their kids. They hug their kids openly, say things like, "I love you" very frequently. And the kids say it back. And for a Fil-AM growing up in the 'states, it was hard because one I had to adapt and grow into the society in the 'states and yet at the same time when i went back home, lived in a very traditional Filipino (BISAYAN) household. Were english was spoken outside--but inside the house--we spoke only bisaya.
I asked my mom about this before--why does daddy not say 'I love you' openly?
Ingoon ahong inahan, "Ayaw ka think that your Daddy doesn't love you because he doesn't say it openly as sa amahan sa imung amigong puti. Ginigugma mo tanan iyang anak. So proud is your dad of all of you--his kids. Dili na siya mo show nimo, pero sa work place, he cannot stop talking about you kids. Your Dad loves you, even if you think he does not show it--he loves you so much"
Mao na--when I heard this--i came to terms with the cultural divide. Yes I am American and live in the American way of life--but also I realized that indeed i cannot separate myself form my Filipino culture--which my parents still live in. And in the end, when we come to terms with this reality--we can better appreciate our parents, our fathers for who they are. And what they are.
Bem, Am very sure your dad loves you very much. Of course. You are his baby girl.
Sure ko ana.
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