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Quote from: alycxs on July 03, 2010, 12:58:08 PM

I am away from my parents and brother. I am blessed that I have my husband, but he too is gone sometimes 2 weeks out of the month. He is American but works for Cathay in Hong Kong since airlines here in the US don't pay their pilots very much. In a sense, he is like an OFW, same amount of time away from home, but just in 2 week increments. 

You're still lucky, though 2 weeks can still be long for others but far,far better than those who only sees each other after every 2 years or worse, 3 or maybe more. Kaya for me, what I bargain to my boss is to allow me to go for a quarterly vacation kahit na walang increase, so that my kids can still remember my face

Thanks for sharing your inspiring story Kabayan Alice.

I don’t see anything wrong with your father's advise/opinion neither your being abroad. It's just that raising a family where the husband or the wife is miles away from their family is difficult. You have the advantage that most OFW's doesn’t have--working abroad and at the same time living with your family. But this opportunity comes only in few pieces and so rare that only a few could have. I understand where your father is coming from because I’m beginning to experience the situation that your father had painted. How easy to measure the benefits of overseas work but I doubt if anyone can ever quantify what has been given up or lost in terms of love.

I just hope that someday, working abroad is just a matter of choice and not the only choice.

tama ka dyan kabayan.

kung minsan ang mga kabayan natin kapag nakaranas ng konting ginhawa ay nalilimutan na ang mag "save for the rainy days" at kung minsan, kahit na di naman kalakihan ang kita sa abroad, pag uwi sa Pinas, gastos dito gastos doon kaya akala tuloy ng mga kamag anak ay 'mayaman ang mga OFW.' Meron akong kasamahan sa trabaho, pag uwi sa Cebu, inum-dito, inum doon. Ipinasara pa raw niya ang isang Videoke house para exclusively for him and his drinking mates, hayun after 1 month pa lang, hurot na gihapon kaya pagdating dito sa opisina, utang na naman sa opisina and considering na almost 10 years na sa company, hayun wala pa ring asenso. Kaya nga dapat, habang nasa abroad kailangan may goal setting. Hangangang kailan ka ba dapat magtrabaho ng malayo sa pamilya mo. kasi kung wala tayong objective sa buhay at sige-sige lang, kadalasan yun yung mga inaabutan na ng katandaan sa pag-a-abroad, wala pa rin asenso. Dapat lagi natin isipin na ang trabaho sa ibang bayan ay di dapat maging parte ng long term planning. dapat gamitin lang ito bilang instrumento sa pagahon sa kahirapan at makapag umpisa ng buhay na maayos sa Pilipinas kasama ang pamilya. Dapat tayong mga Pilipino ay baguhin ang mentalidad na sa halip maghanap ng trabaho, dapat gumawa ng trabaho at maging enterpreneur.

"Gusto kong sisihin ang Pilipinas dahil napakahirap ng buhay dito. Sa Amerika ba may tatay na nangingibang-bansa para makapagtrabaho lang?" - Luis Iral Galicia

Wala sanang pinoy na napipilitang umalis ng bansa para maghanap-buhay kung mayroon sanang maayos na polisiya sa pagtataguyod at pagpapasigla ng business opportunities sa Pilipinas. Sa mga nagdaang gobyerno, wala akong makita na plataporma na inilatag para kung hindi man wakasan ang forced migration ng mga pinoy or at least mabawasan bagkus, ay umaayuda pa sa mass exodus ng pinoy dahil ito na lang ang last saving grace ng ekonomiya ng pilipinas. Para bagang sinasabi na, "sige mga OFW, kailangan ninyong mag abroad dahil kailangan ng bayan ang remittance ninyo. At kami sa gobyerno, sasakay na lang sa epekto ng patuloy na paglago ng buwanang remittance para kredito sa epekto kunwari ng masaganang ekonomiya ng bansa" Kung sasabihin na magtiis kaming mga OFW, matagal ng nagtitiis ang mga pinoy na parang kahalintulad ng mga "prostitute" sa brothel na walang magawa kung hindi mag paubaya sa mga nakapilang parukyano hangang sa ang iba ay inabot na ang kamatayan. Kinakailangan ba na sapitin ng bawat OFW ang kamatayan para mapatunayan ang pinoy resiliency? Sabagay, bagong bayani daw kami pero anong epekto ng pagiging bayani mo kung ang pamilya mo ang nasakripisyo. Basahin ang kalakip na istorya sa ibaba.

http://www.gmanews.tv/story/165443/ang-tatay-kong-ofw

Quote from: vrglguapo on June 21, 2010, 01:44:07 AM
Another good example of OCW parents and thier children left behind..I guess there was no regrets on both parents and kids on thier situatuion..kaunting tiis kabayan nang umunlad ang buhay  http://www.boholchronicle.com/2010/jun/20/comm2.htm..Never say bahala ug saging gikaon basta loving..hehe

Kabayan, you exactly missed the point. never in my post could you find anything that will say or advocate that its ok to to stay to where one's family is even to the point of living a miserable life. i suggest that you read my post toroughly before you conclude your statement.

While it is true that there are successful stories of pinoy migration (and i must say that i belong to this small statistics) but have you tried to established how many stories belong to the "not so good ending?" Hindi na tayo kailangang lumayo kaibigan at basahin mo na lang ang laman ng pahayagan araw-araw.

No one doubts the resiliency of Filipinos especially OFWs. Hindi matatawaran ang pagtitiis ng mga migranteng Pinoy kahit na anong hirap ang danasin sa ibang bansa. Subalit sigurado ako, kung tatanungin mo ang bawat isa sa amin, kung may pagkakataon na maghanapbuhay sa sariling bayan, kundi man lahat, marahil higit sa nakararami sa amin na sasabihin sa iyo na mas gugustuhin  pa rin namin magtrabaho sa sariling bayan kung may pagkakataon at opportunidad (at hindi makuntento lamang sa pagkain ng saging). Iyan KABAYAN, ang ibig sabihin o ang buod na aking post na sana mainitindihan mo ng lubusan ng sa gayon ay hindi ka makapagbigay ng inconclusive na statement.

Quote from: Gener on June 18, 2010, 09:43:25 AM
As the saying goes: “The road to hell is paved with good intentions.” Going abroad to work will definitely put money in one's bank account enough to live a little comfortable lifeâ€"that if he/she knows how to handle it,

Living expenses may be tough, but with patience, perseverance, hard-work and focus, life here couldn’t all be that bad. He may not make a fortune but he can be creative to make ends meet, just so he and his family can have a life together. The long and short of it is he has to make a hard choiceâ€"and it should not be on the side of glitter.

There are always 2 sides of the coin. In the case of going abroad, I wouldn't be surprised if our vision is biased always on the side of the economics lest we forget the immeasurable losses of migration, and I already mentioned that in my previous post above. And really the road to hell is paved with good intentions and I know all of us will definetly agree that no Pinoy diaspora leaves our country without good intentions but we cannot have the best of both worlds, happiness and prosperity. It's just a matter of one weighing one's priority. Life's happiness is not always about on the side of prosperity but prosperity can sometimes be a result of happiness. You can be prosperous in a sense that you are surrounded by people you loved and people who loved you in return but can't be happy even we have the finest things in the world. While it is true that we must allow our children to make decision for themselves but as parents, it is our obligation to present clearly the scenarios, the pros and the cons, the left and the right so that they will be guided in their decision. But if we will have it our way as parents, we would want them to follow the "tried and tested" formula we developed all throughout the years of our existense. But at the ned of the day, it is them (children) who will still decide what road they want to travel.

Quote from: vrglguapo on June 20, 2010, 02:55:51 AM
..To be a OCW we must have a strong personality, wide understanding about life and welfare to our family,good understanding about value of money,Honesty to our wife and children,and not a sentimental person..These are lists of few thing you need to be an OCW.If you think you don't have one of these things ,its better to stay  at home lalo na yung mga seloso at selosa ..Baka magka problema pa at wala na si Dear Kuya Eddie..Kaya ang nangyayari nang ibang OCW umuwi sa Pinas sira ang ulo deretso sa Mental Hospital..Payong kapatid lang Kabayan if you have weak at heart and weak personality huwag na kayong mag OCW..

Kabayan, kahit anong tatag ng personality ng isang tao at iba pa kung walang pananalig sa Panginoon Diyos ay walang patutunguhan mabuti, kay nasa abroad ka o maging sa sariling bansa. Ang pagiging sentimental ay di sukatan ng kahinaan ng isang tao ganun din naman ang pagkakaroon ng strong na personality ay di rin pamantayan ng kalakasan ng tao bagkus, ang pananalig sa Diyos na siyang pinagmumulan na katatagan at tagumpay sa buhay. Kung minsan ang sobrang kompiyansa sa sarili ang nagiging dahilan ng kapahamakan. Mapalad ang mga tao na umaamin ng kahinaan at umaasa ng kalakasan sa Panginoon sa[agkat nasa kanila ang habag ng Paginoon kaysa sa mga taong nananalig sa sariling lakas, talino at abilidad.

The link below mirrors one of the reasons why I say what i wnat to say to my son. This time, I'm expressing my self as a son to my father. This is for all of you fellow OFWs in our endless struggle to provide a better means for our family and to all the fathers as well, this is for all of us.

http://www.gmanews.tv/story/193314/hampas-ng-pagmamahal-ni-itay#

Quote from: taga tigbao on June 18, 2010, 03:18:29 PM
Ako man ay may planong mag-abroad pero hanggat may maganda pa at desenting trabaho dito sa Pilipinas ay hindi ko muna gagawin ang aking balak ITAY. 

Mabuti naman malaman anak at maayos ang buhay mo sa Pinas,ANAK

As the saying goes: “The road to hell is paved with good intentions.” Going abroad to work will definitely put money in one's bank account enough to live a little comfortable lifeâ€"that if he/she knows how to handle it, perhaps that would probably explains why majority of OFW's are still working abroad despite being abroad for more than 10 years or so.

My intention of asking my son not go abroad is clear (if ever he has a choice, and this is not an order but a counsel from a father who had experienced being a diaspora). Ofcourse, this is given the fact that in worst case, he couldn't find a decent job in the Philippines and there is a ways and means for him to find good one outside of the country though away from his family, I think the decision is very clear. But if he has a choice, I want him to weigh the consequences, the pros and the cons of being away from his family.

There is nothing bad in our intention to give our family comforts in life and that is the reason why most of us went abroad (like me till now) but there should be a fixed plan for us to achieve our goal. The irony is that most of us doesn't even have that goal and we end up growing older and still working away from family. I even read sad stories where OFW parent finally met his family in wheel chair as an invalid human being while others are-- in a casket. Who want's to end our life like that? Anyone?

That is why my advise to my son is that, if he has a choice, why not let try his luck in the Philippines? Living expenses may be tough, but with patience, perseverance, hard-work and focus, life here couldn’t all be that bad. He may not make a fortune but he can be creative to make ends meet, just so he and his family can have a life together. The long and short of it is he has to make a hard choiceâ€"and it should not be on the side of glitter.

"Life satisfaction should not be measured not by gross domestic product, but by gross national happiness." --King of Bhutan

Son, you are in your 2nd year of being a college student. Dalawang taon  na lang magtatapos ka na sa kolehiyo at sana kapag dumating ang panahon na iyon, kung may choice ka, huwag kang mag-abroad.

Marahil marami ang magtataas ng kilay o di kaya’y magtatanong ng “Bakit?” kapag nalaman nila na ganito ang payo ko sa iyo. Sabagay marami pa rin sa mga kababayan natin na ang paniniwala ay ‘mayaman ang mga OFW’, ‘masarap ang buhay sa abroad’ o kaya’s sikat ka kapag may kamag anak ka sa abroad. Siyempre naman, halos puro imported ang gamit sa bahay, ‘stateside’ wika nga. Pero ang hindi nila alam ay kung ano ba ang kapalit ng mga materyal na kasaganahan ito.

Karamihan sa mga magulang na nagtratrabaho sa abroad ay hindi maikaila ang ‘sense of loss’ na kung minsan ay may pagsisisi dahil sa hindi nakagisnang paglaki ng mga anak na naiwan sa Pilipinas. I grope for words to describe the passing of an era which part of my life have been sacrificed. Mula ng ako’y nagtrabaho sa abroad, I have looked at you and to other siblings of yours wishing that I could see all of you to grow into fine human beings wishing that I was there every step of your way. Pero ang reyalidad, hindi kasi malayo ako sa inyo. Nagkakasya na lang ako sa pagsasaya ng mag isa na malayo sa inyo sa panahon ng inyong kagalakan and perhaps bled profusely in my own when I know that one of you is in pain. Lagi ko kayong naaalala when I visit a nice place or eat an unusually fine meal kasi ang lagi kong sinasabi, “Sana kasama ko ang pamilya ko.” I worry for your safety and I cannot imagine not being able to recognize you and your other siblings in your mature years. Naalala ko tuloy minsan ng tanungin ko si mommy mo kung sino yung binata na nasa picture na ipinadala niya sa email ko. Sabi ni mommy mo, “Ano ka ba Dad, si Glenn yan, panganay mo!”

Sa panahon ngayon ng ‘absentee parenting’, the communication of love has taken the form of steady stream of ‘balik-bayan box’ every Christmas. Pero sa kabila ng dami ng reagalong natatangap, this however cannot compensate for the erosion of intimacy in the family. How easy to measure the benefits from overseas work but remain doubtful if one can ever quantify what a migrating parent has given up in terms of love. Kaya anak, if ever may choice ka after your graduation at kung makakahanap ka ng trabaho sa Pilipinas, kahit hnidi kalakihan ang sweldo basta disente at marangal, huwag kang mag-abroad. Diyan ka na lang sa Pilipinas kasi balang araw magkakaroon ka na rin ng sarili mong pamilya, mas masarap na abutin ang pangrap ninyo sa buhay ng magkakasama.

Quote from: benelynne on July 31, 2009, 08:17:25 AM

Maraming salamat sa mga encouraging posts na binabahagi mo dito sa Tubag Bohol, Gener. I am reminded that I was the first to usher you here among the Boholanos worldwide when I posted your article that appeared in the Daily Inquirer. I-a-adopt ka na namin bilang honorary Bol-anon.

It's my honor to be here Brod. thanks

Quote from: benelynne on March 16, 2010, 09:20:55 PM
Brod Gener, palaisipan sa akin kung ano ang moral of the story. Eto kaya?

The idealist looks for love and ends up empty-handed. The realist looks for someone to marry, and finds someone good enough to love.

hmmm... pwede:-)

Quote from: hubag bohol on February 26, 2010, 08:59:17 AM
If I remember my Bible right, one of the "lying thieves" went to hell, the other to heaven. In this case, sino kaya ang mapunta sa impiyerno?

none of the above., hahahaha

Would anyone believe if I were to take yellow pages, open it up and proclaim that this book will tell us who has a red car. You will probably say, “That’s not the purpose of the yellow page. Its purpose is simply to reveal name and number of people.” Only by understanding its purpose can I accurately use the yellow page in the same way only by understanding its purpose can I accurately use the Bible.

The problem is not that God hasn’t spoken but that we haven’t listened. Understanding the purpose of the Bible is like setting the compass in the right direction to know your true north. Calibrate it correctly and you’ll have a safe journey. But fail to set it and who knows where you will end up.

Anything that gives peace and security is something worth trying

Over the years, I've noticed when people are stuck in life. It's usually because they're still working off a set of assumptions that no longer apply. Or they're using problem solving techniques that once worked, but don't work anymore.

God wants us to always be learning, "always listening for fresh insights." Proverbs 18:15 (MSG)

Contrary to popular belief, there is nothing mysterious about being creative. The basic principle of creativity is simply combining two or more known ideas in a new way to create a fresh idea. Your plan of joining s religious congregation is another way of being creative in making something out of your God-given energy. Who knows, this can be good start?

Quote from: hofelina on February 25, 2010, 05:47:02 PM
Marami kang natutunan, Gener?

yes manay thess, as they say, "marriage is a continuous learning process."

(Last night, I had the opportunity of having extra time to watch the movie FIREPROOF, a 2008 drama about marriage that gone astray but saved the last minute. Below are the movie synopsis-Gener)

Captain Caleb Holt (Kirk Cameron) is a firefighter in Albany, Georgia and firmly keeps the cardinal rule of all firemen, "Never leave your partner behind". But Caleb's home life is an altogether different story; his seven-year marriage to his wife Catherine (Erin Bethea) is on the verge of implosion. Neither one understands the pressures the other faces, and after a heated argument in which Caleb screams in Catherine's face, she declares she wants out of the marriage, and takes off her wedding ring.

While Caleb claims to his friends and co-workers that Catherine is over-sensitive and disrespectful, Catherine simultaneously claims to her peers that Caleb is insensitive to her needs and doesn't listen to her. Further catalyzing Catherine's motivation for divorce is Caleb's addiction to Internet pornography and a large sum of money ($24,000, to be exact) he has saved up for a fishing boat he intends to buy, ignoring the fact that Catherine's disabled mother is in need of hospital equipment that she cannot afford, and which insurance refuses to cover. Caleb tells his father John about the impending divorce, and John challenges Caleb to commit to a 40-day test called, "The Love Dare." Caleb reluctantly agrees to do the test, but more for the sake of his father than his marriage. Catherine initially sees through Caleb's half-hearted attempts to win back her heart, which deepens Caleb's frustration. But with his father's encouragement, Caleb continues with The Love Dare, and eventually makes a life-changing commitment to God, unbeknownst to Catherine.

Meanwhile, Catherine begins flirting with Dr. Gavin Keller (Perry Revell) at the hospital where she works. She begins to open up to him about some of her problems, chiefly her mother's need for the hospital equipment which she can't afford, but as she's no longer wearing her wedding ring, Keller doesn't know Catherine is married, at least not until Caleb is brought to the hospital later. Catherine comes up to Caleb in the emergency room as Keller is treating him, and a nurse says that Caleb is Catherine's husband.

Through the guidance of The Love Dare, and as a result of his commitment to Christ, Caleb begins to understand what it means to truly love his wife. He begins pulling more of his own weight at home, doing household chores and running errands, and even leaving real roses for Catherine. Soon Caleb even finds the motivation to destroy his computer and everything on it, smashing it to pieces with a baseball bat. However, Catherine is still intent on filing for divorce, much to Caleb's anguish.

When Catherine goes to the home care store to talk with a clerk about the unpaid equipment her mother needs, the clerk tells her that all the equipment has been paid for in full and is being installed at her mother's house. Convinced it was Dr. Keller that paid the $24,300 price, Catherine goes to Keller at the hospital to thank him and sets up a lunch date with him. Meanwhile, Caleb finds out about Dr. Keller through a card for Catherine that she left at home, so he goes to the hospital and warns Dr. Keller that, even with his mistakes, he will not step aside and let Keller have Catherine without a fight. The doctor gets the message and quickly cools the relationship with Catherine, and the viewer learns that Dr. Keller is married and hides his ring in a desk drawer.

When Caleb finds Catherine at home sick in bed, he decides to take care of her, with food and medicine. Bewildered at his new bedside manner, Catherine asks Caleb what's happening to him. Caleb starts to tell Catherine about The Love Dare, and she pulls Caleb's book out from underneath the blanket next to her. Caleb tearfully apologizes for his selfish behavior and asks her forgiveness. While Catherine admits she sees some change in Caleb, she still cannot bring herself to trust him and believe he has changed. Caleb understands and gives her as much time as she needs to think things over.

Days later, Catherine returns to the home care store to purchase linens for her mother's new hospital bed, mentioning to the clerk that linens were the only thing Dr. Keller didn't pay for. But when the clerk reveals to Catherine that it was Caleb two weeks prior who paid $24,000 (Keller contributed only $300), Catherine bursts into tears and leaves the store. Now fully convinced of Caleb's genuine change of heart, Catherine runs home crying to put her wedding ring back on her finger. After freshening up, she goes straight to the fire house to tell Caleb that she now forgives him, and the two lovingly embrace. (Also, in a deleted scene, Catherine discovers Gavin flirting with a nurse shortly after learning of Caleb's payment for the hospital bed.)

Caleb's parents come to visit. While talking to his son, Caleb's father reveals that, contrary to what Caleb had believed, he did not do The Love Dare on his wife, she did it on him. This causes Caleb to recognize the impact his mother has had in his life, and rushes home to reconcile with her. Caleb and Catherine renew their vows in an outdoor ceremony, this time as a covenant with God.

Case in Point:

The movie tells 2 lessons that couples must learned.
First is by protecting your marriage from its greatest threat--shared secret. Catherine begins flirting with Dr. Gavin Keller (Perry Revell) at the hospital where she works. She begins to open up to him about some of her marriage problems that eventually lead to flirting moments. How can you protect your marriage from a workplace affairâ€"or any affair? One word: boundaries. A common assumption is that loving marriages are immune to affairs. But research suggests that it’s not necessarily the strength of your love that protects you, but the strength of your boundaries.

Second, know more about your spouse. There are many reasons when a husband or a wife strays away. He or she could be longing for attention and appreciation from other company which he or she didn’t experience from his or her spouse, something couple ought to do. When Caleb accepted the “40-days Love Dare” challenge given to him by his father, he begins to understand what it means to truly love his wife.
In order to give love, one should understand its meaning well enough in order to give it and received it in return. One shouldn’t be confined in just one dimension in defining love as merely a feeling but must beyond that translating it into an action rather than thought. Truly, love is not only a feeling but also an action that may lead to a certain action; that is to love and to get love in return

You had tried everything to save your marriage but despite of everything you have done, it came to a point that there’s no use of turning back for your spouse is slowly drifting away from your marriage life.

Probably, you have heard advices like in order to save your marriage, you have to pray for your spouse or listen to her and any other advices for that matter but still nothing happens. But let me asked you this, have you tried to studying her again?
When a man is trying to win the heart of a woman, he studies her; her likes, dislikes, habits and hobbies. But after he wins her heart and marries her he often stops learning about her. If the amount spent studying her before marriage was equal to a high school degree, he should continue to learn about her until he gained a college degree, a master’s degree and ultimately, a doctorate degree. It is life’s long journey that draws his heart ever closer to hers.

So do you study your spouse? For me, I am but I don’t think I got my college degree yet so I have to keep on learning until I got my PhD.

Quote from: hofelina on February 25, 2010, 03:01:21 AM
This is really good!  Gener makiha ka ng paninirang puri!

bail me out manay thess pag nakulong ako:-)

Quote from: statesville on February 25, 2010, 12:06:36 AM
We can always hope for a better tomorrow but
       please don't hold your breath, hehehe

i like that:-)hahaha

Hi there. I really wanted to visit Bohol with my family and heard good reviews about Bohol as favorite vacation spot for both local and foreign tourists. Can you recommend place/s to go, activities to do for a family weekend get away?? Appreciate if you can also give some tips like how to go there, place to stay and dine for a budget concious like me Thanks

Hi there. I really wanted to visit Bohol with my family and heard good reviews about Bohol as favorite vacation spot for both local and foreign tourists. Can you recommend place/s to go, activities to do for a family weekend get away?? Appreciate if you can also give some tips like how to go there, place to stay and dine for a budget concious like me Thanks

Hi there. I really wanted to visit Bohol with my family and heard good reviews about Bohol as favorite vacation spot for both local and foreign tourists. Can you recommend place/s to go, activities to do for a family weekend get away?? Appreciate if you can also give some tips like how to go there, place to stay and dine for a budget concious like me Thanks

Quote from: hofelina on February 24, 2010, 03:47:49 PM
Gener, this is an altruistic attitude. Mai-gi nalang meron tawong personal computer kahit papaa-no may regular contact parin. How´s your life in this far-flung place?

Never been better for it's really hard to be away from my family. good thing that technology bridges the gap of one's physical separation:-)

The old priest lay dying in the hospital. For years He had faithfully served the people of the nation's capital. He motioned for his nurse to come near. "Yes, Father?" said the nurse.. "I would really like to see JOSEPH "ERAP" ESTRADA and GLORIA MACAPAGAL ARROYO before I die", whispered the priest. "I'll see what I can do, Father" replied the nurse.

The nurse sent the request to them and waited for a response. Soon the word arrived. ERAP and GMA would be delighted to visit the priest. As they went to the hospital, ERAP commented to GMA."I don't know why the old priest wants to see us, but it will certainly help our images. GMA couldn't help but agree.

When they arrived at the priest's room, the priest took GMA's hand in his right hand and ERAP's hand in his left. There was silence and a look of serenity on the old priest's face. 

Finally GMA spoke. "Father, of all the people you could have chosen, why did you choose us to be with you as you near the end?" The old priest slowly replied "I have always tried to pattern my life after our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ." The old priest continued, "He died between two lying thieves. I would like to do the same." 

pwede ring segurista

In today’s era of Pinoy migration where either the father or mother is forced to live miles apart from their family, the love and respect that the children see between their father and mother, despite of the distance will keep them feel more secured and loved. Distance should never be an excuse for love knows no boundaries.

The best way to love your kids is to show them that you love their mother.

Quote from: hubag bohol on February 24, 2010, 09:41:04 AM
Beautiful lesson!

But, Bay Gener, what do you call it when the student picks ten wheat grains and chooses the biggest one to present to the teacher?

Polygamous:-)

truly, history repeats itself. We are in a vicious cycle. Mag u-unite tayo, mag-ooverthrow ng corrupt government, pagkatapos nun, papasok na naman weakness, allegations of corruption, ang nagiging resulta, rejection of government, not only by the people but even the allies.

Red Kapunan, a former RAM officer however, explained that the RAM’s own show of “discontent” with the Aquino administration, which came in the form of six attempted coup d’etats, was borne out of their disappointment on how the then Presidential Commission on Good Government (PCGG) “started raiding the Marcos cronies only to find the treasures, cars, jewelry in the pockets of some (Aquino administration) officials.” Bumabalik na naman tayo dun. May cycle of discontent. Bumabalik na naman tayo doon na nagdududa tayo sa lahat,” said Kapunan.

sadly, when i was in the philippines during my vacation, one of my fraternity brod encourages me to support his presidential bet. i asked him the reason why he wanted to support that candidate. he said in jest, "pare, ako ang hahawak ng Bureau of Customs pag nananlo si...though, that was made in jest, but it goes to show our immature ways and thinking with regards to chosing our national leader. Unless we are all ready to elect a leader without expecting any favor, our dream of having a better philippine sis far from reach.

I partly agree with FM, Jr. about his observation posted at http://globalnation.inquirer.net/news/breakingnews/view/20100222-254693/Edsa-1-proved-to-be-a-failureMarcos-Jr#commentbox.

Corruption is worse today than before. During the time of FM, corruption is centralized only in Malacanang Palace but now corruption is seen even in the level of Barangay. During Marcos time, there were many monumental landmarks that made Philippines known globally like the CCP, FAT at the expense of the hungry Juan dela Cruz. Today, as Filipinos continue to be hungry, there are no projects that would make Philippines as the center of arts. The C-5 extension project is more of an avenue of vested interest of a businessman turned politician. During the time of Aquino government, all they have done was to change the name of the streets and airport in memory of Ninoy. During the time of FM, there were numbers of political opponents that were missing in the drive to eradicate FM's political opponents but is there something new today? Worse, NGO's are being arrested by the military and took some time to present the MORONG 43 despite order for the SC. During FM time, lands were being acquired by FM for his own benefit but at least, partly for the government. During Aquino' time, Hacienda Luisita used to be acquired by the Cojuangco clan using government instrument under the agreement that these lots be distributed to land tillers but worse, Hacienda Luisita is slowly being converted to industrial, commercial lots and highways instead of its original intent as agricultural land.

As an OFW, during the 70's, Filipinos have a choice whether to work abroad for a better paying job or stays in the Philippines and settles for low paying jobs but at least still available. But now, there's no job available even for a Janitor despite having a large number of globally-competent Filipino workforce. Blame it to population explosion? Nah--that was the same mistake in the policy made by Singapore that their government of today resented. Now, it takes more head ache to manage the aging population of highly industrialized countries like Britain, America, Canada and Singapore where the Philippine government takes pride by prostituting our caregivers and other “Bayaning OFW” to these countries with aging population leaving almost nobody taking care of our very own country’s elder generation.

Now, if someone will ask me which is better--now or before? FM is lesser evil than Aquino, Estrada and GMA combined but Ramos time is better.

(Got this from my inbox)

A student asks a teacher, "What is love?"


The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the wheat field and choose the biggest wheat and come back.
But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick."

The student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one big wheat, but he wonders....may be there is a bigger one later.
Then he saw another bigger one... But may be there is an even bigger one waiting for him.
Later, when he finished more than half of the wheat field, he start to realize that the wheat is not as big as the previous one he saw, he know he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted.
So, he ended up went back to the teacher with empty hand.
The teacher told him, "...this is love... You keep looking for a better one, but when later you realise, you have already miss the person...."

"What is marriage then?" the student asked.
The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick."
The student went to the corn field, this time he is careful not to repeat the previous mistake, when he reach the middle of the field, he has picked one medium corn that he feel satisfy, and come back to the teacher.

The teacher told him, "this time you bring back a corn.... You look for one that is just nice, and you have faith and believe this is the best one you get.... This is marriage."

sorry, medyo bitin yung story plot ko :)but anyway, since some of you will watch the whole movie anyway, i will not reveal the story's ending so as not to spoil the story plot (though my synopsis contains some spoilers already, anyways, happy viewing

This scenario reminds me of a romantic-comedy film I've seen couple of days ago titled 'Serious Moonlight' co-stars Meg Ryan as Louise, a successful career woman who is about to be divorced by his husband Timmy (played by??). Timmy is about to leave to Paris together with a young and pretty receptionist he met in his office whom he plans to propose marriage after his planned divorce with Louise. Louise came home unexpectedly and caught Tim by surprised where the latter admitted about his plan to divorce the former. Louise after knowing Tim's plan restrained him in a toilet sit with a duct tape. In an effort to convince Tim to let go of his plan of divorce, Louise reminisced their marriage's good-old days, playing their marriage videos and photos on the projector, playing their wedding song and all that stuff to win her husband back. But to no avail, Tim slowly unravels reason of his leaving herâ€"insecurities. Louise has a better and high paying job than him; she can outdo him in all of their arguments; she can do almost every handy-job in the house that Tim can't. Worse, she can even do more bench press than Tim. When Tim asked Louise to let go of him for he's no use to her Louise replied, "I WON'T."

When Louise knew that Tim is decided not to change his mind about his plan, she left him in the house, still taped in a toilet sit to ask for help from his friends who played robbers and at some point sex predator. Louise, pretending to be unaware of the planned robbery was hog-tied and was put inside the bathroom aimlessly together with Tim who was still duct-taped in the toilet sit. There, Tim started to feel concern about the safety of Louise that at one point, he got the ire of the sex predator when he prevented him from sexually molesting the lifeless-like state of Louise. When they were left alone, Tim started to loosen up and feel sorry about dragging Louise's life to mess. He talks to the pretending-to-be lifeless Louise laying on the floor and unraveling his hang-ups about their marriage life. He talks about how he was ignored by Louise and the lack of connection and communication between the two of them. Tim wanted to talk to him about her day in the office, what she thinks about his plan to shift a career or about his plan to resign from the job and start his own company.  But to no avail for she was busy in her career.

Case in Point

Apart from love and trust, communication is always the key to every relationship. Regardless of the number of times we say “I Love you" to our spouse; how many chocolates and flowers we gave to our spouse, nothing beats the power of a healthy communication. Sometimes, we under estimate the importance of communication and replaced it with other ways we thought could compensate for the lack of communication that often resulting to a disaster, similar to the story in this film. However, there are those who communicate but are only after what he or she wants to say but is not ready to hear or listen to what the other party wanted to say. Worse, sarcasm and hurting words replaces what could have been a simple and casual chats. When we criticize without understanding we express only our own personal feelings and that is selfish thinking. We must remember that listening is the most effective way of communication and it goes without saying that when you listen, you are making the other person feel important. When we listen, we should do it not with one but two ears and that is love expressed by means of communication through active listening because when you joined both ears together it will form a heart shape like image. Isn’t it?

Quote from: jas4 on February 15, 2010, 12:45:28 PM
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You are married to a man who cannot reciprocate your profound love. A man who doesn’t even know what love is and worst of all, you found out that he has an extra marital affair. You showered him with all the material things more than he can ever imagine compensating the lack of physical intimacies brought about by your physical absence being thousands of miles away. But after all it is said and done still he didn’t mend his ways. Suddenly, you found a new love in the arms of someone else’s man. In short, an affection from a married man. He makes you feel ‘being wanted’ and you feel important as if you are always at the center of his attention. Something you never felt before and now you’re asking--is it all worth to give yourself a chance to make yourself happy? This is the scenario painted in one of the threads posted by a married woman which I have read and replied from a social networking site.

LOVE'S YARDSTICK

Love is not and cannot be measured by the number of "I love you" or number of SUV’s or neither by the number of tears you shed in the name of love. Material things cannot and will never provide an assurance that love invested in that kind of relationship will last a lifetime. Worse, the more he/she (person on the receiving end of such frivolous attention) will feel that whatever is consummated between the two of you is nothing but superficial. The connection that binds between couple cannot be established by material things or calls of endearment but on how either partners or both makes the relationship evolves into the next level until it reaches certain level of maturity. This maturity depends on many factors like upbringings or experiences we may have seen or witnessed from our parents. The kind of relationship that we have seen from our parents greatly influenced our emotional maturity and outlook with regards to our marriage relationship. The number of years that a couple has been married can never be the sole yardstick in measuring relationship maturity but by the ability of one or both to make their marriage work come hell or high water.

LOVE IS NOT ONLY A FEELING BUT A DECISION

As I always said in most articles that I have written, love is not only a feeling but a decision. We should consider redefining love more than just on the premise of feelings but that of an action. As love translated from a “noun” to “verb” will spell the difference between making and breaking it. An action that will lead one or both to a certain decision whether to fall out or to remain in love to the same person over and over again is a decision that only and for yours to make.

MISTAKE CAN NEVER BE CORRECTED BY ANOTHER MISTAKE

whilst it is given that your partner has wronged you and hurt you that much to the point that you want him to feel how is it like to be hurt. Whether this newly found love appears as your saving grace, it is something like a double-edge blade ready to slice your heart anytime. And the sad part of it, by being the other woman yourself, you become exactly the person you dreaded once in your life resulting to two family lives shattered into bits and pieces, yours and the family of that married man.

Right love at the wrong time is still wrong and no amount of justification can correct a love that is wrong from the beginning lest you really wanted to be home wrecker. The truth is, true love means, albeit of its imperfections is never meant to hurt others for it never finds joy in someone else’s failure.

Quote from: benelynne on August 02, 2009, 01:28:54 PM
Murag igo ko ani da, kay nagplano ko mag-career shift to teaching next year. Naa man pud tingali ka sa academe Bay Hubag, kay klaro man sa imong reference point.



Decoy ra diay tong istorya, P _ koy ang tinuod nga hilig.  Kasab-an ta aning Gener, kay angay ta maminaw ug homily ron. Manay Tess ayaw ni apil translate.

paramg kasabot ako ng konti ah, hehehe, pero nose bleed ako, Manay Tess, kampihan mo ako dito, binebenta na ako ni Benny:-)

Just recently, I have found a forwarded message in my inbox with a subject title: Why God allows pain? I have come across this forwarded message a long time ago but it’s only now that the subject title struck to my line of thinking. Suddenly, it reminds me of an article I wrote with almost of the same title (Why does God allows suffering) In that piece, I reflect almost exactly the same as that article I found in my inboxâ€" minus the elaboration to answer the questionâ€"Why does God allows suffering?

The truth is, God never allows any of us to suffer but it is our wrong choices that lead us to suffering. Although God being the Supreme Being, who has the power to do whatever He wants but refrain from dictating us what to do. Instead He gave us the freedom to do whatever pleases us which more often than not lead us into chaos.

If we are clearly to understand why God allows suffering, we must squarely face another important question. How can we have true freedom of choice and still gain freedom from suffering? We desperately want both. But are both possible at the same time?
If there is any single ideal that is practically worshiped in the West, it is freedom. Freedom is the bedrock of our social system. Many would be willing to defend freedom and self-determination with their lives.

God Himself has given people freedom of choice. In fact, such is part of God's great design. He does not force us down a particular path, but He allows us to choose the way we will go. On the subject of choice, God told ancient Israel, "I call heaven and earth as witnesses today against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing; therefore choose life." (Deuteronomy 30:19).

Mankind's wrong choices are the cause of most of the suffering we see in the world. But again anyone would surely ask, “Then, who are you to tell me what is right and wrong choices?”

Surely, no mortal living can claim they have the moral ascendency to decide right from wrong but we can make use of that same freedom to seek for the truth. And that truth can only be found in His own Words as written in the Bibleâ€"and that will surely lead us to freedom from all kinds of suffering and pain.

We all live in a glass house, ergo, throw no stones.

Yesterday, I had the chance and spare time to talk to an office colleague. We discussed a lot of things about our work and life in general until we come across our common experienceâ€"getting measured not in terms of accomplishments but of thins we didn’t do well. And of all the things you have done wonderfully, you will be judged instead with your shortcomings. As I often say, “You cannot please anybody.” If you will ask somebody to tell you what he can see from a piece of paper, more often than not, you will find him in continuous litany of the paper’s inferior aspects.

In today’s column of one of my favorite writers,  Fr. Jerry Orbos reflects on the experience of Jesus as He encountered opposition from the very same peopleâ€"from His hometown of Nazareth.

Opposition
By Fr. Jerry Orbos

Someone once said that if you are planning to buy a second-hand car, the best thing to do is to take the car to used-car dealers, and tell them you want to sell it to them, and they will tell you everything that is wrong with it.

In today’s Gospel (Lk. 4, 21-30), we are told that Jesus encountered opposition from his town matesâ€"in spite of His growing fame all over the region, and in spite of His gracious words. His fellow Nazoreans, especially the chief priests and elders, focused not on what was right but on what was wrong with Him. Indeed, no prophet is acceptable, especially in his own native place.
We cannot please everyone. In fact, we should not. Otherwise, we will end up pleasing no one. As soon as we take a position, right away there is opposition. So the best thing to do is to take a stand and face the consequences of our decision. In the end, may we not have regrets that in our efforts to please man and ourselves, we did not do what is pleasing to God.

Whatever position or opposition we take is for a mission. A mission always points to something or someone greater than ourselves. Prophets are those who point to something or someone beyond themselves. Are you doing your role as a prophet, or are you one who sees only profits?

There are various reasons why men in late 30's and mid 40's prefer younger women and one of the reasons is for men going through midlife crisis.

This is a controversial condition or syndrome which some doctors and psychologists thinks affects many men in their 30s, 40s and 50s. Some believe it has mainly psychological causes while others argue that it's related to hormonal changes. Some experts argue that there is no condition such as "midlife crisis but simply its a biological evolution where a man is out looking to secure his progeny and the safest way is via a woman of younger age who is often highly fertile.”

On the other hand, woman faces a bigger investment when choosing a partner; she’s going to go through nine months of pregnancy and will need food and nutrition in order to reproduce, as well as the resources for it. An older man with his finances in order and a high social status is a safe choice. That's why seeing gorgeous women falling in the hands of old but financially-abled men are common. Look no further, how about Gretchen Barreto who's married to Tony Boy Cojuangco, can you hear cash register ringing?

With the same analogy, younger men, likewise prefer older women because some bachelors claimed that as women age, they become less demanding and more appreciative of attention. Any sane man would rather be with an older woman with a nicer attitude than a gorgeous younger babe with a bad attitude and the heart of a cash register.

On the other hand, there is also this is new era where older women are seeking younger men. Dating younger men is something that older women are doing more and more. You need to look no further than Hollywood--how about Demi Moore-Ashton Kutcher relationship?

All these combinations of relationships are bound to fail for they all anchored on the wrong footing. If you desire for a longer and true love, you must seek first and put to life the true definition of love, ONLY THROUGH this, you can find contentment in your relationship. Looking for the true definition of love? No, you don't need a love guru or sexologist like Margie Holmes or sex counsellor like Asia Agcaoili for the answer is within reach. Just open your dusty and unturned pages of your Bible (if you have this in your home) and turn to 1 Corinthians 13:1-13, there you will see what I'm talking about.

Harry Truman was a different kind of President.  He probably made  as many important decisions regarding our nation's history as any of the other 42 Presidents. However, a measure of his greatness may rest on what he did after he left the White House.

The only asset he had when he died was the house he lived in, which was in Independence Missouri . His wife had inherited the house from her mother and other than their years in the White House, they lived their entire lives there.

When he retired from office in 1952, his income was a U.S. Army pension reported to have been $13,507.72 a year. Congress, noting that he was paying for his stamps and personally licking them, granted him an 'allowance' and, later, a retroactive pension of $25,000 per year..

After President Eisenhower was inaugurated, Harry and Bess drove home to Missouri by themselves. There were no Secret Service following them..

When offered corporate positions at large salaries, he declined, stating, "You don't want me. You want the office of the President, and that doesn't belong to me. It belongs to the American people and it's not for sale."

Even later, on May 6, 1971, when Congress was preparing to award him the Medal of Honor on his 87th birthday, he refused to accept it, writing, "I don't consider that I have done anything which should be the reason for any award, Congressional or otherwise."

As president he paid for all of his own travel expenses and food.

Modern politicians have found a new level of success in cashing in on the Presidency, resulting in untold wealth. Today, many in Congress also have found a way to become quite wealthy while enjoying the fruits of their offices. Political offices are now for sale.  (sic. Illinois )

Good old Harry Truman was correct when he observed, "My choices in life were either to be a piano player in a whore house or a politician. And to tell the truth, there's hardly any difference!

I say dig him up and clone him!!

Quote from: Lorenzo on November 24, 2009, 09:10:02 PM
Gener, your message to us ushers the same message in Philippians Chapter 4, Verse 13:

"I can do everything through him who gives me strength."

Amen.

When it comes to mating, men go for younger women. It is true! The reason according to scientists is the evolutionary pressure.

Evolutionary pressure is the drive to have more children. It is also the cause of the typical age gap among couples.

Researchers explored the theory that men go for younger, sexually attractive women in order to boost their chances of reproductive success, while women prefer older, successful men to provide the resources and security that increase their offspring's chance of survival.

The investigators trawled through a Swedish population database, covering 11,500 men and women born between 1945 and 1955, to see at what age these individuals became parents.

Among couples who stayed together, the most children were born in households where there was an age difference of four to six years.

When couples split up and mated again, they each opted for partners who were younger than the first.

That was especially so for older men, who went for women who were much younger. Women looking for a new mate generally chose a male who was slightly older than herself.

The study, which appears in the British journal Biology Letters, is written by Martin Fieder, an anthropologist at the University of Vienna, and Susanne Huber, a wildlife ecologist at the University of Veterinary Medicine Vienna.

Source: www.physorg.com

An excerpt from Fr. Jerry Orbos’ column, Moments.

In today’s Gospel (Jn. 18, 33-37) Jesus confidently answers all the questions hurled at him by Pontius Pilate. What made him so cool and confident through it all? Truth. Truth was on his side, so he had no fears and nothing to hide. A truthful person is confident and free. A person full of lies is fearful and trembling deep inside.

Face the light, and the shadow is behind you. Turn your back to the light, and the shadow will always be in front of you.” Knowing the truth and accepting the truth is the best road toward true confidence and freedom.

How many of us take the road of compromise and spend our whole lifetime vacillating between half and full commitment, ready to mouth our convictions for anyone and everyone to hear, but fold up and do otherwise when no one is looking or listening? The seat of our values must be deeper than what this world offers. We are not saints, but at least, we can be, and should be, truthful.

We all will face our King someday. What will we tell Him then? What will He tell us then? Yes, we all have a mission to accomplish in life. The mission is non-transferable and non-negotiable. And the mission is not indefinite. We all have a mission to accomplish and this cannot be bypassed nor postponed.

A moment with the Lord:

Lord, remind me that you are the source of all the confidence I need in life. Amen.

From Book of James 3:1-18

Taming the Tongue

Not many of you should presume to be teachers, my brothers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly. We all stumble in many ways. If anyone is never at fault in what he says, he is a perfect man, able to keep his whole body in check.

When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. Or take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. Likewise the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark.

The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole person, sets the whole course of his life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.

All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and creatures of the sea are being tamed and have been tamed by man. But no man can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God’s likeness.

Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be. Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring? My brothers, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water.

Two Kinds of Wisdom
 
Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such “wisdom” does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, of the devil.

For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peace makers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness.

What I Can Give

Some of us may say that we owe their riches and fame as a result of our hard-work that at times, we looked down and deny the less fortunate of much needed help thinking that they deserved what they are and assigning laziness as the cause of their poverty. Lest we forget that: It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God. (Mark 10:25)
Jesus said, “Sell all that you have and distribute it to the poor and you will have treasure in heaven and come, follow me.”

I have no silver or gold but what I have is my knowledge so will You show me now how to use it wisely and find a way somehow, to make the world I live in a little better place.
I don’t have material riches but what I have to give You is for me to love and offer kindness and be able to walk humbly with my fellowmen so that when the time comes and we will meet each other face to face, that I may hear You say, “Good job, Gener.”

I suggest that you watch the video link below and let's see if you will be 'moved' by this short documentary film.

http://www.cultureunplugged.com/play/1081/Chicken-a-la-Carte

A story worth sharing, got it from a forwarded mail.

4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how
does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must be
feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking care
of the house and the kid. 'coz that is the exact feeling that I have, as I
feel that I have failed to provide for the physical and emotional needs of
my child, and failed to be the dad and mom for my child.

There was one particular day, when I had an emergency at work. Hence, I had
to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that there were
still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after informing my
sleepy child.

With the double roles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am
home. So after a long day, I came home, totally drained of all energy. So
with just a brief hug and kiss for my child, I went straight into the room,
skipping dinner. However, when I jumped into my bed with intention of just
having a well-deserved sleep, all I heard and felt was broken porcelain and
warm liquid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the source of the
'problem'... a broken bowl with instant noodles and a mess on the bed sheet
and blanket!

Boy, was I mad! I was so furious that I took a clothes hanger, charged
straight at my child who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a
good spanking! He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short
explanation:

"Dad, I was hungry and there wasn't any more leftover rice. But you were not
back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But I remembered you
reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any adults around,
hence I turned on the shower and used the hot water from the bathroom to
cook the noodles. One is for you and the other is for me. However, I was
afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under the blanket to
keep it warm till you return. But I forgot to remind you 'coz I was playing
with my toys...I am sorry Dad..."

At that moment, tears were starting to run down my cheeks...but I didn't
want my son to see his dad crying so I dashed into the bathroom and cried
with the shower head on to mask my cries. After that episode, I went towards
my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him, while coaxing
him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the bed. When
everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son's room, and saw
that he was still crying, not from the pain on his little buttock, but from
looking at the photograph of his beloved mommy.

A year has passed since that episode; I have tried, in this period, to focus
on giving him both the love of his dad and mom, and to attend to most of his
needs. And soon, he is turning seven, and will be graduating from
kindergarten. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting impression
on his childhood memories and he is still happily growing up.

However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regret. This time,
his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son's absence from
school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to explain.
But he wasn't to be found, so I went around our house, calling out his name
and eventually found him outside a stationery shop, happily playing computer
games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell out of him. He did
not retaliate, except to say, 'I am sorry, Dad'. But after much probing, I
realized that it was a 'Talent Show' organized by his school and the invite
is for every student's mommy. And that was the reason for his absence as he
has no mommy.....

Few days after the caning, my son came home to tell me, the kindergarten has
recently taught him how to read and write. Since then, he has kept to
himself and stayed in his room to practice his writing, which I am sure,
would make my wife proud, if she was still around. 'coz he makes me proud
too!

Time passes by very quickly, and soon another year has passed. Its winter,
and Christmas time. Everywhere the Christmas spirit is in every
passer-by... Christmas carols and frantic shoppers.... but alas, my son got
into another trouble. When I was about to knock off from the day's work, the
post office called. Due to the peak season, the post master was also on an
edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son has attempted to post several
letters with no addressee. Although I did make a promise never to hit my son
again, I couldn't help but to hit him as I feel that this child of mine is
really beyond control. Once again, as before, he apologized, ' I'm sorry,
Dad' and no additional reason to explain. I pushed him towards a corner,
went to the post office to collect the letters with no addressee and came
home, and angrily questioned my son on his prank, during this time of the
year.

His answer, amidst his sobbing, was :  The letters were for Mommy.

My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to ask
him: " But why did u post so many letters, at one time?" My son's reply was:
" I have been writing to mommy for a long time, but each time I reach out
for the post box, it was too high for me, hence I was not able to post the
letters. But recently, when I went back to the postbox, I could reach it and
I sent it all at once..."

After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing what to do, what to
say....

I told my son, " Son, mommy is in the heavenly kingdom, so in future, if you
have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach mommy. My
son, on hearing this, was much pacified and calm, and soon after, he was
sleeping soundly. On promising that I will burn the letters on his behalf, I
brought the letters outside, but couldn’t help opening the letter before they
turn to ash.

And one of the letters broke my heart....

Dear Mommy,

I miss you so much! Today, there was a  'Talent Show' in school, and the
school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did
not want to participate as well. I did not tell Dad about it as I was afraid
that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went around
looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of the
computer and started playing games at one of the shops. Dad was furious, and
he couldn’t help it but scolded and hit me, but I did not tell him the real
reason. Mommy, every day I see Dad missing you and whenever he think of you,
he is so sad and often hide and cry in his room.  I think we both miss you
very much. Too much for our own good I think. But Mommy, I am starting
to forget your face. Can you please appear in my dreams so that I can see
your face and remember you? I heard that if you fall asleep with the
photograph of the person whom you miss, you will see the person in your
dreams. But mommy, why haven’t you appeared?


After reading the letter, I can't stop sobbing. 'cos I can never replace the
irreplaceable gap left behind by my wife....

For the females with children:

Don't do so much overtime. If you cannot finish the work, it must be some
kind of problems within the company, and it is not your sole problem.
Feedback to your boss. Endless overtime may not necessary be the answer to
the problem. Take care of your health so that you can treasure and take care
of your little precious.

For the married men:

Drink less, smoke less, coz nothing can replace your good health, not even
business or clients.

Try thinking this way, are you able to work till your clients are totally
dependent on you? or your boss is totally dependent on you? In this society,
no one is indispensable.

Take care of your health, so that you can take care of your little precious
and your loved ones.

For those singles out there:

Beauty lies in loving yourself first.

With confidence and loving yourself, you will see the beauty in other things
around you. You will be able to work better and happier. Don't let your
health be affected by your work or your boss, so nothing matters more than
your well being.

I couldn’t forget the words that were shared to us by Bro. Inaki, one of our community elders in our marriage Encounter group. He once told us that “Sin is like callous. The more you do; the more you are getting used to it.”

There are times I compromised in ‘little’ things and think that it won’t matter. Yet, as a believer myself, there is inner frustration when I allow things into my heart and mind that I know are in contrast with God. Lest I forget, when we ignore, we find our heart moving toward unbelief. God calls us to be vigilant about keeping our heart soft. It is not always easy but it is always worth it. As it is written, “See to it, brothers, that none of you has a sinful, unbelieving heart that turns away from the living God. But encourage one another daily as long as it is called today so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.”(Heb 3:12-13)

Prayer & Reflection:
Father God, keep my heart soft. Don’t let me allow sin to slow down my reflex to You. I need You in my life. Increase my faith and help me to encourage someone else today to stay firm in their faith too. Guide me and hold me close to Your heart. In Jesus’ name I pray, amen.

(Mensaheng galing sa email, orihinal na nakasulat sa wikang Ingles)

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Sa isang kapanahunan, humarap si Satanas kay Hesus doon sa Harden ng Eden, at masayang nagyayabang.  (Luke 4: 1-12; Job 1: 6-12)

“Opo, Panginoon, sa ngayon, silang lahat ay sakop ko na, (halos lahat sila doon sa ibaba).
Naglagay ako ng mga patibong, gamit ko rin ang pa-in ng tukso, Alam ko lahat ang mga bagay ng kanilang kahinaan. Halos nabitag ko silang lahat” (1 Ped 5: 8-9; Efe 6: 10-17)

“Ano ang gagawin mo sa kanila?” tanong ni Hesus.
At Siya ay nanalangin sa Dios Ama.

Sumagot si Satanas “Oh, gagawa ako ng katuwaan sa kanila. Palalaganapin ko ang tukso para mawasak ang maraming pamilya pagkatapos nilang magpakasal upang ang pondasyon ng sangkatauhan ay hindi maging matatag ang pamilya.” (Mat 19: 4-6; Mal ak 2: 16 )

“Pag-aawayin ko sila sa isat-isa at mag-aabusuhan silang lahat, malulong sila sa alak, droga, tawag ng laman ng walang pakundangan. (Rom 13: 12-14) Tuturuan ko silang gumawa ng mga armas at pampasabog, upang magpatayan silang lahat. Talagang mag e-enjoy ako ng husto.”

“At kung magsawa ka na sa katuwaan sa kanila, anong gagawing mo?” tanong ni Hesus, habang patuloy na nananalangin.

“Eh di patayin ko silang lahat at ang kanilang kaluluwa'y magiging akin magpakailanman
Panginoon sa lahat ng aspeto, desisyon nila 'yan.” (1 John 3: 8-10)

“ Magkano lahat ang gusto mo para sa kanila?” tanong ni Hesus.

“Uhmn, hindi mo sila kailangan. Wala silang maidudulot na mabuti para sa IYo. Bakit mo pa sila kailangan kung ayaw nilang sumunod ni magmahal sa Iyo? Galit sila sa Iyo! Nakita ko na maraming dumudura sa 'yo, isinumpa Ka a t hindi kinikilala.” Dagdag pa, “mahal na mahal nila ako.”(Mat 24: 10-13) “Hindi mo kailangan ang mga taong ito!”

“Magkano?” tanong ulit ni Hesus.

Tumingin si Satanas sa Kanya ng may pangungutya. “Lahat ng iyong luha at dugo, lahat ng kapighatian sa sanlibutan  lahat-lahat.” (Isaiah 53: 4-10; I Ped 2: 24 )

Sumagot si Hesus, “ Gawin ko.” At binayaran Niya lahat ng katumbas  (II Cor 5: 21 )

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Napakasaklap isipin na hindi ninanais ng tao na hanapin ang Dios, ngunit nagtatanong sa sarili kung bakit ang mundo'y pabagsak sa impyerno.

Mas nabigyang pansin pa ang balitang pang araw-araw hinggil sa trahedya sa ating kapaligiran ngunit hindi natin hinahanap ang Biblia.


Halos lahat ay walang katuturang nagnanais na mapunta sa kalangitan ,
at naniniwalang makarating sila roon kahit walang pananalig, kahit hindi umibig sa Dios higit pa sa lahat ng bagay, ni sumunod sa sinabi ng Biblia--ang kautusan ng Dios.

Napakasaklap na may nga taong nagsasabi “Sumasampalataya ako sa Dios”,
subalit kay Satanas pa rin sumusunod (at sa totoo lang, ni hindi natatakot sa Dios)
(2 Tim 4: 3-4; II J uan 1: 7-11)

Sa palagay nyo'y hindi isang kahinaan ang magpadala ng libo-libong biro o katuwaan sa email, upang ito'y kumalat ng parang salot.

Ngunit pag itoy mensahe na mula sa Panginoon, nagda-dalawang isip pa tayo bago natin ito maibahagi sa iba at kinalimutan na lang natin ang mailboxes ng ating mga kaibigan na hindi nakabasa nito

Sa pakiwari nyo, hindi nakakagimbal na ang mga malalaswa, makamundo at kawalanghiyaan ay kusang umiiral sa Internet, na marami ang halos gusto nang ipasak ang sarili sa 'screen'

Pero ipinagbabawal sa publiko ang magbahagi tungkol kay Hesus, sa mga eskwelahan, lugar ng pinagtrabahu-an, pang kasarinlang lupon, atbp. (Gawa 4: 19-20)

Kahit ngayong malaman ang ginawa Niya para sa atin.
Dahil hindi siya pinatay ng mga Romano--kungdi ng ating mga kasalanan.
Upang lahat tayo'y mapatawad, at makilala Siya sa kanyang kaluwalhatian kasama ng Ama.

Parang hindi kapanipaniwala kung paanong ang iba ay nagiging ilaw.
Sa panahon ng 'Simba' pag pumasok sa Bahay-panambahan, sumasamba at nagpapasalamat sa Panginoon dahil sa kanyang habag sa isang pa muling araw na naragdagan ang buhay.

Subalit sa ibang mga araw ng Linggo  sya ay nagiging invisible na Kristyano! (2 Tim 3: 1-5; Rom 10: 9-13)

Ano kaya, makatarungan ba ito?

Hwag hayaang itigil ni Satanas ang magbahagi ng e-mail na ito para sa kakilala natin sa Web.
Hayaan na lang kahit sabihin nilang 'ayaw nilang maniwala nito.
Hwag hayaang umayong sa kanyang mga balak.

Hwag mabagabag tungkol sa sasabihin ng iba para sa iyo.
Panahon na upang mabahala tayo sa 'kung ano ang iniisip ng Dios para sa atin.

Pakiusap lang mga kapatid , ibahagi mo rin ito.
Ako, nagawa ko na, Salamat.

Pagpapalain ka nawa ng Dios (2 Cor 13: 13 )

Quote from: taga tigbao on November 05, 2009, 03:42:57 PM
Oi, Brod Gener, if you may ask I am from Libagon, Southern Leyte. Ang Padre Burgos ay nasa kabilang parte ng Sogod Bay. Kaya pala medyo nakakaintindi ka.

Salingkit lang ako dito. Adi by culture pala you have a Boholano blood in you. Southern Leyte is a Boholano dialect speaking province. Nindot ra ba ang mga resort sa Padre Burgos. Unja sa Padre Burgos, andiyan din yung mga lantsa na biyaheng Bohol minsan at papuntang Limasaw Island.

ako rin saling-pusa lang dito and yes i can say that i have a portion of Bol-anon blood that's why boholanos are close to my heart apart from their being an affectionate people. my mother belongs to the bohol-speaking part of leyte while the remaining is a waray-speaking part where Imelda Marcos came from. maraming magandang resort sa Burgos, but what I like most is the Limasawa island, just a few minutes by pump boat. I'm also dreaming that someday, I can visit Bohol with my family (siguro pag uwi ko sa Pinas this December). I have heard & read good reviews of different places in Bohol (perhaps better than Bora). Likewise, I'm fascinated so much about Bohol's tarsier famous for its small size and big eyes. But I heard that Bohol officials had passed a law prohibiting tourists for coming closer to this animal, maybe endangered specie na kasi sila.

Quote from: taga tigbao on November 05, 2009, 03:26:03 PM
Baki kasi ang bisaya ng palaka. Hahahahaha. Buti napadpad ka sa kubo ng mga Boholano Brod? Ako nakikisawsaw lang din sa kanila at Leyteno ako ai. Saan ka nakatira sa Manila Brod?

I'm the man from Imperial Manila, but my mother hails from Burgos, Southern Leyte. I have been in Leyte when I was 6 y.o. and stayed there for about a year. Sa Leyte ako nag pre-school that's why kasabot ako ng bisaya pero jutay-jutay lang, hehehe, pero hirap makapag sinulti, kadalasan, wrong grammar ang bisaya ko, (trying hard)

Quote from: taga tigbao on November 05, 2009, 03:14:48 PM
Ajaw kabalaka Te kay akoy translate. Hahahahaha. Asan na si Brod Gener? Magkokabilds tayo dito sa TB.

Tagalog palaka Brod Gener? ai este Tagalog ka pala Brod Gener?

yup...KOKAK...KOKAK

Quote from: taga tigbao on November 05, 2009, 03:05:52 PM
Uhog in other words kulangot, kung sa pulong binisaja, KUGMO! Hehehehehehe

'uhog' is not a 'kugmo' but before maging kugmo, sipon ba, hahaha

Quote from: bugsay on November 05, 2009, 02:51:41 PM
pinawisan nang maraming singot si Pareng Gener, translating bisaya to tagalog...

hehehe,oo nga at first nose bleed, ngayon uhog na:-)

Quote from: mistyeyed on November 05, 2009, 02:36:19 PM
Toy, ibaligja nato ni si Gener.

walang ng bibili kay 2nd na man (taken na kasi):-)

Quote from: hubag bohol on November 05, 2009, 02:15:40 PM
At alam mo ang isagot kay Misty kung sakali magtanong siya kung mabuti ba ang iyong kalagayan.

kumusta ba 'ika mo ang aking 'lagay'? Well, eto, bi-bitay-bitay, hahaha

Quote from: gwargz on November 05, 2009, 11:57:59 AM
I see. Awesome. And me, as a full-blooded Boholano or Bol-anon, by the Power and Authority vested upon me by Mike Ligalig and the Consortium of Bol-anons, hereby grant upon you an Honoris Causa by the Order Of Dagohoy. And you shall be now an Adopted Son Of Sikatuna. It is the highest order (according to me, hehehe.) of adoption given to people with your mindset of bonding with us. Congratulations !

...and I accept it. hahaha

Quote from: gwargz on November 05, 2009, 09:46:22 AM
Gener, why are you joining TB when you are a Tagalog?
What pushes you down here?
Why not on Tagalog speaking webbies?
Just curious. Kasi bihira lang ang taong katulad mo
na umistambay sa ganito.

it all started after seeing the link to this site when bennylene posted my article he found originally posted in Inquirer.net. Im a member of other networking groups but I must say that people here in TB esp. boholanons are hospitable (manay tess, grazie) and very intellectual; like bro mike, bennylene, lorenzo. These are something I can't find in other networking groups, frankly speaking, medyo mababaw and walang sense ang mga threads. Kaya eto, trying to learn your dialect and hopefully, someday I can converse with all of u guys fluently para no need na for manay tess to translate for me, hahaha

Quote from: gwargz on November 05, 2009, 06:53:03 AM
Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

Tagalog si Gener Geneeeeeeer
Ba't di mo sinabeeeeh. Huhuhuhuhu.
Dong, patuwarin mo akoooooooooo.

hahaha, wag gaanong tumuwad baka pasukin ng hangin ang kuwan...hahaha
ok lang, medyo kasabot ng konti, it's a learning process for me:-)

Quote from: benelynne on November 04, 2009, 06:21:24 PM
Pakiusap ng mabait na mister

Honey, ngayon ko lang nalaman na mahirap palang magpalaki ng mga bata lalo na't sinusumbatan ka nila palaging pareho lang naman kaming palamunin.

Mahirap palang matambakan ng labada. Kaya ko naman kuskusin itong lahat, mas mahirap masabunan ng panganay mo na paglalaba na nga lang ng uniform ang aatupagin ko, nakakaligtaan ko pa dahil lang dumaan ako ng isang tagay sa kaibigan ko.

Mahirap palang mag-braid ng buhok ng anak mong lumalaking maarte, mamili ng damit at sapatos nila sa department store, at tumakbo sa pharmacy para bumili ng napkin ng panganay mong bago lang naging dalaga.

Ano naman ang aasahan mo? Naglalaba na nga ako't nagsasampay, magkukulong na rin lang ba ako sa bahay at manuod na lang ng Darna? Ano naman ang mukhang ipapakita ko sa kapwa lalaki sa kapitbahay, kung paminsan-minsan di ko man lang mapagbigyan ng isang tagay?

Kapag pala ikaw ang nagiging ina't ama ng tahanan, lalo mong kailangang ipakitang lalaking-lalaki ka at makisama sa kanila para hindi makantyawan.

Totoo lang, mali ang akala mong ganito kadali ang buhay ko. Pigil na pigil na ako. Uwi ka na kaya, at magbukas na lang tayo ng beauty parlor sa kanto.

hahaha, i like this

Quote from: mistyeyed on November 04, 2009, 04:36:16 PM
Ang masasabi ko lang talaga dito is girl or boy we have to check ourselve if we are already mature and strong inside.If you are, then kahit na ilang girls or boys ang magparamdam ng kuryenti ay hindi ka ma kuryenti kung marunong kang mag decide ng NO.

salamat mistyeyed for being dialect sensitive, konti na lang ang dugo ko sa ilong, di na gaanong malakas ang nose bleed ko, hehehe

Quote from: hubag bohol on November 04, 2009, 03:14:14 PM
Oo nga, ano? Pasensya na, Bay Gener. Ang ibig sabihin ni Misty, walang threat yung marriage nya kun palagi syang pinapakain ng saging, pero ang gusto nya ay yung saging nga baluktot ang tumoy.

Bwahaha, unsa toy tumoy sa Tagalog, Mist? Nagkayamukat tuloy itong isip ko!

hahaha, grabe

Quote from: mistyeyed on November 04, 2009, 03:00:48 PM
Pakiusap sa mga mister,huwag magsinungaling..

wag maging pinochio, hehehe

Quote from: bugsay on November 04, 2009, 10:15:19 AM
hahahaha...sorry Pareng Gener, what I mean is that you've probably made a mistake in posting this topic in this forum, because all the married guys here are good provider and a loving husband.....not to mention, yours truly...

wow. i say AMEN to that...hahaha, with that, i may have to retract my post and post it where it is apt:-)

nosebleed ako, wala akong maintindindihan, paki-translate manay tess

Quote from: gwargz on November 04, 2009, 01:17:31 AM
Woooh, i am electricuted, Mist !!!! Hehehehe.

hahaha, patay, sunog ka na yan(lol)

Once in I a while we experienced a moment of despair caused by a number of reasons like conflicts in the family, lost of loved ones or could be a business transaction gone bad. However, whatever reasons that may cause our feeling of desperation, a word of encouragement would help. A little encouragement goes a long way.

What the Bible tells about encouragement?

Wherefore comfort one another with these words. Cheer each other with these assurances. Tell the mourning ones that when they are called to meet the Lord they will find their own sleeping ones in the glorious company. (1 Thessalonians 4:18)

But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.(Hebrews 3:13)

Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one anotherâ€"and all the more as you see the Day approaching. (Hebrews 10:25)

Have you ever heard of somebody complaining about too much encouragement? In fact we wish that someone would encourage us more .

I have few readers who are patrons of my work in Ezine Article (one of whom is my wife) who made a lasting impression on my life when they complimented me on some articles I had written (42 articles are published by Ezine publisher). Many times I have thought of what they said and that their encouraging words were influential in my daring to write articles that talk about marriage relationship. There were other factors of course, but I thank God for these people. Little did they know that what they said was instrumental in bringing married couples to Christ and inspiring them to live holy lives.

I make use of this “tool’’ to encourage my wife as well if she feels like fretting about domestic concerns that she has to do all by herself since I’m thousand miles away from her. As a father, encouraging my children to face their difficulties in dealing with math subject â€"their waterloo by showing them easy techniques I learned when I was at their age and struggling just like them.

Recently, I read an article about Padre Pio, a Capuchin priest famous for his stigmata that at one time in 1947 when Father Karol Josef Wojtyla, a young Polish priest visited him to make a confession. Padre Pio encourage the young Polish priest to continue with his good work and told him that he would one day ascend to the highest post in the church. That young Polish priest is known today as Pope John Paul II.

How about you, have you encouraged someone lately?

Infidelity is considered the most significant cause of breakdown in marriage. Whilst there are other factors such as financial disputes, children, career and even in-laws, however infidelity remains as the number one marriage killer. But what drives one to become unfaithful to his or her partner?

Why Infidelity

Infidelity knows no boundaries or socio-economic status that even couples who are living together as husbands and wives for so many years are not exempted from it. Though risk is higher to those who have just started to live together under “one roof” as married couples (this is the stage where one’s imperfection no matter how small is becoming to be more obvious) and those marriage relationship though being consummated but separated geographically because of work assignments or job location. Most self-help articles that I read related to marriage talk about infidelities caused when one became more “comfortable” with someone else other than his or her spouse.

Protecting Your Marriage By Maintaining Your Boundaries

“We never intended to fall in love. We were just friends at the office.” These are phrases we commonly heard in the movies though not far from common reality. So how can we protect our relationship from its greatest threatâ€"infidelity or any affair? One word: boundaries.

Some experts say that marriages with strong foundation are immune to affairs. But in reality, it’s not the strength of your love that protects your relationship but the strength of your boundaries. A boundary is an inviolable, personal conviction. Most marriage falls into the trap where one is being unfaithful to his or her partner when he or she lost control of the situation when they crossed their boundaries. The boundary that usually falls first is the “shared secret.” By sharing this “secret” you break your boundary.  A “boundary â€"breaker” could be anything like “flirtatious touch” or can be an e-mail with a double meaning or an overly personal compliment. If the other person responds in kind and neither of you tells your spouse, you give each other a silent signal that your feelings are mutual and the secret is safe. Like a spark igniting fuel in an engine, a shared secret revs up a relationship and begins the affair.

How To Maintain Your Boundaries

First, don’t cross the “shared secret” boundary. If you sense that somebody is testing that boundary, immediately tell your spouse. Exposing the secret immediately defuses it and builds trust.

Second, never share marriage problems or dissatisfaction to anybody other than your spouse. Opening up your relationship problem to a third party (unless he or she is a relative) may give “wrong signal” to that party. A third party can be an officemate, a secret admirer, your boss or could be your close friend. Sharing your marital woes to a relative sometimes is not helping at all because of their tendency to be biased. Marriage problem can be best settled between you and your spouse alone unless of course you are sharing it to prove a point where you think your own personal experiences can be of help.

Third, don’t give overly personal compliments. This exactly may have the same impact as the second advice though done in the form of compliments and “sweet nothings.”

And lastly, never violate personal space by sitting too close or touching. I don’t see the need to elaborate on this further, right?

Lest we are tempted to become unfaithful to our spouse, remember that “The marriage bed is to be undefiled” (Hebrews 13:4) and the phrase “marriage bed” means the physical and emotional intimacy that makes the marriage sacred. Don’t give the intimacy that you promised your spouse to anyone else and keep your boundaries firm.

Quote from: hofelina on November 01, 2009, 03:04:56 PM
Salamat Gener, saan ka mangangaluluwa ngayong araw na ito? Greetings from germany!

hahaha, dito sa Saudi Arabia Manay tess

An excerpt from Fr. Jerry Orbos' column 'Moments'.

In today’s Gospel (Mt. 5, 1-12) Jesus shows to us the road to take so that we will not be mere souls, but saints. The road is the road of the “Beatitudes.” Take time today to check the road you are taking, and the life you are living. Do you experience poverty in spirit, mourning, meekness? Is there righteousness, mercy and purity of heart, peace, or persecution in your life? Then, “Rejoice and be glad for your reward will be great in heaven!”

“It’s just a matter of time,” All Souls’ Day is a timely reminder for all of us that, sooner or later, we all will die. Yes, the journey will come to an end someday. Just when is not for us to say. What matters is not the miles behind, nor the wealth in our hands, but the love and the peace we carry in our hearts. Hello! You who are so engrossed in making more money, and in charting and cementing corridors of power, are you listening?

For those who are so focused on “image,” it would be good for you to reflect today: “What will people say about me after I die?” For those who are surrounded by cheer leaders, entertainers and jesters, remember, too, that your so-called staff and entourage will not be there for you once your power and money are gone. The bottom line is: “What will God tell you when you finally come face-to-face with Him?”

In our earthly journey we encounter all sorts of people. Some are sinners. Some are saints. Many of us are not big-time sinners and definitely not saints. What should keep us humble and hopeful is the thought that there is no sinner without a future, and that there is no sinner without a past.

(Share ko lang itong article na ito na nabasa ko sa GMA.news.TV)

Pakiusap namin sa mga mister
http://www.gmanews.tv/story/175683/pakiusap-namin-sa-mga-mister


Hi sa inyong lahat mga kababayan ko at home at sa abroad. Sa sobrang hirap ng buhay sa Pilipinas, ang pag-a-abroad ang unang maiisip na solusyon ng halos lahat na nandito na sa abroad. Kahit alam namin na buhay ang nakataya,sinikap pa rin naming makalabas for so many reasons.

Binalewala na namin ang sarili namin, our first priority ay ang family. Minsan kahit malas ang buhay dito, tinitiis na lang para may perang mapadala sa Pilipinas. Para naman sa katulad ko na may mga asawang naiwan, sana isipin n’yo rin na nagtitiis kami para sa ikabubuti ng ating pamilya. Pero ano ang nagiging kapalit noon?

Habang kami ay nagsisikap dito, kayong mga asawang lalaki ay nagpapasarap ng buhay, nambabae at halos ubusin na ang perang ipinapadala sa walang kuwentang bisyo. Sana mahiya naman kayo. Kmi na nga ang tumatayong padre-de-familia ‘yon pa ba ang isusukli ninyo?

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All we are asking from you is to be a good husband. Is that too much to ask? Sana maawa naman kayo sa amin. â€" Ivy
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All we are asking from you is to be a good husband. Is that too much to ask? Sana maawa naman kayo sa amin. Alam n’yo ba na 24/7 ang trabaho namin dito? Kahit ‘di na namin kaya, kinakaya at tinitiis pa rin naming…at alam nyo ba kung bakit? because of you!

Kayo ang insperasyon namin kaya kahit anong hirap ay makaya namin dito. Iniisip kasi namin na we have to do this, or that para may maipadala na naman kami sa end of the month. Gusto kasi namin na kahit mamatay-matay na kami sa hirap dito basta mabigyan namin kayo ng magandang buhay.

So sinulat ko ito in behalf ng mga asawang nandito sa abroad na nagpapaka-martir dahil sa pamilya. Ika nga, everything we do, we do it for you... so please help us.

Ivy

Quote from: nat-cast on October 28, 2009, 01:36:33 PM
yeah....especially when the wife goes on shopping......hihihihihi

hahahaha, no comment, just laughing out loud

Quote from: statesville on October 28, 2009, 09:26:36 AM
Most women cry for different reasons;
  tears of sadness and tears of joy
  even too much laughter mogawas imong luha, di ba?

When I meditate, and talk to the Lord
  within my heart, I shed tears
  I ask how He could put His life
    on the cross to save a wretched
    hell-bound, lost sinners on this
    uncaring world?
It's because of His love, He came to save
   mankind from going to hell, but still
   many are going there because of unbelief.

The Lord is good and His mercy endureth forever.

Even husband has reason to cry for this.

Quote from: hubag bohol on October 27, 2009, 04:41:26 PM
Let wives cry for no reason. When a wife has a reason to cry--why, that's danger sign for the husband.

parang mahirap naman yata yung umiyak ng walang reASON?? kasi parang bu**** na yata yun, mas dangerous nga for the husband, :-)

A close friend of our family sent a forwarded message that tells semantic reasons why women cry.

The story was all about a little who boy asked his mother why she’s crying. The mother told her son, “Because I’m a woman.” The boy, not satisfied with her mother’s answer went to his father and asked him, “Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?” His father replied. “All women cry for no reason.”

I read so much about stories and articles trying to explain countless reasons why women cry. There are those who say that women cry because of biological reason while there are those claiming that women are using it to gain psychological advantage over their men. For me, I'm fortunate of having a wife who cries easily because I knew that she would bear all things and together, we will go over all these things no matter what, against all odds, through thick and thin and come hell or high water. She cries with me as well during my lowest of all lows sharing my pains and sometimes taking it away from me so as to make feel comfortable. We cried together not to show our vulnerability or weaknesses but to accept our constant need of God's help and only through Him that we surrender everything.

To all the husbands, I tell you how fortunate you are for having wives who cry. Surely, you knew that you have a spouse that will always be with you, behind you right or wrong. A wife who tries to hold on and on till eternity. Though I pray that your wife's tears will not run dry or her heart turns to stone for one day, you will wake up to find out that it is all over.

waahhhh, dili na ako makasabot, wala na akong maintindihan

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REGISTRATION MUST BE COMPLETED BY Monday, October 26, 2009

NOTE: DUE TO THE COMPLEXITY AND DIFFICULTY LEVEL
OF THEIR CONTENTS, CLASS SIZES WILL BE LIMITED TO 8 PARTICIPANTS MAXIMUM.
 

Class 1
How To Fill Up The Ice Cube Trays -- Step by Step, with Slide Presentation.
Meets 4 weeks, Monday and Wednesday for 2 hours beginning at 7:00 PM.

Class 2
The Toilet Paper Roll -- Does It Change Itself?
Round Table Discussion.
Meets 2 weeks, Saturday 12:00 for 2 hours.

Class 3
Is It Possible To Urinate Using The Technique Of Lifting The Seat and
Avoiding The Floor, Walls and Nearby Bathtub? --- Group Practice.
Meets 4 weeks, Saturday 10:00 PM for 2 hours.

Class 4
Fundamental Differences Between The Laundry Hamper and The Floor --
Pictures and Explanatory Graphics.
Meets Saturdays at 2:00 PM for 3 weeks.

Class 5
After Dinner Dishes -- Can They Levitate and Fly Into The Kitchen Sink?
Examples on Video.
Meets 4 weeks, Tuesday and Thursday for 2 hours beginning
at 7:00 PM

Class 6
Loss Of Identity -- Losing The Remote To Your Significant Other.
Help Line Support and Support Groups. Meets 4 Weeks, Friday and Sunday 7:00 PM

Class 7
Learning How To Find Things -- Starting With Looking In The Right Places
And Not Turning The House Upside Down While Screaming.
Open Forum. Monday at 8:00 PM, 2 hours.

Class 8
Health Watch -- Bringing Her Flowers Is Not Harmful To Your Health.
Graphics and Audio Tapes.
Three nights; Monday, Wednesday, Friday at 7:00 PM for 2 hours.

Class 9
Real Men Ask For Directions When Lost -- Real Life Testimonials.
Tuesdays at 6:00 PM Location to be determined.

Class 10
Is It Genetically Impossible To Sit Quietly While She Parallel Parks?
Driving Simulations. 4 weeks, Saturday's noon, 2 hours.

Class 11
Learning to Live -- Basic Differences Between Mother and Wife.
Online Classes and role-playing.
Tuesdays at 7:00 PM, location to be determined

Class 12
How to be the Ideal Shopping Companion
Relaxation Exercises, Meditation and Breathing Techniques.
Meets 4 weeks, Tuesday and Thursday for 2 hours ! beginning at 7:00 PM.

Class 13
How to Fight Cerebral Atrophy -- Remembering Birthdays, Anniversaries and Other Important Dates and Calling When You're Going To Be Late.
Cerebral Shock Therapy Sessions and Full Lobotomies Offered.
Three nights; Monday, Wednesday, Friday at 7:00 PM for 2 hours.
 
Class 14
The Stove/Oven -- What It Is and How It Is Used.
Live Demonstration. Tuesdays at 6:00 PM, location to be determined.

Upon completion of any of the above courses,
diplomas will be issued to the survivors.

Send this to all the guys that you think can stand the heat, and to all the ladies for
the best chuckle of their day!

Quote from: gwargz on October 20, 2009, 12:06:45 PM
Nindot man diay kag spiritual group Brother Gener
kay couple jod mo mo-grow. The Bible is our strength in faith
to Jesus Christ.

If possible, kon makauli ka pohon palit pod
ug book entitled Catechism of the Catholic Church.
It will also broaden your knowledge on
Catholic doctrines and the like.

God bless you, Bro Gener.

tama ka, maganda kasi yung both partners would grow spiritualy with Christ in the center of their narriage relationship. esp sa situation ko ngayon, layo gid sa akung pamilya, kailangan namin mag bana ng solid foundation.

God bless you too and thanks for the inputs:-)

Quote from: gwargz on October 19, 2009, 08:17:07 PM
I see nasa KSA. Ka pala.
What is your spiritual group
back here sa atoa, Bro Gener?

We are under Marriage Encounter Foundation of the Philippines (MEFP).Though, the group's objective is set entirely in strengthening relationship amongst catholic couples, our own batch is meeting regulary for Bible study, prayer meetings and the likes. But now, I'm here in KSA, oftentimes, I would resolved to self Bible study which is good for my spiritual nourishment.

Quote from: gwargz on October 19, 2009, 05:37:36 PM
Very inspiring message, Gener.
To do it alone can easily be done.
To sustain it alone is difficult.
My 2-cents worth is look for
a spiritual community. Get involve
in their spiritual nourishment
and your spirit will be lifted high.
Your joy will be overflowing.
Your happiness will be immeasurable.
Your wisdom on God will be added.
Your focus on God will be sharpened.
Forward in Christ! Brother Gener.

thanks for the advise. me and my wife belong to a spiritual community group (marriage encounter to be specific) when i was still in the philippines. we are still active members of the group but I for one can no longer join the regular prayer meeting being an OFW base in KSA, where practice of faith other than islam is STRICTLY not allowed. perhaps, i'm just experiencing the need to quench my 'spiritual' thirst, unlike in the philippines, where other members of the group provide moral and spiritual support to a member who is need of it. but, anyhow, God is really good for He knows what you need that He is always providing me answers the moment i need one. Praise be to God.

Lately, I was in deep solitude thinking about domestic concerns that trouble my family back home in the Philippines. This thing worries me that at times, I was having a procrastination of things that I really have to do. Though I was looking for an answer from the Bible but seems like I couldn’t get the right connection as if I’m inside but looking outside. Until suddenly I got a forwarded message from an acquaintance (actually a relative of mine) sharing some phrases that later uplift my spirit. The phrases permeate into my heart as if “Somebody” up there is telling me, “Move on son.” I would like to share these phrases hoping you will find it, too, worth reading. Who knows, you might be in a situation now where I was before?

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Quote from: bol-anon nga cebuano on October 11, 2009, 06:54:29 AM
we're using condoms that's why i wanted to apply as one of the testers.

balitaan mo kami pag nakapasa ka na ha? hahaha

Quote from: hofelina on October 11, 2009, 03:35:06 AM
The truth is nobody uses condom here among the tb members.

ps
musta kana Gener?

ganun ba? hahaha

I'm good manay tess, thanks for asking.

Ano na kaya ang update dito? May nag-apply ba na taga TB? 

Everything in life happens for a reason especially if you are brought in a situation where everything is connected and suddenly you realized that you become a piece to the puzzle, joined together to form a picture of a big journey in life we calledâ€"reaching out for others.

It all started when I read an email from Joanne (a co-parent from Don Bosco), encouraging good souls to join their group’s relief operations to help the community living in Sulyap Housing Project in Bagong Silangan, Quezon City. At first, I was reluctant to make a reply for I thought that I could not be of much help as a volunteer being out of the country nor could dole out something as charity to the victims of calamity. But I found myself typing some words of encouragement offered by way of prayers and after hitting the send button, there goes my message sent back to letter sender.

Few days later, I was chatting with my wife in the internet and I was surprised when she told me that she was coordinating with Joanne and another co-parent of ours, Bess, regarding how she could be of help to Joanne’s group. She must have had read Joanne’s email and responded by offering some used clothing. Although her initial plan was just to meet with Joanne and her husband at our house to donate the items but later, she decided to join the couple in distributing relief goods in that community greatly affected by the typhoon Ondoy. It came to me as a surprise because my initial doubts that I could not be of much help was answered as if God was telling me, “Son, doubt not my power to make things happen. When I’m calling you, just say, Yes or No.” Just the same, I didn’t tell my wife that I emailed Joanne nor that message posted by her and there was no communication, ever of any sort with regards to that thing. Everything just happened instantaneously as if somebody is telling us individually what to do.

The place (as I’ve seen in the pictures) looks like a God-forsaken place and by comparison, we must have been fortunate that we still have a place to sleep at night even our roof is leaking. We are still blessed that we don’t lose any of our children even at times we dread the nuisance they brought on us of their constant whining. Lastly, we are still fortunate that despite having our own difficulties in life, we are the one extending help rather than being the ones being helped and I could say nothing but to thank the Lord that my family is still alive.

When God calls us, He is giving us the free-will to say ‘YES’ or ‘NO’ but when we call to Him, His has only two answers; ‘YES’ and ‘NOT NOW’.

I don’t want to say that the recent havoc brought about by typhoon ‘Ondoy’ is a blessing in disguise for it may add insult to the sufferings of our ‘kababayans’ deeply affected by it. However, there are many lessons that can be learned from this disaster. 

First, life’s adversity is a good equalizer. No rich or poor can be spared that is why we have to respect the ‘laws of nature’ and stop abusing our environment.  This can be done by owing responsibility to ourselves in protecting our environment. We can start by disposing our garbage properly and not in the ‘esteros’  causing clogged waterways. After all, we are only stewards of God’s creation.

Second, unfortunate event such as this brings out the ‘soft side’ of us humans. The pouring of compassion for fellowmen is endless. Young and old alike, rich and poor work hand in hand. No doubt, calamities relive the spirit of Filipino ‘Bayanihan’.

Third, it teaches us to rely more on our own capabilities rather than owing everything to the government. Yes, the government has its constitutional responsibility to its people, but facing a life-threatening situation or facing an imminent danger (flood), no one is in the better position to defend or save you but yourself.

Lastly, adversity teaches us to humble ourselves and to submit to the will of the Divine Creator. While some of us may argue that disasters such as this is attributed to neglect of responsibilities on the part of the government, property developers and urban planners alike but lest we forget that it can also be part of the ‘grand design’ made by the ‘architect’ of all architects. Who knows but Him.

Friends, let's all humble ourselves and ask for God's mercy to deliver us from all sorts of danger brought about by calamities.

The prayer:

“Almighty Father, we raise our hearts to You in gratitude for the wonders of creation of which we are part, for Your providence in sustaining us in our needs, and for Your wisdom that guides the course of the universe.

“We acknowledge our sins against You and the rest of creation.

“We have not been good stewards of Nature.

“We have confused Your command to subdue the earth.

“The environment is made to suffer our wrongdoing, and now we reap the harvest of our abuse and indifference.

“Global warming is upon us. Typhoons, floods, volcanic eruption, and other natural calamities occur in increasing number and intensity.

“We turn to You, our loving Father, and beg forgiveness for our sins.

“We ask that we, our loved ones and our hard earned possessions be spared from the threat of calamities, natural and man-made.

“We beseech You to inspire us all to grow into responsible stewards of Your creation, and generous neighbors to those in need.

“Amen.”

When disaster strikes, as it did this week, you could count the government’s rubber boats with your 10 fingers. People using toy floaters to save peopleâ€"this tragic sight is in a country where billions of pesos go into the pork barrel of politicians and government officials, and that’s not even counting what’s in the coffers of local officials.

Quote from: taga tigbao on September 30, 2009, 02:16:16 PM
Mao ni giingon KAHIT MAPUTI NA ANG BUHOK KO.

O kaya, "Kahit wala na ang buhok ko." hehehe

Pity not the victims of typhoon Ondoy but these people who are selfish.

Quote from: glacier_71 on September 29, 2009, 10:02:00 AM
nice story, gener.

i wonder if the roof was fixed.

hahaha,

In the Philippines, when public urged both House of Congress to appropriate a portion of their CWDF (known as 'Pork Barrel') to victims of 'Ondoy', the upper house decided to aportion 1M each Senator, from the Lower House, dead-ma lang muna kahit siguro patugtugin pa ang Lupang Hinirang, they will not bother to move an inch to touch their 'pork barrel', #$@%$$######, grrrrr@#$%%$#$$%

Quote from: simplylee on September 28, 2009, 06:11:46 PM

Gener, ang meaning nako sa bible kay Basic Instruction Before Leaving Earth.

pwede rin

The minister was preoccupied with thoughts of how he was going to ask the congregation to come up with more money than they were expecting for repairs to the church building. Therefore, he was annoyed to find that the regular organist was sick and a substitute had been brought in at the last minute. The substitute wanted to know what to play.

"Here's a copy of the service," he said impatiently. "But, you'll have to think of something to play after I make the announcement about the finances."

During the service, the minister paused and said,

"Brothers and Sisters, we are in great difficulty; the roof repairs cost twice as much as we expected and we need $4,000 more. Any of you who can pledge $100 or more, please stand up."

At that moment, the substitute organist played,

"The Star Spangled Banner."

And that is how the substitute became the regular organist!

By the way, do you know what is the meaning of Bible?
It's Basic Information Before Leaving Earth

Quote from: bugsay on September 26, 2009, 10:31:37 PM
I do hope and pray for you Sir Gener that when that time comes you are still posting in this thread telling us how it feels....

hahaha, baka may amnesia na ako non,

Quote from: bugsay on September 26, 2009, 10:08:00 PM
+1 Sir Gener. I really love to see old couple (very old) holding hands in public.

Me, too. And I always admire them that I pray that me and my wife could achieve the same as they did.

“Is there anything more beautiful in life than a young couple clasping hands and pure hearts in the path of marriage?"

Yes there is. It is the spectacle of an old man and an old woman finishing their journey together on that path. Their hands are gnarled, but still clasped; their faces are seamed, but still radiant; their hearts are physically bowed and tired, but still strong with love and devotion for one another.

Yes, there is a more beautiful thing than young love. Its Old love.

I would ask of Him the promise of salvation for all of us.

Is there anything more beautiful in life than a father (or mother) and child clasping hands and pure hearts in the path of this cycle called life? More than enough to melt somebody's heart.