This scenario reminds me of a romantic-comedy film I've seen couple of days ago titled 'Serious Moonlight' co-stars Meg Ryan as Louise, a successful career woman who is about to be divorced by his husband Timmy (played by??). Timmy is about to leave to Paris together with a young and pretty receptionist he met in his office whom he plans to propose marriage after his planned divorce with Louise. Louise came home unexpectedly and caught Tim by surprised where the latter admitted about his plan to divorce the former. Louise after knowing Tim's plan restrained him in a toilet sit with a duct tape. In an effort to convince Tim to let go of his plan of divorce, Louise reminisced their marriage's good-old days, playing their marriage videos and photos on the projector, playing their wedding song and all that stuff to win her husband back. But to no avail, Tim slowly unravels reason of his leaving her—insecurities. Louise has a better and high paying job than him; she can outdo him in all of their arguments; she can do almost every handy-job in the house that Tim can't. Worse, she can even do more bench press than Tim. When Tim asked Louise to let go of him for he's no use to her Louise replied, "I WON'T."
When Louise knew that Tim is decided not to change his mind about his plan, she left him in the house, still taped in a toilet sit to ask for help from his friends who played robbers and at some point sex predator. Louise, pretending to be unaware of the planned robbery was hog-tied and was put inside the bathroom aimlessly together with Tim who was still duct-taped in the toilet sit. There, Tim started to feel concern about the safety of Louise that at one point, he got the ire of the sex predator when he prevented him from sexually molesting the lifeless-like state of Louise. When they were left alone, Tim started to loosen up and feel sorry about dragging Louise's life to mess. He talks to the pretending-to-be lifeless Louise laying on the floor and unraveling his hang-ups about their marriage life. He talks about how he was ignored by Louise and the lack of connection and communication between the two of them. Tim wanted to talk to him about her day in the office, what she thinks about his plan to shift a career or about his plan to resign from the job and start his own company. But to no avail for she was busy in her career.
Case in Point
Apart from love and trust, communication is always the key to every relationship. Regardless of the number of times we say “I Love you" to our spouse; how many chocolates and flowers we gave to our spouse, nothing beats the power of a healthy communication. Sometimes, we under estimate the importance of communication and replaced it with other ways we thought could compensate for the lack of communication that often resulting to a disaster, similar to the story in this film. However, there are those who communicate but are only after what he or she wants to say but is not ready to hear or listen to what the other party wanted to say. Worse, sarcasm and hurting words replaces what could have been a simple and casual chats. When we criticize without understanding we express only our own personal feelings and that is selfish thinking. We must remember that listening is the most effective way of communication and it goes without saying that when you listen, you are making the other person feel important. When we listen, we should do it not with one but two ears and that is love expressed by means of communication through active listening because when you joined both ears together it will form a heart shape like image. Isn’t it?
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