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« on: June 17, 2010, 08:47:14 PM »
Son, you are in your 2nd year of being a college student. Dalawang taon  na lang magtatapos ka na sa kolehiyo at sana kapag dumating ang panahon na iyon, kung may choice ka, huwag kang mag-abroad.

Marahil marami ang magtataas ng kilay o di kaya’y magtatanong ng “Bakit?” kapag nalaman nila na ganito ang payo ko sa iyo. Sabagay marami pa rin sa mga kababayan natin na ang paniniwala ay ‘mayaman ang mga OFW’, ‘masarap ang buhay sa abroad’ o kaya’s sikat ka kapag may kamag anak ka sa abroad. Siyempre naman, halos puro imported ang gamit sa bahay, ‘stateside’ wika nga. Pero ang hindi nila alam ay kung ano ba ang kapalit ng mga materyal na kasaganahan ito.

Karamihan sa mga magulang na nagtratrabaho sa abroad ay hindi maikaila ang ‘sense of loss’ na kung minsan ay may pagsisisi dahil sa hindi nakagisnang paglaki ng mga anak na naiwan sa Pilipinas. I grope for words to describe the passing of an era which part of my life have been sacrificed. Mula ng ako’y nagtrabaho sa abroad, I have looked at you and to other siblings of yours wishing that I could see all of you to grow into fine human beings wishing that I was there every step of your way. Pero ang reyalidad, hindi kasi malayo ako sa inyo. Nagkakasya na lang ako sa pagsasaya ng mag isa na malayo sa inyo sa panahon ng inyong kagalakan and perhaps bled profusely in my own when I know that one of you is in pain. Lagi ko kayong naaalala when I visit a nice place or eat an unusually fine meal kasi ang lagi kong sinasabi, “Sana kasama ko ang pamilya ko.” I worry for your safety and I cannot imagine not being able to recognize you and your other siblings in your mature years. Naalala ko tuloy minsan ng tanungin ko si mommy mo kung sino yung binata na nasa picture na ipinadala niya sa email ko. Sabi ni mommy mo, “Ano ka ba Dad, si Glenn yan, panganay mo!”

Sa panahon ngayon ng ‘absentee parenting’, the communication of love has taken the form of steady stream of ‘balik-bayan box’ every Christmas. Pero sa kabila ng dami ng reagalong natatangap, this however cannot compensate for the erosion of intimacy in the family. How easy to measure the benefits from overseas work but remain doubtful if one can ever quantify what a migrating parent has given up in terms of love. Kaya anak, if ever may choice ka after your graduation at kung makakahanap ka ng trabaho sa Pilipinas, kahit hnidi kalakihan ang sweldo basta disente at marangal, huwag kang mag-abroad. Diyan ka na lang sa Pilipinas kasi balang araw magkakaroon ka na rin ng sarili mong pamilya, mas masarap na abutin ang pangrap ninyo sa buhay ng magkakasama.
 



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« Reply #1 on: June 17, 2010, 10:14:05 PM »
Para sa akin bigyan ko nang karapatan ang mga anak ko mag decide kung gusto sila mag abroad hala sigi ,para sa maganda nilang kinabukasan,Para sa sarili nilang mga pamilya..Katulad sa akin na isang magulang hindi ko naman asahan na magsama kami habang buhay dahil darating ang araw at sila ay mag asawa din.Siguro sa unang panahon kung pinigilan ako nang mga parents  ko mag abroad, hindi ko marating ang buhay ko ngayon at sa mama ko na age of 96 dahil sa trabaho ko dito sa abroad nabigyan ko siya nang buhay na comfortable at kasaganahan.Never in my life i say to my self i was sorry to work abroad.Kahit malayo sa anak makauwi din kami once or twice a year at pinapa bakasyon din namin dito sa abroad paminsan minsan.Kaya masabi ko lang Anak,if ever you have a choice,go abroad if you have a chance you have to make your own life,mahirap ang buhay sa pinas pag dating nang sahod ubos na sa pambayad nang utang,petsa 5 pa lang nang buwan umpisa naman nang utang..Haayyyy buhay Pinoy nga naman..

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« Reply #2 on: June 18, 2010, 01:21:09 AM »
Ang kasabihang ang kaligayahan ay hindi mabibili sa pera  talagang may katutuhanan
   makaya mo mang bilhin ang materyal na bagay pero hindi matatakpan ang
   sikip nang dibdib  sa pangulila kong magkalayo ang mga mahal sa buhay.  :(
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« Reply #3 on: June 18, 2010, 02:40:23 AM »
magsamasama ang pamilya kahit walang makain?,gutom at wala pang matricula sa escuela,kung may oppurtunity mag abroad bakit hindi nang mabigyan nang kasaganahan ang pamilya..Cguro kung ang buhay mo ay nakasama sa upper middle class sa Pilipinas ok lang hindi na mag abroad at may pang gastos sa familla..Pero kung ang sitwasyon sa buhay sa pilipinas ay kakha tuka katulad nang isang manok at isa na ako doon, hindi na bali mangulila sa famiila..Isa  ako sa bilang na libolibong mga OCW,idilat ang iyong mga mata at tangapin ang katutuhanan..Hindi mayaman ang Pinas..magsumikap para sa kinabukasan..

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« Reply #4 on: June 18, 2010, 03:12:43 AM »
og di man makapalit og kalipay ang kwarta, samot na ang way kwarta di kapalit og kalipay
kadaghanan sa piskay og mga balay sa amoa poro naay membro sa pamilya nagtrabaho sa abroad
akong anak gipa tokoranvkog  bay, suportado sa tanang bagay pero among sabot og di mag tarong sa pag skwela
kotob 18 anyos og di siya mokayod gutom, wa nay suporta ...
hmmmmm

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« Reply #5 on: June 18, 2010, 03:13:16 AM »
ako kung ang pag abroad ang dahilan parang mabigyan ko ang kinabukasan ang mga nak ko susunggaban ko ,dito ka nga sa pnas wala kana mang maayos na trabaho mas masakit na makita mo sila na hindi mo maibigay ang kanilang gusto kaysa hindi mo sila makita peru alam mo na nasa maayos ang kanilang buhay.

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« Reply #6 on: June 18, 2010, 03:14:38 AM »

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« Reply #7 on: June 18, 2010, 05:22:13 AM »
Hindi gawang biro ang magdesisyon, dahil tayo ay mapagmahal sa pamilya, nais nating mabigyan sila ng kaginhawa-an, kay ang pag-abroad ay hindi maiiwasan.

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« Reply #8 on: June 18, 2010, 09:43:25 AM »
As the saying goes: “The road to hell is paved with good intentions.” Going abroad to work will definitely put money in one's bank account enough to live a little comfortable life—that if he/she knows how to handle it, perhaps that would probably explains why majority of OFW's are still working abroad despite being abroad for more than 10 years or so.

My intention of asking my son not go abroad is clear (if ever he has a choice, and this is not an order but a counsel from a father who had experienced being a diaspora). Ofcourse, this is given the fact that in worst case, he couldn't find a decent job in the Philippines and there is a ways and means for him to find good one outside of the country though away from his family, I think the decision is very clear. But if he has a choice, I want him to weigh the consequences, the pros and the cons of being away from his family.

There is nothing bad in our intention to give our family comforts in life and that is the reason why most of us went abroad (like me till now) but there should be a fixed plan for us to achieve our goal. The irony is that most of us doesn't even have that goal and we end up growing older and still working away from family. I even read sad stories where OFW parent finally met his family in wheel chair as an invalid human being while others are-- in a casket. Who want's to end our life like that? Anyone?

That is why my advise to my son is that, if he has a choice, why not let try his luck in the Philippines? Living expenses may be tough, but with patience, perseverance, hard-work and focus, life here couldn’t all be that bad. He may not make a fortune but he can be creative to make ends meet, just so he and his family can have a life together. The long and short of it is he has to make a hard choice—and it should not be on the side of glitter.

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« Reply #9 on: June 18, 2010, 11:46:09 AM »
Very good advice Gener. Ako man din ay mga kapatid ,pamangkin,kaibigan na nagtatrabaho abroad at naisip ko na kung mahirap ito sa kanila mas lalong mahirap itong sitwasyon na to sa mga naiwan. I can't imagine being away from my children that long. Last week nagpunta kami nang dalawang anak ko sa Florida tapos naiwan ang dalawang bunso. Over one week lang akong nawala pagbalik ko yung anak kong bunso 10 months old halos di na niya ako nakilala tapos ang dami na niyang nagawa sa one week na absence ko. Naisip ko tuloy ano kaya kung buong taon akong nawala siguro ang hirap. I feel sad nga sa mga pamangkin ko sa atin na Daddy nila or Mama wala kasi nga nagtatrabaho sa malayong lugar mapifeel mo talaga ang longing nila. May pera nga sila at may nakakain pero talagang may deperensya.
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« Reply #10 on: June 18, 2010, 03:18:29 PM »
Ako man ay may planong mag-abroad pero hanggat may maganda pa at desenting trabaho dito sa Pilipinas ay hindi ko muna gagawin ang aking balak ITAY.  8)

If I can earn a decent income here enough to provide for my family and for some other luxuries, hindi na lang din muna ang pag-aabroad.
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« Reply #11 on: June 18, 2010, 03:21:11 PM »

Mabuti naman malaman anak at maayos ang buhay mo sa Pinas,ANAK ;)

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« Reply #12 on: June 18, 2010, 03:42:33 PM »
The link below mirrors one of the reasons why I say what i wnat to say to my son. This time, I'm expressing my self as a son to my father. This is for all of you fellow OFWs in our endless struggle to provide a better means for our family and to all the fathers as well, this is for all of us.

http://www.gmanews.tv/story/193314/hampas-ng-pagmamahal-ni-itay#

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« Reply #13 on: June 20, 2010, 02:55:51 AM »
http://www.gmanews.tv/story/193314/hampas-ng-pagmamahal-ni-itay#[/url]

..To be a OCW we must have a strong personality, wide understanding about life and welfare to our family,good understanding about value of money,Honesty to our wife and children,and not a sentimental person..These are lists of few thing you need to be an OCW.If you think you don't have one of these things ,its better to stay  at home lalo na yung mga seloso at selosa ..Baka magka problema pa at wala na si Dear Kuya Eddie..Kaya ang nangyayari nang ibang OCW umuwi sa Pinas sira ang ulo deretso sa Mental Hospital..Payong kapatid lang Kabayan if you have weak at heart and weak personality huwag na kayong mag OCW.. :-[

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« Reply #14 on: June 20, 2010, 03:07:18 AM »

Kabayan, kahit anong tatag ng personality ng isang tao at iba pa kung walang pananalig sa Panginoon Diyos ay walang patutunguhan mabuti, kay nasa abroad ka o maging sa sariling bansa. Ang pagiging sentimental ay di sukatan ng kahinaan ng isang tao ganun din naman ang pagkakaroon ng strong na personality ay di rin pamantayan ng kalakasan ng tao bagkus, ang pananalig sa Diyos na siyang pinagmumulan na katatagan at tagumpay sa buhay. Kung minsan ang sobrang kompiyansa sa sarili ang nagiging dahilan ng kapahamakan. Mapalad ang mga tao na umaamin ng kahinaan at umaasa ng kalakasan sa Panginoon sa[agkat nasa kanila ang habag ng Paginoon kaysa sa mga taong nananalig sa sariling lakas, talino at abilidad.

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« Reply #15 on: June 20, 2010, 03:32:47 AM »
Tama lahat cnasabi mo kaibigan..sana maganda ang hantungan sa pagiging OCW mo good luck to you and God bless sa ating mga OCW nang hindi mapahamak sa maling landas..

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« Reply #16 on: June 20, 2010, 07:42:27 AM »
Dili nato e discourage ang mga anak na mag-abroad. Depende sa kagustohan nila. Daghang Pinoy nga abroad ang ilang anak nga magara ang mga bahay, at nakapag-aral sa kanilang mga anak sa mga prestigious school .

Kahit naman sa Pilipinas, marami pa rin ang mga nasa maling landas. Depende....,


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« Reply #17 on: June 20, 2010, 09:52:55 AM »
Tinood jud nang imong gisulti fdaray,kay sa e discourage ang .mga bata mag abroad hatagan nato sila ug incouragement para sa ilang magandang kinabukasan.Naa ko estorya bahin anang pag abroad.Ang among duha ka silingan yung isa gusto mag OCW yung isa ayaw dahil malungkot daw at ano ba naman yung pera kung hiwalay sa pamilya.Nang dahil mahina ang loob namalagi na lang sa pinas,gutom ang inabut sa pamilya hindi pa nakapag aral ang mga bata dahil sa palaging kapos ang pera.Yung isa naman pumunta sa UAE tinitiis ang lungkot at hirap sa buhay nang mabigyan naman nang kasaganahan ang pamilya.Nakatapus mag aral ang mga anak may nurse at Eng.yung nurse paalis naman sa oabroad.Yung tatay hindi na nag abroad dahil tapos na ang mga anak.Maganda na ang buhay  ngayon.Kaya may kasabihan kung walang tiyaga walang nilaga.Sa lahat na gustong mag OCW mabuhay kayong lahat.Kayo ang bagong bayani nang Pinas.I salute your courage,and determination to have a better life.

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« Reply #18 on: June 20, 2010, 06:27:30 PM »

There are always 2 sides of the coin. In the case of going abroad, I wouldn't be surprised if our vision is biased always on the side of the economics lest we forget the immeasurable losses of migration, and I already mentioned that in my previous post above. And really the road to hell is paved with good intentions and I know all of us will definetly agree that no Pinoy diaspora leaves our country without good intentions but we cannot have the best of both worlds, happiness and prosperity. It's just a matter of one weighing one's priority. Life's happiness is not always about on the side of prosperity but prosperity can sometimes be a result of happiness. You can be prosperous in a sense that you are surrounded by people you loved and people who loved you in return but can't be happy even we have the finest things in the world. While it is true that we must allow our children to make decision for themselves but as parents, it is our obligation to present clearly the scenarios, the pros and the cons, the left and the right so that they will be guided in their decision. But if we will have it our way as parents, we would want them to follow the "tried and tested" formula we developed all throughout the years of our existense. But at the ned of the day, it is them (children) who will still decide what road they want to travel.

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« Reply #19 on: June 21, 2010, 01:44:07 AM »
Another good example of OCW parents and thier children left behind..I guess there was no regrets on both parents and kids on thier situatuion..kaunting tiis kabayan nang umunlad ang buhay  http://www.boholchronicle.com/2010/jun/20/comm2.htm..Never say bahala ug saging gikaon basta loving..hehe



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