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I know my question sounds silly because I don't think we can ever be ready to lose our loved ones but don't you think we need to somehow prepare ourselves for this?

Last Saturday, the husband of my friend died. Her name is Lucy, a beautiful lass from Cebu and the husband was Steve.  Steve husband was healthy although in the previous year he survived a thyroid cancer.  His last check up was July 15 of this year and the doctor gave him a clean bill of health.  Saturday afternoon after he came back from his office work, he told his wife we would go to their other property which is just a walking distance from where they are living.  Lucy was preparing for dinner already so she did not accompany her anymore.  He kissed her before he left and he promised he would be back in five minutes.  An hour came and he did not show up.  She called him and he did not answer.  She left a message, "where the heck are you...?"  An hour later, after she called him again and no answer, she decided to walk to go to their property where her husband was.  She found her husband faced down at the back of the property.  She shook him to wake up and he didn't which she dialed 911.  Paremedics came.  Police came and then the Coroner came.  He is gone.

My friend is in total shock.  He was her life, her everything.  She rolled in the street, crawled in fetal position, cried and wail until there was no voice came out from her.  She didn't believe Steve is gone.  She said he is coming back.  She kept watching the window because she said he promised her he will come back. At some times, she said she couldn't survive without him.  She talked about suicide so we had to watch her round the clock.  Chaplain and a nun friend came to talk to her.  They said to keep telling her he is really gone because the sooner she believes this the earlier she starts dealing with the loss. 

I watched her the whole day yesterday.  I couldn't be strong enough not to cry with her. I can't help but ask myself, would I ever be ready?  Right now the answer is, I could never be ready!  I talked to my husband.  I told him, "don't you dare die on me!"  He said to me, "in life, we are not assured to win the lotto or to own a big house or travel the world but we are assured that sooner or later we all will die."

im sorry to hear that. what was the cause of his death?

Hippocrates once said that life is fragile as the dreams that man has in his sleep. Life truly is fragile as it is unpredictable. The more painful if a loved one is taken from us. Make the most of what you have and don't take for granted the love that they give you; as well as don't hesitate to shower your love to those who you care about.

The truth to the matter is that we'll never know if tomorrow is our last or not. One thing is clear; that our Lord is the only one that knows when our time is coming.

Ate Ging, I'm thinking and praying for your friend. I do hope she mourns soon and that she will be alright. You being by her side during this trying of situation is very important to her, even if she doesn't show it now. I really hope she gets through this hard time..


Sincerely,

I can't say I can't live without him, but the pain inside.. oh my.I'm not ready Grazie san though many times I was washed away with different thyphoons,but to loss my love is a different story.Honestly,I prefer to go first kaysa ako ang biyaan.

Quote from: grazie7y on September 11, 2008, 04:35:16 AM
I know my question sounds silly because I don't think we can ever be ready to lose our loved ones but don't you think we need to somehow prepare ourselves for this?

Last Saturday, the husband of my friend died. Her name is Lucy, a beautiful lass from Cebu and the husband was Steve.  Steve husband was healthy although in the previous year he survived a thyroid cancer.  His last check up was July 15 of this year and the doctor gave him a clean bill of health.  Saturday afternoon after he came back from his office work, he told his wife we would go to their other property which is just a walking distance from where they are living.  Lucy was preparing for dinner already so she did not accompany her anymore.  He kissed her before he left and he promised he would be back in five minutes.  An hour came and he did not show up.  She called him and he did not answer.  She left a message, "where the heck are you...?"  An hour later, after she called him again and no answer, she decided to walk to go to their property where her husband was.  She found her husband faced down at the back of the property.  She shook him to wake up and he didn't which she dialed 911.  Paremedics came.  Police came and then the Coroner came.  He is gone.

My friend is in total shock.  He was her life, her everything.  She rolled in the street, crawled in fetal position, cried and wail until there was no voice came out from her.  She didn't believe Steve is gone.  She said he is coming back.  She kept watching the window because she said he promised her he will come back. At some times, she said she couldn't survive without him.  She talked about suicide so we had to watch her round the clock.  Chaplain and a nun friend came to talk to her.  They said to keep telling her he is really gone because the sooner she believes this the earlier she starts dealing with the loss. 

I watched her the whole day yesterday.  I couldn't be strong enough not to cry with her. I can't help but ask myself, would I ever be ready?  Right now the answer is, I could never be ready!  I talked to my husband.  I told him, "don't you dare die on me!"  He said to me, "in life, we are not assured to win the lotto or to own a big house or travel the world but we are assured that sooner or later we all will die."

May the Lord give her strenght.

Quote from: bol-anon_ko on September 11, 2008, 04:56:05 AM
im sorry to hear that. what was the cause of his death?

Hello Jez! Wala pay official result from the Coroner's Office pero i release na ang body tomorrow.

Quote from: Lorenzo on September 11, 2008, 07:27:25 AM
Hippocrates once said that life is fragile as the dreams that man has in his sleep. Life truly is fragile as it is unpredictable. The more painful if a loved one is taken from us. Make the most of what you have and don't take for granted the love that they give you; as well as don't hesitate to shower your love to those who you care about.

The truth to the matter is that we'll never know if tomorrow is our last or not. One thing is clear; that our Lord is the only one that knows when our time is coming.

Ate Ging, I'm thinking and praying for your friend. I do hope she mourns soon and that she will be alright. You being by her side during this trying of situation is very important to her, even if she doesn't show it now. I really hope she gets through this hard time..


Sincerely,

Thank you so much, Dong!  I really I appreciate it!  She is doing better now though she still cries a lot especially at early morning.  She will be fine soon, I pray.

Quote from: orChids on September 11, 2008, 07:39:27 AM
I can't say I can't live without him, but the pain inside.. oh my.I'm not ready Grazie san though many times I was washed away with different thyphoons,but to loss my love is a different story.Honestly,I prefer to go first kaysa ako ang biyaan.

Aya san, lisud jud kaayo seeing our friend feeling so helpless but I believe she will be just fine.  Di nko ma imagine na kalit na lamang mawala imong bana or asawa or other loved ones.  Ako hinuon, between me and my husband, I'd rather na sya ang ma una kay kon ako ang ma una wala na dayon mag take care niya and he will be so sad dayon.

kasakit sa dughan basahon.

sa ako na part, murag dili pa ko ready esp that matthew john is still small.

Men, kini si Lucy, mao tawon ni gatabang babysit ni Tia sa una sa bata pa si Alyssamarie.  Luoy kaayo but she will survive.  Karon ang viewing sa body dayon ugma ang funeral.  Lahi man dire kay since pagkamatay ni Steve adtong Monday, unya pa sa alas 4 makita namo pero for 3 hours ra pod ang viewing dayon ugma ang funeral.  Funeral gud na daw ceremony lang kay kuhaon man balik ang body for cremation.

Give my hugs to Feliciana Tiya! I dont know why i always call her Feliciana!

Kalay-kalay jud ka oi ngano man jud na imong i balintong nang Luciana! 

Sige, sibat nko. until later. mwah

Its hard to loose someone you love.

This is so sad.

Mao ni siya imong friend nga Garcia ang middle name?

We never know what happen jud in every minute in our life.

Even if a love one is seriously ill and you try to set your mind on the worst thing that could happen. But when it happens, the pain is unimaginable. You sleep and woke up crying.

It's really, really hard.

Quote from: orChids on September 11, 2008, 07:39:27 AM
I can't say I can't live without him, but the pain inside.. oh my.I'm not ready Grazie san though many times I was washed away with different thyphoons,but to loss my love is a different story.Honestly,I prefer to go first kaysa ako ang biyaan.

And you actually did, Aya san.  Sakit kaayo na nawala ka na namo but I know you are in God's Kingdom.  You were truly a wonderful human being.  Our loss here on earth is another angel in God's Kingdom to help Him watch over us.  So long, my friend.

((big embrace to Ate Ging))

She was such a good person, 'te Ging. And a wonderful mother, and lover of Christ. For reasons that is beyond my understanding and our understanding, she was called back to the Kingdom of God.

Let us not cry anymore for Ma'am Orchids, for where she is now, she is in eternal bliss with the Almighty Father in Heaven.

In whose company she will forever be GLAD and HAPPY. With all the choirs of angels and saints in Heaven, Ms. Orchids sings the unending praise of our Lord God in Heaven.

Cry not for her, for she has seen the face of God.

From which all GOOD things come from.


Love,
Bran

Amen, Dong.

Let us not all stop crying...

Di gusto si Aya mag sige ta ug hilak.

Quote from: orChids on September 11, 2008, 07:39:27 AM
I can't say I can't live without him, but the pain inside.. oh my.I'm not ready Grazie san though many times I was washed away with different thyphoons,but to loss my love is a different story.Honestly,I prefer to go first kaysa ako ang biyaan.

I pray that God will always be with you  wherever you are right now.

condolence.... but god knows..... BAOVE ALL...

gibyaan na ta bai.... wa ko magtoo na  mauna sya...huhuhuhuhu

Grace,

I am sobered by this thread. We used to just hear people recall the valedictory words of loved ones. Now you've actually recorded it on this thread...

For the grieving family and friends, this only reminds us that every moment should be lavished with love.

HUHUHU kawala ko magdahum nga bag o paman mi nagkaila unta pero wala na diay pod.... basta kadtong gikan mi ka maam lumine sa mangga nag dinner.. akong gi upload ang mga pictures... unja nag ka estoryahanay dajun mi ni orchids..sa forum...



MAY GOD BLESS YOU.. maam ORCHIDS...