I know my question sounds silly because I don't think we can ever be ready to lose our loved ones but don't you think we need to somehow prepare ourselves for this?
Last Saturday, the husband of my friend died. Her name is Lucy, a beautiful lass from Cebu and the husband was Steve. Steve husband was healthy although in the previous year he survived a thyroid cancer. His last check up was July 15 of this year and the doctor gave him a clean bill of health. Saturday afternoon after he came back from his office work, he told his wife we would go to their other property which is just a walking distance from where they are living. Lucy was preparing for dinner already so she did not accompany her anymore. He kissed her before he left and he promised he would be back in five minutes. An hour came and he did not show up. She called him and he did not answer. She left a message, "where the heck are you...?" An hour later, after she called him again and no answer, she decided to walk to go to their property where her husband was. She found her husband faced down at the back of the property. She shook him to wake up and he didn't which she dialed 911. Paremedics came. Police came and then the Coroner came. He is gone.
My friend is in total shock. He was her life, her everything. She rolled in the street, crawled in fetal position, cried and wail until there was no voice came out from her. She didn't believe Steve is gone. She said he is coming back. She kept watching the window because she said he promised her he will come back. At some times, she said she couldn't survive without him. She talked about suicide so we had to watch her round the clock. Chaplain and a nun friend came to talk to her. They said to keep telling her he is really gone because the sooner she believes this the earlier she starts dealing with the loss.
I watched her the whole day yesterday. I couldn't be strong enough not to cry with her. I can't help but ask myself, would I ever be ready? Right now the answer is, I could never be ready! I talked to my husband. I told him, "don't you dare die on me!" He said to me, "in life, we are not assured to win the lotto or to own a big house or travel the world but we are assured that sooner or later we all will die."
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