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To jumpstart this thread, let me share with you this personal experience I wrote about many years ago.

Parenting in Japan

"FIGHT in Tagalog, please," screamed the wife of a Filipino expat working for an American company in Japan, as she disengaged her daughters from each other's nails.

Language is the bane of foreigners raising children in Japan. Youngsters learn the language of their environment without effort, sometimes to the chagrin of parents who are hard-pressed to catch up. However parents try to implement a bilingual policy, the language gap makes child-rearing doubly harder. As children gain greater proficiency in a language unfamiliar to their parents, the generation gap is accented beyond normal proportions.

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Re: To overseas Boholanos, in what language do you talk to your child?
« Reply #1 on: November 05, 2007, 02:13:34 PM »
I have thought my son both english and bisaya so we can communicate in both dialect. When my palalab is around we speak english and when its just me and my son we speak bisaya, sometime I thought my son a little spanish too. Kids learn fast when you teach them at a young age.

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Re: To overseas Boholanos, in what language do you talk to your child?
« Reply #2 on: November 05, 2007, 03:52:51 PM »
My kids speak only japanese..But when I'm angry I speak bisaya.And they understand what is "bunalan ta ka,ayaw and paghilom mo".
I learn more from my kids rather than learning from me when it comes to to japanese language.Kids learn fast coz' everytime we went home they can say and understand few words in just some hours.I'm thankful that they love Philippines and they have lots of friends.
Being away from our country,I had a difficulty with the language spoken with my invironment.At first,I had no friend,my daily companion is just my father in-law since my husband is working and come home late at night,when the phone ring,I pretend I didn't hear.I want to ask my father in- law but he can't understand.I wanted to cry really.What we know about basic japanese isn't enough for a conversation specially when I have to go to the city hall for my baby's vaccines or check up..I don't have time to study because I don't have enpugh time,we have our farm and I can't just watch my father in-law so old doing the farm work.So I helped him.But I was thankful to my father in-law,for his patience,kindness and teaching me by talking to me though  I don't understand.
Kids talk to me like thier friends,I don't know what they are saying sometimes,but they know what I said..it's the heart that talk and made them understand....... :)

 

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Re: To overseas Boholanos, in what language do you talk to your child?
« Reply #3 on: November 05, 2007, 05:19:36 PM »
i'm talking to my son in english so my husband can also understand what i'm talking about. but if we will be in the phils already, i will be talking both in english and cebuano so both my husband and my son will learn esp the cebuano.

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Re: To overseas Boholanos, in what language do you talk to your child?
« Reply #4 on: November 06, 2007, 08:10:18 AM »
i'm talking to my son in english so my husband can also understand what i'm talking about. but if we will be in the phils already, i will be talking both in english and cebuano so both my husband and my son will learn esp the cebuano.

hi lumine,

we in the south, Visayas and Mindanao, have an advantage over those who are raising their children in manila. our children can absorb many dialects, which in turn dispose them to acquire other language skills.

i, for one, can speak cebuano, ilonggo (from my mother), bol-anon (from my father, though my ability is hilaw), tagalog... and of course english and japanese. (ok man akong espanyol sa una kay required man ni sa college pero nabawasan sa pagtuon naku ug japanese). dili kaayo ko malibak bisag asa ko muadto. ironically, my wife's dialects remain a daunting challenge to me--Pagalatok and Ilocano. her hometown is the only part of the country where i really feel like a hapless foreigner.

since translation is my main trade, i want to expose my children to similar experiences I had as a child. i am taking all three of them for a one-year study vacation in bohol next year. japanese man gud ilang main language, and they read and write in that language. kung muangay sila sa tagbilaran, ipadayon na lang...

so next year, magkita-kita ta kay plano pud nako sila ipasyal sa mindanao, especially sa cdo.

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Re: To overseas Boholanos, in what language do you talk to your child?
« Reply #5 on: November 06, 2007, 09:14:36 AM »
Both my sister Lorraine and I were born in the Philippines and raised in the country in an early age, and are lucky to have been given the chance to communicate with Filipinos on a daily basis. Thus, it is one of the reasons why we are able to communicate (speak and understand) Bisaya perfectly (well for the most part). My younger brothers, Don Rico and Andre Nicholas were both born here in the United States. Don Rico can fully undestand Bisaya, but has difficulty trying to talk in Bisaya and Andre is learning to understand Bisaya as well as speak it. They're both Americanized completely, in terms of speech and mannerisms, however when it comes to family etiquette, are Bol-anon. We all speak English outside of the house, but when we come home, the language spoken in our house is Bisaya. And I'm thankful for my parents for instilling in us the Bisayan language and spirit. My brother Don Rico is far too Americanized and doesn't put great effort in speaking Bisaya, while my baby brother Andre eats, speaks and listens in Bisaya (while sometimes my mom tries to teach him some basic Chinese too).

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Re: To overseas Boholanos, in what language do you talk to your child?
« Reply #6 on: November 06, 2007, 09:18:14 AM »
Dodong, I was quite impressed adtong naka storya ta sa phone, and you spoke fluent Bisaya, nga wala'y accent jud. To think dugay naka kaayo dire sa States, naay uban 1 yr pa gani sa US, kung mag storya, pa slang2x na dayon, murag true.

Kudos to you dodong, for staying true to your roots and your native tongue.

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Re: To overseas Boholanos, in what language do you talk to your child?
« Reply #7 on: November 06, 2007, 09:32:33 AM »
Unsa-on man jud na, 'te. Bisan naa ta sa America, sa Europa etc, ang dugo nato man Pilipino. Dili man jud na mo change. Diba? Bitaw, i do undestand what you mean..about people forgetting to speak. I've come across friends who recently immigrated here and they're already speaking in Americanized tones---and whenever I try to talk to them in Bisaya or Tagalog, they try to talk back to me in English, which really annoys me (when i know that they can speak bisaya/tagalog fluently). But whatever..

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Re: To overseas Boholanos, in what language do you talk to your child?
« Reply #8 on: November 07, 2007, 04:54:40 AM »
Unsa-on man jud na, 'te. Bisan naa ta sa America, sa Europa etc, ang dugo nato man Pilipino. Dili man jud na mo change. Diba? Bitaw, i do undestand what you mean..about people forgetting to speak. I've come across friends who recently immigrated here and they're already speaking in Americanized tones---and whenever I try to talk to them in Bisaya or Tagalog, they try to talk back to me in English, which really annoys me (when i know that they can speak bisaya/tagalog fluently). But whatever..

tinuod jud ka dong, kay bisan pa gani diri nga haniti na kaayo mangistorya sa ilang inistoryahan naa jud ang accent dili jud mawala kay filipino jud nga pure ;D

Dodong, I was quite impressed adtong naka storya ta sa phone, and you spoke fluent Bisaya, nga wala'y accent jud. To think dugay naka kaayo dire sa States, naay uban 1 yr pa gani sa US, kung mag storya, pa slang2x na dayon, murag true.

Kudos to you dodong, for staying true to your roots and your native tongue.

 :)

Ayy korek C2 moingon dayon nga nakalimot na sa inistoryahan sa ato, paet!

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Re: To overseas Boholanos, in what language do you talk to your child?
« Reply #9 on: November 07, 2007, 04:57:48 AM »
In the future, kung naana nya koy baby gusto ko nga maka-learn siya how to speak and understand Cebuano(bisaya), Tagalog, English and of course Danish.

but I knwo that it would be hard for my child to learn Cebuano and Tagalog, as we wouldn't use it everyday at home. But I try my best, because I want my child to communicate with my family in the Philippines and play with my cousins children too..

Mura pa ko nagdamgo ani kay God knows man kung kanus-a ko niya hatagan ug baby ;D

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