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Problem with Orgasm?
« on: November 22, 2010, 03:57:13 PM »

osted By Lady And The Scamp, Thursday, 4 November 2010 11:05 GMT
Have been in a relationship for five years now & have a rather difficult problem. The trouble is the longer it’s gone on the harder it is to actually tell him. Despite having a good regular sex life my partner has never made me come – sadly, not even close! What worries me is that he doesn’t seem to have even noticed! (While gladly getting his own satisfaction of course!) I don’t know how to even bring up the subject now as, like I said, too much time has gone by. What should I do??

Josie

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He’s never made you what? Come? Come where? I don’t get it. Where is it you want to go exactly? OK, I’m joking – obviously I know everything about the cliteron and j spot and stuff.

So (seriously now) I think there are two possible reasons for this – a) he doesn’t know, or b) he doesn’t care. And you better hope it’s a).

Not every man can be a sexual virtuoso like Russell Brand or Eamonn Holmes. Some chaps have just never really honed their technique, or been shown how to. So do everyone a favour - show him! Also, while some men will ask “how was it for you?”, others will just assume. So while you’re keeping schtum about your frustration, he’s probably bragging to his mates that he’s “never had any complaints (wink wink)”.
 
As for option b), many men are habitually lazy, whether it’s inducing sexual ecstasy in a spouse or fixing the leak in the bathroom. It’s not necessarily that he’s disinterested or even incapable, but if he can get away with not doing the extra work, he won’t. Unless someone tells him to.

So my suggestion is to create a situation where you can organically slip it into conversation. For example, watch a TV show about orgasms on BBC3 together, then you can remark “Ooh they sound good, I wouldn’t mind having one of those”. He may react with incredulity, embarrassment or utter confusion, but it’s a conversation you need to have. Alternatively, give Eamonn Holmes a call.

Christine says:
Five years? Sorry, I thought you said FIVE years…my friend, this is as close to a tragedy I’ve heard since they cancelled The Bill. Life is rarely a Jackie Collins novel, thank God, or we’d all be called Lacey McSexpot and we’d never get anything done, but come off it.

As tempted as I am to lay all the blame (and a sex manual) at his door, you have to take a hand in this as well, probably literally. What have you been doing for five years? (Apart from being incredibly frustrated.) If you have been ‘faking it’ all this time then I’m afraid you’ve made your bed, which is why you’re now lying in it, bored and resentful. Men aren’t mind readers, some aren’t even readers, and if he thinks you’ve been enjoying yourself, then you’ve effectively been lying to him and you’re going to have to pluck up the courage to come clean if you’ve got any chance of coming at all.

If you haven’t been faking it, and he’s just a selfish so-and-so, then it might be time to tell him to get you off, or get out. Some men are naturally good in bed, and some men are naturally good at reversing a car at speed into an unfamiliar driveway. Most importantly, do you know how to make yourself come? If not, then that’s probably the main issue. If you don’t know, then how would he? If you do know, then for heaven’s sake show him! For the sake of your relationship and all womankind.


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      A Yahoo! User Sat 20 Nov 2010 14:09 GMT Report Abuse

          Iv told my man what i like in bed but no still no joy...quick sex and over in 2mins..i do it myself when,hes at work !

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      Safari Sat 20 Nov 2010 10:26 GMT Report Abuse

          My coments to all those who are complaining of not being sutisfied by their mates:
          i) You'll be satisfied by only who you ascribe as your splendid choice and you are proud of in your life
          ii) Satisfaction techniques can vary from one to another(I mean what satifies Agness can not neccessarily do the same for Julie). Mates should therefore be free to request their fellows do them what they exactly want.

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      Babadeji Thu 18 Nov 2010 03:38 GMT Report Abuse

          try me

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      Vernon Wed 17 Nov 2010 17:57 GMT Report Abuse

          Afraid Your Guy is the type whom has no problem finding a bar but a slight problem finding Your Clitoris.
          If you have romped for 5 years You alone must know how to encourage . if you dont then perhaps He is not
          particularly interested .

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      Megan Charm Wed 17 Nov 2010 02:42 GMT Report Abuse

          Some men is good at making love, some men aren't. I stayed with a men who I wanted to have sex with him whenever I saw him for a year, but sex was that all I got from the relationship. I also stayed with another man for four years who never made me come. What can I say? Men are different. Make sure if the sex is really important to you.

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      A Yahoo! User Fri 12 Nov 2010 20:47 GMT Report Abuse

          i have a partner who also has never made me orgasm and it's frustrating,because you sometimes think that there is something wrong with you.

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      A Yahoo! User Fri 12 Nov 2010 16:40 GMT Report Abuse

          I'm 70, a widower for 9 years but have a wonderful partner a couple of years younger than myself. We have great sex. The secret? We have found the perfect position to satisfy us both and one which allows me to stimulate her by hand during penetration. It took me years to discover how to satisfy but the answer is to keep experimenting until you find the perfect solution. Good luck

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      CHIYBOY NWA-MAMA Fri 12 Nov 2010 09:43 GMT Report Abuse

          hahahahaha, come down here, go black and you will never go back they said.

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      Josie Thu 11 Nov 2010 20:02 GMT Report Abuse

          Thanks for all the advice guys ! No have never faked it & yes can give myself a hand when needed !? Just always thought it would happen one day - trouble is like I say 5 years have slipped by & still no nearer !?.Anyway - have decided am just going to have to tell him !! Got rid of the kids this weekend,bought some new undies & am planning a nice romantic eve on our own.Couple of glasses of wine should help me find the words - so wish me luck !!!!

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      david Thu 11 Nov 2010 15:12 GMT Report Abuse

          i suggest masturbation : have fun

     



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Re: Problem with Orgasm?
« Reply #1 on: November 22, 2010, 04:04:43 PM »
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Re: Problem with Orgasm?
« Reply #2 on: November 23, 2010, 12:38:36 PM »

Orgasm is the point of ejaculation.

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Re: Problem with Orgasm?
« Reply #3 on: November 23, 2010, 01:41:48 PM »
Orgasm is the point of ejaculation.

jajajaja... sabotable Mr. Fdaray...

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« Reply #4 on: November 23, 2010, 04:38:33 PM »
Kon nagkasabot ang baje ug lake, there is orgasm pero kon imong lugoson, walay orgasm.

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