Author Topic: Is it OK to make friends with your ex(es)? (Read 31610 times)

queen · « **on:** June 26, 2007, 04:56:57 PM »

Since the other two of the Triumvirate have gone missing for the past two weeks or so, I am inviting anyone to answer this question:

Is it OK to make friends with your ex(es)?

This is a very common scenario among celebrities. But for us Boholanos and Boholanas who are away from the limelight, is this a proper thing to do?

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pioneer · « **Reply #1 on:** June 26, 2007, 06:23:19 PM »

According to my gf, DILI.

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PrincessSaDagat · « **Reply #2 on:** June 26, 2007, 06:34:58 PM »

Both parties (current couple) must agree otherwise dili gyud.

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queen · « **Reply #3 on:** June 26, 2007, 06:49:50 PM »

According to my gf, DILI.

Attention all Tubag Bohol members: Naa gyud d i girlfriend si Mike.

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PrincessSaDagat · « **Reply #4 on:** June 26, 2007, 06:55:20 PM »

Noted! K-na.

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pioneer · « **Reply #5 on:** June 26, 2007, 08:50:37 PM »

Attention all Tubag Bohol members: Naa gyud d i girlfriend si Mike.

Of course, I have, Rose. You know a lot of things about me. And I trust you.

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queen · « **Reply #6 on:** June 26, 2007, 08:57:54 PM »

According to my gf, DILI.

Could you please expound a little further why not?

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queen · « **Reply #7 on:** June 26, 2007, 09:01:40 PM »

Both parties (current couple) must agree otherwise dili gyud.

Sea princess, why man dili gyud? In my case, I've one who stalks me at friendster - my ex and his wife. I feel that it's so pathetic but my husband thinks it's just OK. Weird.

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pioneer · « **Reply #8 on:** June 26, 2007, 09:07:04 PM »

Could you please expound a little further why not?

Rose, sa akong nang gikaingon kaniadto pa lisud na kaayo nga bukikion ug bulikaton ang nalubong nga kagahapon.

Wala pa baya ko ma-amnesia, Rose. Makahinumdum pa gihapon ko sa mga katawa ug talidhay nga molanog sa kinasuokan sa akong dughan.

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queen · « **Reply #9 on:** June 26, 2007, 09:17:02 PM »

Rose, sa akong nang gikaingon kaniadto pa lisud na kaayo nga bukikion ug bulikaton ang nalubong nga kagahapon.

Wala pa baya ko ma-amnesia, Rose. Makahinumdum pa gihapon ko sa mga katawa ug talidhay nga molanog sa kinasuokan sa akong dughan.

Not on your gf's point of view na lang. Could you expound why it's not proper to make friends with the exes?

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pioneer · « **Reply #10 on:** June 26, 2007, 09:22:58 PM »

We have the same point of views.

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queen · « **Reply #11 on:** June 26, 2007, 09:29:35 PM »

We have the same point of views.

Soulmates.

Ako, I find it weird why they still stalk me after all these years. I don't want to make friends with the exes. With the 85 million pinoys, I have better options to make friends with. I want to embrace the present and the future, and free the past.

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lumine · « **Reply #12 on:** June 26, 2007, 09:31:54 PM »

Is it OK to make friends with your ex(es)?

for me it's ok. friends ra btaw. my God, ngano itihik pa man nang friendship for as long as you won't have a date again,hehe! the world is small that a time will come, you will bump into each other.

my first bf remains to be my friend. before i left almost three years ago, he would still send text msgs to help him pray for his father's health. so, ok ra jud.

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queen · « **Reply #13 on:** June 26, 2007, 09:33:39 PM »

for me it's ok. friends ra btaw. my God, ngano itihik pa man nang friendship for as long as you won't have a date again,hehe! the world is small that a time will come, you will bump into each other.

my first bf remains to be my friend. before i left almost three years ago, he would still send text msgs to help him pray for his father's health. so, ok ra jud.

kewl! Mao nay nice.

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slackware · « **Reply #14 on:** June 26, 2007, 11:00:28 PM »

Since the other two of the Triumvirate have gone missing for the past two weeks or so, I am inviting anyone to answer this question:

Is it OK to make friends with your ex(es)?

This is a very common scenario among celebrities. But for us Boholanos and Boholanas who are away from the limelight, is this a proper thing to do?

dili na! basig manumbalik unya ang mga kagahapon lisud na!

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PrincessSaDagat · « **Reply #15 on:** June 26, 2007, 11:47:04 PM »

Sea princess, why man dili gyud? In my case, I've one who stalks me at friendster - my ex and his wife. I feel that it's so pathetic but my husband thinks it's just OK. Weird.

You have to respect each other's feelings if my other half explain to me in a mature and non demanding manner that it's not okay because ... I'll respect his wishes vice versa.

dili na! basig manumbalik unya ang mga kagahapon lisud na!

You must TRUST each other because no matter what you do or say if you really want to "play around" with an ex or someone else it will happen with or without your knowledge. You cannot keep an eye on him/her 24 hours a day or anytime or any night.

Why make things complicated - relationship is hard as it is already.

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slackware · « **Reply #16 on:** June 26, 2007, 11:49:20 PM »

lisud na basig ma love triangle na sad! hehehehehehe!

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PrincessSaDagat · « **Reply #17 on:** June 26, 2007, 11:57:58 PM »

lisud na basig ma love triangle na sad! hehehehehehe!

I'm reading between the lines here Ghost: "triangle na sad!" Care to elaborate?

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si makapuling · « **Reply #18 on:** June 27, 2007, 12:00:13 AM »

ROSE, you know my answer to this, "YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! "
hahahahahahahaha!! but "friends" of different type!

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PrincessSaDagat · « **Reply #19 on:** June 27, 2007, 12:03:49 AM »

ROSE, you know my answer to this, "YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! "
hahahahahahahaha!! but "friends" of different type!

What type: friends type or kohit kohit type?

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si makapuling · « **Reply #20 on:** June 27, 2007, 12:18:25 AM »

if both are unattached and if both aren't cheating on their respective partners, if it's mutually consented, siguro pwede kilo-kilo, kuhit kuhit, bitad bitad type of friendship!! hahahahahaha

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slackware · « **Reply #21 on:** June 27, 2007, 12:28:07 AM »

mao na ni ron! friend daw ha...moingon nalang si lalake ug, hala tuwad friend...

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hazel · « **Reply #22 on:** June 27, 2007, 01:49:29 AM »

in the Phil culture murag lisud makig friend sa ex(es) kay naay tendency nga ma ukay ang kaga hapon..pero sa western culture ok ra jud..mag beso-beso pa man gani ang both parties..

para naku okay ra man especially kung ganahan pako sa laki..hahhaha (advantage naku) bitaw, I agree with prinsessa that their should be a consent from both parties.

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Happy · « **Reply #23 on:** June 27, 2007, 02:22:16 AM »

For me ok,ra as long as agree pud ang both parties... friends ra bitaw na, but i think nga dili close friends, distance lang gud... ako pa! selosa kaayo ko

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diadora · « **Reply #24 on:** June 27, 2007, 02:52:37 AM »

Its good to make friends with an ex ang importante respect and care as a friend not a lover ( kon both wala pay relation sa uban) kay sa mawad-an ka ug friends gyud..lisod hikalimtan ang imong ex party na siya sa imong kagahapon,pero taman lang gyud sa higala...

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queen · « **Reply #25 on:** June 27, 2007, 10:27:16 AM »

ROSE, you know my answer to this, "YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! "
hahahahahahahaha!! but "friends" of different type!

Friends with benefits, that's what you call it.

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queen · « **Reply #26 on:** June 27, 2007, 10:29:11 AM »

in the Phil culture murag lisud makig friend sa ex(es) kay naay tendency nga ma ukay ang kaga hapon..pero sa western culture ok ra jud..mag beso-beso pa man gani ang both parties..

para naku okay ra man especially kung ganahan pako sa laki..hahhaha (advantage naku) bitaw, I agree with prinsessa that their should be a consent from both parties.

This is enlightening, Hazel.

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queen · « **Reply #27 on:** June 27, 2007, 10:30:32 AM »

Its good to make friends with an ex ang importante respect and care as a friend not a lover ( kon both wala pay relation sa uban) kay sa mawad-an ka ug friends gyud..lisod hikalimtan ang imong ex party na siya sa imong kagahapon,pero taman lang gyud sa higala...

Taman ra gyud sa higala.
Sakto jud ka Diadora.

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i-volunteer · « **Reply #28 on:** June 27, 2007, 10:31:25 AM »

HAZEL MILIWAT KA NI CPG, BALAKNON. "MAUKAY ANG KAGAHAPON." I LIKE IT.

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queen · « **Reply #29 on:** June 27, 2007, 10:33:06 AM »

for me it's ok. friends ra btaw. my God, ngano itihik pa man nang friendship for as long as you won't have a date again,hehe! the world is small that a time will come, you will bump into each other.

my first bf remains to be my friend. before i left almost three years ago, he would still send text msgs to help him pray for his father's health. so, ok ra jud.

Cool. Liberated man gud ka Lumine kay iryat man ka. Medyo westernized na imong culture ba. Besides, you are well versed with world literature. That explains.

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queen · « **Reply #30 on:** June 27, 2007, 10:35:49 AM »

mao na ni ron! friend daw ha...moingon nalang si lalake ug, hala tuwad friend...

Ghost, nganong motuwad man? Paki elaborate.

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pioneer · « **Reply #31 on:** June 27, 2007, 10:37:26 AM »

Seth, Lumine taught English in the Philippines for 13 years.

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queen · « **Reply #32 on:** June 27, 2007, 10:43:49 AM »

Seth, Lumine taught English in the Philippines for 13 years.

I knew that's why I said what I said. Lumine and I, we've gone beyond Tubag Bohol. Ym chatmates na mi, actually. You know, things you couldn't discuss here, you could discuss somewhere else.

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i-volunteer · « **Reply #33 on:** June 27, 2007, 10:46:52 AM »

MS !!!, PWEDE PUD TA MAGCHATMATE?

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queen · « **Reply #34 on:** June 27, 2007, 10:49:54 AM »

MS !!!, PWEDE PUD TA MAGCHATMATE?

Sure thing! PM me your ym. But hey, I'm no Miss !!!. I'm Misus !!!

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pioneer · « **Reply #35 on:** June 27, 2007, 10:50:19 AM »

i-volunteer, you are not allowed to flirt in Tubag Bohol. If you do that, I will ban you in this website forever. Roseth is married already.

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queen · « **Reply #36 on:** June 27, 2007, 10:51:50 AM »

i-volunteer, you are not allowed to flirt in Tubag Bohol. If you do that, I will ban you in this website forever. Roseth is married already.

Oh, my God, I just got myself an instant spokesperson and lawyer in the name of Mike. Gibandera pa jud akong name instead of addressing me with Mrs. !!! BTW, is ym-ing flirting?

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i-volunteer · « **Reply #37 on:** June 27, 2007, 10:56:10 AM »

DID I SAY I WOULD FLIRT WITH THAT !!! I WAS JUST ASKING IF I COULD BE HER CHATMATE!

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queen · « **Reply #38 on:** June 27, 2007, 10:58:19 AM »

DID I SAY I WOULD FLIRT WITH THAT !!! I WAS JUST ASKING IF I COULD BE HER CHATMATE!

3 points! That's why I asked Mike, is ym-ing flirting? Dili biya i-volunteer sa? Sige mag chat unya ta kay para tudluan ko nimo unsaon pag post sa avatar ug penguin nga nilugapak.

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pioneer · « **Reply #39 on:** June 27, 2007, 10:58:27 AM »

... relax, i-volunteer.

ug ngano nga interesado man pud konohay ka nga makigchatmate ni Rose? Ulitawo pa ba ka? iyang husband member pud sa Tubag Bohol.

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queen · « **Reply #40 on:** June 27, 2007, 11:00:00 AM »

... relax, i-volunteer.

ug ngano nga interesado man pud konohay ka nga makigchatmate ni Rose? Ulitawo pa ba ka? iyang husband member pud sa Tubag Bohol.

Ayaw intawn palabii ug buyagyag ang love story ni Misus 3 exclamation points.

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i-volunteer · « **Reply #41 on:** June 27, 2007, 11:02:03 AM »

OK. OK. OK. NGITA NALANG KO DALAGA DIRI TUBAG BOHOL. UG DILI KITA BASA-BASA NALANG KO SA LIFE TIPS.

KINSA MAN DALAGA PA DIRI?

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queen · « **Reply #42 on:** June 27, 2007, 11:12:02 AM »

OK. OK. OK. NGITA NALANG KO DALAGA DIRI TUBAG BOHOL. UG DILI KITA BASA-BASA NALANG KO SA LIFE TIPS.

KINSA MAN DALAGA PA DIRI?

Humana man ta sa gender war sa lain nga thread. Mana pud ta sa virginity status declaration. karon, sugdan na pud nato ug deklarar ug married or single pa ba ta.

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..yadz.. · « **Reply #43 on:** June 27, 2007, 12:03:09 PM »

Humana man ta sa gender war sa lain nga thread. Mana pud ta sa virginity status declaration. karon, sugdan na pud nato ug deklarar ug married or single pa ba ta.

lain napud nga war??hehehe...
bitaw., friends mi sa ako mga ex's..theres nothing wrong with it man..and besides, high school life gf/bf's dili pa man serious..so, bisan pa mgkita ok ra kaayo..no hurt feelings..hehehe!

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slackware · « **Reply #44 on:** June 27, 2007, 12:11:16 PM »

ug magkasinabot....hala tuwad friend bi!

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si makapuling · « **Reply #45 on:** June 27, 2007, 12:35:59 PM »

hahaha, that way too crass! and, i even think that people who are so into each other need to ask anymore. anyway, my point is, there is nothing wrong with exes being friends. and, if both are unattached, and if there is no deception on both parties regarding on circumstances and or outcome, and if it is mutually consented, why is it not okay for exes to be even more than friends?
as to "hadlok na ug manumbalik ang kagahapon", i mean if one is really over the ex, and if one is happy with one's current partner, then there is no "kagahapon na manumbalik". there will only be a panunumbalik IF one is not over the ex and then gets with another person on a rebound. and granting that even no matter how much one is happy with the current relationship, that one is totally over the ex, yet, there is still than slight tinge of panunumbalik, then it is up to the person tp rein oneself in. therefore, the "wrongness" or "rightness" of being friends with the ex isn't contingent of the actual act of being friends BUT on the person involve.
am i making myself incomprehensible again because i am confused myself! hahaha
but, then again, that's just my point of view. and rose knows perfectly well why my stand is such.right rose?

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-<GEC348>- · « **Reply #46 on:** June 27, 2007, 12:40:33 PM »

Attention all Tubag Bohol members: Naa gyud d i girlfriend si Mike.

Mike admitted that when I told him he should now get a wife. Iya na gani kunong gihatagan og singsing!

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pioneer · « **Reply #47 on:** June 27, 2007, 12:41:04 PM »

Hi Riva,

I rest my case. Speechless ko sa imong rebuttal. You're brilliant!

Nevertheless, I will stick to my no-to-ex-friendship policy.

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pioneer · « **Reply #48 on:** June 27, 2007, 12:42:56 PM »

Mike admitted that when I told him he should now get a wife. Iya na gani kunong gihatagan og singsing!

FedEx had delivered it, GEC.

do you want to have a copy of the FedEx tracking number? haahahaha

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-<GEC348>- · « **Reply #49 on:** June 27, 2007, 12:53:46 PM »

hahaha, that way too crass! and, i even think that people who are so into each other need to ask anymore. anyway, my point is, there is nothing wrong with exes being friends. and, if both are unattached, and if there is no deception on both parties regarding on circumstances and or outcome, and if it is mutually consented, why is it not okay for exes to be even more than friends?
as to "hadlok na ug manumbalik ang kagahapon", i mean if one is really over the ex, and if one is happy with one's current partner, then there is no "kagahapon na manumbalik". there will only be a panunumbalik IF one is not over the ex and then gets with another person on a rebound. and granting that even no matter how much one is happy with the current relationship, that one is totally over the ex, yet, there is still than slight tinge of panunumbalik, then it is up to the person tp rein oneself in. therefore, the "wrongness" or "rightness" of being friends with the ex isn't contingent of the actual act of being friends BUT on the person involve.
am i making myself incomprehensible again because i am confused myself! hahaha
but, then again, that's just my point of view. and rose knows perfectly well why my stand is such.right rose?

I share your view, riva.
Friends should be treasured.
Ex-lovers were once friends... in fact they started out as friends

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queen · « **Reply #50 on:** June 27, 2007, 04:44:19 PM »

there is nothing wrong with exes being friends. rose knows perfectly well why my stand is such.right rose?

Right, Riva baby! Because you are still so hang up with your ex, you couldn't move on. You keep diggin' to China when in fact, there is an array of delicious fafas to choose from in Japan.

I love you, girl, so I should tell you, finish your business with your X-Y-Z. (I truly know why you're still holdin' on so on second thought, hala go ahead with your FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS status.

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queen · « **Reply #51 on:** June 27, 2007, 04:46:33 PM »

Mike admitted that when I told him he should now get a wife. Iya na gani kunong gihatagan og singsing!

I was playin' dumb, my GEC. I know to the littlest detail Mike's relationship. It's just that, my mouth is sealed. His secrets are safe with me. Ahehehehe!

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lumine · « **Reply #52 on:** June 27, 2007, 05:01:48 PM »

Cool. Liberated man gud ka Lumine kay iryat man ka. Medyo westernized na imong culture ba. Besides, you are well versed with world literature. That explains.

kabalos ka sa iryat ha?hehe!

but when my ex saw my pics that i'm truly happy, he stopped sending msgs at friendster and ym.maybe he was thinking na dili na jud ko nya mabawi,hehe! i let my husband read his msgs. paspas pa man sya sa st. jude bus mobasa ug bisaya maski wala kasabot,hehe!

seriously, to befriend your ex-bf depends also on how you ended your relationship. it's hypocrisy to make friends when hatred is still there.

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lumine · « **Reply #53 on:** June 27, 2007, 05:04:55 PM »

Seth, Lumine taught English in the Philippines for 13 years.

when i read this, i became nostalgic. i just simply miss the joys and sorrows of teaching.

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queen · « **Reply #54 on:** June 27, 2007, 05:05:25 PM »

kabalos ka sa iryat ha?hehe!

but when my ex saw my pics that i'm truly happy, he stopped sending msgs at friendster and ym.maybe he was thinking na dili na jud ko nya mabawi,hehe! i let my husband read his msgs. paspas pa man sya sa st. jude bus mobasa ug bisaya maski wala kasabot,hehe!

seriously, to befriend your ex-bf depends also on how you ended your relationship. it's hypocrisy to make friends when hatred is still there.

There's definitely no hatred involved in my case, Lumine. Hehe! I just don't understand why they keep stalking me at Friendster. Why not come out in the open, say hi, I miss the old times. And I'd gladly say, "Na amnesia na ko oi sa old times." I'm so happy and content with my MAN and my BOYs. Wayuk!

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lumine · « **Reply #55 on:** June 27, 2007, 05:07:14 PM »

I knew that's why I said what I said. Lumine and I, we've gone beyond Tubag Bohol. Ym chatmates na mi, actually. You know, things you couldn't discuss here, you could discuss somewhere else.

hello sexy chatmate,hehe!

i saw a lot of your pix na mike because of rose,hehe!

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lumine · « **Reply #56 on:** June 27, 2007, 05:09:09 PM »

... relax, i-volunteer.

ug ngano nga interesado man pud konohay ka nga makigchatmate ni Rose? Ulitawo pa ba ka? iyang husband member pud sa Tubag Bohol.

mura tatay si mike da,hehe!

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queen · « **Reply #57 on:** June 27, 2007, 05:14:17 PM »

mura tatay si mike da,hehe!

Right. And I so feel like daddy's lil girl.

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lumine · « **Reply #58 on:** June 27, 2007, 07:55:38 PM »

There's definitely no hatred involved in my case, Lumine. Hehe! I just don't understand why they keep stalking me at Friendster. Why not come out in the open, say hi, I miss the old times. And I'd gladly say, "Na amnesia na ko oi sa old times." I'm so happy and content with my MAN and my BOYs. Wayuk!

kabalo nako,rose, unsay reason! unsaon makasuya man sad imo mga pix,hehe! super sexy gud.

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Julai · « **Reply #59 on:** June 27, 2007, 08:36:41 PM »

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hi to all.
for me,ok lng man na makig friend sa ex.coz it's not nice to end a relationship with a grudge in your heart.I ended a relationship before (9 years ago) and we were not in good terms then,but then few months ago,we saw each other and we're friends again.And I like the feeling nga wanay gi huna2x na naa pay lain ug boot sa ahoa..so it's ok na mag friends ang mga ex after the relationship.

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queen · « **Reply #60 on:** June 27, 2007, 08:48:49 PM »

hi to all.
for me,ok lng man na makig friend sa ex.coz it's not nice to end a relationship with a grudge in your heart.I ended a relationship before (9 years ago) and we were not in good terms then,but then few months ago,we saw each other and we're friends again.And I like the feeling nga wanay gi huna2x na naa pay lain ug boot sa ahoa..so it's ok na mag friends ang mga ex after the relationship.

Thanks Julai for the very honest answer. You're a newbie so I'd like to welcome you as well. Thanks for joining the fun (and sometimes riot) here at Tubag Bohol. Cheers!

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Julai · « **Reply #61 on:** June 27, 2007, 08:52:29 PM »

Thanks Julai for the very honest answer. You're a newbie so I'd like to welcome you as well. Thanks for joining the fun (and sometimes riot) here at Tubag Bohol. Cheers!
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Thanks Ma'am Rose for the welcome.been a member for 2 weeks now,but don't have enough time to come here frequently.But I'm really trying my best coz I want to participate in the brilliant discussions here.It's brain enhancing.

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queen · « **Reply #62 on:** June 27, 2007, 08:54:59 PM »

Thanks Ma'am Rose for the welcome.been a member for 2 weeks now,but don't have enough time to come here frequently.But I'm really trying my best coz I want to participate in the brilliant discussions here.It's brain enhancing.
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Rose, er, Ma'am Rose, did you just call me that? So you know me, aye? It'd be nice having another smart cookie here. I could sense that.

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Julai · « **Reply #63 on:** June 27, 2007, 08:58:15 PM »

Thanks Ma'am Rose for the welcome.been a member for 2 weeks now,but don't have enough time to come here frequently.But I'm really trying my best coz I want to participate in the brilliant discussions here.It's brain enhancing.
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Rose, er, Ma'am Rose, did you just call me that? So you know me, aye? It'd be nice having another smart cookie here. I could sense that.

I know you by name coz been reading a lot of good things about you here.You're awarded as the new heroine of the forum.thanks for addressing me as a "smart cookie".I'll take it as a compliment,heheheh

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si makapuling · « **Reply #64 on:** June 27, 2007, 10:02:10 PM »

Right, Riva baby! Because you are still so hang up with your ex, you couldn't move on. You keep diggin' to China when in fact, there is an array of delicious fafas to choose from in Japan.

I love you, girl, so I should tell you, finish your business with your X-Y-Z. (I truly know why you're still holdin' on so on second thought, hala go ahead with your FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS status.

hoy roseth, you should be proud of me na ha kay i haven't talked with him for a loooonnnggg time now even when he is online!! hahaha!! and i am seeing someone new (though no romantic stuff as i have mad up my mind not to be in any relationship while still travelling) and eyeing someone different..see, see, see, see!
so hug me!

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queen · « **Reply #65 on:** June 28, 2007, 12:03:19 PM »

hoy roseth, you should be proud of me na ha kay i haven't talked with him for a loooonnnggg time now even when he is online!! hahaha!! and i am seeing someone new (though no romantic stuff as i have mad up my mind not to be in any relationship while still travelling) and eyeing someone different..see, see, see, see!
so hug me!

Seeing the world, Riva, would be nice when you have someone tagging along. Just imagine the advantage of taking turns photographing each other than asking passersby to do the favor. Think about it!

Dating but the unromatic kind? What the hell is that? Don't give me ****, Riva!

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queen · « **Reply #66 on:** June 28, 2007, 12:05:32 PM »

I know you by name coz been reading a lot of good things about you here.You're awarded as the new heroine of the forum.thanks for addressing me as a "smart cookie".I'll take it as a compliment,heheheh

I see. So have fun surfing! We'll read each other here.

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si makapuling · « **Reply #67 on:** June 28, 2007, 10:08:21 PM »

Seeing the world, Riva, would be nice when you have someone tagging along. Just imagine the advantage of taking turns photographing each other than asking passersby to do the favor. Think about it!

Dating but the unromatic kind? What the hell is that? Don't give me ****, Riva!

*sigh is all i can say. hahahaha

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bAbY_Blue1974 · « **Reply #68 on:** July 06, 2007, 09:38:32 AM »

i THink kon bag o pa, its not a good idea, but if dugay na, then y not! After all, the past is past and we have learned to accept reality dba? (nga u r not meant 4 each other)

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jade · « **Reply #69 on:** July 07, 2007, 06:33:04 PM »

Why not? In the first place, you already have a `pinagsamahan`... just enjoy life while it last..

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queen · « **Reply #70 on:** July 07, 2007, 06:36:27 PM »

i THink kon bag o pa, its not a good idea, but if dugay na, then y not! After all, the past is past and we have learned to accept reality dba? (nga u r not meant 4 each other)

Yes, you're right. People need time to heal and move on. When all is well, then you can be friends again FOR THE GOOD TIMES.

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queen · « **Reply #71 on:** July 07, 2007, 06:38:19 PM »

Why not? In the first place, you already have a `pinagsamahan`... just enjoy life while it last..

You have a point. After all, you've once been together as sweethearts, so what difference does it make to remain together, this time, as friends?

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Barbaro · « **Reply #72 on:** July 07, 2007, 11:48:24 PM »

As a girl wo is friends with ex I would say that for as long as the freindship is not kept to show the ex that you have moved n to greener pastures then that is ok. Be sure to include your current girlfriend in activities with the old girlfriend because remember, you once had feelings for this girl and any new gielfriend is going to feel threatened by that alone. Also be sure that you are not hanging with your ex because you have not flly gotten over whatever you tow had. Tell your new girlfreind how you feel about her often so she doesn;t wonder. Hope that helps.

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si makapuling · « **Reply #73 on:** July 08, 2007, 09:39:10 AM »

and now i sing my song "honesty, is such a looonely word. everyone is so untrue.HANESTYYYYYY, nah, nah, nah, nah, nah...(wala nako kabalo sa lyrics!)"

hahahahahahaha

but i agree you with you barbaro

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jade · « **Reply #74 on:** July 08, 2007, 01:47:46 PM »

Yes.. what else do you think the relationship would be? of course friends. Friendship is not a bad thing afterall. You may have your new, he may have his new? so what`s the purpose of not getting friends? Getting hurt would be healed if you seek something that`s more important. More important than your ex. So just be friend for him, i don`t mean to be close, but just the reality of being friends. Forget the past and start anew.

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Barbaro · « **Reply #75 on:** July 08, 2007, 02:04:20 PM »

and now i sing my song "honesty, is such a looonely word. everyone is so untrue.HANESTYYYYYY, nah, nah, nah, nah, nah...(wala nako kabalo sa lyrics!)"

hahahahahahaha

but i agree you with you barbaro

ehmmm idol nimo si belly joel ha.

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queen · « **Reply #76 on:** July 09, 2007, 04:19:44 PM »

As a girl wo is friends with ex I would say that for as long as the freindship is not kept to show the ex that you have moved n to greener pastures then that is ok. Be sure to include your current girlfriend in activities with the old girlfriend because remember, you once had feelings for this girl and any new gielfriend is going to feel threatened by that alone. Also be sure that you are not hanging with your ex because you have not flly gotten over whatever you tow had. Tell your new girlfreind how you feel about her often so she doesn;t wonder. Hope that helps.

This is right, Barbaro. In respect to the present gf/bf, husband/wife, they should be part of the activities. But if there's no point of continuing the closeness, then better not. You can be friends in a 'hi-hello-stage' and not really close friends. Avoid trouble when you can!

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Happy · « **Reply #77 on:** July 11, 2007, 04:28:41 AM »

ehmmm idol nimo si belly joel ha.

Barbaro isn't it Billy? imo man gud gihimong tiyan iyang spelling lol... peace

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C2H4 · « **Reply #78 on:** September 07, 2007, 04:53:42 AM »

Since the other two of the Triumvirate have gone missing for the past two weeks or so, I am inviting anyone to answer this question:

Is it OK to make friends with your ex(es)?

This is a very common scenario among celebrities. But for us Boholanos and Boholanas who are away from the limelight, is this a proper thing to do?

It's ok to have some sort of friendship, though not exactly a "close" one, where you'd call each other up and talk on a regular basis. Ok ra man nang panagsa, mag Hi ug Hello, mag kumustahanay sa mga buhay2x.

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Bambi · « **Reply #79 on:** September 07, 2007, 08:57:17 AM »

Finally, after separation from ex (es)..... I am continuing to have a friendly relationship with them and it works good. Even with their present steadys/gfs, we are good friends, anyways

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C2H4 · « **Reply #80 on:** September 07, 2007, 09:24:00 AM »

Finally, after separation from ex (es)..... I am continuing to have a friendly relationship with them and it works good. Even with their present steadys/gfs, we are good friends, anyways

Bitaw Ms Bambi noh? It's a sign nga naka move on na gyud ang tawo kung magtan-aw sya sa iyang ex, and she wishes him happiness and fulfillment.

Kung mag storya mi usahay sa akong ex nga friend na nako ron, maka kanta gud ko'g ahat: I remember the boy but I don't remember the feeling anymore...

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ms da binsi · « **Reply #81 on:** September 07, 2007, 10:28:35 AM »

Igat hahahahahahaha

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asianfairy · « **Reply #82 on:** September 07, 2007, 01:54:27 PM »

Why not?
But of course, there are many aspects to consider and also how you were related in the past and how your present situation and status in life now.

Kon uyab mo sa una unya pulos pamo single gihapon..why not? pero kon naa namoy lain lain na nga uyab..you have to consider your present partners feelings. Kon dili motugot imo present nga makig-amigo ka sa imo ex ayaw nalang pugsa.

But if you were once married I think it is very good if you can stay friends with your exs for the sake of the children.
Dire kasagaran sa mga nagdivorce friend pa sila kaayo sa ila mga ex. No malice. Pero sa atoa I know lisod gyod kaayo magkafriend labi na dako nagasto sa pag annul sa ila kasal:-)

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asianfairy · « **Reply #83 on:** September 07, 2007, 01:58:15 PM »

pahabol:

Para nako, ok ra kaayo makig amigo sa imo ex. My ex bf was also once my best friend and when the relationship ended we both still want to stay good friends. But his wife got so angry and jealous about it. So we have to reluctantly end the friendship. Really sad.

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ms da binsi · « **Reply #84 on:** September 07, 2007, 08:43:43 PM »

Ako, when it's over, it over not even friends, i dont treat them like i hated them pero dili na gyud ko. maao kaayo ko anang limot...

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asianfairy · « **Reply #85 on:** September 07, 2007, 09:20:08 PM »

Ms da binsi, i understand you..however I think it all depends too.. how and why the relationship ended.

kon na end tungod kay dunay ika tulo nga party unya giilad kara...it is hard to be friends again. However if the relationship ended in a peaceful and mutual agreement then it is ok to stay friends. just my own opinion.

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ms da binsi · « **Reply #86 on:** September 07, 2007, 09:24:04 PM »

Mao gyud na akong nature malimot... pero inig magkita mi friend ra man pero mora ra ba ug bag-o nga acquaintance...

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jaja · « **Reply #87 on:** September 08, 2007, 02:10:00 AM »

I remember the boy but I don't remember the feeling anymore...

honestly, dili pa jud nako kaya mokanta ani nga song :'(

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slackware · « **Reply #88 on:** September 08, 2007, 02:15:24 AM »

Maayo mo hisgot2x namo sa inyong mga exes! Ako tawon no gf since birth! ahahahahhaha!

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ms da binsi · « **Reply #89 on:** September 08, 2007, 02:20:05 AM »

kaluoy ni Poloy!!!!!

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hazel · « **Reply #90 on:** September 08, 2007, 02:45:23 AM »

Ms da binsi, i understand you..however I think it all depends too.. how and why the relationship ended.

kon na end tungod kay dunay ika tulo nga party unya giilad kara...it is hard to be friends again. However if the relationship ended in a peaceful and mutual agreement then it is ok to stay friends. just my own opinion.

i think you can deal with it, asian. as long as na resolve na na nga isyu....hehehe wala pa pud ko kabalo jud kay wala pa mi magkita sa akong latest ex.

unsa kaha'y bation naku no? hahaha

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Happy · « **Reply #91 on:** September 08, 2007, 03:09:22 AM »

ghost, naana pud ka ana da.. sa ato pa BS kunuhay ka hehe

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asianfairy · « **Reply #92 on:** September 08, 2007, 03:11:58 AM »

Ginger ,Pila naman mo ka tuig wa magkita?

Ako nagkita mis ako ex after 16 years na. Pero diha miy communication gamay sa email ug sa sms plus some phonecalls.
Mora raman ug wa koy gibati. Nawa natong butobuto sa dughan.

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hazel · « **Reply #93 on:** September 08, 2007, 03:15:16 AM »

Ginger ,Pila naman mo ka tuig wa magkita?

2yrs na. pero ang one year, text and call mi... ang remaining one year ako na ang ni distansya, para maka let go na jud ko completely.

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asianfairy · « **Reply #94 on:** September 08, 2007, 03:18:18 AM »

mao ba? medyo lab-as pa diay nang imoha story. Akoa dugay ra kaayo. Hapit nako mangapo ron.

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hazel · « **Reply #95 on:** September 08, 2007, 03:21:16 AM »

mao bah? sus! biliba naku nimo oi...perteng hinumdum pa diay nimo noh? hehe

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pioneer · « **Reply #96 on:** September 08, 2007, 03:21:27 AM »

Ginger ,Pila naman mo ka tuig wa magkita?

Ako nagkita mis ako ex after 16 years na. Pero diha miy communication gamay sa email ug sa sms plus some phonecalls.
Mora raman ug wa koy gibati. Nawa natong butobuto sa dughan.

Asianfairy, mao nay giingon nga wala na magkapandol-pandol ang pinitik sa imong dughan sa imong pagkakita niya pag-usab.

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Bambi · « **Reply #97 on:** September 08, 2007, 03:39:31 AM »

Mike, in my case wa ko magkapandol-pandol but I almost to Mabugso after meeting my 5 yrs. platonic love affair in a period of 6 yrs absence. Wa ka kuyapi....he asked me to marry him and not to go back to Germany kay he found out that true love daw ko nya! I told him frankly... dis-a raman ka sa una sa atong pagminahalay nga i kept my virginity for you. We kept on writing letters after then for a long time until he got married and it was his pretty wife whom we later made our communications na.. I met her once, she is nice and pretty..and she told me-her husband, my ex bf are still keeping my love letters. Very romantic gjod the Pinoys. By the way, he was/is a very good looking man, my mother said: He looks like Orestes Ojeda b4 old napod ron.

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asianfairy · « **Reply #98 on:** September 08, 2007, 04:07:29 AM »

Mike, bitaw kalma ra gyod ko. Kadiyot rasab mi nagkita kay diha miy lainlain appointments afterwards. We had dinner at The Fishermens place sa ICM together with our other close friends in highschool before. Diha sab ako giuban ako anak dalaga ug ako giintroduce niya. Kataw-anan kay sa tanan niyang nahimong gfs ako ray selosan as iyang asawa ron bsan dia rakos layo.

Ginger...di naman siya nako hunahunaon labi na permi busy ako mind sa tarbaho pero ambot lagi ngano nga ako man siya madamgohan. Unsa man pasabot aning akong damgo Mike?

Bambi..siguro hangtod ron naa pa siya ay gugma nimo...gitago nalang kay naa paman mga loveletters. maayo kay ok ra iya asawa. well, man mÃ¥ste se framÃ¥t...

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pioneer · « **Reply #99 on:** September 08, 2007, 04:13:44 AM »

Asianfairy, your dreams may tell you that you still have some unreleased emotions. These could be unreleased pain, unreleased joy, unreleased affection, or unreleased anger, whatever it is.

Once you manage to unleash the dam of the depths of your thoughts and emotions, then I think you'll experience a new sense of freedom in your bed in which "makatulog na ka nga maghayang."

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