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Do you get homesick?
« on: January 24, 2008, 01:14:19 AM »
For those who travel frequently or are in college or some form of graduate school, do you find yourself homesick often? Specially when you leave for home during vacations and then go back to school, work etc. Do you find yourself reminiscing of home or feel the nostalgia of home? Frequently? Not so? How so?

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« Reply #1 on: January 24, 2008, 02:57:33 AM »
I wont deny it, I cry whenever I leave home for college. The first things that come to my mind is the image of my Mom, my Dad, and my little brothers. Ever since freshman year in college, driving to college has always been a big burden on my heart, this is my senior year and still I cry really bad when it comes to driving away from home.

I'm private when it comes to crying, I dont cry in front of my sister or my friends or when I'm saying good bye to my parents and my brothers. When I'm alone, thats when I shed my true feelings.

Are you guys the same?

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« Reply #2 on: January 24, 2008, 03:48:52 AM »
Yes i do... i have been away from my family when i was in elementary (grade 5 and 6) and in high school. I find myself crying when we talk on the phone, especially when i heard some bad things going on in the family... it just broke my heart that i could do nothing to help them.

I, too, hold back tears when I am in front of them because I wanted them to see me as a 'strong' individual (which was a pretty stupid notion of mine). I just don´t like them to see me crying and all. But when i turn my back, that is when tears pour down.

When I left for Denmark, I quite regret that I haven't given each one of my family heart to heart talks. It was also because of the unexpected speed of the process, and before I knew it, I had a 5 days left... and i was still in Manila that time. I left my family with a heavy heart, some unsaid words, advices to my younger siblings, comforts to my mom, little daughterly reprimands to my dad. And now, I constantly worry whether they are doing okay or not.

But missing them is normal, I keep telling myself that what I am doing right now is for the best of everyone. It is okay to miss my family... but I should not dwell on that feeling. Instead, I should give full attention to my work right here and now because this is where I am.

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« Reply #3 on: January 24, 2008, 03:59:56 AM »
A beautiful personal anecdote, Ligiah. Its very touching to hear your story, and I feel for you. I hope all is well with your family back in the Phils.

You know I need to admit that I LOVE my Dad. Whenever I'm at home, I usually end up having small quarrels with him about minor things; per se, not taking the garbage out early enough, not trimming the lawn to his epectations, walking the dog, silhiging the floor or silhiging the basement etc. I think it is a way for us to show our feelings for one another, that and the fact that I am so much like him. Though I deny it whenever my mom and my aunt or my siblings tell me that specially when im angry at them they say, "Kuya, please dont be angry like Dad, you're sounding and acting like him." LOL. I never expressed my feelings to my dad as outwardly as possible as an adolescent in high school or in middle school. However, being away from home for extended periods of time has fostered that longing for my parents. Specially for my Dad.

I remember the first time I came back home during freshman year for christmas break and the first time I saw my dad, he and I hugged. I whispered to his ears, "I love you 'Dee". He anwered, "I love you, 'doy". It felt very different and odd because we never do that often. I guess it is part of the machisimo nature of Filipino men. Who knows. I still don't openly tell my dad that I love him, because it is already established that I do and he does. But whenever it has to come to verbal expression, I always end up crying.

He is my Dad. My only Dad.

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« Reply #4 on: January 24, 2008, 04:28:53 AM »
Thank you for your concern Lorenzo... i am quite confident that my family is doing fine back home. It is just me worrying... it cannot be helped. I have responsibility since I am also the eldest.

It is very good that you have started breaking down the wall called 'machismo' between you and your dad.

As for my Tatay... well, I could not remember any instance wherein I told him that I love him verbally. I have only said that to him in the form of a letter, or email, or text messages. The only times I even hugged him was during my college graduation and when I was about to leave for Denmark. I was never ever close to my father and I bet, the words exchanged between us can only be counted to a thousand or two... and now I realize how sad it is that way.

I see fathers who are very close to their daughters and that just turns me green with envy.. and i often think, was I good enough a daughter to not have that same kind of attention? Or was it also my pride that I did not open up to my father first? I do not know... but, I do hope it is not too late when I come back home... I can still express everything I have left unsaid to my Tatay...

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« Reply #5 on: January 24, 2008, 04:38:22 AM »
Thank you for your concern Lorenzo... i am quite confident that my family is doing fine back home. It is just me worrying... it cannot be helped. I have responsibility since I am also the eldest.

It is very good that you have started breaking down the wall called 'machismo' between you and your dad.

As for my Tatay... well, I could not remember any instance wherein I told him that I love him verbally. I have only said that to him in the form of a letter, or email, or text messages. The only times I even hugged him was during my college graduation and when I was about to leave for Denmark. I was never ever close to my father and I bet, the words exchanged between us can only be counted to a thousand or two... and now I realize how sad it is that way.

I see fathers who are very close to their daughters and that just turns me green with envy.. and i often think, was I good enough a daughter to not have that same kind of attention? Or was it also my pride that I did not open up to my father first? I do not know... but, I do hope it is not too late when I come back home... I can still express everything I have left unsaid to my Tatay...

Please, call me Bran. Amigo na ta ha.

Pride. That is exactly the reason why I was never ever able to tell my father that I love him, or as frequently, Ligiah. Sometimes I fear that I will seem 'weak' and too 'emotional'. The thing is that even though I dont want to show myself as an emotional person to my parents--that is why I act too serious sometimes--because i dont want to be seen as too 'emotional' or 'soft'. I know it is ironic, and it is really hard trying to change it. Though I am trying to change that, ive learned through life experiences that it is better jud to be yourself and true to yourself jud. Because you know we only live once, diba? And sometimes things happen and we wish we could have been more open to others and wish that we could have showed our true selves to that person. But its all too late. That is what I fear the most, jud.
It is really mom mom who is the one that tells me all the time to 'swallow your pride'. And I thank her day after day for telling me that. Pride, it truly is an asset, yet it is also a barrier.

I hope that you will be able to express yourself to your Tatay. And to answer your rhetorical question, you are not a bad daughter nor are you any less than any others. Always believe in yourself and it is good to have pride at times, ligz, because at least that way you know you are an honorable and true woman. Many men find that very attractive, conservative yet subtle.

Regards ha,
Bran

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« Reply #6 on: January 24, 2008, 05:00:38 AM »
Please, call me Bran. Amigo na ta ha.

Pride. That is exactly the reason why I was never ever able to tell my father that I love him, or as frequently, Ligiah. Sometimes I fear that I will seem 'weak' and too 'emotional'. The thing is that even though I dont want to show myself as an emotional person to my parents--that is why I act too serious sometimes--because i dont want to be seen as too 'emotional' or 'soft'. I know it is ironic, and it is really hard trying to change it. Though I am trying to change that, ive learned through life experiences that it is better jud to be yourself and true to yourself jud. Because you know we only live once, diba? And sometimes things happen and we wish we could have been more open to others and wish that we could have showed our true selves to that person. But its all too late. That is what I fear the most, jud.
It is really mom mom who is the one that tells me all the time to 'swallow your pride'. And I thank her day after day for telling me that. Pride, it truly is an asset, yet it is also a barrier.

I hope that you will be able to express yourself to your Tatay. And to answer your rhetorical question, you are not a bad daughter nor are you any less than any others. Always believe in yourself and it is good to have pride at times, ligz, because at least that way you know you are an honorable and true woman. Many men find that very attractive, conservative yet subtle.

Regards ha,
Bran


hehe! cige Bran... migo na ta. :) and you can also call me Gay (gai pagka pronounce ha, ;D )

There are things that are very hard to change no matter how hard we try to.. But then, keep on trying Bran and I believe you will eventually achieve what you are working for. Let us just hope lang jud bitaw that by that time, the people that you need to 'swallow your pride' on are still around.

Yeah hopefully I will be able to express myself to my father. Being halfway around the world has made me realize how much of an idiot and how immature I was before to not express things the way they should be expressed.

But it's quite funny to think that I did all the best I can to achieve what I have achieved now, just to prove something to my father... that I am a good daughter... but still I never heard anything from my Tatay. oh yeah, actually I do hear that he brags about me to his friends... but tell something good to me? Never.... PRIDE again?

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« Reply #7 on: January 24, 2008, 05:50:34 AM »
Aguyy, naunsa mo mao pay pag ila-ila ninyo duha? Gajud, nahala  happy friendship ;D

Ako, hilakon jud ko, basta sa una moadto ra gani ko Cebu, kada gabie jud ko mohilak kay mingawon sa akong family. Karon dili nako kada gabie hilak pero tiningob kay kung akoy ma homesick, tag usa pud ko ka adlaw maghilak.

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« Reply #8 on: January 24, 2008, 08:16:42 AM »
bitaw no, happy friendship  :)

ako, hilakon pod ko sangatanan, mora ug kapayas jud as in!  sa paggikan nako, pwerting hilak jud, kalakawon dili.  karon nga dia na ko sa layong dapit, kinamingawan jud sangatanan, sige'g handom sa pamilya sa pinas ug naunsa na to sila.  tungod sa tumang kamingaw, didto sa phone bills nag angin, kay manawag man halos kada adlaw aron lang makadungog sa ilang mga tingog ug pagsusi ug naunsa na sila.

i am really looking forward sa among pagpauli karong summer puhon.  hinaut unta nga way kakulian ug itugot pod ni Lord!

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« Reply #9 on: January 24, 2008, 09:02:51 AM »
i had enough of that "homesick thing" as i have told you Bran...

Bran? no Dodong Insoy!

ahherrrrmm! ehehhhhhhrm!!!!

(murag naa may nag kasinabot diari!!!!)

aguy katolakong tutonlan!

Ger! naa kay halls diha?

Haps pahulama ko sa aimong Vicks vapor rub diha?


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« Reply #10 on: January 24, 2008, 01:28:55 PM »
LOL! Ate Belle uy! joke-ster jokester jud na shya. hahahahahahaha



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« Reply #11 on: January 24, 2008, 09:55:47 PM »
dia ko'y daghan halls ari Ms Belle

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« Reply #12 on: January 24, 2008, 10:46:29 PM »
para asa man nang halls? mangayo pud ko beh... kanang Honey Lemon flavor... hehehe!


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« Reply #13 on: January 24, 2008, 10:48:30 PM »
Aguyy, naunsa mo mao pay pag ila-ila ninyo duha? Gajud, nahala  happy friendship ;D

Ako, hilakon jud ko, basta sa una moadto ra gani ko Cebu, kada gabie jud ko mohilak kay mingawon sa akong family. Karon dili nako kada gabie hilak pero tiningob kay kung akoy ma homesick, tag usa pud ko ka adlaw maghilak.

ah grabe... hangtud karon mohilak gihapon ka?

ako karon... i don´t cry anymore... but i do think of them often. besides, nalingaw na man sad ko diri... ;D

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« Reply #14 on: January 24, 2008, 11:58:44 PM »
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« Reply #15 on: January 25, 2008, 08:04:41 AM »
ah grabe... hangtud karon mohilak gihapon ka?

ako karon... i don´t cry anymore... but i do think of them often. besides, nalingaw na man sad ko diri... ;D

That is good. It shows the content of your character, you are a strong woman. :)

It's funny because my friends here in college think that I'm 'super serious' kono, in fact ive never showed any sentimentality in terms of crying outwardly till the death of one of our closest friends this year. Since then, i've slowly tried to change that aspect. You know what really hurts? Not being able to tell a person that you Loved them when they were still alive, despite the many chances we were given. Its funny how this mundane human socio-psychosomatic construct known as 'pride' can get in the way of the most important things. Pride, is the worst sin a person can have, specially when it affects our ability to truly expose our sentimentality either in homesickness, longing for loved ones/friends etc.  Cinerem cineri, pulverem pulveri



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« Reply #16 on: January 31, 2012, 03:17:55 PM »
I wonder where the old posters are now.... :)

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