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If You Want To Gain Friends and Be Popular, Do Not Argue.
« on: March 22, 2009, 01:13:08 AM »
The irony is, forums are created for discussions. 

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« Reply #1 on: March 22, 2009, 01:28:18 AM »
We have different backgrounds, framework and intellectual wavelenghts.  If you point out a mistake to a professor at a University, he would not take it personally. If you academically discuss with your fellow students matters relating to the lessons discussed, he would be thankful for it.

If you discuss things in a forum, where it is composed of people with different frameworks, there would always be a tension.



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« Reply #2 on: March 22, 2009, 04:06:20 AM »
I beg to disagree with the subject line here.  I argue and give my views, may it not be as sophisticated as some intellectuals here, and yet I still gain friends.  I may not be popular but that's okay because I got respect from other people.  Dapat when we argue, we don't have malice or intent to demean the other person.  Healthy lang gud na discussion and sharing of ideas.  Lingaw-lingaw lang ba pangpawala ug kamingaw.  If some of you here have some good ideas to share, share it in a manner na di pod ma insultohan tawon ang ubang katawhan. When we tell somebody na "hoy, tambok lagi ka!", you may be speaking the truth but is that nice to say?

We often speak about God's love to us and yet sometimes we can't find it in our hearts to be sensitive to other people's feelings.



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« Reply #3 on: March 22, 2009, 06:09:59 AM »
I know what's important to me and and what's important for me. I don't argue.

As long as I am wearing my own shoes and sleep with only one man. (O.T.)

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« Reply #4 on: March 22, 2009, 09:32:06 AM »



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I beg to disagree with the subject line here.  I argue and give my views, may it not be as sophisticated as some intellectuals here, and yet I still gain friends.  I may not be popular but that's okay because I got respect from other people.  Dapat when we argue, we don't have malice or intent to demean the other person.  Healthy lang gud na discussion and sharing of ideas.  Lingaw-lingaw lang ba pangpawala ug kamingaw.  If some of you here have some good ideas to share, share it in a manner na di pod ma insultohan tawon ang ubang katawhan. When we tell somebody na "hoy, tambok lagi ka!", you may be speaking the truth but is that nice to say?

We often speak about God's love to us and yet sometimes we can't find it in our hearts to be sensitive to other people's feelings.




kudos...unsa may tambal diha nga pangpakalma ?:(

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« Reply #5 on: March 22, 2009, 12:54:00 PM »
if it's too hot na? have some ice tea

anyways, i'm here to entertain myself whether maka gain ko ug fwends or not, i don't want to be popular kay di nako makaya ang pressure toinks hehe

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« Reply #6 on: March 22, 2009, 08:26:04 PM »
I beg to disagree with the subject line here.  I argue and give my views, may it not be as sophisticated as some intellectuals here, and yet I still gain friends.  I may not be popular but that's okay because I got respect from other people.  Dapat when we argue, we don't have malice or intent to demean the other person.  Healthy lang gud na discussion and sharing of ideas.  Lingaw-lingaw lang ba pangpawala ug kamingaw.  If some of you here have some good ideas to share, share it in a manner na di pod ma insultohan tawon ang ubang katawhan. When we tell somebody na "hoy, tambok lagi ka!", you may be speaking the truth but is that nice to say?

We often speak about God's love to us and yet sometimes we can't find it in our hearts to be sensitive to other people's feelings.



In a forum people come to discuss.  They may not like what I am saying but I did never personally attacked people based on gender, political orientation and ethnicity.  Or if ever, I am provoked.

In the first place, we call a FORUM a forum, when it provides an avenue for discussion.

The comment "tambok ka" is a personal attack, and there is no better way to say it.  If you will tell a 100 kilo woman that she gained a little weight, then that is more demeaning, sarcastic.

I do not euphemize things, and I say it straight , direct from my brain.  And if you take it personally, not my lost.

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« Reply #7 on: March 22, 2009, 08:30:30 PM »
To be honest, opening a thread about,"all about shoes", and posting your expensive and nice shoes is a blatant way to show off what you have.  For what reason do you post it?

Everyone of us, wants to be recognized and I have enough of these recognitions and I do not need a forum for recognition.

If I point out a mistake, in substance and in form, it is because I find inconsistencies.  If you do not like it.  Then, its your problem.

Improve your work though.  Call me hambugera. Pero tan-awa ninyo una inyung kaugalingun. Kinsa man gud ninyo diri nag bawsanay ug dayeg sa mga admin?

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« Reply #8 on: March 22, 2009, 08:31:38 PM »

kudos...unsa may tambal diha nga pangpakalma ?:(

moinom ta ana og tuba kanang sagulan og tableya, owsss kanindot im-nom.

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« Reply #9 on: March 22, 2009, 08:37:38 PM »
I will never say that your English is in order or your ideas are logically correct, when I think they are not. 

I dont mind being corrected either.  Ang kaparat, personal attack kuno ang mu correct ug English grammar.



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« Reply #10 on: March 22, 2009, 08:39:55 PM »
When Manay at one time, questioned the grammatical correctness of my statement.  I did not take it personally. Instead , I explained  to her, that it was intended as a phrase.




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« Reply #11 on: March 22, 2009, 08:42:13 PM »
hala mo! mata na si ayessa.  Good morning Ayessa.  Tugnaw pa diha sa Germany day?

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« Reply #12 on: March 22, 2009, 08:44:26 PM »
What is indeed a personal or class attack, basaha ninyo kanang mga thread ni Dagohoy. Mao nay klaro. kay hambugera kuno ang mu correct ug grammar kaysa usa ka tawo nga mu ingun nga ang mga OFWs sa Japan  japayuki nga lain ug political connotation.

Fair mo dapat admin oi.

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« Reply #13 on: March 22, 2009, 08:45:23 PM »
The irony is, forums are created for discussions. 
agree ko ani pero ang forum dili kinahanglan gamiton sa pagpanimalos :)

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« Reply #14 on: March 22, 2009, 08:47:55 PM »
mata na diay si Aye, maayong udto diha, homesick ka ba Ye?

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« Reply #15 on: March 22, 2009, 08:55:31 PM »
When I came to this forum, I looked for an avenue to share my thoughts with.  Friendship is a bonus and I do not want to gain friends by praising them for their shoes, praising them of their war freak ideas, or praising them with their non logical ideas or ambigous sentence constructions.



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« Reply #16 on: March 22, 2009, 08:59:26 PM »
agree ko ani pero ang forum dili kinahanglan gamiton sa pagpanimalos :)

agree

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« Reply #17 on: March 22, 2009, 09:00:29 PM »




kudos...unsa may tambal diha nga pangpakalma ?:(
windgate chamomile tea ang imna aron makalma

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« Reply #18 on: March 22, 2009, 09:03:03 PM »
It seems to me that some members are bitter and pointing out flaws out of other members. *sigh*
Is that not crab mentality? Is that not hypocrisy?

The irony of the situation.

To answer your question, Roy, if you don't like the threads and are not part of the conversation nor do you want to be part of the conversation, don't involve yourself in the conversation.

If you find faults in this forum. Then you have the right to impose a 'self-ban' on yourself. And leave if you want.

No one is forcing you to stay.

That is called 'free will'.


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« Reply #19 on: March 22, 2009, 09:05:45 PM »
windgate chamomile tea ang imna aron makalma

Ma'am Chamomile, nindot ba ng chamomile tea. la pa ko katilaw ana. ginger, green o lipton man god akong gitake.

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« Reply #20 on: March 22, 2009, 09:07:59 PM »
ate lee ko ayaw lang ko tawga palihug ug ma'am :) bitaw maayo gyod na para pangpakalma suwayi lang

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« Reply #21 on: March 22, 2009, 09:08:41 PM »

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« Reply #22 on: March 22, 2009, 09:09:01 PM »
Ug suko jud ang tawo, the best cure jud is sitting alone and reading the bible.

Read the Psalms. And contemplate on your choice of words. And your ill-will towards others. Allow the Holy Spirit to come to you and realize and recognize your actions on others.

That is the best cure. And afterwards, maybe fix yourself chai latte with English crackers.


Keep your mind cool, and calm. A calm mind stirs good debate and friendly camaraderie, a hot tempered and angry mind stirs dissent.

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« Reply #23 on: March 22, 2009, 09:09:18 PM »
Then you with your powerful keyboard would just delete my posts?

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« Reply #24 on: March 22, 2009, 09:09:45 PM »
kinsa man na si roy sir enz.

Roy is Ayessa.



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« Reply #25 on: March 22, 2009, 09:10:01 PM »
Kinsa man nato ani Lorenzo nga kung mag debate, i modify diay ang ilang previous post, unya mo deny?  sultihi ko be?

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« Reply #26 on: March 22, 2009, 09:10:42 PM »
I reserve the right to delete comments that unrelated to the subject matter.

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« Reply #28 on: March 22, 2009, 09:11:26 PM »
There is no need to debate with you, Roy, as you do not accept correction. :)

You cannot talk to a brick wall.

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« Reply #29 on: March 22, 2009, 09:11:59 PM »
kaila ko ana sa iyaha pero dili pwede idivulge. pati real gender niya nasinagan ko na. kaya pala?

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« Reply #30 on: March 22, 2009, 09:12:12 PM »
Talk to the hand Lorenzo. I find no competition.

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« Reply #31 on: March 22, 2009, 09:13:18 PM »
Please keep your comments subject related--not personal-related.

I know you have a habit of doing that (cheap shot tactic).

But try to practice what you preach sometimes. You preach alot.



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« Reply #32 on: March 22, 2009, 09:14:35 PM »
Roy is Ayessa.



Roy as in lalake?

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« Reply #33 on: March 22, 2009, 09:14:54 PM »
What is crab mentality Lorenzo? answer me?

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« Reply #34 on: March 22, 2009, 09:16:08 PM »
Unya, wala man lagi ko ninyo gi ban? Lorenzo?

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« Reply #35 on: March 22, 2009, 09:17:01 PM »
Roy as in lalake?

Yes, was a man and now a woman.

Ask Roy, he is here.

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« Reply #36 on: March 22, 2009, 09:18:23 PM »
BEcause my gender is irrelevant for this discussion.

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« Reply #37 on: March 22, 2009, 09:19:13 PM »
It was a simple question. And given a simple answer. It is you who mistranslates and puts a negative connotation on things.

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« Reply #38 on: March 22, 2009, 09:19:52 PM »
Yes, was a man and now a woman.

Ask Roy, he is here.

interesting!

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« Reply #39 on: March 22, 2009, 09:21:26 PM »
Tubag Bohol does not demean nor does Tubag Bohol discriminate against age, sex, sexual preference, and political standing.

We all have the right to live and respect each other.

Remember that. :)

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