Author Topic: Filipino Kids vs. American Kids (Read 17822 times)

Barbaro · « **on:** September 23, 2007, 08:39:21 PM »

American Kids: Move out when they're 18 with the full support of
their parents.
Filipino Kids: Move out when they're 28, may have saved for that
nice house and are a week away from getting married ..unless there's
room in the basement for the newlyweds.

American Kids: When their Mom visits them she brings a nice bundt
cake and you sip coffee and chat.
Filipino Kids: When their Mom visits them she brings 3 days worth
of food, and immediately begins to tidy up, dust & do the laundry.

American Kids: Their dads always call before they come over to
visit them and its usually only on special occasions.
Filipino Kids: Are not at all fazed when their dads come over,
unannounced on a Saturday morning at 8:00 and starts pruning the peach & lemon trees. And if there are none, he will plant some!

American Parents: You can leave your kids with them and you always
worry if everything is going to be ok plus you have to feed them after
you pick them up.
Filipino Parents: No problem, leave your kids there and if they
get out of line your parents can set them straight .... plus they get
bathed ,fed and get told stories of when you were young.

American Kids: Always pay retail and look in the yellow pages when
they need something done.
Filipino Kids: Just call their dad or uncle and ask for another
dad's or uncle's phone number to get it done .... cash deal.

American Kids: Will come over to visit their parents and get only
cake and coffee, no more.
Filipino Kids: Will come over to visit their parents for lunch and
get B-B-Q, Pancit, Lumpia, Adobo and Rice and stay for late dinner as
well.

American Kids: Think that being Filipino is a great thing,
Filipino Kids: Know that being Filipino is a great thing,

American Kids: Never ask the reason you have no food.
Filipino Kids: Are the reason you have no food.

American Kids: Will say 'hello" but are hesitant to hug.
Filipino Kids: Will give you a big hug and a kiss, and great big
hand shake and pat you on the back.

American Kids: Hardly invite over to eat or they have to share
their portion.
Filipino Kids: You always have your friends over to have something
to eat regardless

American Kids: Call your parents Mr. and Mrs.
Filipino Kids: Call your parents Uncle & Auntie.

American Kids: Have never seen you cry.
Filipino Kids: Cry with you.

American Kids: Will eat at your dinner table and leave.
Filipino Kids: Will spend hours there, talking, laughing and just
being together.

American Kids: Borrow your stuff for a few days then give it back.
Filipino Kids: Keep your stuff so long they forget it's yours.

American Kids: Know a few things about you.
Filipino Kids: Could write a book with direct quotes from you.

American Kids: Will leave their parents behind.
Filipino Kids: Will hang out with their parents.

American Kids: Would knock on your door.
Filipino Kids: Walk right in and say, "I'm home!"

American Kids: Are for a while.
Filipino Kids: Are for life.

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ms da binsi · « **Reply #1 on:** September 23, 2007, 11:36:15 PM »

ganahan gyud ko ani.....

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #2 on:** September 24, 2007, 12:09:32 AM »

One thing sums it all:

Filipinos kid mano po.

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PrincessSaDagat · « **Reply #3 on:** September 24, 2007, 08:13:16 AM »

well said.

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ms da binsi · « **Reply #4 on:** September 24, 2007, 09:49:08 AM »

American s

One thing sums it all:

Filipinos kid mano po.

Americans dont kay ang hands are the parts of the body that has so much germs... hahhahah

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orChids · « **Reply #5 on:** October 19, 2007, 10:42:26 AM »

Good one!

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ms da binsi · « **Reply #6 on:** October 19, 2007, 10:46:12 AM »

Filipino kids say Lola Lolo to grands...

american kids call grands only their names...

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orChids · « **Reply #7 on:** October 25, 2007, 08:36:40 PM »

Dili lang american kids..also the japanese kids,lahi ra.Pero some of our new generations baya,wala na may batasan,di ba?

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ms da binsi · « **Reply #8 on:** October 25, 2007, 11:57:16 PM »

Orchids naa ka sa Japan???

can i ask you favor???

can u post some pictures of Japan???

i always like japan all my life...

i always dreamt to be a Geisha...

i like their mountains and their ancient architectures...

thanks daan ha?

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hazel · « **Reply #9 on:** October 26, 2007, 12:39:19 AM »

Geisha? hahaha

di kaha ka mag lisud ug lakaw? LOL!

but for sure, if nahimo ka geisha, halinon gyud ka, bella.

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ms da binsi · « **Reply #10 on:** October 26, 2007, 01:34:48 AM »

Ambisyosa kaayong ungguya, baye raba!

hahahahhahah

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #11 on:** October 26, 2007, 04:34:50 AM »

Dili lang american kids..also the japanese kids,lahi ra.Pero some of our new generations baya,wala na may batasan,di ba?

From my experience, not really. I have a lot of cousins and even tho their bisayan or tagalog is limited (as they were raised here in the USA), they still refer to me as Kuya Bran or my sister as Ate 'gel. Even their own grandparents, they still refer to them as Lola or Lolo or refer to my parents as Tita or Tito. Filipino youth are different from other Americans, even if we're Americanized. Sure we talk with a strong Americanized accent, however, the majority of us still retain and hold on to our cultural roots. Filipino parents tend to be more strict in raising children--and very conservative in social etiquettes. I know that whenever i meet and greet any of my Titas or Titos, even my parent's friends, I give my obeisance and give them the Mano Po. We also take into consideration that our actions reflects our family's name and the image people have of my parents. I notice that Filipinos and Indians are like this--they retain very strict social customs. Chinese-Americans or Japanese-Americans are different, they abandon their norms if given the chance and are too quick to Americanize. I have alot of Indian friends and have been invited to their homes--and whenever they greet their aunties/uncles or grandparents, the youth will prostrate themselves and touch their forhead to the foot of their elders. Its their way of showing respect.

Its just a sign of respect. And remembering your roots.

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grazie7y · « **Reply #12 on:** October 26, 2007, 08:37:35 AM »

Well said, Bran, we said!

I know some people here in USA who call their parents or grandparents by their first name! Nanlimbawot jud akong balhibo ana!

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orChids · « **Reply #13 on:** October 26, 2007, 08:12:24 PM »

From my experience, not really. I have a lot of cousins and even tho their bisayan or tagalog is limited (as they were raised here in the USA), they still refer to me as Kuya Bran or my sister as Ate 'gel. Even their own grandparents, they still refer to them as Lola or Lolo or refer to my parents as Tita or Tito. Filipino youth are different from other Americans, even if we're Americanized. Sure we talk with a strong Americanized accent, however, the majority of us still retain and hold on to our cultural roots. Filipino parents tend to be more strict in raising children--and very conservative in social etiquettes. I know that whenever i meet and greet any of my Titas or Titos, even my parent's friends, I give my obeisance and give them the Mano Po. We also take into consideration that our actions reflects our family's name and the image people have of my parents. I notice that Filipinos and Indians are like this--they retain very strict social customs. Chinese-Americans or Japanese-Americans are different, they abandon their norms if given the chance and are too quick to Americanize. I have alot of Indian friends and have been invited to their homes--and whenever they greet their aunties/uncles or grandparents, the youth will prostrate themselves and touch their forhead to the foot of their elders. Its their way of showing respect.

Its just a sign of respect. And remembering your roots.

Well,naa ra sab sa pagpadaku sa parents...Kids are the mirror of what thier parents are.Daghan man god dire sa japan na anak ug Pinay na wala nay pagbati sa mga oldies,ni wala na kahibalo ug unsa nang amen,ug dili na musampit sa tahod,..unya last May lang niuli ko sa Pinas,...naa man pod mga bata sa ato nga dili na mutahod...maski sa ilang ginikanan.Well,anyway the topic is between the american kids and the Filipino kids,..

From my experience, not really. I have a lot of cousins and even tho their bisayan or tagalog is limited (as they were raised here in the USA), they still refer to me as Kuya Bran or my sister as Ate 'gel. Even their own grandparents, they still refer to them as Lola or Lolo or refer to my parents as Tita or Tito. Filipino youth are different from other Americans, even if we're Americanized. Sure we talk with a strong Americanized accent, however, the majority of us still retain and hold on to our cultural roots. Filipino parents tend to be more strict in raising children--and very conservative in social etiquettes. I know that whenever i meet and greet any of my Titas or Titos, even my parent's friends, I give my obeisance and give them the Mano Po. We also take into consideration that our actions reflects our family's name and the image people have of my parents. I notice that Filipinos and Indians are like this--they retain very strict social customs. Chinese-Americans or Japanese-Americans are different, they abandon their norms if given the chance and are too quick to Americanize. I have alot of Indian friends and have been invited to their homes--and whenever they greet their aunties/uncles or grandparents, the youth will prostrate themselves and touch their forhead to the foot of their elders. Its their way of showing respect.

Its just a sign of respect. And remembering your roots.

That's good to hear.Bisan mga anak nako naa pa may pagtahod and they are very loving kids..naa ra man na sa mga ginikanan pod.Kids are the mirror of thier parents..Sad to say lang nga ang uban nga anak ug Pinay diri,wala na may tahod oy..and worst is that they will just laugh instead of teaching thier kids the right way.

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #14 on:** October 27, 2007, 03:07:58 AM »

I agree with you, that the parents too have to contribute in molding their children, afterall children will idolize their parents during pre-adolescent age; the observational learning. Whatever the parents manifest, so too will the child. If the parents are argumentative, and physically abusive towards each other and or towards the child, the child will eventually pick up those habits as well. That is why children who take some kind of drug paraphernalia such as as amphetamines, opioids and or canabis are doing so because their particular parents do not enforce a stern disciplinary method. And or allow their children to get away with things; this of course begins during childhood and continues till post-adolescent years and adulthood. However, of course there are incidents of exceptions to the rule. There are children who live in drug-infested families--who witness their parents taking excessive amounts of alcohol and stimulants/depressants---yet the child himself/herself avoiding the intake of drugs. So we, as scientists, have to understand that the standard philosophy of psychological observational learning isn't full proof.

I agree with you, as I said before, that it is the responsibility of the parents to teach and mold their children. To instill in them the understanding of proper behavior, as mandated by social norms. The pivotal importance of right and wrong, the necessity to tell the truth, and to properly enforce adequate and necessary disciplinary actions if children break rules and or question the status quo (this doesn't have to be physical punishment, it can also be a one-to-one talk with a child, or grounding them to their rooms--i for one do not believe in physical abuse of children, but necessary latus-latus is essential).

Of course there are Filipino families that are not as conservative, and given, my family is very rigid only because of my father--who is the typical patriarchal Filipino figure--in the traditional sense of the word. And I thank him for being the way he is---and infusing in me and my siblings the concept of respect, duty, family, and Bol-anon traditions. My little brothers--though they were born here in the United States, and speak completely Americanized english, can also fully understand bisaya--and speak it fluently. Because whenever we go back to our house---we revert back to Bisaya-mode.

Im surprised, actually, that there are Filipinos in Japan that are forgetting their culture and custom. If not, are they adopting Japanese culture? I always thought that the Japanese had and practiced the confucian thought. In which the father is supreme, the mother secondary, the children tertiary. The concept of filial piety and childhood obeisance to their parents. This is no longer present in Japan?

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thegirlnextdoor · « **Reply #15 on:** October 28, 2007, 07:56:37 PM »

American and Philippine kids are both doing the best they can from what they are taught in life while growing up.
So if the Philippine kids are better in your eye's then why is it that you all want to go to my homeland country? (America)

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ms da binsi · « **Reply #16 on:** October 28, 2007, 11:15:54 PM »

American and Philippine kids are both doing the best they can from what they are taught in life while growing up.
So if the Philippine kids are better in your eye's then why is it that you all want to go to my homeland country? (America)

just like you, you always has different description to my people there...

good and bad...

Why are you there too???

Why do you always say USA is your homeland country???

is that because you were born here???

and why didn't you stay here???

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #17 on:** October 28, 2007, 11:36:25 PM »

American and Philippine kids are both doing the best they can from what they are taught in life while growing up.
So if the Philippine kids are better in your eye's then why is it that you all want to go to my homeland country? (America)

Im Filipino-American, and can say whatever I want, because I pay taxes, contribute to the American economy (pay $43,000 for college a year)

I grew up in the US, since age 5, and now am aged 22.

Do the math. The United States is a multi-ethnic country. The population demographics of my country, the United States, is of African American, European American, Asian American Latin American and of mixed races. By 2060, the United States will be more minority than it is majority (white americans) due to the population growth trends and the immigrational phenomenon.

Secondly, you need to review your history, as it is lacking severely. You are white, and are not indigenous to the United States, your family immigrated from Europe, and settled in the United States for financial, religious and political freedom. So too did the 2.5 MILLION Filipinos that live in the United States. So too do the 3+ MILLION Chinese that live in the United States. So too do the 25+ million Latin Americans that now live in the United States; Im sure you're getting the trend here.

The United States is a salad bowl society; where American citizens are asian, black, white, latin, mixed etc. And when referring to 'Americans' I referred to American school children (assimilated). As an American, I have the right to say whatever I please, given to my by my constitutional right of the first amendment. (Freedom of speech, the very reason why this blessed country was formed from the ashes of British colonialism).

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You dont see me talking about my heritage and family ties back in the Philippines in such a condescending manner, as you do, do you? Do I ever flaunt the fact that my family is of illustrado background? Did I ever tell you that my grand uncle is the Supreme Court Justice of Cebu? Did I ever tell you that my aunt is the Provincial Director of Bohol? Not once, until now. Just a sample of my 'heritage' back in the Philippines. However, you, like to talk about your 'home country' the US. If you love it so much, why did you move to the Philippines? Ironic, dont you think?

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thegirlnextdoor · « **Reply #18 on:** October 28, 2007, 11:40:27 PM »

Yes. I want to help and have helped but some of the people are not willing to get off their butt's and make a better change let alone make a difference in bettering their lives.
some persons think good life should be handed to them on a silver platter you must work to deserve what you earn in life.
It looks as if your in my home sweet home in the states, why did you not stay in your own country as well?
I am an American with a Philippine Permanant residence is there a problem saying America is my home sweet home or country? Oh it's okay for Filipinos to say it about Bohol when they are outside but not me?
I hear Philippine persons always saying when they are abroad that the Philippines is their home and how much they miss not being home....blah blah blah!
I say something positive and you seem as if offended? Walay Klaro!
Why do you need to know my business of what I am doing here?
You said enough insults about how kids grow up in my country in America, did I question you on it?
Have I ever insulted you in this web site I think not.
Where are you and where am I?
If your in my country in the states I am sure your Happy over there.
I am white my ancestry is English/Scottish, and I am born in the States and I am no different then you I also miss home at times at least you have a BOHOL WESITE TO KEEP YOU WA MINGAW AND OBVIOUSLEY BUSY!

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #19 on:** October 28, 2007, 11:49:15 PM »

Yes. I want to help and have helped but some of the people are not willing to get off their butt's and make a better change let alone make a difference in bettering their lives.
some persons think good life should be handed to them on a silver platter you must work to deserve what you earn in life.
It looks as if your in my home sweet home in the states, why did you not stay in your own country as well?
I am an American with a Philippine Permanant residence is there a problem saying America is my home sweet home or country? Oh it's okay for Filipinos to say it about Bohol when they are outside but not me?
I hear Philippine persons always saying when they are abroad that the Philippines is their home and how much they miss not being home....blah blah blah!
I say something positive and you seem as if offended? Walay Klaro!
Why do you need to know my business of what I am doing here?
You said enough insults about how kids grow up in my country in America, did I question you on it?
Have I ever insulted you in this web site I think not.
Where are you and where am I?
If your in my country in the states I am sure your Happy over there.
I am white my ancestry is English/Scottish, and I am born in the States and I am no different then you I also miss home at times at least you have a BOHOL WESITE TO KEEP YOU WA MINGAW AND OBVIOUSLEY BUSY!

Dont complain to me just because of the political and immigrational consensus of the Republic of the Philippines. Thats the way the country works. Im not involved with the government or politics, just a simple down to earth college student who is trying to reconnect with my Boholano roots and my people. Why dont you just apply for Philippine citizenship? Of course I love the United States of America. I'm an AMERICAN. Im a proud Yankee, I love my home state of New Jersey and my alma mater, Allegheny College. Sure I love the United States, am a patriotic American--always have been--as I was practically raised American (since age 5), however, I hold a deep rooted loyalty to my Bohol Island and in the Philippines. As I was born there. The same as it is for my uncle, who is white, has parents who are of Irish and German background--and they too go back to visit Ireland, Germany and other parts of Europe occasionally.

Dont complain about longing for the United States. The media of the world is owned by the United States. The 'google', yahoo, askjeeves, search engines that im sure you use is owned by the United States, the word processor and the media players you use is created in the united states. Additionally, there are thousands of American websites and forums that you can join to reconnect you with other Americans as well. All you have to do is search it and find it, as you did TubagBohol. Thats how I found TB.

Stay safe and stay smiling. Dont be angry. Life is too short for that.

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thegirlnextdoor · « **Reply #20 on:** October 29, 2007, 12:46:13 AM »

You is an Americanized PINYANKEE. I have seen it often happen to Philippine persons who are born here and leave for being raised in greener pastures.
I was born in America and I am also a registered Native American Indian. If you know your immigration laws it is not allowed for Americans to apply for a dual citizenship same as Philippine persons have been doing as you said we are a country that does not discriminate. (Accepting many persons into our country to allow them a chance at a better life.
I also pay taxes as well to live here and for the salary earned by my seaman Boholano husband it is expensive what foreigners end up paying for residency here.
It is not so easy to live in the states as some may think we are always paying higher taxes on many things and our country is very disciplined as we respect our laws and other's lives back home as well and not so many are toting guns and shooting people dead as they do here and get away with it back home they will find you as the people do talk.
You will be happy to see big positive changes here when you visit if you ever have time.
Maybe you could connect with people and bring something here that the people could use or need back here in you place.
It is Christams after all and the best gift is to be giving after all to those who are definitely more less unfortunate compared to us, as I have been doing volunteering here as well and contributing to Bohol.
Merry Christmas!
P.S> I love my family and friends here but this place has what I am not raised to do as that is to be discriminate and make it hard for those to get work here.
There are so many talented and educated Philippine person who can not find work once they are graduated from college. Count your blessing your one of the many Philippine persons who was able to get out when you did. Now immigration is tightening up.
If a foreigner wants to be here and does not have a permanant residence visa such as I do he is must pay around $60.00 U.S. dollars to keep getting a monthly reentry.
In America once you pay your visa here your allowed to stay 6 months for allot less money considering the U.S. visitors visa is $100.00 for processing for Philippine persons wanting to visit America.

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thegirlnextdoor · « **Reply #21 on:** October 29, 2007, 12:52:13 AM »

ha ha ha ha I'm getting toinked for stating conviction and what is my right to freedom of speech! my is that what we call double standard or what?

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ms da binsi · « **Reply #22 on:** October 29, 2007, 01:01:58 AM »

I am white my ancestry is English/Scottish, and I am born in the States...

registered native american indian???

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grazie7y · « **Reply #23 on:** October 29, 2007, 02:54:39 AM »

Precious, my uncle is a Native American - a proud Native American. I have been to New Mexico and the Navajo people were so nice and proud and speak profoundly of their heritage. I know the contribution of the Native Americans to the USA. They didn't say I am puti and you brown-skinned. We are all the same people in God's eyes. We became different in how we treat people.

I have been living in America too for quite a while. I have lots of friends. They are not from media like you claimed you are. They speak their minds but they speak the truth not their twisted opinions based on discrimination. They have depth. I like that. But you go beyond the confines of free speech! You are so discriminating, did you know that? If you do not know yet, I am telling you, you are! Oh no, I didn't mean you have discriminating taste; I meant racial discrimination.

Filipinos and Boholanos in particular are generally kind-hearted people with the exception of few. I am sure they treat you well there otherwise you won't stay longer than you already did. And one example that Boholanos are nice is that they accepted your columns for publication. If they were not nice, they would have had told you a long time ago that you can not write. Do I need to elaborate on that? Don't worry, I can't write either that's why I am not a columnist. But you can always learn.

But still, I respect you as God's creation, as being a human being. Please use the freedom of speech in a mature, responsible and intelligent way.

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #24 on:** October 29, 2007, 02:56:04 AM »

You is an Americanized PINYANKEE. I have seen it often happen to Philippine persons who are born here and leave for being raised in greener pastures.
I was born in America citizen and I am also a registered Native American Indian. If you know your immigration laws it is not allowed for Americans to apply for a dual citizenship same as Philippine persons have been doing as you said we are a country that does not discriminate. (Accepting many persons into our country to allow them a chance at a better life.
I also pay taxes as well to live here and for the salary earned by my seaman Boholano husband it is expensive what foreigners end up paying for residency here.
It is not so easy to live in the states as some may think we are always paying higher taxes on many things and our country is very disciplined as we respect our laws and other's lives back home as well and not so many are toting guns and shooting people dead as they do here and get away with it back home they will find you as the people do talk.
You will be happy to see big positive changes here when you visit if you ever have time.
Maybe you could connect with people and bring something here that the people could use or need back here in you place.
It is Christams after all and the best gift is to be giving after all to those who are definitely more less unfortunate compared to us, as I have been doing volunteering here as well and contributing to Bohol.
Merry Christmas!
P.S> I love my family and friends here but this place has what I am not raised to do as that is to be discriminate and make it hard for those to get work here.
There are so many talented and educated Philippine person who can not find work once they are graduated from college. Count your blessing your one of the many Philippine persons who was able to get out when you did. Now immigration is tightening up.
If a foreigner wants to be here and does not have a permanant residence visa such as I do he is must pay around $60.00 U.S. dollars to keep getting a monthly reentry.
In America once you pay your visa here your allowed to stay 6 months for allot less money considering the U.S. visitors visa is $100.00 for processing for Philippine persons wanting to visit America.

Correction. I am an American, who is of Malay-Chinese ancestry and born in the Philippines. Despite of my ethnic origins, as a citizen of the United States, am subject to the laws and regulations and plebiscites of the United States government and territories within and forthwith, in accordance to my rights and powers as a citizen. As citizen, and one that recognizes the legitimacy of the United States government, the will of the people, am subject to the protection, guidance and defense of the Armed Forces of the United States, as any citizen of the said country. That is why I love the United States, as it recognizes citizenship not on the basis of one's color, but on the character of the individual and his/her contribution to these United States. Laws have already been placed to admonish and ananthemize those who look only on the basis of one's color and judge them on that narrow characteristic. That is why we in the United States have supported the civil rights movement, pan-gender equality, pan-sexual rights etc.
And I particularly find it negative how you portray Filipinos who happen to migrate out of the country to the United States. Why should there be a double standard in how Filipinos should be treated, for migrating out of the Philippines, because they are skilled professionals (physician, nurse, physical therapist, teacher, writer, laywer etc.) and are looking for a better life for themselves and their family? At least Filipinos do it via legal matters and are skilled professionals that contribute exhaustively to the American economy and health industry (10% of the American medical system is composed of Filipino physicians {cardiologists, general internist, nephrologists, emergency medicine, general surgery, cardiothoracic surgery, orthopaedic surgery, neurosurgery, dermatology, podiatry, dentistry, intensive care , obstetrics-gynecology, urology etc), nurses (Intensive care, Critical care, post anasthetic care, telemetry, operating room, nurse anasthesia), physical therapists, and pharmacists. Rather impressive for an ethnic group that composes less than 1% of the American population, yet contributes precipitously to the health care system of the World's Super Power.

Think about that. One could even argue that the health and well being of the United States is under the care, truly, of skilled Filipino medical professionals. Its a mutual relationship, if you think about it; sure the United States provides the basis for a comfortable life for Filipino immigrants, however, these Filipino nationals in the end, provide care for the aging American baby-boomer populace that will continue to rise in the next 1-2 decades. To this day, there is a need of over 2 million Nurses in the US health industry, as there is severe deficit of those medical providers in these United States, particularly in the midwest and in the northeast. And do you know where the United States Health Department is turning for that? Thats right: The Philippines. Thousands of Filipino nurses and physicians are given work visas every year to fill in the ranks of the fragile American health industry. You cant put the blame on the Filipinos for migrating to the United States, when the United States clearly FAVORS Filipino medical professionals over say; Indians, Pakistanis, Chinese, Koreans, etc.

Secondly, citizens of Germany, the United Kingdom, Russia, Bulgaria, Mexico, India, Taiwan, etc are immigrating to the United States every year to find a better life, and to fill in the job opportunities that Americans themselves are unwilling to fill in. Its all about supply and demand, and the United States, as the world's largest capitalistic business conglomerate bows to that natural phenomenon: Human economics.

Thats nice. You sing praises of your work about the Philippines, yet you continuously look down on Filipinos, by the character of your posts. Duality. Not something I am very fond of, to tell you the truth.

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Spiderman · « **Reply #25 on:** October 29, 2007, 03:10:18 AM »

Nindot gyod ang Filipino kids kay matinahoron ug unungan ka hangtod sa hangtod. :-))

Ang american kids ila kara ibilin sa home for the aged:-))

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #26 on:** October 29, 2007, 03:17:49 AM »

This concludes my statements concerning the comments by precious, as this has resulted in the diversion of the original thread's purpose. Precious, if you have further comments to me, send me a PM. Thank You.

Back to topic.

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Glen · « **Reply #27 on:** October 29, 2007, 03:27:18 AM »

Filipino kids will cook you rice.

American kids will make you sandwich.

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grazie7y · « **Reply #28 on:** October 29, 2007, 03:31:23 AM »

I agree, Spiderman!

Bran, thanks!

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #29 on:** October 29, 2007, 03:32:26 AM »

Heres a good one:

Pinoy kids will live with their parents (even if they're already nurses, physicians, economists, engineers) for several years--even in the first year of marriage, and when they do move out of the house, they move to an area at least 30minutes to 1 hour away of their parents.

I personally plan to practice medicine close to home; around south jersey and no more than 1-2 hours away from my parents. They are my rock and my foundation. Without them, i would be nothing.

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ms da binsi · « **Reply #30 on:** October 29, 2007, 04:57:00 AM »

Correction. I am an American, who is of Malay-Chinese ancestry and born in the Philippines. Despite of my ethnic origins, as a citizen of the United States, am subject to the laws and regulations and plebiscites of the United States government and territories within and forthwith, in accordance to my rights and powers as a citizen. As citizen, and one that recognizes the legitimacy of the United States government, the will of the people, am subject to the protection, guidance and defense of the Armed Forces of the United States, as any citizen of the said country. That is why I love the United States, as it recognizes citizenship not on the basis of one's color, but on the character of the individual and his/her contribution to these United States. Laws have already been placed to admonish and ananthemize those who look only on the basis of one's color and judge them on that narrow characteristic. That is why we in the United States have supported the civil rights movement, pan-gender equality, pan-sexual rights etc.
And I particularly find it negative how you portray Filipinos who happen to migrate out of the country to the United States. Why should there be a double standard in how Filipinos should be treated, for migrating out of the Philippines, because they are skilled professionals (physician, nurse, physical therapist, teacher, writer, laywer etc.) and are looking for a better life for themselves and their family? At least Filipinos do it via legal matters and are skilled professionals that contribute exhaustively to the American economy and health industry (10% of the American medical system is composed of Filipino physicians {cardiologists, general internist, nephrologists, emergency medicine, general surgery, cardiothoracic surgery, orthopaedic surgery, neurosurgery, dermatology, podiatry, dentistry, intensive care , obstetrics-gynecology, urology etc), nurses (Intensive care, Critical care, post anasthetic care, telemetry, operating room, nurse anasthesia), physical therapists, and pharmacists. Rather impressive for an ethnic group that composes less than 1% of the American population, yet contributes precipitously to the health care system of the World's Super Power.

Think about that. One could even argue that the health and well being of the United States is under the care, truly, of skilled Filipino medical professionals. Its a mutual relationship, if you think about it; sure the United States provides the basis for a comfortable life for Filipino immigrants, however, these Filipino nationals in the end, provide care for the aging American baby-boomer populace that will continue to rise in the next 1-2 decades. To this day, there is a need of over 2 million Nurses in the US health industry, as there is severe deficit of those medical providers in these United States, particularly in the midwest and in the northeast. And do you know where the United States Health Department is turning for that? Thats right: The Philippines. Thousands of Filipino nurses and physicians are given work visas every year to fill in the ranks of the fragile American health industry. You cant put the blame on the Filipinos for migrating to the United States, when the United States clearly FAVORS Filipino medical professionals over say; Indians, Pakistanis, Chinese, Koreans, etc.

Secondly, citizens of Germany, the United Kingdom, Russia, Bulgaria, Mexico, India, Taiwan, etc are immigrating to the United States every year to find a better life, and to fill in the job opportunities that Americans themselves are unwilling to fill in. Its all about supply and demand, and the United States, as the world's largest capitalistic business conglomerate bows to that natural phenomenon: Human economics.

Thats nice. You sing praises of your work about the Philippines, yet you continuously look down on Filipinos, by the character of your posts. Duality. Not something I am very fond of, to tell you the truth.

A litany from the future surgeon...Amen!

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Happy · « **Reply #31 on:** October 29, 2007, 05:25:19 AM »

some persons think good life should be handed to them on a silver platter you must work to deserve what you earn in life.
It looks as if your in my home sweet home in the states, why did you not stay in your own country as well?

Thast why we end up in different places now, because we beleive that we need to work for the better of our future that we cant find in the Philippines.

I am an American with a Philippine Permanant residence is there a problem saying America is my home sweet home or country? Oh it's okay for Filipinos to say it about Bohol when they are outside but not me?
I hear Philippine persons always saying when they are abroad that the Philippines is their home and how much they miss not being home....blah blah blah!

I'm sorry Precious, but i think that you we're the one who started saying about, that we Filipinos lived and married outside our race claimed to be a proud filipino, but we really are not because if we are, we wouldn't marry outside our race and live in other country. you can read again your post on the Expats in Bohol topic.

Did you ever know that you judge us before you know us?

Walay Klaro!

Is this the only wod you know how to say in our language?

If your in my country in the states I am sure your Happy over there.

Wherever a Filipino lives Precious, even how hard life is and even how far we are from our family we're always happy, its bacause we know how to deal with the people around us, we know how to adjust ourselves so we can adapt the tradition, the places and the people, and we don't judge them generally as we didn't know all the people that lives in that certain country.

We welcome you in our country and our community and in this website heartily and happily, so you would feel at home here with us and enjoy your time staying here with us in our virtual home. But it seems that you don't like that coz, I can see some of your post that you judge us generally and even saying something about the incident that we didn't know until we read your post.

Thank you for reading, if you do

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grazie7y · « **Reply #32 on:** October 29, 2007, 05:33:06 AM »

Filipino Kids vs. American Kid, live in this thread!

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hazel · « **Reply #33 on:** October 29, 2007, 05:39:32 AM »

I'm a filipino kid...i'm used to eating vegetables and fish most of life. Now, I'm already here in Europe I still practice eating vegetables and fish.

I don't like to be an american kid who loves hamburgers, pizza, and all unhealthy foods.

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grazie7y · « **Reply #34 on:** October 29, 2007, 05:58:24 AM »

I am a Filipino kid... I used to eating rice and sometimes corn when money was not enough to buy rice. There were times we used period (asin) to go with our rice or corn to alternate with utan kamunggay, but we were happy kids. We didn't take it against our parents that we were poor. We worked hard and finished school. I am still a Filipino kid living in America and married to a black guy, an authentic African guy from Kenya. I am still poor but it's ok because we are still happy too!

Vow.

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #35 on:** October 29, 2007, 08:21:05 AM »

I'm a Filipino kid and one thing that I notice different from my American-born friends is the discipline used by our parents.

1. When I did something wrong as a child, retribution was swift and firm. No contest. My father would take his belt, and tell me to stand and face the wall, and apply latus-latus on me. (which I deserved)
My father wouldn't even have to say anything to me, and I would know that I did something wrong. The expression in his eyes was worth a thousand words, and would reduce me to tears as a child, when I or my siblings did something wrong. As the eldest child, my parents were hard on me, as my younger siblings looked up to me and saw me as an idol. Therefore, my parents applied punishment accordingly, and my siblings learned from that. Its a hard burden to bear, being the eldest son and expected to follow in the footsteps of your father.

2. My friends didnt get 'latus' , they were grounded or were told to go to their rooms if they did something wrong. And they tended to break rules in their house, because there was no negative conditioning. No enforcement besides being 'grounded' and not being able to watch television etc. Most of them answer back to their parents.

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ms da binsi · « **Reply #36 on:** October 29, 2007, 10:53:58 AM »

I'm a Filipino kid and one thing that I notice different from my American-born friends is the discipline used by our parents.

1. When I did something wrong as a child, retribution was swift and firm. No contest. My father would take his belt, and tell me to stand and face the wall, and apply latus-latus on me. (which I deserved)
My father wouldn't even have to say anything to me, and I would know that I did something wrong. The expression in his eyes was worth a thousand words, and would reduce me to tears as a child, when I or my siblings did something wrong. As the eldest child, my parents were hard on me, as my younger siblings looked up to me and saw me as an idol. Therefore, my parents applied punishment accordingly, and my siblings learned from that. Its a hard burden to bear, being the eldest son and expected to follow in the footsteps of your father.

2. My friends didnt get 'latus' , they were grounded or were told to go to their rooms if they did something wrong. And they tended to break rules in their house, because there was no negative conditioning. No enforcement besides being 'grounded' and not being able to watch television etc. Most of them answer back to their parents.

they always considered "latus" as corporal punishment and child abuse...

ang give anti depressant to kids, instead!...

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proud2B-a-BOJOLANA · « **Reply #37 on:** October 31, 2007, 03:59:02 PM »

Mga Sano ug Mga Sana!

Apil na pod ko ha? Hehehehe!

It has been a while now since I posted my last comment!

Filipino parents would "latus" their children when they do something NOT right, not to "abuse" the child, but to teach them and make an emphasis of what is "right and wrong"! It is because Filipino parents believe that if you truly love your children, you need to point out, in no UNCERTAIN way --- correct, admirable and useful values!

It is I think partly from a Biblical quote, "Spare the rod, and spoil the child" ... that this need for parents to discipline and properly mentor children has arisen from.

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ms da binsi · « **Reply #38 on:** October 31, 2007, 09:43:06 PM »

Mga Sano ug Mga Sana!

Apil na pod ko ha? Hehehehe!

It has been a while now since I posted my last comment!

Filipino parents would "latus" their children when they do something NOT right, not to "abuse" the child, but to teach them and make an emphasis of what is "right and wrong"! It is because Filipino parents believe that if you truly love your children, you need to point out, in no UNCERTAIN way --- correct, admirable and useful values!

It is I think partly from a Biblical quote, "Spare the rod, and spoil the child" ... that this need for parents to discipline and properly mentor children has arisen from.

That was perfect Ann...

where have you been my dear???

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grazie7y · « **Reply #39 on:** October 31, 2007, 11:16:07 PM »

I agree, Annabelle! Proverbs 13:24: He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves his son is careful to discipline him. Naa pa jud sa Proverbs 23:13: Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod, he will not die.

Two weeks ago I went out with a friend sa Spaghetti Factory. There was this young couple and a baby boy na medyo ga misbehave. The young mother kind of hit the hand as in kon sa ato pa gisapda ba lamang. Daw beh, there were two older ladies in the other table na ning duol ug gi storyahan ang mga parents. Padayon mi'g kaon sa akong friend while ga chitchat, nalimtan na namo to sila. Aguy, paglingi namo naa pa man gihapon tong mga ladies sa ilang table ga storya nila. Mura'g gahatag ug seminar! Mahadlok pod siguro tong mga parents na i report sila so namati nlang. Later, hilum na tanan unya ning balik na tong old ladies sa ilang table. Ga bantay man gihapon tong mga ladies like it's their business ba unya sige pa hatag comments, murag nasuko na jud tong mother. Nag away na! Maayo nlang nag request ang young mother na magbalhin sila ug table.

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ms da binsi · « **Reply #40 on:** October 31, 2007, 11:19:31 PM »

paki alamera kung baga!

hahahhahahha

oi di gyud ko uyon anang ilang style diri.. bisan nag lupad lupad na ilang mga anak di lang gihapon hapakon...

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grazie7y · « **Reply #41 on:** October 31, 2007, 11:23:25 PM »

Korek! ang kahadlok lang pod siguro sa ubang parents kay gi tudluan bya ang mga bata sa school to report if their parents spank them.

My bestfriend in Hawaii has two boys. Sa ilang orientation kay gi ingnan sila to report to their teachers lagi if their parents spank them. One time, gihapak sa akong friend ang mga boys kay ga away, ingon tong isa, Nay, I will tell my teacher that you spanked me. Ingon akong friend pero nahadlok daw pod sya oi, Hala tell your teacher so you can live with them! hahahha

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lumine · « **Reply #42 on:** November 01, 2007, 12:21:34 AM »

na baby matt ate, nagstart na ka badlongon. if i would say NO! NO!, pinabakho dayon. usahay,hampakon nang lubot kanang wala si herman,hehe,pro diaper ra gud maigo.

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grazie7y · « **Reply #43 on:** November 01, 2007, 12:35:36 AM »

Hahahaha Mo ingon man kaha si Herman Men na he doesn't know what he is doing yet?

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ms da binsi · « **Reply #44 on:** November 01, 2007, 12:54:19 AM »

balik ta sa topic...

american kids have trick or treat...

filipino (sp catholic) kids go to the cemetery and pray for the souls...

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grazie7y · « **Reply #45 on:** November 01, 2007, 01:07:53 AM »

maayo unta they pray for the souls and not just to hang out with friends!

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orChids · « **Reply #46 on:** November 01, 2007, 06:04:57 PM »

Ako manghapak man ko sa akong mga anak pag sobra na...syempre sa sakto nga lugar,..I won't tolerate my kids like some of the parents in here.Musokol man ilang mga anak,mao pay manumbag sa ilang inahan...tubagon lang sila dayon..in which mao nay akong dili pinakaganahan nga walay respect ang mga bata..One day akong panganay nitubag sa ilang amahan,ako dayon gi kasab-an,kay maanad unya.So far mga buotan akong mga anak,and talking with them nga kami lang mag-Nanay really works..Maayo na lang pwede pa mamunal ang parents dire sa Japan.Well,at this time dili na ko mamunal nila kay kasabot na man sila,ug kahibalo ko maayo ang result sa akong pag-descipline nila.Thus some of parents specially mga kapwa Pinay mudayeg sa akong mga anak.They seldom see kids like mine.(I love my own..hahaha)But,tinuod na.And most of all,they see thier parents doing good,mao nga idol mi nila."Good manners begins and good attitude begins at home".

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udtohan · « **Reply #47 on:** November 01, 2007, 08:55:08 PM »

nah...dili nana puwede sa atoa.... hehehe

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ms da binsi · « **Reply #48 on:** November 01, 2007, 10:01:55 PM »

"Good manners begins and good attitude begins at home".

"Maayo gani ang bunga, maayo pod ang punuan" it all starts with a good parenting...If parents only spare a little bit of time to think what's going on with their kids, it could make a big difference... ang problema-parents dont spend much time to their kids anymore(here) and leave them alone with the video games and what not...parent's ow adays are too busy in so many ways...The world really has change noh?

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orChids · « **Reply #49 on:** November 01, 2007, 10:28:31 PM »

Mao jod...maayo na lang I'm available for my kids at anytime,kay naa ra ko sa balay.When I'm at my little sari-sari store,mag-uban gihapon mi ug pamaligya..It's just a short time to be with kids,kay kung managko na sila,they will do what they want na,manarbaho na sila,manglakaw na ug ilaha,mao nga while i'm having enough time with them,I have to be sure nga naa ra ko sa ilang kiliran..talk with them,laugh with them,imagine things with them and even play with them..it's fun to be with my kids anytime,all the time,specially kung naa mi sa farm...

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Glen · « **Reply #50 on:** November 02, 2007, 11:55:12 AM »

balik ta sa topic..

Filipino kids eat bahaw luto for school lunch.

American kids eat hot lunch.

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Glen · « **Reply #51 on:** November 02, 2007, 12:24:55 PM »

Hello Grace komusta nawala kos topic sa imong pangutana bahin sa akung brother.
Naa pod siya sa Cape town sa George mall so far ang iyang naka ila mag english man kuno.

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grazie7y · « **Reply #52 on:** November 02, 2007, 12:36:07 PM »

ga PM ko nimo Gem. I was worried about your little incident the other night kay wala man ka katunga gahapon gud.

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Glen · « **Reply #53 on:** November 03, 2007, 12:13:23 PM »

ga PM ko nimo Gem. I was worried about your little incident the other night kay wala man ka katunga gahapon gud.

Salamat Grace sa imong pag abala naho, ok ra akung balay..absent ko og 1 day sa TB kay busy ko panghatag og candy sa balay nonstop kay
half day ra ang school mao sayo ang mga trick or treating sos hurot gyod akung 8 bags of candy.

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grazie7y · « **Reply #54 on:** November 03, 2007, 12:20:36 PM »

That's good! Wa tawon na saag na mga bata dire sa amo so akoy gakalingaw kaon sa akong marshmallows!

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Glen · « **Reply #55 on:** November 03, 2007, 12:24:51 PM »

That's good! Wa tawon na saag na mga bata dire sa amo so akoy gakalingaw kaon sa akong marshmallows!

hahaha... mao ba unya nahurot na nimo og kaon?

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thegirlnextdoor · « **Reply #56 on:** November 04, 2007, 04:31:51 AM »

'm sorry Precious, but i think that you we're the one who started saying about, that we Filipinos lived and married outside our race claimed to be a proud Filipino, but we really are not because if we are, we wouldn't marry outside our race and live in other country. you can read again your post on the Expats in Bohol topic.

Did you ever know that you judge us before you know us?

Quote from: preciousNpolite on October 28, 2007, 11:40:27 PM
So what are you saying now? you marry not for love and happiness? You marry for what then? Why not live back and forth in each others country so you can both be happy thats the often way mixxed couples do it here?
I see many Filipino ladies entertaining about five open yahoo windows each with different men from all over the world, come on whats going on you people are to be about love?
So if your not happy being married to another country man then why did you get married at all to them?
Is it for financial positioning and climbing? thats not a good reason for marrying!

That sounds desperate and like a user but look at the brighter side once your established you can invite your kin to the other countries from the Philippines to join up with you, as for me its been a long time since I have seen my family as well and I can see them upon my visit back into America?

No as a permanent resident holder here in the Philippines and being from the states we are not allowed to take citizenship single or dual here.
So there fore we can not petition our family here to your Philippines country how you are wellcome to over there.
Its a big world of difference Happy.

Your name says Happy girlfriend you are so respected and treated with more fairness in America then what I have been put through here with.
I have been asked to pay for several hospital births maybe costing around 150.000 pesos total by now to people who are not even related to me.
I help them. Do you get asked to help pay for births of persons you know or do not know in America?
Philippine persons expect allot from foreigners over here but we are not doing that to persons over there when they visit in America.
You should be happy that sooner or later when the time is right you can petition your family over there.
I have many Filipino friends who can admit and be honest that they marry for the greener pastures and tell me that if I am told any different from other Filipino's who marry outside of their own race it is for the same reasons why they did the same and but are to ashamed to admit it.
The women here do it to Philippine men as well but the style is to court and the woman does not plan against becoming pregnant and does not tell her partner she is not taking precautions then the woman ends up pregnant and the Filipino man fears the parents and is there fore forced to get married to her.
Thats another way how women think they secure support by forcing a marriage do to pregnancy here. Just so they have a means of support to me that a cheap and desperate shot and I think there should be a fine for woman who do not take birth control seriously and do not discuss the chances of getting pregnant and warning the man as it is the woman who must present herself from becoming pregnant.

Happy a woman does not need a man to support her in order to be happy. She needs to take pride in herself and prove to herself she can go to work and be with her own people and not have to get married at all.
I see many happy Philippine couples here and I see many who are not so happy and involved with out of the marriage relationships.
I am sure your husband wouldn't mind staying here with you in the Philippines.

I am doing it for my step kids and my husband since he is a deck officer merchant marine and does not make near to what your husband is making but am happy.

Do not take my messages personally its just how foreigners see the situation also.

I also notice that the Filipino Marries someone much older then them?

So maybe once the old spouse dies off then the citizen ship is attained already and you have his pension for a short term marriage and can marry another as your still young and full of energy.
Six years ago I did not see this many mixxed couples as I see today here but many meet on the internet and the Filipino happily tugs and pulls along by her boyfriend or husbands fingers instructing him on what she wants him to buy for her.
He looks at me like as if saying "Jesus Christ!"
I just smile and laugh, I am use to seeing that scene here many times over and over.
Once she starts asking for that family of hers to eat a sack of rice paid for by him he starts to bail and it's no deal for a marriage.
Its a warning sign to him that his pocketbook will be drained on her family and kin.
Thats society today.
I'm not making it up I am told by the guys themselves who come here and and if single they have five women tugging on their sleeves at once, like shark after its kill! (LOL)
Happy you can divorce him as he is a foreigner if you that unhappy no one forced you to get married outside your race or country.
If you married you Filipino here and grew apart then your stuck as there is no divorce law but have instead annulment.
There are ways to make your unhappy happy your not in a bad position and I am sure your husband is a great guy.
For me American men are hard to get along with ...he he he he!
Bottom line is do not marry some one for financial positioning merry for love and compliment.
Make it work out so your both happy.Women need not force men into unplanned situations just to merry for the security of her life.
Woman are just as liberated and can go to work and carry their own load and not need to put up with a man.
Happy I want you Happy!

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Happy · « **Reply #57 on:** November 04, 2007, 04:45:12 AM »

Your name says Happy girlfriend you are so respected and treated with more fairness in America then what I have been put through here with.

This is what I've said, that don't judge us before you know us..

First of all, you have to find out where am I and how's my situation with me and my husband.

Happy you can divorce him as he is a foreigner if you that unhappy no one forced you to get married outside your race or country.

Before and now that I'm married, this things that you said is not my thing precious.

Thank you for preaching to me, but as I've said you don't know me, so you can't just say that, I'm not happy with my life and with my husband.

What have I told you about your comments of expats in Bohol is this:

What amazes me is the people here gloat about how proud they are to be a native from here? but, they marry outside their race to get away from the place?
So they are not that proud after all?

Most marry for this one $$$$$ and are hoping for greener pastures from the other side of the fence with their new husband.

Most women who get married here to foreigners have a high rate of divorce after they have a new country citizenship and remarry again in the same country.

Allot of foreigner men come up to me and we laugh together as they tell me how unfaithful their being to their Philippine wives here.

The reason for it is because they are having a boring time here compared to the fast paced life back home.
The Philippine wife is fine with it for me "No Way"!
The foreign husband gets here and he pays for everyone in her family and it is not practiced in our place to get married and be the bread winner for Uncle Joe, Aunt sue, cousin Billy Bob, and the family pet pig.

I am telling you Philippine ladies if you want to lose your foreigner man just keep on washing his pocket book out supporting people he barely knows in your family.
It upsets them but they are too nice to say anything to you about it. So if your happy using a foreigner husband as an ATM machine then I guess it makes sense why you ladies allow these guys to be unfaithful towards you because you hold the legal banking card!

I also notice the Philippine woman married to a Westerner or other white foreigner man here is also changing her style of dress from conservative to non conservative?
She wears more richer threads then a Philippine woman married to her own native race.

I will not change for anyone I do not care what the style of the country is I will respect but not change it or myself
I would never marry to change my status in fact poor men have character and are rich in heart and rich men have everything and they never seem content! JUST BE YOURSELF AND ACCEPT YOU FOR HOW YOU REALLY ARE DO NOT DO IT FOR OTHERS DO IT FOR YOURSELF PEOPLE!)

Please read it, thats from your post and think over about it. I hope that you will understand what you write.

Thank you precious...peace

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Happy · « **Reply #58 on:** November 04, 2007, 05:07:22 AM »

I also notice that the Filipino Marries someone much older then them?

Actually, its not only filipinas does this..

I think all races does..

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grazie7y · « **Reply #59 on:** November 04, 2007, 05:14:02 AM »

Ladies, I will reserve my comment because I have 5 minutes to get ready to a Fil-Am and other races party. We are so united here in America with all races and this is gonna be a fun night! Hasta la vista!

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Happy · « **Reply #60 on:** November 04, 2007, 05:15:06 AM »

Enjoy the party Grace

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Bambi · « **Reply #61 on:** November 04, 2007, 05:46:24 AM »

Hi Happy,

Why making your day sad due to the" bullshits comments" above? Anyway, that is her own opinion and judgment to us in general....and she will stand for it up to the a bitter end. " I just think what our Administrator posted.......disagree but don't take it personally." So, let her shows of her own ideas be continued. On the other hand, I am not affected to the said theme: speaking of $$$$$$ (we have Euros)......Her quoted from her line " I also notice that Filipino Marries someone much older than them" - I have the total opposite case...so, I am hunted?....in fact, I have lot of money to the facts, aside that I work 8 a hours a day, and have other sideline jobs. I had an interesting designated office job here before in our country Philippines, where we are still proud of......even we are already choked with $$$$ or Euro or Yen or whatever...we goldiggers are as what she titled us). She is old enough and I think she knows what she is posting about, she might be having a negative experiences in life.....that is why she is filled with bitterness. I hope she will be having still lot of fun submitting her comments and satisfies her ego as well. Perhaps, she is very brillant woman and expertise only to a low valued subject.

She is repeatedly posting here that she has lot of good friends in our own Bohol. I think these so called friends were just pondering in silence if she used to discuss to the relative theme in "Expats in Bohol".

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grazie7y · « **Reply #62 on:** November 04, 2007, 12:20:54 PM »

Ok now, I listen to the wise so I listen to Ms. Bambi and the words of Admin, disagree but don't take it personally. So nothing personal here! This is a forum where we discuss our opinion and whatever judgement we have will surely reflect the kind of people we are and the experiences we have in our lives.

Now let's go back to business!

I think I have come to realize that you Precious is a pitiful individual. You have been through a lot of bad experiences that make you unhappy and it is bothering you that Happy is happy outside of her country and you seem to know only of one good country but America (reference is your comment: Your name says Happy girlfriend you are so respected and treated with more fairness in America then what I have been put through here with.) You said a lot of things which, if I comment on each and every statements you made will have to be as long as a whole book. But I am not doing that. You are hopeless. You have formed in your thick head already your very poor judgement on people and nothing can change that unless, as what we have here in what you kept on claiming always as your country America, you undergo counselling to help you overcome your emotional and psychological impairment due to your bad experiences. And after that, I am sure, you'll be more loving and understanding person.

Just this one, please!

You mentioned about the total of medical bills you paid. You said you were asked to pay but you paid because, I supposed, you have good heart not because you were asked to. Also, here's another unsolicited advice: stop keeping a record to your help to needy people. It loses the essence of generosity. We may have different religious background and please I don't claim to be superior in my religious maturity because I am so not but let me just share you one of my most favorite prayers and I sing this all the time. I hope you have enough time to read this prayer by St. Ignatius:

Dearest Lord, teach me to be generous, teach me to serve you as I should,
To give and not to count the cost,
To fight and not to heed the wounds,
To toil and not to seek for rest,
To Labor and ask not for any reward,
Save that of knowing that I do your most holy will.

Peace be with you and all of us here in TB!

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lumine · « **Reply #63 on:** November 04, 2007, 07:02:21 PM »

cel, don't waste your precious time to comment na lang.

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hazel · « **Reply #64 on:** November 05, 2007, 03:24:57 AM »

I know Happy personally. She's such a HAPPY person.

Her cheerfulness and friendliness is very contagious.

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Happy · « **Reply #65 on:** November 06, 2007, 05:46:55 AM »

Thanks ate Bambs, grace, Inse Lumine and Ginger

Don't you guys worry about me, we just laugh about that comment of her's..
I wrote my reply as i want her to know that, she is really judging without knowing

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lumine · « **Reply #66 on:** November 06, 2007, 08:23:07 PM »

Thanks ate Bambs, grace, Inse Lumine and Ginger

Don't you guys worry about me, we just laugh about that comment of her's..
I wrote my reply as i want her to know that, she is really judging without knowing

it only shows, cel, you're more broad-minded.

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Happy · « **Reply #67 on:** November 07, 2007, 03:17:51 AM »

Thanks Inse

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thegirlnextdoor · « **Reply #68 on:** November 08, 2007, 01:50:06 AM »

I was asked because I am a foreigner. (Not a HARDHEAD)
In the states you do not get asked to do near as much as we foreigners are asked to do here as most persons here see foreigners with dollar signs flashing in their eyeballs.
Even in my country back home I am generous but what does it get me in return for all the good deeds I have done?
I am not bossy, or pushing other persons around and making false judgement neither am I going back on things I say.
I do not call persons mental or emotionall disturbed, neither do i call them hard headed. You never get asked because the people in the world know already that Philippine persons come from a hard back ground.
I have nothing to show but I have entrusted myself to persons here who have abused my trust and goodness.
Ungratefully indeed thats when people need and should be reminded of the good deeds that are done. The kindness of persons generosity are far and few and in between now a days.
I had a surgery this year i needed a down payment and my husbands allotment was not yet deposited into the bank when I asked the persons whom I normally help out and it was embarrassing to ask the few i was rejected by all?
They would rather i die but two weeks after my surgery they want that I lend them.
No one volunteers to pay for ones responsibilities since when?
You guys have to remind yourself that your culture and church makes things different here.
Here the people have babies when they have no money and often not a house of their own and still depending on their olds to help them raise what is suppose to be their own kids responsibilities.
Catholic church wants to preach about and impose the use of birth birthcontrol but where are they when the kids are Hungary no diapers, and barely one meal on the table per day? Are they giving money to those persons who have babies with out money as they tell them not to use birth control?
Who ends up footing the bills here when the churches tells 18 yr olds who are "HOT" that they are too young to have sex?
Blows my mind I do not see the help or assistance from the church here once Jr. pop's out.
Then Jr. is put out on the street or holding his palm out to passers by in the streets.
Your resources are thin here do to the over population of the Philippines.
Things are more expensive now and the dollar is down.
I have to ask any of you how often have you been asked to pay for hospital bills by white native persons in America who you do not know so well?

Even I have sat at a local radio station here and when the community desk had nothing to give I reached out of my pocket several times when they approached me as I could see they needed the assistance. Walang stingy naman I am the one that does not assist and sit and try to justify to those who who do get hit up allot and not appreciated.

I have seen Filipino mothers get outraged when their own kids ask for money for a project at school.
Imagine how much more they would be outraged if persons with no money approached them about to have a baby asking them to pay the hospitalbill as they have no money?

I have a house of 7 members when the dad is an OFW and eight when he is home. Its hard to make ends meet with my household members that i have and the dollar being down and the prices getting higher. Why would I offer and when I do it is that I offer to those in a life or death situation now a days.

You can talk to any other foreigner here the story is the same from them.

They are married to Filipino ladies.

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lumine · « **Reply #69 on:** November 08, 2007, 07:12:55 PM »

i'm tired reading this time.

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ms da binsi · « **Reply #70 on:** November 08, 2007, 11:47:15 PM »

ngano sigi pa diay ka basa ana? wa na gyud koy basa2x sa ijang poste no? makalangan way unod... sigi lang tira bisan kinsa...morag sija ray kana sa tibuok kalibutan... hahahhaha kaluoy pod nija oi!

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smiffytheninja · « **Reply #71 on:** November 10, 2007, 04:08:50 AM »

I'm too lazy to read everyone's posts to its entirety.

But, from the jist of it, it seems like there is somewhat of a general stereotype floating around here. Filipino's marry foreigners to have a better life.

I am certainly NOT saying that ALL or the MAJORITY of the filipino women are gold-diggers. There are a minority of them, I can't lie... Like Happy said, it happens with all races, not just Filipino. It simply depends on the morals and values of each individual. What I strongly believe is that no one should ever judge a book by its cover. I'm half Filipino, and I would get pissed off if someone were to say my mom married my dad just because he has a better living than her. It shouldn't come down to that. There are a LOT of people who marry outside their race out of pure love for them.

Just saying...

Anyway, can we all just please go back on the topic of this thread? I'm pretty sure this thread was meant to make people laugh rather than argue.

Disclaimer: I'm not hatin on anyone, I just had to say that... lol

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grazie7y · « **Reply #72 on:** November 10, 2007, 04:20:49 AM »

Well said, my dear! And coming from a girl hardly 18, you make more sense than...

ok, than me! heheheh Thanks for sharing your thoughts. smiffytheninja!

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ms da binsi · « **Reply #73 on:** November 10, 2007, 04:21:25 AM »

But, from the jist of it, it seems like there is somewhat of a general stereotype floating around here. Filipino's marry foreigners to have a better life.

Bingo!!! that was my description in Ginger's Stereotype Thread...

Well said Smiffy!

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grazie7y · « **Reply #74 on:** November 10, 2007, 04:25:36 AM »

Hello, Ms Fil-Am lady, ms da binsi! Where can I see that stereotype thread, by the way?

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #75 on:** November 10, 2007, 04:41:53 AM »

LoL, as a Filipino-American and one who is educated in a prestigious and expensive liberal arts college, of which has been funded in its entirety by college loans, and my parents, I know full well of the hard work Filipinos do to send their children to college, and professional schools. Filipino men and Filipino women work hard, and will do anything for the success and betterment of their children, either by sending them to medical school, law school, pharmacy, nursing, engineering, graduate school etc., is clearly manifested in the data from the U.S Census Bureau. To those in here who look down on the Filipino and the Filipino-American community, DO YOU know that the Filipino-American community is the richest Asian-American ethnic group in the United States? And the 2nd richest ethnic group throughout the United States? The average income of Filipino-Americans comes at $65,700, while the average White-American income is at $48,784. Filipino-Americans make more than the Chinese, Japanese, Thai, Cambodian, Vietnamese, Pakistani, Korean etc ethnic groups because of the reputable work ethic of our people. The Filipino-American community (which numbers at 2.5 million) owns over 125,000 businesses here in the United States, and employs over 132,000 American citizens in those business, thereby generating an income of over $14 Billion for the US economy. Of these businesses, 38.6% are health care and social assistance oriented and produces 39.3% of the collective Filipino-owned business revenue. No other ethnic group in the United States, particularly recent immigrants can boast such successes as the Filipino-American.

To those who look down on the Filipino-American community, do you know that a good majority of medical students in the United States and in the Caribbean are of Filipino decent? Do you know that almost 12% of medical residents are Filipino? Quite an impressive accomplishment for an ethnic group that numbers only 2.5 Million out of the US population of 308 Million. So the next time you go to a hospital in the United States due to peripheral neuropathy, or complaining about myocardial infarction, urinary tract infection, colorectal pains, respiratory pains or are involved in a trauma accident; most likely you will be treated by 1. A Filipino physician and cared for by 2. Filipino nurses. So the next time you try to say something negative, watch what you say. And realize that those who will end up saving your life might be the very people who you looked down on. Now wouldn't that be ironic?

On the contrary, instead of looking down of Filipinos for coming to the United States, one should be grateful for the massive contributions our people have done for the US economy, and our innumerable contributions to the US Healthcare industry, of which is boasted to be the best in the world. No other immigrant group has made so much, succeeded so much in such a little amount of time. You know why? Because Filipinos are highly skilled, intelligent, hard working, and perserverant people who do not cower to those who try to intimidate us. It is the Filipino who rises to the occasion and becomes the physician, lawyer, professor, pharmacist, engineer, chemist, business owner, nurse, therapist in the U.S echelon.

To those who look down on Filipino-Americans, please take a look at the US Census Bureau 2007 data sheet:
http://www.census.gov/prod/2007pubs/acs-05.pdf

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smiffytheninja · « **Reply #76 on:** November 10, 2007, 04:45:53 AM »

Lorenzo,

After a long and rigorous chemistry exam this morning, your very informative and well-said post has officially made my head explode with information.

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #77 on:** November 10, 2007, 04:52:47 AM »

Lorenzo,

After a long and rigorous chemistry exam this morning, your very informative and well-said post has officially made my head explode with information.

LOL. That wasn't my intended purpose, inday. Btw, how did your chemistry exam go? Was it general chemistry 1? I'm assuming you're a freshman in college.

Right?

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smiffytheninja · « **Reply #78 on:** November 10, 2007, 04:59:55 AM »

haha I know... simply put, it was well stated.. lol

yeah, it was General Chemistry... CHEM1A.

It went pretty well. It was mostly percent composition, empirical/molecular formulas, and of course, nomenclature.

Hopefully my mind won't explode when I attempt to take BIO1 and Chem 1B simultaneously.. $:-\$

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #79 on:** November 10, 2007, 05:04:45 AM »

Hahaha, i can fully understand how you are feeling, I felt the same way when I was a freshman. But you know what, don't you ever give up, and always study and strive to do better after every exam. You know what I always say in times of stress, "When the going gets tough, the tough get going." I'm sure you did well.

Are you in the pre-med track?

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grazie7y · « **Reply #80 on:** November 10, 2007, 05:06:43 AM »

Wow, you sound like a very nice Kuya, Dong Enzo! I know you are a doting Kuya...

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smiffytheninja · « **Reply #81 on:** November 10, 2007, 05:11:21 AM »

thanks for the inspiration

I'm actually thinking of doing Pre-Pharmacy right now, but Pre-Med is definitely still an option.

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #82 on:** November 10, 2007, 05:40:23 AM »

Thats very good that you already know what you want to go into, and Pharmacy is a noble profession, however, if you ever have a sway towards medicine---and if you have some questions on the MCATs (i just took them this past July) don't hesitate to ask me some questions.

So you're taking chem2 and bio1 next semester, any other courses?

Cheers,

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smiffytheninja · « **Reply #83 on:** November 10, 2007, 05:43:45 AM »

thanks for the offer

i'm taking a lot of GE/Pre-Pharm reqs right now... In addition to the two 5-unit courses next semester, I'll probably take stats and psychology.. haha

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #84 on:** November 10, 2007, 05:49:04 AM »

Looks like you're going to have a big load next semester. All I can say, inday, is to keep you're schedule up to date. But im sure your study habits are above par, just make sure you give yourself some time off as well. So are you ready for the coming Thanksgiving Day Break?

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ms da binsi · « **Reply #85 on:** November 10, 2007, 09:29:24 AM »

aguy duha na atong future Docs diri!!!

yehey!!!

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lumine · « **Reply #86 on:** November 10, 2007, 06:08:03 PM »

filipino kids + american kids= fil-am kids

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grazie7y · « **Reply #87 on:** November 10, 2007, 06:09:06 PM »

aguy duha na atong future Docs diri!!!

yehey!!!

Pohon, Belle!

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rayborze · « **Reply #88 on:** November 21, 2007, 05:52:29 AM »

hello bohol> kumusta na kamung tanan diha-- Im quiet puzzled about the idea of comparing Filipino kids and American kids, what i can share or would like to share regarding these two nations is that the commonality and values is no different from the other except the other has more material advantages than the other but i don't think that's a big issue, really if you would have the other in the shoe of the other what would be you approach?, is it safe to say that each is unique and has a level of innate treats? what i would like to ask is that what would you do if you were given the opportunity to possess a resource that can change people's lives!!. life is too short to waste our energy on things that doesn't bring hope or change, i would like to challenge the system in accordance to the truth and let us see if their be any shift of thinking or even values that can really make an impact in a meaningful and positive way... Till' next time..peace

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