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In my own word about my missing Column on 10/14/07
« on: October 15, 2007, 01:34:22 PM »
Especially for my faithfull Reader's and our media Friends.

Okay friends especially those in media..........

I would rather you hear straight from the horses mouth.
I was rather appalled /Mystified/hurt as well as my children and family that my column was missing out of yesterday's paper.(Not at all surprised)
My friendship with my publisher is great, he always has compliments that are very positive and encouraging for me.
I am not paid to write in the newspaper that I write for. I have income every month from the states and from the children's father.
It was my choice not to take a salary simply for the number one reason being that I asked my publisher not to take away work compensation to Boholanos who simply need the money in their own country, and that I also love to write and learn and just be able to entertain all kinds of people who I really love.
I was told that if I was to get advertisement for the paper that I would receive a commission.
Some one on the inside has borrowed approximately in the area of over P40.000.
The last time I had intrusted money to this person was done in the witness of my long time helper and friend and my daughter at the BQ foodcourt. The money was P8 thousand and it was to go as part of a down payment to be in partnership for hosting a BCCTV program about Bohol.
I had gone to BCCT to inquire about this and the person I spoke with had no ideal what was going on with me.
I also showed the promissory note that if the program was not rewarded that I would of been paid back by a certain date.
I am sure we are now two months past our date of his promise.
I have never been compensated one piso back, and when I do ask I am talked to as if I am the worst person in the world and that I am a foreigner that we owe it to Philippine persons.
The previous other times and excuses were when he borrowed was that he had many excuses such as he was not able to pay his rent, he had a sick relative in the hospital needing help and most of this was during election time.
When the money was flowing n good to this person I was lucky at times that he would edit my write ups or works.
In this situation I wanted to trust him as a coworker and friend.
Then the complaints started to come in such as "I am getting a headache in editing this work and my small salary is not enough".
 Doing his usual hinting that of wanted more money.
Last Sunday I had done a column on "Crab Mentality" my publisher had done the editing himself with a fine comb.
There was one word being questioned the word was "ail" all other words had been properly used and spelled.
Atty. wrote "Print it" in big letter's on the bottom of the column.
How odd when it comes out in print it looks as if tampered with to set me up as looking like some idiot.
Even the "C" was missing in the title?
IS should of been HIS that kind of error. I stopped entrusting Piso to this person and the column and write ups just kept on getting worse. (Refused to edit unless I would give him money)
Some mistakes I can honestly say were mine.
During last weekends operation of putting our paper together this person had gotten emotional on me and accused me of being just a columnist and that he was losing since I had come along?
He was losing? What nerve how ungrateful this person was to say this to me after all that he had taken and never paid me back.
My reaction was that I had slammed my fist hard on the desk in front of him and said "Your losing? What about the P40.thousand and add some you never paid me back your an ungrateful ***#@&&%".
My youngest was with me at the time she is eight and she is smart.
I went to my publisher's office on my own and explained what had gone on. I am not one to rat I normally can tolerate a high level of patience when it comes to dealing with certain types of persons.
I was told things in confidential from my publisher but it was things he had told me before and things I have heard before from others as well. God only knows why I defended this person always then he is so plastic.
My publisher was not to happy when I told him my work is not getting edited because of my not entrusting money to this person any more.
I had also mentioned that the person also insulted him in a column last week. My publisher grabbed the paper really fast and read what had been written about him?
He was then called to the office of publisher and was asked about the comment in the previous weeks column and went on to tell him he would not tolerate such.
My 8 years old daughter muttered "SIP SIP" under her breath as he excused himself out of the office, my publisher just smiled as if she is right.
The publisher was not happy about being insulted in his paper by some one whom he is trying to help.
After editing my column I took it up stairs to the office with my publishers instructions written on it to "Print It".
The next day when in print it has about 3-4 error's?
My microsoft words would of detected such poor grammer, the publisher was great in looking for any possible error's. (What's happening?)
Anyways besides write ups you have seen me being active in going to events taking down notes and taking many pictures.
This is my hobby here you guy's.
It should be fun, and rewarding in getting to meet all kinds of nice people and make some of the sweetest friends.
This past couple of months I am not happy because of the stress given to me of this person always wanting money-money-money? (ABBA).
I had emailed my column telling about last Monday's hail experience. My column was not printed of all the columns?
 My publisher did not mention to me that it was going to be discontinued. in fact he gave me permission to make a specail story about an American friend here who is helping a serious heart patient just from the goodness of his own pocket.
Did I mention one day last week this person who is behaving so ungrateful towards me asked me if I would pay his P4 thousand over phone bill and and have it reactivated?
I'm not tollerating anymore nonsense and my attitude has changed for this reason.
Why should I be so kind and do so many good deeds for people who just treat me terribly in the long run?
I was told "GOD" knows who is good and who is doing bad, and he has a way in dealing with both.

I am sorry you have read this and I am sorry for ever trusting people too much in this sittuation.

I love you all and that is why I want to inform you on what is going on.

I personally felt when looking at my newspaper yesterday that a big part of my life that makes me happy had been stripped away from me?

I am an open person, feel free to come up and say hello any time to me. I am so bruised and willing to talk openly about what has happened.
I know it is not because of my goodness for what has happened to me.
It has to do with some ones greedy and selfish ways.
Take care! :'(











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Re: In my own word about my missing Column on 10/14/07
« Reply #1 on: October 18, 2007, 11:33:13 PM »
so sorry to hear that precious

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Re: In my own word about my missing Column on 10/14/07
« Reply #2 on: October 19, 2007, 12:09:06 AM »
Hello Precious!  I am new here - barely a week or so old so I don't quite understand what's going on in here.  Did you say you are a puti.  Does that mean your primary language is English?  I wanna know so I will not speak Binol-anon here.  And did you say you are a writer? In Bohol? Which paper? 

I am sorry you seem to have a bad experience with your colleagues.  Be careful next time though.   

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Re: In my own word about my missing Column on 10/14/07
« Reply #3 on: October 19, 2007, 01:17:46 AM »
Hello Ms. Precious,


I would love to read your article about "Crab Mentality" in Tubag Bohol so I will be so happy and grateful if you can publish it here.

Thank you and goodluck!

Sincerely,

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Re: In my own word about my missing Column on 10/14/07
« Reply #4 on: October 19, 2007, 11:36:51 PM »
Thank you ladies for the feedback,

I am an American living here with a permanent residence visa. I have lived here in Bohol since 2002 until present.
I enjoy writing and being able to learn from experiences as well as make friends and enjoy what i do from my heart.
I am happy so far to announce that according to my very kind publisher I will remain with the column and what ever other write ups I am able to write and get approved through the kind discretion of my publisher.
My interest is to position the newspaper in a better spot then what it has been dragged down to being in.
I am not going to reveal what i know but what I can say is as well as the support from my other colleagues from the other media outlets I also have their side as the one victimizing me is also victimizing others from the more popular newspapers that have pioneered here from the beginning.
So as you can see I am not alone.
I do really and truly admire the positive support from all of you and I most hope certainly what has happened to me will not happen to any of you.
No matter how much you think you trust someone there is always the open door for you to have your trust betrayed over someones selfish, greedy, inappreciable way.
Unfortunately I have to say to all friends and readers of this experience is fight fr what rights and to keep vigilant of all things going on with you and around you.
Take care Always!


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Re: In my own word about my missing Column on 10/14/07
« Reply #5 on: October 20, 2007, 02:31:41 AM »
Learn from your experience but don't be traumatized.  Trusting is not bad, just be careful.  If you cease to trust people including your friends, they are not gonna trust you too.  Life is full of challenges and, insecurity is one of them but, I hope I am not just saying this because I am a true-blooded Boholano, you are in a better place in Bohol than in any other parts of the Philippines or everywhere. 

We were those poor people you described below (or in the other thread re increasing crime) who hardly had no food to eat nor access to medical but we had (and I wanna believe we still have)  better values.  The elders in our family inculcated to us the value of respect and hardwork and patience and perseverance and more to survive our poverty.  There were times we didn't have rice to eat before we go to school so my mother would cut a pre-mature banana so we had something in our belly while we study ABC or 1 plus 1.  We never thought of stealing our neighbors' chicken littering in our backyard.  We didn't cry because we didn't have nice food to eat or we just use banana leaves as our umbrella while the other girls had cute pink umbrellas. Yes, we had lots of utangs but we didn't steal just to have easy life.  I really want to say that poverty should not be the reason - value formation is.

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Re: In my own word about my missing Column on 10/14/07
« Reply #6 on: October 24, 2007, 12:32:23 AM »
Update:
I was so messed up with emotion last week after having been through what I had experienced.
To make a long story short Last Friday i was called two times by owner/writer Boy GuingGuing to make an appearance at his office of "The Sunday Post".
That afternoon I had learned that the person I am referring to had submitted names to a particular head of a large project. On the list were names of media persons who should of received monies from this person in charge of the project.
The media man in charge of giving the names apparently did not give all the monies to everyone on the list as he was entrusted to do by the supervisor of the large product.
The person being victimized I will not reveal his name or his media outlet as it is probably part of the investigation that BGlante wants to force the BTMA heads to probe an investigation on.
I am receiving many apologies for what has taken place from some of the highest and most powerfull media persons here in Bohol. As I am innocent to the person I am referring to and about his track record as well as his background in having burnt bridges behind him.
My publisher is still being lovely regarding this situation as it is a private situation between two colleagues. I wanted to dive into the topic so bad on my return column in last Sundays paper but i felt it would be so unfair to drag out readers into our problem here.
I just went back into writing as shaken up as I was and wrote as if nothing had taken place.
I managed to get the column and the specail write up page done with some error's and emotional set backs with added difficulties, the errors were spotted and corrected and It still came out with other error's and even my name was spelled wrong on the specail story write up I had done.
This situation has been embarrassing to the media for some time and a few months back Lito Responte had asked me to make a file against the one I was having difficulties with.
I do not like to stir trouble such s this kind but when some one is not after their own interest and humiliates you in front of other's and ignores you when you want help then this person wants to be be all sweet only when he wants something once he gets what he wants then He disregards to you as if your nothing but garbage.
I was not aware of BGlante column coming out in the "Post" in regards to my matter.
It's truly a sick soap opera that humor had to be used when he wrote it.
My mammary glands have not been physically swollen, and I was at home all week and the couple of public appearances i did make it was embarrassing as media persons as well as readers of the paper had come up to me and told me they missed my column.
I kept it cool and positive as I had spoken to the publisher and he was not happy that the colleague of mine had omitted my column with out his knowledge.
My column came back and so has my pride.
My publisher is not taking sides and was telling me things that were nice to hear and that I will keep to myself.
Bglante himself  also offered to help me as his column requested there be an immediate investigation as this person victimizing and abusing me has burnt bridges in other media outlets.
I am not alone.
I am not in this to make enemies but I have tried to be nice about asking to be paid back with out interest but it just does not sink in to this person.
I refuse to sit back and be further abused and having a bitter taste in my mouth when it comes to trusting anyone else again.
May I reccomend that you read "The Sunday Post" issue dated on Oct, 21, 2007 titled: A SCENE STRAIGHT OUT OF A POPULAR "TELENOBELA" written by the owner.
This will make you understand that I am not alone in how I have been made to feel.
I do not like to stir the pot on anything but a lesson needs to be learned some how.






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