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#1
General Topic / Re: Digos , Padayon sa Pag-uswag
September 10, 2009, 03:41:17 PM
Pictorials of APLAYA ELEMENTARY SCHOOL DRUM AND LYRE BAND, first placer in the
            Araw ng Digos City 2009 inter-school competition.






















THe success was made possible through the efforts of the following:

School Music Coordinator: Teofila A. Porras
Parents' Coordinator: Alma Haguimit
School Principal: Erlito T. Damo
Band Master: Rey Encallado
Photographer: Elsie Demaulo


#3
gikapoy ko sa laag namo gahapon sa samal island, enjoy nga kapoy  :) :) :)
#4
Eyeball / Re: Tubag Bohol Family (video)
April 25, 2009, 08:11:00 PM
 pls include us in your family video, me and fdaray tnx a lot :)
#5
General Topic / Re: Digos , Padayon sa Pag-uswag
April 08, 2009, 11:44:55 AM
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              Aplaya Elementary School teachers on their Graduation Exercises 2009.
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#6
Youtube Replay / Re: Last Movie You've Watched
March 17, 2009, 02:53:36 PM
 ' YOU CHANGED MY LIFE.... Sarah Geronimo and John Lloyd Cruz  :) :)
#7
General Topic / Re: Digos , Padayon sa Pag-uswag
March 06, 2009, 12:17:57 PM
 road going to camp sabros
#9
General Topic / Re: Digos , Padayon sa Pag-uswag
March 06, 2009, 12:14:13 PM
 yeah, camp sabros is a nice place, we went there last year with my family
#10
General Topic / Re: Digos , Padayon sa Pag-uswag
March 04, 2009, 12:59:06 PM
yes, c sir felix teacher sa Aplaya Elem. School for 15 years he will be retiring soon.....i am also a teacher of this school.......
#11
Niadtong uinang panahon sa pre Spanish tine, adunay hulaw o taas nga init nga miabot sa Bohol. Angnakaluwas nila sa kaguton  mao ang ube.  Tungod sa kataas sa hulaw, ang tanang pagkakaon nahurot na ug wala nay mapalit. Ang ube nga ilang gitagoan maoy na lay ilang gihinayhinay ug lunaw.

Giila sa mga Bol-anon  nga ang ube is a 'manna form heaven' , mao nga halukankon mahulog isip
pag- ila sa iyang pagka sagrado. 

Pero ako dili mohalok sa ube.
#12
Ngano nga nakasulat man ang mga Tirol about Republic of Bohol nga ang ilang mga kagikan
dili man Bol-anon. Gikan ang mga Tirol clan sa Aklan nahiabot diri sa Boholniadtong early 1940.

Wala sad ko makabasa sa Wekipedia about Republic of Bohol.
#13
Eyeball / Re: Tubag Bohol Family (video)
February 27, 2009, 11:25:27 AM
-same pic as previous post
#14
Eyeball / Re: Tubag Bohol Family (video)
February 27, 2009, 11:24:13 AM
#15
Bisaya Cebuano Language / Re: Magtegmo tegmo ta
January 17, 2009, 03:58:20 PM
Big as a biscuit, deep as a cup, even a river cannot fill it up.

What is it?
#16
General Topic / Re: Best Pictures for TB Members
January 11, 2009, 04:15:17 PM
yes, thats true sir daray....
#17
MERRY CHRISTMAS TO EVERYONE   :) :) ;) ;)

May Joy, Love, Peace be with you and your family this CHRISTMAS!

Good health and more success for 2009!
#18
BIBLE
#19
Bisaya Cebuano Language / Re: Magtegmo tegmo ta
December 25, 2008, 11:39:41 AM
   why are dogs like trees?
#20
Bisaya Cebuano Language / Re: Magtegmo tegmo ta
December 25, 2008, 11:37:47 AM
CHRISTMAS TREE
#21
Jokes and Humor / Re: dyok dyok dyok
December 24, 2008, 11:40:31 AM
 Nag apply ko ug US VISA ,

Pro na deny ko,

nasangit ko sa interview,

usa ra ka pangutana wala nako matubag...

unsay ENGLISH sa TAGALOG?

ikaw, kabalo ka?   lisod no?
#22
Jokes and Humor / Re: dyok dyok dyok
December 24, 2008, 11:35:31 AM
 teacher: class, only Juan got 98/100

Juan:    Dah! kabuhat mo ana?panguli mo sa inyong bukid oi...
              tanom kamote!kaun dukot! mga bugok!

teacher: da rest got 100!

  Juan: aw...
#23
Jokes and Humor / Re: dyok dyok dyok
December 24, 2008, 11:28:41 AM
 boy....can i touch your software?

girl.....show me first your hardware!

boy....can i install it in your system?

girl....ok, if you cover it w/ anti- virus first!!

   ......hehehe...
#24
Jokes and Humor / Re: dyok dyok dyok
December 24, 2008, 11:23:14 AM
Mama...Kamaayo nimo ug mth nak oi, mangutana ko beh
          Anak.....cgui ma
           Mama....kung tagaan ka sa imong papa ug 563.49,
                        unya tagaan tkag 387.77  unsay tubag?
           Anak.....'SALAMAT"...

         
       Titser: class pag draw mo ug BUS
       Pupils: yes mam
       Titser:  ok class, pass your drawing..
                   o Juan, nganong kalsada man ni?asa na ang bus?
        Juan:   hulat lang mam muagi ra na...toinks!

     
#27
General Topic / Re: Digos , Padayon sa Pag-uswag
December 23, 2008, 12:13:43 AM
.....tnx a lot sir, Merry Christmas and a fruitful New Year to you and your family as well.. :) :) :) :)

GOD BLESS YOU ALWAYS...
#28
Anonymous Diary Blog / Re: What did you do today?
December 23, 2008, 12:01:19 AM
me? happy, coz no work during xmas vacation....time for malling and visiting friends... :) :) :)

cgui lang ug kaon, hehehe
#29
General Topic / Re: Withdrawal Method
December 21, 2008, 10:21:18 PM
mao jud, hinay hinay lang gud....dili magpalabi   :)  :)  :)
#30
Bisaya Cebuano Language / Re: Magtegmo tegmo ta
December 21, 2008, 09:55:53 PM
Quote from: ejdemaulo on December 21, 2008, 09:42:09 PM
greenmachine...kani tubaga

What is dark but made by light?

answer... A shadow
#32
Bisaya Cebuano Language / Re: Magtegmo tegmo ta
December 21, 2008, 09:42:09 PM
greenmachine...kani tubaga

What is dark but made by light?
#33
Bisaya Cebuano Language / Re: Magtegmo tegmo ta
December 21, 2008, 09:38:39 PM
Quote from: ejdemaulo on December 21, 2008, 09:35:26 PM
tubaga ni ha...

   What is plowed but never planted?
   

   
answer....  snow
#34
Bisaya Cebuano Language / Re: Magtegmo tegmo ta
December 21, 2008, 09:37:07 PM
hehehe sirit ko ana oy dili ko kabalo    :) :) :)
#35
Bisaya Cebuano Language / Re: Magtegmo tegmo ta
December 21, 2008, 09:35:26 PM
tubaga ni ha...

   What is plowed but never planted?
   

   
#36
Bisaya Cebuano Language / Re: Magtegmo tegmo ta
December 21, 2008, 09:29:44 PM
ans.  any kind of car, if it goes over a bridge...
#37
Bisaya Cebuano Language / Re: Magtegmo tegmo ta
December 21, 2008, 09:28:21 PM
tubaga sa greenmachine, sirit?
#38
Bisaya Cebuano Language / Re: Magtegmo tegmo ta
December 21, 2008, 09:25:08 PM
what kind of car drives over water?
#39
hehehehe...makabuslot ug bulsa as in....gift giving gud ni nga time, pro ok lang basta happy ang gitagaan...its better to give than to receive di ba?
#40
The Nativity of Jesus refers to the Christian belief that the Messiah was born to the Virgin Mary. The story of Christmas is based on the biblical accounts given in the Gospel of Matthew, namely Matthew 1:18-Matthew 2:12 and the Gospel of Luke, specifically Luke 1:26-Luke 2:40. According to these accounts, Jesus was born to Mary, assisted by her husband Joseph, in the city of Bethlehem. According to popular tradition, the birth took place in a stable, surrounded by farm animals, though neither the stable nor the animals are mentioned in the Biblical accounts. However, a manger is mentioned in Luke 2:7 where it states "She wrapped him in cloths and placed him in a manger, because there was no room for them in the inn." Early iconographic representations of the nativity placed the stable and manger within a cave (located, according to tradition, under the Church of the Nativity in Bethlehem). Shepherds from the fields surrounding Bethlehem were told of the birth by an angel, and were the first to see the child.[34] Many Christians believe that the birth of Jesus fulfilled prophecies from the Old Testament. Many modern scholars view the two Gospel accounts as theological fictions.[35]

Remembering is a central way that Christians celebrate Christmas. There is a very long tradition of the Nativity of Jesus in art. The Eastern Orthodox Church practices the Nativity Fast in anticipation of the birth of Jesus, while much of the Western Church celebrates Advent. In some Christian denominations, children perform plays re-telling the events of the Nativity, or sing carols that reference the event. Some Christians also display a small re-creation of the Nativity, known as a Nativity scene, in their homes, using figurines to portray the key characters of the event. Live Nativity scenes and tableaux vivants are also performed, using actors and live animals to portray the event with more realism.[36]

Nativity scenes traditionally include the Three Wise Men, Balthazar, Melchior, and Caspar, although their names and number are not referred to in the Biblical narrative, who are said to have followed a star, known as the Star of Bethlehem, found Jesus, and presented gifts of gold, frankincense, and myrrh.[37] The including of the Magi in the nativity would be in conflict with the Biblical account, as it indicates that they found Jesus approximately two years after his birth, rather than on the exact day (Matt. 2:7â€"8, 16).
#41
Christmas is typically the largest annual economic stimulus for many nations. Sales increase dramatically in almost all retail areas and shops introduce new products as people purchase gifts, decorations, and supplies. In the U.S., the "Christmas shopping season" generally begins on Black Friday, the day after Thanksgiving, though many American stores begin selling Christmas items as early as October.[47] In Canada, merchants begin advertising campaigns just before Halloween (October 31), and step up their marketing following Remembrance Day on November 11.

In most areas, Christmas Day is the least active day of the year for business and commerce; almost all retail, commercial and institutional businesses are closed, and almost all industries cease activity (more than any other day of the year). In England and Wales, the Christmas Day (Trading) Act 2004 prevents all large shops from trading on Christmas Day. Scotland is currently planning similar legislation. Film studios release many high-budget movies in the holiday season, including Christmas films, fantasy movies or high-tone dramas with high production values.

An economists analysis calculates that Christmas is a deadweight loss under orthodox microeconomic theory, due to the surge in gift-giving. This loss is calculated as the difference between what the gift giver spent on the item and what the gift receiver would have paid for the item. It is estimated that in 2001 Christmas resulted in a $4 billion deadweight loss in the U.S. alone.[48][49] Because of complicating factors, this analysis is sometimes used to discuss possible flaws in current microeconomic theory. Other deadweight losses include the effects of Christmas on the environment and the fact that material gifts are often perceived as white elephants, imposing cost for upkeep and storage and contributing to clutter.
#42
Christmas (IPA: /krɪsməs/), also referred to as Christmas Day or Christmastide, is an annual holiday celebrated on December 25 that marks and honors the birth of Jesus of Nazareth.[2][3] The birth of Jesus, which is the basis for the anno Domini system of dating, is thought to have occurred between 7 and 2 BC.[4] December 25 is not thought to be Jesus' actual date of birth, and the date may have been chosen to correspond with either a Roman festival,[5] or with the winter solstice.[6]

Modern customs of the holiday include gift-giving, church celebrations, and the display of various decorationsâ€"including the Christmas tree, lights, mistletoe, nativity scenes and holly. Santa Claus (also referred to as Father Christmas, although the two figures have different origins) is a popular mythological figure often associated with bringing gifts at Christmas. Santa is generally believed to be the result of a syncretization between St. Nicholas of Myra and elements from pagan Nordic and Christian mythology, and his modern appearance is believed to have originated in 19th century media.

Christmas is celebrated throughout the Christian population, but is also celebrated by many non-Christians as a secular, cultural festival. The holiday is celebrated around the world. Because gift-giving and several other aspects of the holiday involve heightened economic activity among both Christians and non-Christians, Christmas has become a major event for many retailers....
#43
General Topic / Re: Digos , Padayon sa Pag-uswag
December 21, 2008, 08:34:51 PM
 :) :) :)  the affair was full of fun indeed....we enjoyed so much of the games...teachers and parents joined together esp. in parlor games....
the pupils also are happy seeing their parents participate the affair.....
sir daray hope you will join us next year, we will celebrate again the xmas festival here in our school
#44
Health and Food / Re: How to take a bath?
November 21, 2008, 12:36:40 PM
hehehehe.....sori po, out of topic pala ako......
#45
Health and Food / Re: How to take a bath?
November 21, 2008, 12:30:00 PM
 
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When you owe a lot of money, thinking clearly about what to do about your debts can be tough to do, especially if debt collectors are hounding you to pay up. Under the circumstances, you may be tempted to take the pressure off by writing a check when you don’t have the money to cover it or you may be lured in by the promises of companies that tell you make your financial problems go away--for a steep fee of course. However, writing “hot checks” could land you in legal hot water and most companies that make big promises about improving your financial situation are rip offs and they may even encourage you to do things that skirt the law. Don’t waste your bucks. Here are some legitimate and legal suggestions for how to deal with your debts.

1. Stop using your credit cards. If you have too much debt, the last thing you need is more!



2. Figure out the total amount you spend each month by tracking what you pay out to cover your living expenses and your debts. Track your cash expenditures too--those three dollars here and five dollars can really add up. Write down how much you spend and what you spend it on. Your spouse or partner should do the same. At the end of the month, compare your total spending to your total income (take home pay) for the month. If the total amount of your financial obligations, living expenses and cash expenditures is greater than your total income, figure out where you can cut back in order to bring your spending in line with your income. Then, create a monthly budget that shows exactly how you will allocate your household dollars each month and stick to it. At the very least, as a result of this exercise you should be able to pay all of your debts on time and your day-to-day living expenses too; but ideally, you should also be able to begin paying more than the minimum due on your credit card debts and on any other higher interest debts you may owe.


3. If you don’t have enough money to cover all of your monthly debts and expenses or you want to accelerate the rate at which you get out of debt, earn more money. Work a second job, do freelance work on the side, or find a new, better paying job. If your spouse or partner does not work, he or she should consider getting a job outside the home, at least until your financial situation has improved.


4. If you can’t afford to meet all of your financial obligations despite your efforts to improve your finances, pay the most important ones first. They include: your mortgage or rent; your home equity loan or any other financial obligation you may have secured with your home; your car payment if you need your car to get to and from work; your taxes; your child support obligation; and any federally guaranteed student loans you may owe. Also, expenses like groceries, utilities, phone service and medical insurance are important essentials too although you should minimize how much you spend on each of them.


5. Reduce your mortgage payment by refinancing your current loan. You may be able to qualify for a new, lower interest loan if your finances are not in bad shape.


6. Contact your creditors to find out if they will let you make smaller payments on your debts or interest only payments for a while. They may agree to your request, especially if up to now you have had a good payment history. Before you call your creditors however, review your budget to figure out how much you can realistically afford to pay each month.


7. Consolidate your debts. For example, if you have a lot of high interest credit card debt, transfer the balances to a card with a lower rate of interest, or borrow money from your bank or credit union to pay off your credit cards and any other high interest debts. Other debt consolidation options include borrowing against the equity in your home, your insurance policy, or against your 401(k) plan. However, be clear about the risks and drawbacks of any option you may be interested in.


8. Meet with a reputable credit/debt counseling organization about your debts. A counselor should take time to understand your financial situation, help you develop a budget and provide you with the information you need to avoid getting into financial trouble in the future. After becoming familiar with your finances, the counselor may suggest that you enroll in a debt management plan, which would involve negotiating lower payments with your creditors. However, the counselor would do the negotiating, not you, and rather than your paying your creditors directly, you would pay the credit counseling organization who in turn would pay them. Be aware that credit counseling organizations only negotiate with unsecured creditors so it will be up to you to contact your mortgage and auto lender to try to lower your payments on those loans. Also, steer clear of counseling organizations that try to push you into a debt management plan before they have spent time analyzing your finances.


9. Consider borrowing the money you need to make a dent in your debt--from a relative or close friend. However, be aware that you risk damaging your relationship with that person if you don’t pay back the money you borrow according to your agreement with one another. Therefore, don’t borrow from a friend or relative unless you are sure you can afford to repay them and unless you intend to treat the debt as seriously as you would any other debt you owe. Be sure that the terms of your loan are spelled out on paper, just as if you were getting a bank loan. Both of you should have a signed copy of the agreement. Also, it’s a good idea to let the lender place a lien on one of your assets to secure the loan. That way, if you file for bankruptcy later, your friend or relative will be a secured creditor in the bankruptcy and therefore, will be better positioned to get at least some of the money you owe to him or her. Unsecured creditors often get little or nothing in a bankruptcy.


10. If your finances are in such bad shape that none of the previous alternatives can help you, or if your mortgage lender, your auto lender or the IRS begins sending you threatening letters and you are afraid that you may lose your home, car or another important asset, schedule an appointment with a consumer bankruptcy attorney. The attorney will explain your bankruptcy options--filing a chapter 13 reorganization bankruptcy or a chapter 7 liquidation--and will advise you about the actions you should not take prior to filing if you want to gain maximum benefit from filing.



#46
Introduce Yourself / Re: What is your present profession?
November 18, 2008, 07:23:24 PM
 :) :) :) im a teacher....co teacher of fdaray here in Digos City  :) :) :)
#47
hello guys...pwede pa muapil sa contest ninyo? bisan dili ko taga bohol?at least nag paregister ko sa inyong site kay malingaw jud ko ug basa sa mga topics ninyo....GOD BLESS....


ELSIE J. DEMAULO
C/O APLAYA ELEM. SCHOOL
APLAYA, DIGOS CITY
PHILIPPINES
#48
 :) :)  thoughtful, hardworking, God-fearing..... :) :)
#52
Youtube Replay / Re: Last Movie You've Watched
September 26, 2008, 09:08:13 PM
MAMA MIA.....
#53
Introduce Yourself / Re: Mag-ila-ila lagi ta
March 17, 2008, 03:20:45 PM
Hello guyz, im not from BOHOL im a co teacher of Mr. fdaray here in Digos City. We are teaching here in Aplaya Elem. School Digos City.
Just call me Elsie.....
#54
Health and Food / Re: Its all about life....
March 14, 2008, 03:05:06 PM
Tnx Guyz.....more power to TUBAG BOHOL!!!
#55
Jokes and Humor / Re: joke time
March 14, 2008, 02:56:27 PM
Kapag nakita mo ako na marumi
warat warat ang damit
walang tsinelas at nasa gitna ng kalye.....
pls. huwag kang lalapit....
May shooting ako.....
BAWAL ANG FANS!!!!
#56
tinap anan nga pirit - YUM

kilawin
#57
Bible Study / Fear Not! Be Bold...
March 13, 2008, 03:49:22 PM
Fear NOT! Be bold
But now, this is what the LORD says - he who created you, O Jacob, he who formed you, O Israel: "Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine.

When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. For I am the LORD, your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior;

Isaiah 43:1-3a NIV

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"Do not fear, for those who are with us are more than those who are with them." Then Elisha prayed and said, "O LORD, I pray, open his eyes that he may see." And the LORD opened the servant's eyes and he saw; and behold, the mountain was full of horses and chariots of fire all around Elisha.

2 Kings 6:16,17 NASB

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Fret not thyself because of evildoers,
neither be thou envious against the workers of iniquity.

For they shall soon be cut down like the grass,
and wither as the green herb.

Trust in the LORD, and do good;
so shalt thou dwell in the land,
and verily thou shalt be fed.

Delight thyself also in the LORD:
and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.

Psalm 37:1-4 KJV

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Thanks be unto God for his amazing gift:
Jesus Christ, the only begotten
Son of God is the object of our faith;
the only faith that saves is faith in Him.
#58
Bible Study / Follow the Leader
March 13, 2008, 03:37:29 PM
Follow the leader
I am not writing this to shame you, but to warn you, as my dear children. Even though you have ten thousand guardians in Christ, you do not have many fathers, for in Christ Jesus I became your father through the gospel. Therefore I urge you to imitate me.

1 Corinthians 4:14-16 NIV

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Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children;

Ephesians 5:1 NASB

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And we desire that every one of you do shew the same diligence to the full assurance of hope unto the end: That ye be not slothful, but followers of them who through faith and patience inherit the promises.

Hebrews 6:11,12 KJV

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Thanks be unto God for his amazing gift:
Jesus Christ, the only begotten
Son of God is the object of our faith;
the only faith that saves is faith in Him.






Through the Bible in a Year - Readings for March 13
March 13: Matthew 14:22-36, Leviticus 22-23, Proverbs 31

#59
GOD teaches us to be brave when we're frightened, to be  strong when we're weak....but most of all He teaches us to hold unto HIM when things keep on falling........
#60
Fashion Trend / SELF DEFENSE AND SAFETY FOR WOMEN
March 13, 2008, 09:20:08 AM
If someone does either grab or demand your purse, give it to him; it's not worth risking yourself for whatever's in there! If your purse is large or heavy, you may be able to belt someone with it if you need to, but if you hit someone with your purse, don't be a sissy about it: pack a wallop that will hopefully knock the guy down and preferably out.

Women are often at risk for street crime and sexual assault on a date, partly because muggers don't know how strong and fast women can be, and largely because too many women don't know it either. If you've ever taken a self defense class, you've probably been surprised at just how competently you can defend yourself once you have some encouragement and little bit of training. If you haven't ever taken self defense, try it: even if you never need to use what you learn, you will gain confidence and strength; two things would-be bad guys want to avoid in their victims whenever possible!

Most self defense classes start by teaching students that screaming loudly and running away is often the best device in stopping an attack. Attackers count on the fact that, in the face of an attack, many people are overcome by a weird sense of shame, which makes them quiet and acquiescent. Battered women (and even abused wives) are the ultimate example of people who are attacked and respond with shame and self-blame, so that they don't want anyone to know what's happening to them. Keeping quiet about being abused means that the abuse continues until the woman gains the strength to leave or until her abuser kills her. On the other hand, women who report abuse to the police often stop being victims. On the street among strangers too, people who run and scream get attention, and very often get help.

Self-defense trainers often say that teaching women techniques to kick, grab, punch the testicles or to claw the eyes of an attacker is all very well, but when it push comes to shove, some crime victims freeze and can't use the aggressive fighting techniques covered in their programs. Something in the way women are trained from childhood sometimes prevents us from fighting back as affectively as we can, even when our bodies and our lives are at stake. Overcoming the urge to remain still is a large part of becoming effective at self defense, and part of the information female students receive in personal safety training involves confronting the conflicting emotions we feel when under attack.

Even if you've had self defense training tips in courses or seminars, it helps to have added advantages in the form of self defense products such as a stun gun or pepper spray key chain or defense spray pen. Sometimes just knowing you have a useful weapon in your purse can give you an air of confidence that warns bad guys away. When you're walking alone in the dark or going to your car in an unfamiliar or unsafe place, keeping your hand on your pepper spray (go here to learn more about pepper spray ingredients) is one good tip for crime prevention. Even a hardened attacker can't fight the vicious stinging of a pepper spray, and every woman, young or old, fragile or strong, can gain the benefit of time to run away and scream for help. :) :) :) :)


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#61
10 Tips to Deal with Difficult Parents Effectively

by Barbara & Sue Gruber
Barbara Gruber Online Courses for K-6 Teachers
Regular contributor to the Gazette
February 1, 2008

You probably never imagined contending with difficult parents when you dreamed of becoming a teacher. Unfortunately, almost every teacher is faced with an irate parent at some time. Not only is dealing with an angry or unreasonable parent upsetting, it’s time consuming. It’s only natural for parents to want the best for their child. Every now and then there are parents who refuse to accept that their child struggles in school. It can be easy for them to make excuses and blame others for their child’s troubles. Before you know it, you have a huge problem on your hands. Here are some tried and true tips to help you resolve difficult situations with parents.

1. Let upset parents know that your goal is to help every child succeed. Look for ways to find common ground. Tell parents that both of you want what’s best for their child and that you want to find ways to work together. When parents are able to look at the big picture and realize that you are on the same side, you can begin to work together to help their child succeed.

2. Be sensitive! No matter how tense a situation becomes, always remember that your student is someone’s precious baby. Open your conversation with parents by acknowledging the child’s strengths before you focus on areas of concern.

3. Good records that document dates, times, notes and decisions about students can be invaluable if problems arise. Keep track of communication you’ve had with parents throughout the school year. Make a set of parent communication folders by labeling file folders with the names of your students. Staple a few blank sheets of paper inside each folder. Use these folders to jot notes with details of important conversations and keep notes from parents organized. Inside each folder, write the date, name of the parent with whom you spoke, and any actions that need to be taken. Make sure to date notes that you receive from parents before you file them in the folders. If you respond to a parent’s note in writing, make a copy of your response and staple it to the parent’s note. After making phone calls to parents to discuss problems, take a few minutes to record any important information that was discussed. Parent Communication Files come in handy if you ever need to document how you’ve involved and informed parents after an incident at school. Keep these important folders inside the front of your desk drawer so they are at your fingertips instantly.

4. Be proactive! Contact parents as soon as you see academic problems or negative behavior patterns develop. You’ll have a better chance to change these patterns if you catch them early. Here are some things to discuss with parents:

areas where their child excels
if their child is attentive during lessons
where their child stands academically
specific areas where their child experiences difficulties
specific ways they can help their child at home
how well their child gets along with classmates
how long homework should take to complete
allow parents to share their concerns and ask questions
if you are unsure what a parent asks about, request specific examples
5. Be prepared to give specific examples to illustrate the points you make. Show parents examples of average and above average work for your grade level. White out the names on papers and use actual samples of students' work to clearly illustrate typical work for the grade level. The idea isn’t to compare students to one another, it’s to give parents a clear idea of exactly what your expectations are for students in your class.

6. Have you ever been caught off guard by a parent and answered a question in a way that you regret later? If a parent asks you a question that floors you, don't be put on the spot. It's fine to let parents know that you need some time to reflect on their question before you respond. Let them know that you'll get back to them in a day or two. Relaxâ€"you’ve just bought yourself time to explore options and perhaps bounce ideas off of a colleague before you respond to the parents.

7. Don’t be afraid to end a meeting with parents who become confrontational. Sometimes, the best thing to do is to provide an opportunity for all parties to cool down and reflect on the issues at hand by bringing the meeting to a close. Set a time and date to meet again. If you feel threatened, ask your principal, vice principal or school counselor attend the next conference.

8. It's awkward when parents share too much information with you. While it’s helpful to know things that directly impact a student, it can be problematic when parents disclose too much personal information. It’s not your job to be their therapist. Remind parents that during the limited time you have to speak with them, that you need to focus on their child and not on them.

9. Sometimes neighborhood issues spill over into the classroom. Don’t let yourself get dragged into disputes between families of children in your class. Problems escalate quickly if it’s perceived that you’re siding with other parents. When parents begin to share information about neighborhood squabbles, jump right in and tell them that it’s information that you don’t need to hear. Let parents know that you're receptive to their thoughts and ideas about their child, but you must stay out of personal issues between the families.

10. Watch for parents who hover relentlessly. I had a parent my second year of teaching who expected to volunteer in my classroom all day every day. I welcome parent volunteers, but this was ridiculous! She actually burst into tears when I told her she could only work in my room for an hour or two each week. I let her know that her daughter needed the space to develop social skills and gain independence. Then I told her about all of the other volunteer opportunities available at the school. Before long she was busy helping in the library and active in the PTA.

11. Be prepared for a worst case scenario. Read your contract or board policy and make sure you understand your rights and the steps to follow if a parent files a formal complaint.

Managing difficult parents can be one of the hardest parts about teaching. It’s easy to dwell on negativity and begin to question your skills as a teacher. Instead of worrying about how those parents perceive you, approach them and offer them the opportunity to join you as you help their child have the best year possible. Chances are the vast majority of parents of students in your class are thrilled that you are their child’s teacher! Focus on all that positive energy and have a great rest of the school year!

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#62
Health and Food / Re: Its all about life....
March 12, 2008, 03:13:09 PM
Yup, i really enjoy reading different topics in tubag bohol....i can share also some topics, hope you will like it....GOD BLESS and more power....
#63
Health and Food / HOW TO STAY YOUNG
March 12, 2008, 03:06:06 PM
The info below is priceless.  Enjoy. 



HOW TO STAY YOUNG
1. Throw out nonessential numbers. This includes age, weight and height.
Let the doctors worry about them. That is why you pay them.

2. Keep only cheerful friends.
The grouches pull you down. (keep  this In mind if you are one of those grouches;)

3. Keep learning:
Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening,
whatever. Never let the brain get idle.
"An idle mind is the devil's workshop."
And the devil's name is Alzheimer's!

4. Enjoy the simple things.

5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.
And if you have a friend who makes you laugh, spend lots and  Lots of time with HIM/HER.

6. The tears happen:
Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person who is with us our entire life, is ourself.  LIVE while you are alive.

7. Surround yourself with what you love:
Whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever.
Your home is your refuge.

8. Cherish your health:
If it is good, preserve it.
If it is unstable, improve it.
If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.

9. Don't take guilt trips.
Take a trip to the mall, even to the next county,  to a foreign country, but NOT to where the guilt is.

10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.  :) :) :)





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#64
Poems and Poets / A Poem About Girlfriends
March 12, 2008, 02:49:08 PM
A POEM ABOUT OUR GIRLFRIENDS

Someone will always be prettier.
Someone will always be smarter.
Some of their houses will be bigger.
Some will drive a better car.
Their children will do better in school.
And their husband will fix more things around the house.
So let it go, and love you and your circumstances.
Think about it!
The prettiest woman in the world can have hell in her heart.
And the most highly favored
Woman on your job may be unable to have children.
And the richest woman you know,
she's got the car, the house, the clothes~~~~
Might be lonely.
And the word says, "If I have not Love, I am nothing."
So, again, love you.
Love who you are.
Look in the mirror in the morning and smile and say,
"I am too Blessed to be Stressed and too Anointed, to be Disappointed!"
"Winners make things happen~~
Losers let things happen."
Be "Blessed" Ladies~~~~~
And pass this on to encourage another woman.
"To the world you might be one person,
But to the one person you just sent this to,
It could MEAN SO MUCH."

   


#65
Quotable Quotes / Beware!
March 12, 2008, 02:13:47 PM
 :)Beware! Dont always wishing for what you dont have. For real life and real living are not related to how rich we are.
   Luke:12:15
#66
Jokes and Humor / joke time
March 12, 2008, 10:56:39 AM
Pinoy nakabangga ug kano..
P: im sori..
K: im sori 2..
P: im sori 3..
K: wat are you sori 4?
P: abi nimo bulok ko ha..im sori 5..
K: are you sick?
P: ha,ha,ha,....sick daw...six gani.... :) :) :) :)
#67
 :)I am a soldier in the army of my GOD.The LORD JESUS CHRIST is my commanding officer, the HOLY BIBLE is my code of conduct. Faith, prayer, and the word are my weapons of warfare.
  I have been taught by the HOLY SPIRIT, trained by experience, tried by adversity and tested by fire....i will not give up, i will not turn around. I am a soldier, marching heaven bound, here i stand... FOR THE VICTORY... :) :) ;)
#68
Health and Food / Its all about life....
March 12, 2008, 10:27:19 AM
 :) ;)even if you do things in the right way .....some would be unsatisfied....some will not appreciate what you say and what you do, and there would always be people who would let you down too.... but for as long as you speak honestly from the heart, you'll be fine.....this is not a perfect world.... this is not a perfect life..... life is almost UNFAIR.... but LIFE loves the person who dares to live it.... :) :) ;)
#69
Anonymous Diary Blog / Re: An Invitation to Fortune
March 10, 2008, 03:04:53 PM
Hey, friends , I'm a new member of Tubag Bohol . Komusta akong mga   co-teachers of Aplaya Elementary School, Digos City Division . They are all busy preparing for the coming closing exercises on March on 25, 2008.

From Elsie Demaulo