Author Topic: Filipino and American cultures (Read 966 times)

lumine · « **on:** August 19, 2007, 02:24:17 AM »

I will just share this forwarded e-mail i got.

This really sheds light on both American and Filipino cultures.

American Kids: Move out when they're 18 with the full support of their
parents.

Filipino Kids: Move out when they're 28, may have saved for that nice house and are a week away from getting married .... unless there's room in the basement for the newlyweds.

American Kids: When their Mom visits them she brings a nice bundt cake and you sip coffee and chat.

Filipino Kids: When their Mom or Dad visits them she or he brings 3 days worth of food, and immediately begins to tidy up, dust & do the laundry.

American Kids: Their dads always call before they come over to visit them and its usually only on special occasions.

Filipino Kids: Are not at all fazed when their dads come over, unannounced on a Saturday morning at 8:00 and starts pruning the peach & lemon trees. And if there are none, he will plant some!

American Parents: You can leave your kids with them and you always worry if everything is going to be ok plus you have to feed them after you pick them up.

Filipino Parents: No problem, leave your kids there and if they get out of line your parents can set them straight .... plus they get bathed, fed and get told stories of when you were young.

American Kids: Always pay retail and look in the yellow pages when they need something done.

Filipino Kids: Just call their dad or uncle and ask for another dad's or uncle's phone number to get it done cash deal.

American Kids: Will come over to visit their parents and get only cake and coffee, no more.

Filipino Kids: Will come over to visit their parents for lunch and get B-B-Q, Pancit, Lumpia, Adobo and Rice and stay for late dinner as well.

American Kids: Think that being Filipino is a great thing,

Filipino Kids: Know that being Filipino is a great thing,

American Kids: Never ask the reason you have no food.

Filipino Kids: Are the reason you have no food.

American Kids: Will say 'hello" but are hesitant to hug.

Filipino Kids: Will give you a big hug and a kiss, and great big hand shake and pat you on the back.

American Kids: Hardly invite over to eat or they have to share their portion.

Filipino Kids: You always have your friends over to have something to eat regardless

American Kids: Call your parents Mr. and Mrs.

Filipino Kids: Call your parents Uncle & Auntie.

American Kids: Have never seen you cry.

Filipino Kids: Cry with you.

American Kids: Will eat at your dinner table and leave.

Filipino Kids: Will spend hours there, talking, laughing and just being together.

American Kids: Borrow your stuff for a few days then give it back.

Filipino Kids: Keep your stuff so long they forget it's yours.

American Kids: Know a few things about you.

Filipino Kids: Could write a book with direct quotes from you.

American Kids: Will leave their parents behind.

Filipino Kids: Will hang out with their parents.

American Kids: Would knock on your door.

Filipino Kids: Walk right in and say, "I'm home!"

American Kids: Are for a while.

Filipino Kids: Are for life.

American Kids: Will ignore this.

Filipino Kids: Will forward this. Hehe.

Michael Vincent J. Dosdos
Integrated Marketing Communications
School of Communication
University of Asia & the Pacific

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thegirlnextdoor · « **Reply #1 on:** August 23, 2007, 12:51:15 AM »

OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO not sure I agree 100% of what I have just stomached from up above.
I am a surrogate mother an American to Philippine children. I honestly pity them as they are living in a country that is so age discriminate when it comes to hiring persons for work.
I do not recall having cake brought to me, or my parents calling before they visited me?
I remember the Independence that my mother taught to me to be able to think and solve problems on my own with out having to disturb or bother them with my adult problems.
I remember holding down 3 full time jobs at once and paying for my own rental apartment.
My parents raised me well and there fore once I was educated working and living on my own why should my parents have to support my adult life when this time should be spent resting and enjoying what they would like to do once they have raised their kids.
What kind of kids ends up totally being responsible and not depending on their parents by the age of 28 years old?
The kids here also expect that if they have babies the grandparents pay for that also? No way!
Our parents do not have to clean our house they are visitors and besides we clean up after ourselves as we do not have mama and Dada doing it for us up to age 28 as we are use to looking after ourselves.
Here in the Philippines the kids always want to go to the mall and have the most expensive gadgets and cell phones not able to understand that their parents are having a struggle to put the bread and butter on the table?
No wonder the folks here look older at their age then we do in America. The harder you work the much faster you will become older and older looking.
I see it as a selfish disease to see some flat slob college man glued to the cartons at almost being 21 years of age, or even the play station and he is not bothering to help his family who works all day by maintaining the house here in the Philippines?
Why is that something to be happy about?
As my mother told me I can have what I want just so long as I help around the house after school and I have earned it.
This way i will take care of it better and appreciate it more as I know and understand the work and time I put on to earn the money to have it!

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #2 on:** August 23, 2007, 06:30:38 AM »

Forgive the article, pecious, because it just relies mostly on general stereotypes. Given, after reading the article, I noticed that there tends to be some truths and some false statements on part of the Filipino and the American. It really is due to the fact that both peoples are in different societies whose cultures are foreign from one another. In one side, you have the Filipinos who practice a form of filial piety--a general obeisance and respect for the elder--such is observed in Filipino social etiquette of the 'Mano Po'--which is when the Filipino child or younger person takes the hand of the elder and touches it to his/her forehead--thereby showing filial piety and respect. This is rather universal in most parts of East and South East Asia--you observe this in Japan and South Korea where the younger generation bow before the elder in showing respect. The same is seen in Laos, Cambodia and Thailand--where the younger generation will give a 'wai' when they clasp their hands together and bow before the elder--either a relative etc. For Indians, I've noticed my friends who touch their foreheands on the foot of their grandparents, uncles, aunts etc to show filial piety.

However, for western societies such as the United States, Canada, UK etc---there seems to be a prevalent discourse in the form of 'indivualism' and the concept of 'imuha imuha--akoha-ako'. The United States is a progressive country with multi ethnic customs--and tends to have more of a general acceptance of different cultures--considering the demographics of the country: 65% of Americans are European-Americans, 16% are Latin-Americans, 15% are African Americans and 5% being Asian-Americans and the rest being mixed races. It is without doubt that the United States tends to be rather heterogenous, whereas the Philippines is almost completely homgenous--most of the population are part of the Malay Race (the same with Malaysians, Indonesians, Bruneians, and Southern Thais) with over 95% Filipinos being Malay and a minor 3% having some kind of Spanish or European blood and another 2% having some kind of foreign Asian blood (Chinese, Japanese, etc). So of course one will observe a stronger unified Filipino culture compared to the United States--which really has a mixed culture due the 'salad bowl/ melting pot' phenomenon of the nation state.

I would like to say that not all Filipinos behave accordingly to the said article, as is the same for not all Americans behave accordingly to the said stereotype. Though such stereotypes are flawed because as Filipinos assimilate to American society--they too pick up and adopt 'American' traits--the same can be said for Americans who live and assimilate within the Philippines. The point is made.

Just dont take it too personally, guys. Take it lightly and laugh..

God Bless all of you!!

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lumine · « **Reply #3 on:** November 08, 2007, 07:31:12 PM »

Forgive the article, pecious, because it just relies mostly on general stereotypes. Given, after reading the article, I noticed that there tends to be some truths and some false statements on part of the Filipino and the American. It really is due to the fact that both peoples are in different societies whose cultures are foreign from one another. In one side, you have the Filipinos who practice a form of filial piety--a general obeisance and respect for the elder--such is observed in Filipino social etiquette of the 'Mano Po'--which is when the Filipino child or younger person takes the hand of the elder and touches it to his/her forehead--thereby showing filial piety and respect. This is rather universal in most parts of East and South East Asia--you observe this in Japan and South Korea where the younger generation bow before the elder in showing respect. The same is seen in Laos, Cambodia and Thailand--where the younger generation will give a 'wai' when they clasp their hands together and bow before the elder--either a relative etc. For Indians, I've noticed my friends who touch their foreheands on the foot of their grandparents, uncles, aunts etc to show filial piety.

However, for western societies such as the United States, Canada, UK etc---there seems to be a prevalent discourse in the form of 'indivualism' and the concept of 'imuha imuha--akoha-ako'. The United States is a progressive country with multi ethnic customs--and tends to have more of a general acceptance of different cultures--considering the demographics of the country: 65% of Americans are European-Americans, 16% are Latin-Americans, 15% are African Americans and 5% being Asian-Americans and the rest being mixed races. It is without doubt that the United States tends to be rather heterogenous, whereas the Philippines is almost completely homgenous--most of the population are part of the Malay Race (the same with Malaysians, Indonesians, Bruneians, and Southern Thais) with over 95% Filipinos being Malay and a minor 3% having some kind of Spanish or European blood and another 2% having some kind of foreign Asian blood (Chinese, Japanese, etc). So of course one will observe a stronger unified Filipino culture compared to the United States--which really has a mixed culture due the 'salad bowl/ melting pot' phenomenon of the nation state.

I would like to say that not all Filipinos behave accordingly to the said article, as is the same for not all Americans behave accordingly to the said stereotype. Though such stereotypes are flawed because as Filipinos assimilate to American society--they too pick up and adopt 'American' traits--the same can be said for Americans who live and assimilate within the Philippines. The point is made.

Just dont take it too personally, guys. Take it lightly and laugh..

God Bless all of you!!

you're right, onic! some are true,some are not. all we have to do is just simply laugh to avoid heart attack,hehehe!

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