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Good Tactics For a Clean Break-up
« on: December 20, 2008, 02:56:37 AM »

1. Make It Fast
The longer you take to get to the point (whether it's hours or days), the less they will take you seriously. And if you make it look like you're having a hard time going through with the breakup, they will think they can change your feelings or stick around in your life.

2. Be Honest
Don't sugarcoat the situation. If you're seeing someone else, tell them you're seeing someone else. My little sister broke up with a live-in boyfriend because she kissed another guy during a business trip. She told her boyfriend the deal -- it made it more concrete. Avoid cliche's like "I love you, I'm just not in love with you." Guys don't understand this stuff. If you've lost feelings for them, just say it. They can't argue with that. And avoid covering up -- "I just can't be in a relationship right now." Sure you can -- if you were still really into him, you'd be in a relationship with him.

3. Don't Feel Sorry for Anyone
People will beg, cry, get angry, or shower you with guilt. Just keep going, try to ward off your guilt. It's just going to slow you down and prevent you from getting to your objective. And never take someone back, or cancel breaking up because you feel sorry for them. Do you really want to stay with someone you feel sorry for?

4. Set Post-Breakup Rules
Let them know the deal: you won't be answering their calls or emails. You won't be accommodating them if they show up at your apartment. Eventually, if they have any personality and independence, they will stop bothering you -- but only if you stick to these rules. If you lay these rules out at the time of breakup, then they can't say: "why are you ignoring my calls?" Don't tell them what they are allowed to do -- they can call you all they want, but if you have stated you won't be answering their calls then you are well within your rights when you don't pick up.

5. Stick With It
The more you take them back, the less seriously they'll take your breakup attempts.

6. Neutral Site
Never do it at your place. You want to be able to leave on your own time. Neutral places are the easiest locations to make a quick getaway. The longer you've been together, the more likely it is that you'll be required to do it in person.

Breaking up takes strength. I have found that people who can't break up with someone they are no longer into are somewhat weak. Do what you want to do, and don't get swayed by the situation or the other person.



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Re: Good Tactics For a Clean Break-up
« Reply #1 on: December 20, 2008, 03:04:44 AM »
Hallo Indayon!

Your guidelines are very clear and realistic, but to underwent such situation without moral support from outside (friends or families) is extremely difficult. Having children is another factor because as a woman and mother you try your best to keep the family intact. This is my experience.

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« Reply #2 on: December 20, 2008, 04:18:52 AM »

I know, Manay, that it would be totally different if there are children involve. You tend to think more for your kids' benefit than yours. That's the mothers' love.

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« Reply #3 on: December 22, 2008, 10:12:34 AM »
lisura pod ning imong guidelines, gingah. di ba kaha ta murag ihawon sa kasakit ani...
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