I read this article in the Philippine Daily Inquirer the other day and 'til now, i'm still reflecting on the ideas stated therein.
Knowing when to end itBy Ruby de Vera
Philippine Daily Inquirer
Posted date: April 08, 2008
MANILA, Philippines—In graduate school, we had a course called Project Management. One of its modules was called When to Pull the Plug. Here we were taught how and when to cut the losses before a project went bankrupt.
It’s the same thing with relationships. It’s never easy or pleasant to end something that used to give us happiness and a glimpse of eternal bliss. But, at the same time, that song was right—love just ain’t enough.
What should constitute grounds for ending relationships?
The first and most obvious is cheating. Calling someone your girlfriend or boyfriend usually means it is an exclusive relationship—no seeing, dating, or having sex with other people. Cheating calls into question one’s fitness for a relationship.
Unwarranted jealousy and paranoia can also be a reason. Your partner is jealous of everything—your friends, your job, your skills, your family. You are always suspected of doing something behind his or her back, thus the never-ending interrogation. If you don’t break his heart now, you’ll break his neck eventually.
It’s necessary to make compromises throughout the relationship. However, when you find that you’re making 90 percent of the compromise, and your partner barely makes an effort for the other 10 percent, think long and hard about where it’s going.Lastly, when you wake up one day and don’t recognize yourself anymore, it’s time to call it quits. When you find yourself cutting off people from your life just to please your partner, or you’re giving up things you love to do just so you wouldn’t fight, it’s not worth it.
Rearranging your life for the person you love is romantic, but in reality it’s never going to work. Your life is you. The things you do contribute to the person you are now.
Spending more time making up than actually being together is defeating the purpose of what you’re together for. When that starts to happen, get your cue.Linkback: https://tubagbohol.mikeligalig.com/index.php?topic=11225.0