Japanese women in sexless relationships turn to sex volunteers

[benelynne]

Modern Japanese women: dealing with sex, lies and the dried-flower syndrome


By JEFF KINGSTON
GOODBYE MADAME BUTTERFLY:  
Sex, Marriage and the Modern Japanese Woman, by Sumie Kawakami. Chin Music Press, 2007, 219 pp., $20 (cloth)

Who wants to be a woman in Japan? Misery can't get much worse than the sexless relationships, dreary marriages, loneliness, patriarchal blues and stressed out women portrayed in these riveting interviews. These ordinary women, and one rather different man, tell it like it is and force us to reconsider contemporary Japan and its modern pathologies.

Sumie Kawakami is an experienced and intelligent reporter who manages to get her subjects to bare their souls and share their anxieties in a book I found hard to put down. Early on she draws our attention to a sad paradox: Japan has a world beating sex industry while most Japanese don't seem to be having much sex, at least according to a Durex survey. And, those who are getting their share are not very enthusiastic; Japan ranks second to last in the satisfaction category, just above China.

Sexless relationships are on the rise, apparently because its just too much bother. Horny housewives and lascivious "OLs" are a media induced fantasy as most women, Kawakami writes, "wanted their lovers to fill their loneliness, emptiness and lack of self-worth." Apparently, this is nigh upon mission impossible in Japan.

Finding the right lover is not so easy, but we learn that at least women can avail themselves of a clinic that offers them intimate encounters with sex volunteers. Women can select their volunteers from a catalog brimming with intimate details, and, yes, size does seem to matter. The clients say they are grateful for the service while there appears to be no shortage of male volunteers; money isn't everything.

To read more, check out http://search.japantimes.co.jp/cgi-bin/fb20080127a1.html

[orChids]

Sus mio,I know that,by talking with different Japanese mothers .While some men in our town rush themselves to  a nearby (.....)where there is a kind of services offered like bl_w j_b,pungko2x etc.The reason is that most japanese women are cold in bed.

[B:)]

Amazing what people can do to justify their need!

[Lorenzo]

Sus mio,I know that,by talking with different Japanese mothers .While some men in our town rush themselves to  a nearby (.....)where there is a kind of services offered like bl_w j_b,pungko2x etc.The reason is that most japanese women are cold in bed.

Really? Too conservative ra?

[lindy]

Sus mio,I know that,by talking with different Japanese mothers .While some men in our town rush themselves to  a nearby (.....)where there is a kind of services offered like bl_w j_b,pungko2x etc.The reason is that most japanese women are cold in bed.

how come Orchids?

[Lorenzo]

I always had a perception that Japanese women were very liberal in their sexuality; Japanese-American girls for example are known for that.