What Makes a Long Term Relationship?

[slackware]

What Makes a Long Term Relationship? - Qualities of which the partners are aware or not
By: Stefan Anitei, Science Editor - Softpedia



Why do some couples divorce after one week, while others celebrate their ‘golden wedding’. Sex drive ‘pushes’ people closer to one another, but it’s more than the simple biological and behavioral factors than keep them together.

Like begets like. This is the folk perception of the fact that husbands in many cases look like brothers. And genetic researches have revealed that opposites do not attract.

J. Philippe Rushton, a psychologist at the University of Western Ontario, found that heritable personality traits can make 34 % of the decision for friendship and mate selection. "The main theory is that some genes work well in combination
with each other," Rushton told LiveScience. "If these genes evolved to work in combination, then you don't want to break that up too much for your offspring. Finding a mate with similar genes will help you ensure this."

A genetically similar spouse means more chances for a happy marriage, and child abuse levels were found lower when genetic similarity is high between spouses. In the end, a parent sacrifices more for a child who is his copy.

Even if women were found to be attracted by men more genetically dissimilar during the fertility peak periods, it is obvious that people are drawn to individuals with the same attitudes and values, essential during the initial attraction. For long commitments, likeness of personality, which can require more time to assess, is more important, as found by psychologist Eva Klohnen at the University of Iowa found in a 2005 study of newlywed couples. "Comedy can also help a relationship. But the importance of humor is different for men and women", said Eric Bressler of McMaster University.

He found that women find attractive the men who make them laugh, but men enjoy the company of women who laugh at their jokes.

But, in the end, what drives a relationship: sex or love? Brain scanning techniques revealed that in the case of people who had recently fallen in love, brain areas connected to love are more active than the sexual ones. "Romantic love is one of the most powerful of all human experiences. It is definitely more powerful than the sex drive," said Helen Fisher, an anthropologist at Rutgers University.

But the main factor maintaining a long-term relationship seems to be fidelity. Men and women value it alike.

A team at the Cornell University led by Stephen Emlen asked about 1,000 people aged 18 to 24 to rate some attributes, like physical attractiveness, health, social status, ambition, and faithfulness, on the importance they give to each characteristic for a long term relationship. People involved in long-term relationships were more precise about what they appreciated in potential mates. Fidelity came fist, followed by physical appearance, family commitment, and wealth and status. "Good parenting, devotion, and sexual fidelityâ€"that's what people say they're looking for in a long-term relationship", Emlen said.

[hazel]

Fidelity in general.

[Bambi]

Love,affections, honesty, tolerate each other, a bit of freedom, money existence and no boring sex life.

[C2H4]

Korek!

Fidelity jud. No sharing. 

I've discovered pud nga dapat mag complement inyong sense of humor. Couples must laugh at and with each other.

[ms da binsi]

mao na akong gi post nimo C2. nga i know nga you will have a long term relationship sa imong banana kay kabalo kaayo ka mopakatawa... mao man nay sexreto bisan way patid2x.

[C2H4]

Mokatawa nalang jud ko ms belle para makalimtan ang mga utang

hahaha

pero tinuod na, malingaw man akong banana nako, makalimot na gud siya nga wala na siya napatiri!

Wahahaha! TMI (too much info!)

[ms da binsi]

hahhahhahahahhhaahhahhahhaahhahhahaha

wa na baya mi patid2x mag holding hands ra man ok na...kapoy naman ug katwa, labaw pa sa patid...

[C2H4]

Bitaw, ok na nang holding hands oist kay romantic kaayo...

[Bos_Intong]

Honesty jud! 

Lisud kaayo og walay honesty!

[slackware]

superb sex! lisud ug walay sexual satisfaction!

[Bos_Intong]

superb sex! lisud ug walay sexual satisfaction!

Ang uwag, pwede ra man gud nga matunaw kung maligo ta og init tubig! pero ang 'trust' pwede nga bawnun sa lubnganan!

... i thank you... bow...

[slackware]

trust condom? pwede dad-on sa lubnganan? nag quickie cguro b4 namatay? or wala na naibot! ahahahahahha!

[ms da binsi]

Honesty jud! 

Lisud kaayo og walay honesty!

I agree with you Bos...

[Happy]

Fidelity in general.

I agree

[Barbaro]

To have such a relationship, you have to have mutual love, good communications, and compromise. It takes a lot of hard work on each partner in the relationship. If you have the commitment, then you can stay together, if not the relationship will NOT endure.  

[ms da binsi]

tinuod gyud Barbs. Hey how are you? peeps here were looking for you...

[Bambi]

Korek!

Fidelity jud. No sharing. 

I've discovered pud nga dapat mag complement inyong sense of humor. Couples must laugh at and with each other.

Ug di na gjod madala ug katawa ang partner.........gitikon na lang 

[slackware]

financial security! love will jump out of the window if nagkutoy na ang tiyan!

[ms da binsi]

one reason pod na... pero ako di oi, i used to be a very hard working person, I can earn on my own, i dont care ug naay datung ang guy o wala basta lang palangga lang ko...mao ra gyud na, ug naay datung ug hangal pod... goodbye to you my trusted freind    gyud sija...

[slackware]

one reason pod na... pero ako di oi, i used to be a very hard working person, I can earn on my own, i dont care ug naay datung ang guy o wala basta lang palangga lang ko...mao ra gyud na, ug naay datung ug hangal pod... goodbye to you my trusted freind    gyud sija...

goodbye to you my trusted freind  
we've known each other since we are nine or ten....ahahahhah seasons in the sun man ron!

[ms da binsi]

kanta baya na Hadji, karaan nga kanta...

[slackware]

gi revive man na sa westlife last 2000

[ms da binsi]

mao ba? wa na ko kadungug ana...

[slackware]

hahahahaha! timing jud maoy pagsikat ana na kanta mao sad pagbuwag namo sa akong exgf!

[ms da binsi]

gikantahan nimo ana ha? bantog ra nga kabalo ka ana kay karaan gud na sha....

[slackware]

gikantahan nimo ana ha? bantog ra nga kabalo ka ana kay karaan gud na sha....

actually, siya ang nikanta para nako! heheheheheeh! it was her favorite!

[ms da binsi]

kaluoy ni Poloy!!!! hahahahhaa

[slackware]

ok lang! mas gwapa man sad ang nipuli! hehehehehehe!

[ms da binsi]

bitaw, mo tuo gyud ko anang giingon nila nga masirad-an gani ka sa bintana ajaw kabalaka kay maabrihan gyud ka sa pwertahan...mao ba na?

[slackware]

pero sa case nako karon kay mura naman kog gi bartulina! hahahahahaaha!

[ms da binsi]

hahahhahahahahhha sigi lang kay lalab man kaha nimo??? ok ra na...

[slackware]

bartulina tawon...wala nay door or window ni open! permi nalang close! unsaon pag abot sa swerte? hahahahahaha!