Author Topic: MEN GIVE LOVE FOR SEX WHILE WOMEN GIVE SEX FOR LOVE- Is it True? (Read 7083 times)

Gener · « **on:** October 12, 2008, 10:05:28 PM »

MEN GIVE LOVE FOR SEX WHILE WOMEN GIVE SEX FOR LOVE- Is it True?
By: Gener Marcelo

While it maybe true to some extent or instances because as for my own vocabulary there is only a hairline difference between love and lust especially from men's perspective. To explain my point, allow me to lay the premise of my opinion. Most, if not all men are sexually aroused (pardon my words for I couldn't think of any substitute terms for this) first by visual stimulation then physical stimulation (in that particular order and its order is irreversible but it could be at the same time). This fact could explain why most men wanted to make love with lights on.

Men's definition of love and lust manifest on his behavior during the "act". From lust, the mood now suddenly shifted to love, and men are focusing more on his performance on bed and how he can satisfy his spouse. Most men (Iâ€™m not saying all) who loves their spouse or partner, (hey guys, Iâ€™m not promoting pre-marital sex here huh?) believes that both party should enjoy the love making act (with the exception of those who engage in paid service. That is, most men manifest their love thru that act. However, what most men failed to realize is the complete understanding of women's anatomy and women's nature in general- resulting to a failed mission. This predicament will explain why it is difficult for men to defend the common notion that Men give love for Sex.

Women, on the other hand are from Venus. What men failed to discover is that women needs emotional and sensual stimulation more than physical. (From sight, smell, touch, taste & hearing while men only focus on sight). Women requires more pre-commencement activities (I donâ€™t want to use the common term we usually know) that may include the setting of background music, the physical arrangement of the matrimonial bed, the room, the lightings, from aromatic candles to scents, night times to be worn down to perfumes and of course, personal hygiene before a love making can be successfully consummated. Of course, also not to forget is women's anatomy.
Most men are quite adamant about these because of men's natural urge to consummate the sudden feeling of "wanting to make love and let's do it ASAP". But this does not mean that men only wanted to show love just to have sex, it's not always the case in general.

Well, men and women couldn't understand much of each other because Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus.

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kiamoy · « **Reply #1 on:** October 13, 2008, 03:58:56 AM »

nowadays.. with media exposure and ever-changing society. we'll never know.

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mistyeyed · « **Reply #2 on:** October 21, 2008, 02:37:52 PM »

most guys they love to in order to have sex...boys defend yourselves...hahaha

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bol-anon nga cebuano · « **Reply #3 on:** October 22, 2008, 01:06:29 AM »

sex is good when it is bounded by love. so if men give love for sex so it's should be women give sex for love, right? because if the man truely loves the woman and the woman truely loves the man then she will give everything to please him. is it true ladies?
as for sex bounded by lust, that's totally different since most of it happen in an instant. if man tells a woman that he loves her but his goal is just to have sex with her, that's not love but it's lust. love with lust is not going to last since the intentions are not true. that man will feel the same to other woman he will meet along the way.

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mistyeyed · « **Reply #4 on:** October 23, 2008, 01:45:25 PM »

sex is good when it is bounded by love. so if men give love for sex so it's should be women give sex for love, right? because if the man truely loves the woman and the woman truely loves the man then she will give everything to please him. is it true ladies?
as for sex bounded by lust, that's totally different since most of it happen in an instant. if man tells a woman that he loves her but his goal is just to have sex with her, that's not love but it's lust. love with lust is not going to last since the intentions are not true. that man will feel the same to other woman he will meet along the way.

not true...not all women gives in to sex even if how much she love the man...if the woman is so emotional & does'nt think twice why she need to give in to sex becuase of love,sa kanya yon...kung ano ang view nya sa giingon nga love..girls tubag mo,lets speak...hehe

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mistyeyed · « **Reply #5 on:** October 23, 2008, 01:48:42 PM »

but i like this phrase: "SEX IS GOOD WHEN IT IS BOUNDED BY LOVE" please add " and when it is inside the marriage compound...oh anong say mo..

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bol-anon nga cebuano · « **Reply #6 on:** October 24, 2008, 12:42:23 AM »

not true...not all women gives in to sex even if how much she love the man...if the woman is so emotional & does'nt think twice why she need to give in to sex becuase of love,sa kanya yon...kung ano ang view nya sa giingon nga love..girls tubag mo,lets speak...hehe

try to quote me if im wrong, if dili willing ang babaye and then ok ra sa laki, that means love. pero if dili mo give in ang babaye nya biyaan sa lalaki. lust ra to ang feeling sa lalaki dili love.
pero usual jud sa mga lalaki mo ask jud ana and most of the women mo give in because they love their men and hadlok sila biyaan. mao nay giingon nga walay bright sa gugma tanan mabugo.

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lindy · « **Reply #7 on:** October 24, 2008, 12:52:33 AM »

BNC-dili na gugma kon dili uwag maoy makabugo. Lahi ang gugma ug uwag.

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bol-anon nga cebuano · « **Reply #8 on:** October 24, 2008, 12:56:26 AM »

BNC-dili na gugma kon dili uwag maoy makabugo. Lahi ang gugma ug uwag.

mao gani akong gipasabot. ang babaye nga magpakabuang ug higugma sa lalaking uwagan mao nay bugo. kay kung walay babaye nga magpailad sa mga lalaki wala say momabdos ug sayo. walay maghikog nga gibayaan lang human pahimusli. ambot asa kaha jud kaha pwedeng basolon ani. ang lalaki ug ang babaye?

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lindy · « **Reply #9 on:** October 24, 2008, 01:03:10 AM »

parehas lang siguro BNC kay pareho man nanguwag... apan kon ang babaye dili gyud mobigay ang resulta ana kay rape man.

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bol-anon_ko · « **Reply #10 on:** October 24, 2008, 01:26:40 AM »

people remember that it always takes two to tango..

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A Layman · « **Reply #11 on:** October 24, 2008, 01:27:28 AM »

In a literal sense, kon adunay mutual feeling and intentions to both the man and the woman to sexually explore each other's anatomy, one may call the affair as 'lovemaking' because both love to do it. Otherwise, it's a qualified lust compounded with greed because that affair would be a one way affair, without much concern for the other who is the partner. Lovemaking in my viewpoint is a harmonic motion of the heart and mind (simulation of wavelengths) which shortens its frequency while approaching its peak we commonly call the 'orgasm'. That's why every man and woman at the very instance of the affair usually experiences some sort of irregular breathing and gasping, in a way, the shortening of breathing frequencies and the instantaneous dulling of the mind. In fact, others succomb to heart failure and brief memory lapses due to the uncontrollable emotional intensity while doing it. Remember Yin and Yang? or Amon and Isis of the Greek mythology? Certainly they are the perfect symbol of harmony in love.

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mistyeyed · « **Reply #12 on:** October 25, 2008, 12:34:17 AM »

try to quote me if im wrong, if dili willing ang babaye and then ok ra sa laki, that means love. pero if dili mo give in ang babaye nya biyaan sa lalaki. lust ra to ang feeling sa lalaki dili love.
pero usual jud sa mga lalaki mo ask jud ana and most of the women mo give in because they love their men and hadlok sila biyaan. mao nay giingon nga walay bright sa gugma tanan mabugo.

hahahaha...hala noh,luoya gud..mahadlok biya-an...di siguro oi...kay gilami-an mao di kabiya-an ang natilawan...

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mistyeyed · « **Reply #13 on:** October 25, 2008, 12:37:38 AM »

mao gani akong gipasabot. ang babaye nga magpakabuang ug higugma sa lalaking uwagan mao nay bugo. kay kung walay babaye nga magpailad sa mga lalaki wala say momabdos ug sayo. walay maghikog nga gibayaan lang human pahimusli. ambot asa kaha jud kaha pwedeng basolon ani. ang lalaki ug ang babaye?

pastilan,,,kinsa kaha ang dapat basolon...siguro ug kinsay uwagan,,,hahaha

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Gener · « **Reply #14 on:** October 25, 2008, 05:05:45 PM »

My two cents

Nowadays, it could be both ways, man or woman could be on the reversal role but still i would say that mostly applicable to men - giving love for sex, that is simply because of this male chauvinism. For me, Sex is not a privilege but a gift from God and I like the way it was defined in the previous discussion above that it is best if it's within the boundary of love. However, there lies another argument, that if sex is consumated with love then, sex can be tolerated between partner even before marriage. Well, I guess it could be another argument that we have to answer.

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mistyeyed · « **Reply #15 on:** October 26, 2008, 05:21:57 AM »

mao nay giingon ug it depends...dependi sa taong nisulod ug mosulod anang butanga ug unsa ang iya prinsipyo sa kinabuhi ug unsay iyang gituohang tama...

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #16 on:** October 26, 2008, 05:51:25 AM »

Lust is natural for us. However, we must illustrate the virtue of self-control.

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mistyeyed · « **Reply #17 on:** October 26, 2008, 05:55:38 AM »

korek

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Bambi · « **Reply #18 on:** October 26, 2008, 08:30:47 AM »

Lust is natural for us. However, we must illustrate the virtue of self-control.

Absolute!

At my younger age (Philippine times) was deadly inlove to a good looking boyfriend in which our romances lasted for almost 5 years. I thought by myself: "This man or no other one". We were young, crazy and eager..almost to do it... but we ended our platonic relationship painful and in a friendly way. Numbers of seductions followed but I kept myself still unaffected and surrendered to the man whom had given me his name.

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mistyeyed · « **Reply #19 on:** October 28, 2008, 04:29:02 AM »

bravo!!!congratulations,u did the right thing bam

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-<GEC348>- · « **Reply #20 on:** October 28, 2008, 08:05:40 AM »

And is it still love that men give for sex when they reach what Gener wrote about in Mid Life Crisis?

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bol-anon nga cebuano · « **Reply #21 on:** October 28, 2008, 11:20:12 PM »

i know what sex is all about at a very young age. it because i love to mingle with the older guys and i can always hear what they are talking. what came up in my mind is that when i reached the legal age i will try that one as well. until time passes by, i passed puberty, adolesence and then adulthood. i didn't realize everything until i reached the peak. that scenarios like this all depends on both sex. if a man and a woman both agreed to do it, that seems to fair enough. at least no force needed. but they must think of the consequences later. so before going into that, you must learn and know what sex is all about. sex education is vital to your learning not only on those what you learn from school but also for everyday living. if you have a broaded knowledge about sex, the better. it is because you know already what to do, what's not to do, what's good and what's bad. i don't support abortion but i do support sex education. if all the youths of today are properly oriented about what sex is all about, there could have been less abortion, early marriage, less STD's and rape.

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Bambi · « **Reply #22 on:** October 29, 2008, 02:51:57 AM »

And is it still love that men give for sex when they reach what Gener wrote about in Mid Life Crisis?

GEC348,

I think 99% male self-affirmation like "ME....Tarzan and YOU Jane"

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Bambi · « **Reply #23 on:** October 29, 2008, 03:12:28 AM »

mao gani akong gipasabot. ang babaye nga magpakabuang ug higugma sa lalaking uwagan mao nay bugo. kay kung walay babaye nga magpailad sa mga lalaki wala say momabdos ug sayo. walay maghikog nga gibayaan lang human pahimusli. ambot asa kaha jud kaha pwedeng basolon ani. ang lalaki ug ang babaye?

BnC dear, LOVE is an individual privilege sacred affection to a person of your choice and SEX is a game which both parties enjoy with salaciousness and the result out of it (unwanted child) is the loser. Who is to blame?......a man who is suffering a permanent erection and/or a woman with an "open house" underwear? BOTH....for they are feckless and just a victim of that so- called weakness to overcome temptation.

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-<GEC348>- · « **Reply #24 on:** October 29, 2008, 07:00:12 AM »

Who is to blame?......a man who is suffering a permanent erection and/or a woman with an "open house" underwear? BOTH....for they are feckless and just a victim of that so- called weakness to overcome temptation.

When you are in a state of glorious joy, could you ever think of its result?

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buwadsanga · « **Reply #25 on:** October 29, 2008, 09:32:30 AM »

bothways siguro yan oy! hehehe! i love to love and make sex too!!! naay daghan dinha make love for money!

Perhaps Love - John Denver, galig mao ning kantaha ang mo sulbad sa atong gi utingkay

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Moyhua · « **Reply #26 on:** October 29, 2008, 01:19:24 PM »

Making Love Out of Nothing At All

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buwadsanga · « **Reply #27 on:** October 29, 2008, 01:22:11 PM »

lisoda ana angie, unsaon paghimo ana nga pang eunoch man na! hahaha!

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slackware · « **Reply #28 on:** October 30, 2008, 12:00:04 AM »

Making Love Out of Nothing At All

translation in bisaya... naglo-lo! hehehehehe

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buwadsanga · « **Reply #29 on:** October 30, 2008, 08:31:39 AM »

hahahahahha!

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Moyhua · « **Reply #30 on:** October 30, 2008, 08:38:26 AM »

ssshhhh!Mao nay gi ingon nga "Sex is all in the mind".

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A Layman · « **Reply #31 on:** October 30, 2008, 12:58:13 PM »

Tinuod bitaw nga ang mind sad ang siyang nagmugna sa mga sexual desires. Partly korek diba? Sa Eninglis pa, "Sex is the horizontad desire of the mind consumated by the vertical emotions of the heart and that of the trembling flesh." Pag horizontal, kamunduhan yan, pag napa vertical kana, ay kalami murang sangko na sa langit! LOL

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-<GEC348>- · « **Reply #32 on:** October 30, 2008, 01:51:16 PM »

Tinuod bitaw nga ang mind sad ang siyang nagmugna sa mga sexual desires. Partly korek diba? Sa Eninglis pa, "Sex is the horizontad desire of the mind consumated by the vertical emotions of the heart and that of the trembling flesh." Pag horizontal, kamunduhan yan, pag napa vertical kana, ay kalami murang sangko na sa langit! LOL

Mura pud diay sa bayle?

The vertical performance of an otherwise horizontal expression.

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A Layman · « **Reply #33 on:** October 30, 2008, 02:45:04 PM »

Sa bayle naa nay imong intention labi na ug sija ra kanunay ang imong isajaw. Higayon mo na paggakos sa imong giangayan. Kay ug manggakos ka ug babaye nga wa makaila nimo, pwede kang kasuhan ug sexual molestation, o di ba frustrated rape. Sa Bayle gihatagan ka ug higayon para mabati nimo ang init sa iyang lawas o di ba masimhot nimo ang kahumot sa iyang buhok bisan ug sapal ra ang sampo niya. Mao nga ang bayle is a legal way of raping a girl because doing it habitually is always pardoned by music, di ba? LOL

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mistyeyed · « **Reply #34 on:** October 30, 2008, 08:18:27 PM »

hahaha,,,advantage daw ang bayle sa lalaking di kaingon...

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A Layman · « **Reply #35 on:** October 30, 2008, 08:54:55 PM »

Tinood bitaw na Mist kay lisod jod maninguha sa baje nga imong giangayan. Dali ra ug wa ka kaayo moangay kay ipaagi ra man na sa tiaw tiaw.

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-<GEC348>- · « **Reply #36 on:** October 31, 2008, 07:04:05 AM »

Mao nga ang bayle is a legal way of raping a girl because doing it habitually is always pardoned by music, di ba? LOL

Oh, it's the music that makes an otherwise punishable act legal

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Moyhua · « **Reply #37 on:** October 31, 2008, 09:24:08 AM »

Correct jud! Bayle lagi pero naa jud ang limitasyon while naggakus ilawon sa bombilya og sonata.

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A Layman · « **Reply #38 on:** October 31, 2008, 03:31:04 PM »

Ngano man lagi nga sa baylihan, sikat man ang babayeng kanunay guyuron ug sayaw. Kanang babayeng in demand di gyod mabulad. Sa ulitawo pa ko ako ang ulahing moguyod. Malooy man sab ko mosudong sa babayeng nahibilin sa bangko. Syempre ang hunahuna nya way siya angayi.

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alfonso_potane · « **Reply #39 on:** October 31, 2008, 04:48:37 PM »

mao nga goyuron nalang gyud sa ato pa huna huna niya angay na jud ka niya adto layman...

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