When children come into the equation, dynamics change.
"When children are involved, usually a couple will try harder to keep a relationship. If parents separate, though, they are helped to do it with the least damage and to maximize the opportunity for continued meaningful parenting," he said.
But infidelity issues are not the only reason couples seek help.
"In fewer than 50 percent of the couples I see, infidelity is an issue," Janet estimates. "Many come because they want make a last effort before they call it quits. Others have already separated and need some advice to explore options how to do it in the best way, without causing additional damage, especially when children are involved."
Some couples need counselling because of their different communication styles and habits, which could become a threat in the future.
Kate, an Australian expatriate, and her husband Dave, wanted marriage counselling as a preventive measure.
"When you are together for many years, you know the tunes of your spouse. You've seen and heard it all. With a counsellor around, you suddenly discover new tunes, hidden messages, you have not read before. Counselling helps to make these messages clearer, you can nail them and work with them better in the future."
Thus, building and supporting a meaningful relationship, especially in an expatriate framework, seems to be the big challenge.
"People have to invest in the gym for example, and in time and effort with therapy. For couples and families, the expatriate lifestyle is one of the hardest on the planet," Beaumont says.
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