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How to Overcome a Matrimonial Crisis
« on: October 06, 2007, 05:32:18 AM »
How to Overcome a Matrimonial Crisis - Don't conceive a baby if there's a serious crisis in the couple!
By: Stefan Anitei, Science Editor - Softpedia



To overcome any type of matrimonial crisis, first you have to be 100% sure that there is a real mutual desire to solve the issues and stop searching for the ‘guilty one’; instead, try to find the possible cause(s) of your problems, and only then will you two have a chance of discovering the proper remedy.

It is better if an expert in family therapy acts as mediator or, at least, an experienced person in which the spouses can confide. It’s all about humility and admitting that you have a problem. And remember, this cannot be done in one day; ‘heling’ is a gradual process, closely linked to the analysis of the causes that have motivated the crisis.

Amongst the most common causes that induce a matrimonial crisis are:
_ always displaying a bad mood
_repeating the failures and defects all day long
_never agreeing with the other
_turn any trifle into a big problem
_not expressing what you think or feel
_not being empathetic with the other (putting yourself in his/her place)
_ always wanting to impose your own ideas/criteria
_involving the children in the conflicts
_not being available (too much work)
_letting your family intervene in the conflicts between you and your husband/wife

The main remedies suggested by the psychologists are:

_be more tolerant and empathetic with your partner
_take into account you own imperfections
_take care of the details
_mutual respect
_concentrate on the positive aspects in the couple
_do not continuously try to correct/change all minor defects that your partner might have
_appreciate your partner’s virtues, abilities and strong points
_ try to always ‘refresh’ your relationship
_express positive feelings
_try to avoid the routine
_do not alienate your partner from his/her family or isolate him/her socially

Many couples think that conceiving a baby can be a solution to the conflicts. In fact, the birth of a child can definitively ruin an already damaged relationship. This can be the last straw, as the couple cannot adapt to the new circumstances and the disputes increase. Many women decide to divorce when they're pregnant, because the situation becomes unbearable for them, and they don’t want their child to be brought up and educated in such an conflictual environment.


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Re: How to Overcome a Matrimonial Crisis
« Reply #1 on: January 24, 2011, 05:39:08 PM »
Many couples think that conceiving a baby can be a solution to the conflicts. In fact, the birth of a child can definitively ruin an already damaged relationship. This can be the last straw, as the couple cannot adapt to the new circumstances and the disputes increase. Many women decide to divorce when they're pregnant, because the situation becomes unbearable for them, and they don’t want their child to be brought up and educated in such an conflictual environment.

Hmm, mao ba?  ???


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Re: How to Overcome a Matrimonial Crisis
« Reply #2 on: January 24, 2011, 10:05:14 PM »
Many couples think that conceiving a baby can be a solution to the conflicts. In fact, the birth of a child can definitively ruin an already damaged relationship. This can be the last straw, as the couple cannot adapt to the new circumstances and the disputes increase. Many women decide to divorce when they're pregnant, because the situation becomes unbearable for them, and they don’t want their child to be brought up and educated in such an conflictual environment.


It's a selfish love. Though shall not marry if can't bear such responsibility, to have a child is a blessing..married couple is longing to have it. It is the primary purpose why commit ones  self "for better or for worst.. in sickness and in health"... to commit no responsibility, why not try "one night stand..?"  ;)

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Re: How to Overcome a Matrimonial Crisis
« Reply #4 on: January 31, 2011, 05:23:03 AM »
It's a selfish love. Though shall not marry if can't bear such responsibility, to have a child is a blessing..married couple is longing to have it. It is the primary purpose why commit ones  self "for better or for worst.. in sickness and in health"... to commit no responsibility, why not try "one night stand..?"  ;)

Good point, but what about for those who are not married?

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