'm sorry Precious, but i think that you we're the one who started saying about, that we Filipinos lived and married outside our race claimed to be a proud Filipino, but we really are not because if we are, we wouldn't marry outside our race and live in other country. you can read again your post on the Expats in Bohol topic.
Did you ever know that you judge us before you know us?
Quote from: preciousNpolite on October 28, 2007, 11:40:27 PM
So what are you saying now? you marry not for love and happiness? You marry for what then? Why not live back and forth in each others country so you can both be happy thats the often way mixxed couples do it here?
I see many Filipino ladies entertaining about five open yahoo windows each with different men from all over the world, come on whats going on you people are to be about love?
So if your not happy being married to another country man then why did you get married at all to them?
Is it for financial positioning and climbing? thats not a good reason for marrying!
That sounds desperate and like a user but look at the brighter side once your established you can invite your kin to the other countries from the Philippines to join up with you, as for me its been a long time since I have seen my family as well and I can see them upon my visit back into America?
No as a permanent resident holder here in the Philippines and being from the states we are not allowed to take citizenship single or dual here.
So there fore we can not petition our family here to your Philippines country how you are wellcome to over there.
Its a big world of difference Happy.
Your name says Happy girlfriend you are so respected and treated with more fairness in America then what I have been put through here with.
I have been asked to pay for several hospital births maybe costing around 150.000 pesos total by now to people who are not even related to me.
I help them. Do you get asked to help pay for births of persons you know or do not know in America?
Philippine persons expect allot from foreigners over here but we are not doing that to persons over there when they visit in America.
You should be happy that sooner or later when the time is right you can petition your family over there.
I have many Filipino friends who can admit and be honest that they marry for the greener pastures and tell me that if I am told any different from other Filipino's who marry outside of their own race it is for the same reasons why they did the same and but are to ashamed to admit it.
The women here do it to Philippine men as well but the style is to court and the woman does not plan against becoming pregnant and does not tell her partner she is not taking precautions then the woman ends up pregnant and the Filipino man fears the parents and is there fore forced to get married to her.
Thats another way how women think they secure support by forcing a marriage do to pregnancy here. Just so they have a means of support to me that a cheap and desperate shot and I think there should be a fine for woman who do not take birth control seriously and do not discuss the chances of getting pregnant and warning the man as it is the woman who must present herself from becoming pregnant.
Happy a woman does not need a man to support her in order to be happy. She needs to take pride in herself and prove to herself she can go to work and be with her own people and not have to get married at all.
I see many happy Philippine couples here and I see many who are not so happy and involved with out of the marriage relationships.
I am sure your husband wouldn't mind staying here with you in the Philippines.
I am doing it for my step kids and my husband since he is a deck officer merchant marine and does not make near to what your husband is making but am happy.
Do not take my messages personally its just how foreigners see the situation also.
I also notice that the Filipino Marries someone much older then them?
So maybe once the old spouse dies off then the citizen ship is attained already and you have his pension for a short term marriage and can marry another as your still young and full of energy.
Six years ago I did not see this many mixxed couples as I see today here but many meet on the internet and the Filipino happily tugs and pulls along by her boyfriend or husbands fingers instructing him on what she wants him to buy for her.
He looks at me like as if saying "Jesus Christ!"
I just smile and laugh, I am use to seeing that scene here many times over and over.
Once she starts asking for that family of hers to eat a sack of rice paid for by him he starts to bail and it's no deal for a marriage.
Its a warning sign to him that his pocketbook will be drained on her family and kin.
Thats society today.
I'm not making it up I am told by the guys themselves who come here and and if single they have five women tugging on their sleeves at once, like shark after its kill! (LOL)
Happy you can divorce him as he is a foreigner if you that unhappy no one forced you to get married outside your race or country.
If you married you Filipino here and grew apart then your stuck as there is no divorce law but have instead annulment.
There are ways to make your unhappy happy your not in a bad position and I am sure your husband is a great guy.
For me American men are hard to get along with ...he he he he!
Bottom line is do not marry some one for financial positioning merry for love and compliment.
Make it work out so your both happy.Women need not force men into unplanned situations just to merry for the security of her life.
Woman are just as liberated and can go to work and carry their own load and not need to put up with a man.
Happy I want you Happy!
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