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Ultimately, Seligman points to optimism not only as a means to individual well-being, but also as a powerful aid in finding your purpose and contributing to the world:

    "Optimism is invaluable for the meaningful life. With a firm belief in a positive future you can throw yourself into the service of that which is larger than you are." -- http://www.brainpickings.org/

Seligman, however, also corroborates what’s perhaps Burkeman’s most central admonition â€" that the extreme individualism and ambition our society worships has created a culture in which the fear of failure dictates all. As Seligman puts it:

    "Depression is a disorder of the ‘I,’ failing in your own eyes relative to your goals. In a society in which individualism is becoming rampant, people more and more believe that they are the center of the world. Such a belief system makes individual failure almost inconsolable.

    [...]

    "Teaching children learned optimism before puberty, but late enough in childhood so that they are metacognitive (capable of thinking about thinking), is a fruitful strategy. When the immunized children use these skills to cope with the first rejections of puberty, they get better and better at using these skills. Our analysis shows that the change from pessimism to optimism is at least partly responsible for the prevention of depressive symptoms."

He then defines optimism and pessimism, pointing out the challenge to self-identify as either, and offers a heartening, heavily researched reassurance:

    "The optimists and the pessimists: I have been studying them for the past twenty-five years. The defining characteristic of pessimists is that they tend to believe bad events will last a long time, will undermine everything they do, and are their own fault. The optimists, who are confronted with the same hard knocks of this world, think about misfortune in the opposite way. They tend to believe defeat is just a temporary setback, that its causes are confined to this one case. The optimists believe defeat is not their fault: Circumstances, bad luck, or other people brought it about. Such people are unfazed by defeat. Confronted by a bad situation, they perceive it as a challenge and try harder.

    [...]

    "I have seen that, in tests of hundreds of thousands of people, a surprisingly large number will be found to be deep-dyed pessimists and another large portion will have serious, debilitating tendencies towards pessimism. I have learned that it is not always easy to know if you are a pessimist, and that far more people than realize it are living in this shadow.

    [...]

    "A pessimistic attitude may seem so deeply rooted as to be permanent. I have found, however, that pessimism is escapable. Pessimists can in fact learn to be optimists, and not through mindless devices like whistling a happy tune or mouthing platitudes…but by learning a new set of cognitive skills. Far from being the creations of boosters or of the popular media, these skills were discovered in the laboratories and clinics of leading psychologists and psychiatrists and then rigorously validated."

Seligman begins by identifying the three types of happiness of which our favorite psychology grab-bag term is composed:

    "‘Happiness’ is a scientifically unwieldy notion, but there are three different forms of it if you can pursue. For the ‘Pleasant Life,’ you aim to have as much positive emotion as possible and learn the skills to amplify positive emotion. For the ‘Engaged Life,’ you identify your highest strengths and talents and recraft your life to use them as much as you can in work, love, friendship, parenting, and leisure. For the ‘Meaningful Life,’ you use your highest strengths and talents to belong to and serve something you believe is larger than the self."

Last week, Oliver Burkeman’s provocatively titled new book, The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking, prompted me to revisit an old favorite by Dr. Martin Seligman, father of the Positive Psychology movement, who was once elected President of the American Psychological Association by the largest vote in the organization’s history and under whom I studied in my college days. Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life (public library), one of these 7 must-read books on optimism, was originally published 20 years ago and remains an indispensable tool for learning the cognitive skills that decades of research have shown to be essential to well-being â€" an unlearning those that hold us back from authentic happiness.

By Maria Popova


What 25 years of research reveal about the cognitive skills of happiness and finding life’s greater purpose.


“The illiterate of the 21st century,” Alvin Toffler famously said, “will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn.” Our outlook on the world and our daily choices of disposition and behavior are in many ways learned patterns to which Toffler’s insight applies with all the greater urgency â€" the capacity to “learn, unlearn, and relearn” emotional behaviors and psychological patterns is, indeed, a form of existential literacy.

Quote from: chicogon on June 29, 2012, 12:03:57 PM
Plus, maayo sad kaayo mangamot... hawid sa itanumay bah

Bitaw, inantigo jamo, di jud modalipsay ang gikumkomay...

Quote from: islander on June 29, 2012, 10:21:13 AM
sureness ba kaha ni nga tininuod ug di lang photo ops ug usa ka turista...

on sekand tots, morag tinuod tungod kay komportable siya sa iyang hood nga plastic.  pagka-cute gyod intawong piktyura.

Hmm, mora lagig plucked iyang eyebrows...

Quote from: bugsay on June 29, 2012, 09:40:38 AM
tam-is nga pahiyum sa usa ka batan-on nga naningkakay bisan sa linghod pa nga pangedaron.

...nahimuot nga naglantaw sa layong unahan diin nakita niya nga siya gipanalanginan sa kaharuhay... 

Angay himoong kaldereta... ang nagbitad... 

Quote from: islander on June 29, 2012, 01:43:09 AM
ka-cute!  unsaon, di ko kahimo ana kay duha ra man akong tiil.  wa pa gyod koy ikog nga motabang ug balanse.

Sayang. Wa unta to nimo ipaputol ang imong ikog...

Si Islander ni sa gamay pa...

He he, mora bayag doktor ang dating...

Quote from: islander on May 08, 2012, 01:38:15 AM

He he, a Bugsayesque gesture...

Hmm, a Lennonism?

KSP ra diay...

He he, gitabonan, unya gikalibangan pa jud...

Bwahaha!

Born kagiron: Cory Kung

Mustafafa Chicoy

Quote from: islander on June 29, 2012, 10:55:53 AM
this is my missing cat feeder and waterer.

Hmm, artifact ni sa Mingming dynasty?

Quote from: islander on June 29, 2012, 10:52:41 AM
sa amo kay ang tawag ani kay "alien_tracer.com".

He he, gamiton sa imong pagpangita sa imong Tsaynis lilatibs?

Bwahaha!

Quote from: philippines on June 28, 2012, 11:44:24 AM
The Mines and Geo-sciences Bureau (MGB) of the DENR region 7 said in a report that it issued a "cease-and-desist" order (CDO) to the unlicensed operators but to no avail as the miners continue to ignore it.

Way ngipon opisinaha...

Bwahaha!   

Quote from: philippines on June 28, 2012, 12:29:23 PM
No less than five drug suspects were nabbed during a weeklong massive campaign against drug addiction conducted by the Philippine National Police in different towns including a drug suspect based in the city who eluded arrest even as their residence was already surrounded by operatives.

Weeklong unya 5 ray nadakpan? Pagkatoytoy...

Contemplating thus: "To jump or not to jump, that is the question..." 

Dia ra ay, nibalhin diay... 

Quote from: islander on June 27, 2012, 11:57:32 AM
imo man sad tang pahilakon, hubag... 

Crying is good for your health...

Quote from: islander on June 27, 2012, 12:47:40 PM
labi nag giusap usa unya gitutho.

Labi nag palutawan og pustiso...

I Will Survive
by Gloria Gaynor

At first, I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinking, I could never live without you by my side
But then I spent so many nights thinking, how you did me wrong
And I grew strong and I learned how to get along

And so you're back from outer space
I just walked in to find you here with that sad look upon your face
I should have changed that stupid lock
I should have made you leave your key
If I'd known for just one second you'd be back to bother me

Go on now, go, walk out the door, just turn around now
'Cause you're not welcome anymore
Weren't you the one, who tried to hurt me with goodbye?
Did you think I'd crumble? Did you think I'd lay down and die?

Oh, no, not I, I will survive
Oh, as long as I know how to love, I know I'll stay alive
I've got all my life to live, I've got all my love to give
And I'll survive, I will survive, hey, hey

It took all the strength I had not to fall apart
Kept trying hard to mend the pieces of my broken heart
And I spent, oh, so many nights just feeling sorry for myself
I used to cry but now I hold my head up high

And you see me, somebody new
I'm not that chained up little person still in love with you
And so you felt like dropping in and just expect me to be free
But now I'm saving all my loving for someone who's loving me

Go on now, go, walk out the door, just turn around now
'Cause you're not welcome anymore
Weren't you the one, who tried to break me with goodbye
Did you think I'd crumble? Did you think I'd lay down and die?

Oh, no, not I, I will survive
Oh, as long as I know how to love, I know I'll stay alive
I've got all my life to live, I've got all my love to give
And I'll survive, I will survive, oh

Go on now, go, walk out the door, just turn around now
'Cause you're not welcome anymore
Weren't you the one, who tried to break me with goodbye
Did you think I'd crumble? Did you think I'd lay down and die?

Oh, no, not I, I will survive
Oh, as long as I know how to love, I know I'll stay alive
I've got all my life to live, I've got all my love to give
And I'll survive, I will survive, I will survive

The Birth of Venus, detail

Artist: Sandro Botticelli
Year: c. 1486
Type: tempera on canvas
Dimensions: 172.5 cm × 278.5 cm (67.9 in × 109.6 in)
Location: Uffizi, Florence

Bonfire of the Vanities (Italian: Falò delle vanità) refers to the burning of objects that are deemed to be occasions of sin. The most infamous one took place on 7 February 1497, when supporters of the Dominican priest Girolamo Savonarola collected and publicly burned thousands of objects like cosmetics, art, and books in Florence, Italy, on the Mardi Gras festival. Such bonfires were not invented by Savonarola, however. They were a common accompaniment to the outdoor sermons of San Bernardino di Siena in the first half of the century.

The focus of this destruction was nominally on objects that might tempt one to sin, including vanity items such as mirrors, cosmetics, fine dresses, paintings, playing cards, and even musical instruments. Other targets included books that were deemed to be immoral, such as works by Boccaccio, and manuscripts of secular songs, as well as artworks, including paintings and sculpture. --Wiki

Quote from: islander on June 27, 2012, 12:28:03 PM
kanang guwapita nga naay awom ibabaw sa baba.  naputong tawon si inday kay kulatado man sa banang palahubog nga di pa gyod mohatag sa abot sa pag-drive ug jeepney kay naay kabit.  wa na kaantos.  mas bale mapriso na lang siya.  na, natuman na gyod ang iyang pangandoy.  sayop lang ni inday kay ulo iyang gimartilyo.  ang itlog unta.

He he, the egg fetisher strikes again...

Disturbing news indeed...

He he...

Quote from: chicogon on June 28, 2012, 05:30:41 AM
Diha koy sakyanan sa una, Isuzu sedan pero tawag sa mga Amerkano (parishioners) kay "tuna can with glass on it!!!" 

Bwahaha! Di lang pun-on og pasahero kay magsinardinas jud!

He he, guilty eyes kay nakaihi na diay...

He he, 2+2=1...

Makahilak man pud tag asido ani...

Quote from: statesville on June 28, 2012, 04:35:49 AM
Maka akyat-barko pa kaha ni siya?   

Ikarga sa pulley...

Quote from: chicogon on June 28, 2012, 05:14:22 AM
Hmmmm... pwede manghingan? Bwahahaha 

Please do!

Solve her problems by giving her a bigger problem!!!

Sulbara ang problema!!!

Quote from: chicogon on June 28, 2012, 05:24:22 AM
Hmmmm pwede kaau ang tarsier mo kumbabit...

Labi na kon parehas kag dunggan ni Will Smith...

Quote from: chicogon on June 28, 2012, 05:45:37 AM


June 2012

Way picture ani nga luto na?

Bwahaha! HuMANtikaan!

Oi, grabe na jud akong eyestrain. Abi nakog hot legs...

Kanay amahan, maneguro jud nga di mauwawan ang anak...

Quote from: TUBAGBOHOL.com on June 28, 2012, 06:38:35 AM
labing sakit kanang ingnon ka nga "Pwede friends lang ta?"

He he, sabagay, love should not be allowed to ruin a beautiful friendship...

Quote from: islander on June 27, 2012, 01:54:29 PM
sumala ba pod kun unsay nahitabo sa imong unlan.

Hmm, ang unlan maoy gisudlan sa itlog nga hiniktan?

Quote from: bugsay on June 27, 2012, 01:45:42 PM
layo layo na gyud nig naabtan......mini van nahimong hiniktan?

Quote from: islander on June 27, 2012, 01:54:29 PM
ni-apologize bitaw ko, hehe.  mao niy gitawag ug evolution.  ang itlog bitaw, mahimo mang hiniktan. 

Bwahaha! Lain pud tong itlog nga hiniktan?

Shy nga baki? Now pa ko...

Outbox na. Ang secretary maoy nag-procrastinate...

Quote from: TUBAGBOHOL.com on June 26, 2012, 04:34:09 PM

Waiting for SPA

Nya pamasahe na pood...

How about this? What is the name of this dish? 

Kini pud, what is the name of this dish? 

Quote from: TUBAGBOHOL.com on June 27, 2012, 06:04:21 AM

Sinugba

Longfinned bullseye, Cookeolus japonicus. Local name: baga-baga.

Mas lami ni kon sagolan og chicharon bits...

Quote from: TUBAGBOHOL.com on June 27, 2012, 08:34:52 AM
Basin usa nila mao tong nanokdok ug martilyo sa ulo sa bana.

He he, asa kaha ani nila...

Quote from: chicogon on June 27, 2012, 08:36:35 AM
Hmmm ang inspektor dili kaayo binabaye ang pangitsura...

Hmm, dili kaayo binabaye? Unsa diay?

Kalami sa puso sa saging! Pero kinahanglan ani nga side dish:

Horror movie fears: They are afraid of being attacked by the "Toilet Demon."

This might sound childish but none of the reasons listed above make universal sense. Yes, the points listed above are based upon decades of my scientific research, but they are not applicable to every group of women that visits the bathroom in flocks. Thus, there could be just one other reason that answers this mysterious questionâ€"there is a Toilet Demon, so horrific and sadistic that it can only be defeated by groups of women! My decade-long research has established that the Toilet Demon has two, major weaknessesâ€"apart from these, it is pretty much undefeatable. Firstly, it cannot withstand human beings obsessed with putting things on their face and secondly, it is highly susceptible to idle talk. Thus, only groups of women, armed with their cosmetics, gossip-ridden brains and incessant chatter can defeat it!

It's a "Monica from Friends" scenario: They are all neat freaks.

Those who have watched Monica (played by Courtney Cox), would instantly realize what I am referring toâ€"Monica’s character is essentially suffering from a kind of OCD. This refers to Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. What is the most common symptom of OCD? It is a tendency to repeatedly clean something. Most OCD atients will try to find spaces that tend to remain filthy and clean them repeatedly and most OCD patients are women! So, there is every chance that many of them are
huddled together in the bathroom, cleaning every nook and crevice to vent-out their negative, sorry, psychotic tendencies.

It's all talk: They need to "steal" some chat time.

This point is probably going to get some arguments but I think every lady will have to admit that by nature, they are gossip-mongers. Leave apart the minority that actually talks less, the rest are born with a system that needs a fuel of constant conversation, no matter how meaningless it might be. So at workplaces, the washroom serves as the perfect place to steal some gossiping time. No boss can object to it. No Human Resources Management Tool can find out whether the bathroom time is being used “sincerely.”

They suffer from biological bias: There's just too much going on there.

This is among the most potent of Behavior Management Methods. It is a scientifically-established fact that women tend to think too much, worry  excessively and have a relentless urge to know about problems of others. I believe, with the amount of unnecessary clutter that occupies the female mind, they need a constant form of psychological fine-tuning.  Thus, visiting the toilet stalls in groups and blurting-out everything and anything is their form of Group Therapy, helping them to be a bit saner.

This point will be easily understood and will get a lot of nodding headsâ€"God has been slightly unkind and biased when configuring the female anatomy. Just look at what guys need to do when they need to empty their bladdersâ€"it is basically Stand & Deliver. Yes, there is the customary shakedown to ensure that any liquid traces don’t make it back to the confines of the jocks but overall, it is rather simple. At the most, a couple of guys might talk about some sort of rash or having pulled back their foreskin during their latest bedroom adventure. Compare this to the kind of things a woman has to deal with. I am not talking just about tampons here but the entire range of pads, birth control stuff, thongs, pantiliners and God knows what other inventions and contraptions. The point is that women just need more time, space and group advice to handle such complicated stuff.

Don't blame it on them: It's a hormonal thing.

Among the most widely-acknowledged facts about women, one tends to surface as the absolute unchallenged realityâ€"actions of women are ruled by their Hormones and not their brains. We have all suffered the mood swings of our mothers, sisters, girlfriends, wives, female colleagues and many other forms in which the female kind forms a part of our lives. If you ask Gynecologists, the Menstrual Cycle isn't the easiest puzzle to solve. For starters, it tends to vary across nearly every woman. The repercussions of the slightest delay, change in frequency or any related symptoms, can mean a whole lot in terms of diagnostic information. Considering that women need to overcome this menstrual challenge so often, is it really surprising that they need to seek each other’s expertise when visiting the loo?

They need help: It's their group therapy time.

The toilet-centric groupie habit of women can be best interpreted as something akin to Group Therapy. For those who don’t know this psychiatric tool, Group Therapy is when a few individuals are called upon to talk about their problems, confess to each other and vent their anger.

This is among the most potent of Behavior Management Methods. It is a scientifically-established fact that women tend to think too much, worry excessively and have a relentless urge to know about problems of others. I believe, with the amount of unnecessary clutter that occupies the female mind, they need a constant form of psychological fine-tuning. Thus, visiting the toilet stalls in groups and blurting-out everything and anything is their form of Group Therapy, helping them to be a bit saner.

Blame it on evolution: They want to show guys that they are independent.

This point establishes my highly developed scientific mindâ€"just ponder for a second and think, how come men and women seem to do everything different? This is something that has been established over a long period of evolutionary changes. I believe that during the development of Early Man (and Women), millions of years ago, the Neanderthal, Cro-Magnon or some form of the Early Man had women doing things opposite to men, intentionally.

You see, at that time, the human brain wasn’t very developed. Thus, the thinking patterns and actions of men and women at that time weren’t the most impressive. With their semi-developed brain during the Iron Age, or a bit before that, women started going to their forested bathrooms in groups just because they noticed that men would go alone!

By Kapoor Anubhav | MensXP.com â€" Mon, Apr 16, 2012 5:07 PM PHT


This question has engaged the attention of “Man”-kind for ages but the endless speculation hasn’t provided a constructive conclusion, yet.Rather than merely conjecturing like most members of my genus, I am taking a step forward. Rather than merely putting-up lame, one-liner jokes as to why women visit the restroom in groups; I will systematically dissect and reason-out every possible theory. The attempt here is to provide some degree of closure to this question that continues to baffle logic and scientific reasoning. If I am successful, I believe that despite my humble qualifications, I would have promoted myself to the league of top-notch Human Behavior Experts and Evolutionary Biologists. If not, I really don’t have much to lose, so here I go with my analysis:

Quote from: bugsay on June 25, 2012, 11:06:35 PM
censored pa ang tunga...

He he, naa pay bolder designs, di lang pwede i-publish diri...

Hmm, aside from Shakespeare, Ms. Isle apparently reads these books:

Quote from: bugsay on June 26, 2012, 02:07:53 PM
perti'ng mo dogie ang tag-iya...

Lalim dogihon?

Quote from: chriswise on June 27, 2012, 01:53:55 AM
Wala pajod ni mahusay?

Malagmit ikaw ray makahimo sa ingon, Bay Chris...

Unsa kahay sala aning mga bayhana...

Lami ang puti nga unod ani...

Daghan jamong natamaan
Niini nga sanglitanan...

Quote from: islander on June 26, 2012, 09:26:20 AM
mainantoson si santoson sa mga utokon nga hungaw-hungawon kay tambotsohon.

Hmm, santoson tood pero bogolbogolon pood...

Quote from: philippines on June 19, 2012, 10:54:58 PM
Beware: UK Job Scam

The email goes like this:
We are looking for a positive, enthusiastic, flexible and organized person/couple who are happy to pitch in and be part of the family to care for our two kids aged 4 and 18 months,Help with homework, reading, play, dinner and bath time. Must enjoy and be a good cook and provide healthy meals and be responsible for all the children’s cleaning and laundry.

All Nursery duties are required e.g cooking the children meals, ensuring the children bedrooms are clean, washing the clothes and helping out generally round the house. Older child goes to nursery school throughout the day (starts primary in Sept), younger child is at home but will start nursery mornings from July.

We are looking for someone with previous experience and will be checking references and right to work.

Hours- 8-30am â€" 3-30pm
Charge- Sole charge/ Shared on occasions
Days- Monday to Friday
Rate per-month- £6,000.00

Hayahaya sweldoha...

Quote from: islander on June 26, 2012, 11:49:37 AM
hehe, naa na gyoy maruya nga okoy tawon, finally.

Hmm, saging ug tawgi nga gisaktan og bolinaw sa Balingsya?

Quote from: islander on June 26, 2012, 11:02:16 AM
hahaha!  when kaha naay marukoy nga mosumpay ani.

Hmm, unsang klase sa marukoy? Maru nga okoy, o maruya nga kolokoy?

Quote from: islander on June 26, 2012, 12:08:14 AM
basta matso
dili guwapo.
(suko ka? bayouth diay ka.)

Hmm, taym sa. Unsa man ang bungoton, matso?

Quote from: islander on June 26, 2012, 09:33:34 AM
ikog?  and you call it fore?  come on, that's hindplay any way you look at it.

Depende na sa posisyon nila eventually, oi...

Quote from: islander on June 26, 2012, 09:31:28 AM
bitok diay, sa laktod nga pagkasulti.  ascaris, with which lorenz must be very familiar with.

Hmm, golden bitok nga taga sa Balingsya?

Quote from: bugsay on June 26, 2012, 09:23:25 AM
ang butanganan sa IUD mao ra'y akong nakit-an

Quote from: islander on June 26, 2012, 09:30:18 AM
dako-dakog ilong diay ning imong gipasabot da...

Pervert!

Quote from: bugsay on June 26, 2012, 09:25:44 AM
dunay mestiryo nga naglimin ana'ng IUD nga mura'g bowbow..

Hmm, tanghaga nga way secret agent nga makalugtab?

Quote from: bugsay on June 26, 2012, 09:20:40 AM
basin gitangtang ang kandado..

Bwahaha! Nagkinahanglan og locksmith kay natay-an na ang yawehanan?

Quote from: islander on June 26, 2012, 09:11:36 AM
OT: bugs, ang imo laging avatar kay morag IUD.

Hmm, mora pud og buwagaw nga bowbow...

Quote from: bugsay on June 26, 2012, 09:08:51 AM
marukoy = maru nga okoy

Kini maoy tirada nga naghubit sa kaugalingon...

Quote from: islander on June 26, 2012, 09:14:56 AM
none of the above.  wa makuha ni shakespeare ang ikaupat nga klase, kanang gitawag nga "santoson".

Hmm, di kaha "antosonon"?

Pure and simple habal ra tawon na, oi...

Quote from: islander on June 26, 2012, 08:59:36 AM
hoy, mga malesyosho presyosho, gitaod lang tawon ang tiil ana uy.  nidagan man god ug liko ug iyaha, mao nga giseguro na lang ug lansang.

Unsa diay na, manikin?