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Another Beautiful Song...

Got To Believe in Magic
version by: Rico Yan and Claudine Barretto

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-a_vNmkWly8

Take me to your heart
Show me where to start
Let me play the part of your first love
All the stars are right
Every wish is ours tonight, my love

Pity those who wait
Trusting love to fate
Finding out too late that they've lost it
Never letting go
They will never know the ways of love

Got to believe in magic
Tell me how two people find each other
In a world that's full of strangers
You've got to believe in magic
Something stronger than the moon above
'Cause it's magic when two people fall in love

I may never know
Why I need you so
All I need to know is this feeling
Handle it with care
We were born to share this dream, my love

Got to believe in magic
Tell me how two people find each other
In a world that's full of strangers
You've got to believe in magic
Something stronger than the moon above
'Cause it's magic when two people fall in love

Yet again, another song dedicated to Miss Ginger...

IKAW
Regine Velasquez

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dwT_yZ4JG0w&NR=1

Ikaw ang bigay ng Maykapal
Tugon sa aking dasal
Upang sa lahat ng panahon
Bawat pagkakataon
Ang ibigin ko'y ikaw

Ikaw ang tanglaw sa 'king mundo
Kabiyak nitong puso ko
Wala ni kahati mang saglit
Na sa iyo'y may papalit
Ngayo't kailanma'y ikaw

Ang lahat ng aking galaw
Ang sanhi ay ikaw
Kung may bukas mang tinatanaw
Dahil may isang ikaw
Kulang ang magpakailan man
Upang bawat sandali ay...
Upang muli't muli ay...
Ang mahalin ay ikaw

Ayyy, that's a really cute song, Ms Belle. I like that song too.

Here's another song dedicated to Miss Ginger and her special someone...

Kailangan Ko'y Ikaw
Regine Velasquez

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ulge86WUn5w

Hehehe!

Nawad-an ug paglaum si Miss Belle nga makakita sa atong hero nga si Mr Sigbin

This is dedicated to Miss Ginger and her special someone 

KAILANGAN KITA
Gary Valenciano

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gDQm5GJOvIo&mode=related&search=

Sa piling mo lang nadarama
Ang tunay na pagsinta
'Pag yakap kita nang mahigpit
Parang ako’y nasa langit


REFRAIN 1
Minsan lang ako nakadama ng ganito
Pag-ibig na wagas at sadyang totoo
Nananabik itong aking puso


CHORUS
Kailangan kita, ngayon at kailanman
Kailangan mong malaman na ikaw lamang
Ang tunay kong minamahal
At tangi kong hiling ay makapiling ka lagi

REFRAIN 2
Minsan lang ako nakadama ng ganito
Pagmamahal na hindi magbabago
At habang buhay na ipaglalaban ko


CHORUS
Kailangan kita, ngayon at kailanman
Kailangan mong malaman na ikaw lamang
Ang tunay kong minamahal
Ang lagi kong dinarasal

Kailangan kita, ngayon at kailanman
Kailangan mong malaman na ikaw lamang
Ang tunay kong minamahal
At tangi kong hiling ay makapiling ka lagi
Ooh oh ooh


CODA
Kailangan kita, ngayon at kailanman

HOW DID YOU KNOW
Gary Valenciano

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S3zJj3WkISo

INTRO

I remember so well,
The day that u came into my life
You asked for my name;
You had the most beautiful smile
My life started to changed;
I wake up each day feeling alright
W/ u right by my side
Makes me feel things will work out just fine

CHORUS:
How did u know i needed someone like u in my life
That there was an empty space in my heart
You came at the right time in my life
I`ll never forget how u brought the sun to shine in my life
And took all the worries and fears that i had
I guess what i`m really trying to say
It`s not everyday that someone like u comes my way
No words can express, how much i love u

INTERLUDE

(Repeat Chorus)

murag erotika diay Miss Belle...

Sir Jun,

pakit-a na mi sa inyong pics...

hehehe

mura'g suspense-thriller

I second the motion, Miss Belle.

Kinahanglan na gyud ipakita si Mr Sigbin,

Miss Ginger has been waiting in suspense for far too long...

Balaknon kaayo ang mga Boholano guys, Miss Belle noh?

Mao nang daghan mag gukod gukod nga tsiks.

Didto dauga sa balak.

Cute kaayo na nga movie, Miss Belle.

Crush man gud na nako si Harrison Ford.

Hehehe.

Quote from: Sigbin II on October 15, 2007, 08:29:37 PM
Simbaku lang!

Hehehe!

Ning react si Mr Sigbin, na-igo.

Pilian diay ka, Sir?

Quote from: benelynne on October 16, 2007, 12:09:13 AM
The TV documentary was finally shown last night, October 14 at 10:15.

As I had mentioned earlier in this thread, it was a great publicity for Bohol. The cute, cuddlesome tarsier has touched the hearts of Japanese. Lito, the sanctuary warden, has also won over the Japanese audience for his passion in protecting the endangered primate endemic to Bohol. I am sure many more Japanese will be interested to visit our beautiful island.

At the end of the program, an appeal for donations was made to the viewing public. Two bank accounts were designated for this purpose. Does anyone know about the organizational setup of the sanctuary? I am just a little concerned that the funds will indeed go towards the upkeep and propagation of the tarsier.

Nganong nangayo man sila ug donation, Mr Benelynne?

Dili ba diay na funded sa gobyerno?

Nindot imong balak, RV.

Hehehe!

Layo ra kaayo Miss Bambs kung ihapit pa ang balikbayan box sa Germany, hasol kaayo sa imong part.

mr galen,

naa ka sa tagbilaran?

ubani si Miss Mari tan-aw mga computers, kahibaw man ka motan-aw sa good quality against low quality kay computer expert man ka...

Only Reminds Me Of You
MYMP

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kY7SGHgfOns

I see you, beside me
It’s only a dream
A vision of what used to be
The laughter, the sorrow
Pictures in time
Fading to memory
How could I ever let you go
Is it too late to let you know

[chorus]
I try to run from your side
But each place I hide
It only reminds me of you
When I turn out all the lights
Even the night
It only reminds me of you

I needed my freedom
This what I’ve thought
But I was a fool to believe
My heart lied while you cried
Rivers of tears
But I was too blind to see
Everything we’ve been through before
Now it means so much more

[repeat chorus]

Only you

So come back to me
I’m down on my knees
Boy can’t you see

How could I ever let you go
Is it too late to let you know

[repeat chorus 2x]

I miss my family and friends in the Phils.

That's true, Miss Belle.

We're all here for you, Mike.

Japan's economy has slowed down over the last few years.

Golly...

I have a lot of favorite movies. 

But right now,

ang ako ra jud ma huna hunaan,

kadtong movie nga Sabrina, the version where Harrison Ford was the leading man.

I loved that movie, watched it over and over again.

Hehehe.

Ben, do you speak fluent Bisaya?

I agree, Ben.

Uyyyy...

As I've said Miss Ginger,

pagtagbo mo sa tunga2x

Bagay raba si Miss Ginger ug si Orlando Bloom.

Hehehe,

Miss Belle,

maayo kaayo mo tambag si Mikey kung bahin na gani sa pampa byuti

Patid patid ra kuwang sa imong banana.

Nakaila na diay ka sa bag-ong inspirasyon ni Miss Ginger?

Hehehe.

Pareson raba kaayo sila.

Mao lagi,

ma tralala pud ming Ginger ani

ahahaha

ahahaha!

You suffered from TB withdrawal syndrome...



We are so so so glad to have you back!

We missed you!

Hello Miss Belle!

Ok na mo sa imong banana? Friendship na mo?

I spent the weekend making tsismis with Miss Ginger, we had a lot of fun.

Hehehe. Naa'y bag-ong "inspirasyon" si Miss Ginger, guafo jamo.



My day went really well. I had a good day at work.

Hello Miss Belle!

Pila ka adlaw kang nalutas sa TB. 

I got your book adtong weekend, salamat kaayo.

Maayo pa sila, dong.

They're having the time of their life.

Dong, can you develop a drug nga ang epekto, the more you eat, the more you lose weight?

Where does he get all these money for the "gratitude package"? Are all senators given money to do and to distribute to whomever they please?

I like Migz, he has a good heart, although not always in the right place. He's very cute too, not like his mean auntie Malu Fernandez.

dong, imong sister nang kauban nimo sa imong avatar?

very guafa...

Mari, I don't know sa Tagbilaran...

pero gapalit mi'g used computer parts sa una, didto sa Five Jays, inig gawas jud nimo pier 3 sa cebu...

naa pud lain silang shop didto pier dos, dapit SM

barato ra kaayo sila didto...

How are you, Miss Mari?

I feel old right now, dodong...because ming tukar akong rayuma. Sakit akong tuhod, huhuhu. I can feel the uric acid all over. Hehe.

Dong, nganong maka relate man ka anang Gideon Prewett?

*I've a confession to make, I've not read any of the Potter books (the horror!), I've watched some of the movies ra, hehehe*

PS. did you say he lucked out, or ran out of luck?

joke!

I miss Jaja, where is she?

My day went good as well, dodong.

Miss Ginger and I spent quality time pud, making tsismis. 

I spent time with hubby as well,

and the Dawgs won!

The #1 ranked LSU lost to Kentucky on over-time, with a field goal.

Asa mo dapit sa NJ, dong? Naka stay ko diha sa una, bisita sa akong auntie sa Livingston.

For sure, the US will get a lot of flack from its enemies...this will give the antagonistic Middle Eastern countries more fuel for their hatred. Iraq is already a big nightmare, as it is. Pun-an pa aning potential inflammatory situation, mag gubot jud ni dong kung madayon. Hinaut unta nga dili.

Kay kung madayon, mag sugod na jud ang Star Wars. Mura'g free-for-all style sa Counterstrike.

Quote from: Lorenzo on October 14, 2007, 02:44:35 PM
lol, hahaha id rather not say

But i think you do make a great Hermione. Both are paralleled to beauty.

Nganong dili man mo sulti? Nagpa mysterious ka ha, like our resident man of mystery, Mr GEC...

That's why I adore you, dodong...because you're always nice to me, your old hag ate.

Hahaha.

Pero sa Lord of the Rings, ikaw gyud ang King, unya si Jaja tong Princess of the Elves, whom you made your Queen.

effective pud kuno ni sa diabetes dong, and even bad breath hehehe

although the FDA released a statement that there was not enough data regarding claims of anti-cancer benefits...

grabe jud ni kasikat ning mga flavonoids ron, daghan kaayo nanggawas mga supplements w/ flavonoids kuno...

Unsa gud ni, mura'g wife swap?

Modayon jud diay ning Panglao airport?

Ngeh, kahadlok ana nila oi...

As a people, they're ruthless...

brutal and merciless kaayo sila against the Armenians sa una...

pun-an pa ni Ylmaz nga gikulata si Ruffa (or so she said)...

the only thing I don't fear is their Shawarma

Quote from: Lorenzo on October 14, 2007, 02:23:56 PM
hahaha, GEC, ma lingaw pood ko mo read sa imong post, pre. lol!
'te, i think Mr. GEC is  Headmaster Dumbledore.

Ikaw?

Syempre, si Hermione ko kay cute. Ahahaha. Baga'g face.

Ikaw dong, kinsa man ka?

Quote from: GEC348 on October 14, 2007, 02:22:33 PM
C2H4

You guessed it! I am Harry Potter

Now, Zzzap!

[That's to put a smile on your face]

Abi nimo Mr GEC, although they all say you're a He, sinasabi ng aking konsensya that you're a She.

Which is which?

Thanks for the zap diay...

Hahaha!

Lingaw ko nimo GEC, murag Lord Voldemort diay?

Ikaw, kinsa man ka? si Harry Potter?

aguy aguy aguy

tsismis!

If GEC is Wentworth,

who's Luke McFarlane?

joke joke joke!

Miss Ginger,

nasobrahan ra ka'g sige imagine unsa'y hitsura ni Mr GEC

Mr GEC,

Miss Ginger and I have combined our imaginative powers,

and we have decided that you do indeed look like Wentworth

hehehe

GEC, he's very guapo...

I posted a pic of him in the Piolo and Sam thread...

Mr GEC, mas grabe pa ka'g kamandag ni Orlando,

you don't need bows or arrows,

your words have penetrated our consciousness so deep,

ang imong mga balaknong estorya wala na ma tangtang sa alimpatakan ni Miss Ginger

You are quite potent, Mr GEC...

You have intrigued our women far and wide,

even Mari's flower is intrigued by you...

unsa na nga mask, mikey?

mr ashton,

kanus-a imong party?

Hello Sir DeLaguna,

were there pics taken, by any chance?

gusto unta mi makakita ninyo tanan nga nag EB, without newspapers

unya ning stay jud siya sa ospital with the injured...

such a good guy

miss ginger,

they said pag test ka orlando,

he was negative for alcohol or drugs...

isn't that remarkable?

mas guapo na siya karon in my book

wala pa ko katilaw ana, miss ginger...

have you? lami?

ahahaha

laog naman jud ko'g kaon sa una, miss ginger...

matingala akong mama mawala ko ug kalit sa balay, na mista naman diay,

moabot gud mi sa una sa iligan ug pamista wahahaha

then one day, naay bisita sa haws, gi invite mi sa ilang haws ug kaon,

ingon tong bisita, "day C2H4, inato ra raba among pagkaon, dili espesyal"

ingon pud akong mama, "sus tuo man mo anang C2H4, bisa'g tae mokaon na"

hahahaha! uwawa nako oi, abi pa lang hangol jud ug pagkaon (tinuod man pud nga hangol)

hehehe,

mokaon jud ko bisan hilaw miss ginger

ahehehe

ok thanks,

i'll do this, then take a pic so you can see kung sakto ba pagka luto hehehe

uuyyyy, kalami ani miss ginger, for sure I will try this...I like salmon...

miss ginger, kanang scallions, unsa na? mura nag onions?

also, kanang 5-7 mins at 180 degrees, enough time na na nga maluto ang isda?

thanks!

mikey: sure ka? ka guapo nimo, beergin pa ka?

dili mi motuo ni Miss Ginger oi

ahahaha!

kuyawan si mikey nga hatagan ug premyo

Quote from: frog70 on October 13, 2007, 04:39:36 PM
it's almost 2 a.m in the morning, i'm sad and i want to get drunk,what do u suggest to drink?

lambanog, mr mikey...nganong sad man ka? ayaw nalang gawas kay dili safe basta gabii na kaayo, stambay nalang dire sa TB, let us be your alcohol

Quote from: Sigbin II on October 13, 2007, 04:20:21 PM
In the movie "Shakespeare in Love" there's a line there that I like and I'd like to paraphrase it here. 

Love is like a sickness and its cure combined.

Nindot na nga definition, Mr Sigbin...made me pause and think for a bit...

Quote from: frog70 on October 13, 2007, 04:32:01 PM
ang Kurog na word is a 5 letter word ka dili man four letter word,hehehe pero imagine si c2 no,kalami sa iyahang life!

mikey, kanang kuha kuha ug tubig, naa man pud na premyo later on..hehehe! joke joke joke

Welcome pud diay, Miss grazie...

mura'g full-blown na nang imong case sa TBsitis...incurable na raba na.

Now that we've heard Miss Ginger's definition, mag huwat nalang ta sa uban diha sa kilid kilid

No doubt, Mr Sigbin...yours and Mr GEC's mysterious appeal, were a huge contributing factor in the drastic increase of guests viewing the site...

You are both TB's mystery heroes, mura mo'g Transformers...ikaw si Optimus Prime, si Mr GEC si Bumblebee...

unsa nang tungog, Mr Sigbin?

Correct me if I'm wrong, because I am honestly clueless about economics, finance and business...

but isn't his money mostly electronic though? I mean, stocks and shares...

the billions of dollars in his name, dili man na cold hard cash...they're stock values...

so If Microsoft stocks were to plummet (murag pareho adtong nahitabo sa enron), the bulk of his billions is gonna go poof!

That is, indeed, good news.

I hope this brings a smile to your face, Mike, as it does to us.

At least, this is a little something that'll warm your heart in this sad time.

A friend sent this through e-mail...


When I was little,
   I used to believe in the concept of one best friend,
   And then I started to become a woman.

   And then I found out that if you allow your heart to open up,
   you would find the best in many friends.

One friend is needed when you're going through things with your man.
   Another friend is needed when you're going through things with your mom.
 
    Another will sit beside you in the bleachers as you delight in your children and their activities.
    Another when you want to shop, share, heal, hurt, joke, or just be.

   One friend will say, "Let's cry together,"
   Another, "Let's fight together,"
   Another, "Let's walk away together."

One friend will meet your emotional need,
   Another your shoe fetish,
   Another your love for movies,
   Another will be with you in your season of confusion,
   Another will be your clarifier,
   Another the wind beneath your wings.

But whatever their assignment in your life,
   On whatever the occasion,
   On whatever the day,
   Or wherever you need them to meet you with their gym shoes on and hair pulled back,
   Or to hold you back from making a complete fool of yourself ...
   Those are your best friends.

It may all be wrapped up in one woman,
   But for many, it's wrapped up in several..
   One from 7th grade,
   One from high school,
   Several from the college years,
   a couple from old jobs,
   On some days your mother,
   On some days your grandmother,
   On some days your neighbor,
   On others, your sisters,
   And on some days, your daughters.

So whether they've been your friend for 20 minutes or 20 years,
   AND ONLY IF YOU'D LIKE TO,
   Pass this on to the women that in your life
   To make a difference

Two doctors, a psychiatrist and a proctologist, opened an office in a small town and put up a sign reading: "Dr. Smith and Dr. Jones: Hysterias and Posteriors."

The town council was not happy with the sign, so the
doctors changed it to read, "Schizoids and Hemorrhoids."
This was not acceptable either, so in an effort to satisfy the council, they changed the sign to "Catatonics and High Colonics." No go.

Next, they tried "Manic Depressives and Anal Retentives." Thumbs down again. Then came "Minds and Behinds." Still no good.

Another attempt resulted in "Lost Souls and Butt Holes." Unacceptable again!


So they tried "Analysis and Anal Cysts." Not a chance. "Nuts and Butts?" No way.

"Freaks and Cheeks?" Still no go.

"Loons and Moons?" Forget it.
Almost at their wit's end, the doctors finally came up with: "Dr. Smith and Dr. Jones, Odds and Ends."

Everyone loved it.

10 year old blues



A father asked his 10-year old son if he knew about the birds and the
bees.

"I don't want to know," the child said, bursting into tears. "Promise
me you
won't tell me."

Confused, the father asked what was wrong.

The boy sobbed, "When I was six, I got the 'There's no Easter Bunny'
speech.

   At seven, I got the 'There's no Tooth Fairy' speech.
   When I was eight, you hit me with the 'There's no Santa' speech.
   If you're going to tell me that grown-ups don't really get laid,
I'll
have nothing left to live for."

source: http://bosanchez.ph

Symptom #1:

You Have A Distorted Image of God:

He’s Judgmental
           
One day, a man came up to me and said, “Bo, I’ve been feeling guilty. I feel God is angry at me today…”

“Angry at you? Why?” I asked.

“Because I missed my prayer time today. I’m afraid that He’ll punish me and cause bad things to happen today.”

Friends, I know that feeling very well. Because for yearsâ€"no, decadesâ€"I used to feel this way.

Yes, I once had Toxic Faith. (And if I’ll be honest, I still feel its residue in my soul.) Toxic Faith is based on a distorted image of God. For 20 years, I worshipped a judgmental, wrathful, vindictive, vengeful, and legalistic God. Though I would never admit that then. During that time, I was even preaching on God’s Love!

Why? Because our intellectual image of God is very different from our subconscious image of God. The latter is much deeper and more difficult to change.

A person with Toxic Faith will imagine God telling him, “Aha! You missed your prayer time today. Tsk, tsk, tsk. What an ungrateful creature you are…”

I used to pray daily because of fear.

Do you know how absurd that is?

Imagine a father calling up his son by phone and growling, “Ingrate! How dare you forget me? You don’t visit me anymore. I’m warning you. I’m going to put a curse on you if you don’t visit me right this minute…”

We call those fathers abusive monsters. And yet I imagined God to be like that.

Today, I still pray daily, but I do so because I love to pray. He blesses me, nourishes me, and fills my heart with love. If I do miss my prayers, He doesn’t throw lightning bolts on me. When my image of God changed, my whole world changed as well.

Why does Toxic Faith worsen addictions?

Remember what I said in an earlier chapter: Any addiction is a hunger for true love. I want to be loved, and because I can’t find real love, I search for a palliative. An anaesthesia, to cover up the pain. When my image of God is judgemental, legalistic, vindictive, and vengeful, what was supposed to perfectly address my hunger for love (God’s Love) makes the hunger more acute.

Do You Worship The Judgmental, Wrathful,

Vindictive, And Vengeful God?

According to Toxic Faith, God is judgmental, wrathful, vindictive, vengeful, and legalistic. If a person has a distorted image of God, your subconscious beliefs are as follows… (Check if you have any of them.)

·        “God will love me only if I behave.”

·        “God hates sinners and is angry with me.”

·        “He wants to punish me. He’s written down all my sins.”

·        “God is never satisfied with me.”

·        “If I sin, God will throw me to Hell forever.”

·        “I’m now sick with cancer. God is punishing me for not being good enough.”

·        “Our business flopped. God must be punishing me for forgetting Him.”

·        “We just met a car accident. You know why? We failed to pray…”

When you have Toxic Faith, it seems as though God is preoccupied with your sins. All He does the whole day is waiting for you to make a mistake. He’s also fickle and moody: When you don’t sin, He likes you. When you do sin, He doesn’t like you.

Their entire relationship with God is based on shame. He has ever-increasing demanding standards, like a target that keeps on moving, and they can never quite satisfy Him.

           

Symptom #2:

You Have A Distorted Faithfulness:

You’re Legalistic

            My friend “Melanie” believes that God wants her to pray at the exact time everydayâ€"5:00AM. She’d feel very guilty if, because she woke up late or had to do something else, was forced to pray at 5:30AM. To Melanie, that wasn’t honouring God.

Toxic Faith produces very faithful people, but its expression of faithfulness is distorted: It’s legalistic and painfully scrupulous. Legalism in itself is an addiction.

          To confirm whether Melanie had Toxic Faith, I checked for two signs: Did it lead to shame or to self-righteousness? (In other words, it’s either she felt shame herself or she shamed others.)   

When Melanie was able to keep her 5:00AM prayer each day, she felt good about herself. She felt God accepted her and liked herâ€"so she liked herself too. But she looked down on others who didn’t pray, who prayed late, or who prayed shorter than her.   She became self-righteous. “You’ll grow up too one day,” she’d say condescendingly.

          When Malanie was late with her 5:00AM appointment with God, she was filled with shame. She felt God frowned on her. She felt bad about herself. She was an ungrateful, undisciplined, insect before God.

She is the modern-day Pharisee that needs to hear again Jesus’ words: What sorrow awaits you teachers of religious law and you Pharisees. Hypocrites! For you are careful to tithe even the tiniest income from your herb gardens, but you ignore the more important aspects of the lawâ€"justice, mercy, and faith.[1]

          St. Paul has powerful words for the legalist and the scrupulous: So why do you keep on following the rules of the world, such as, “Don’t handle! Don’t taste! Don’t touch!”? Such rules are mere human teachings about things that deteriorate as we use them. These rules may seem wise because they require strong devotion, pious self-denial, and severe bodily discipline. But they provide no help in conquering a person’s evil desires.[2]

          I’ve found this to be true. I recall a Bishop who was known to be very strict on others, almost rigid in his exacting ways, was exposed to have a mistress on the side. It was unimaginable when the news broke out. How could that be?

          The external rigidity was a subconscious projection. He was trying to control what he couldn’t control within.

          When Jimmy Swaggart was exposing Jim Bakker’s and Marvin Gorman’s sexual sins on national TV, he was really subconsciously exposing his own sexual sins which he couldn’t accept. When Ted Haggard was condemning homosexuality in the political arena and on television, he was condemning the homosexuality he couldn’t face within himself.

Are You A Religious Addict?

            Legalism can be an addiction.

          Rigidity can be an addiction.

Religiosity can be an addiction.

You can be addicted to anything. As long as it can give you an escape from your inner pain. And religion is the easiest thing to be addicted to because it’s something acceptable and highly admired.

How do you know if you’re a religious addict? If instead of facing your past wounds or resolving personal issues head on, you ESCAPE from your inner pain by drowning yourself in religious activitiesâ€"prayer, bible reading, doctrinal studies, ministry meetingsâ€"then most likely you’re a religious addict.

          Let’s move to the third symptom of Toxic Faith.

Symptom #3:

You Have A Distorted Image of Self:

You Feel Condemned


A person with low self-worth will be damaged by Toxic Faith.

I have talked to many whose language expresses a very negative picture of themselves. They say something like this, “I’m bad. My body is bad. I’m ashamed of myself. God wants me to disregard my feelings (because it’s of the flesh) and give up my valid and legitimate needs (because that’s selfishness).”

Toxic Faith will never allow us to love ourselves. Instead, it will urge us to call ourselves a wretch and a wormâ€"and urge us to treat ourselves that way.

Some people actually pray in this way: “Lord, I’m a worm, a despicable, ugly, sinful worm. I don’t deserve your love. I’m so repulsive in your sight. I’m a beast, a infestation, a virus, a wretch like no other…”

Don’t get me wrong. I love singing that classic song, Amazing Grace, which goes, Amazing Grace, how sweet the sound, that saved a wretch like me…

It’s a beautiful song, but someone with a distorted self-image will focus on the “wretch” part and will not look at the other beautiful parts of that song.

Same goes with the prayer after the Rosary, Hail Holy Queen. One part says, To thee do we cry, poor banished children of Eve; To thee do we send up our sighs, mourning, and weeping in this valley of tears…

Someone with low self-worth we latch onto those words like a leech and live on them for eternity. “I’m a banished child of Eve, sighing, mourning, and weeping…” But before we’re children of Eve, we’re children of God. How could we forget that?

          Toxic Faith will distort how you look at yourself.

          It will also distort the very beliefs you believe in…

Symptom #4:

You’ll Have A Distorted Faith:

You Practice Hyper-Faith



            I’m a preacher that gives hope to people. It’s my mission.

Every Sunday, I preach to a people that are tired and burdened from the daily grind of life. In our dark world, we need hope badly.

So I tell people to dream big dreams and pray for them everyday. I tell people that they’re surrounded by God’s abundanceâ€"and at anytime, they can tap into that overflowing resource for all that they need.

          But there’s a thin line that I dare not cross: The realm of Hyper Faith.

          Hyper Faith is a common ingredient of Toxic Faith.

          Hyper Faith preaches, “If you only have faith, all your problems will be solved.  If you just believe and pray, God will fix everything magically.”

          That’s not true. I tell people that while they’re breathing, problems are a part of life. They don’t disappear just because we’re close to God. But in every problem, God will accompany us.

          Real Faith heals, but Toxic Faith kills.

How? Let me give you a few examples…

When You Don’t Get Healed,

Is There Something Wrong With You?



            My friend “Ren” has cancer. For some time, she’s been praying for healing.

One day, she was prayed over by a Pastor of the Hyper-Faith variety. After praying over her, this Pastor declared to her with the authority of an Old Testament prophet, “The only reason why you’re still sick is because you lack faith.”

          Ren was devastated. She felt guilty. Sad. Confused. And angry.

She felt guilty that she had little faith.

She was sad that she couldn’t make it grow after all these years.

She was confused because she didn’t know what to do.

And she was angry at God that He was giving her healing but placed it beyond the reach of her small faith.

But what was the truth? I knew Ren. My friend has great faith.

She trusted in God even in the midst of her sickness.

But Hyper-Faith will not allow that.

If You Want To Be Wealthy, Just Tithe?

This is their belief: If you’re close to God, you’ll be healthy and wealthy. You’ll never get sick and you should never be poor.

I don’t teach Hyper-Faith. Instead, I preach real hope.

I also preach the practical things that people need to do to reach their dreams. Some people call me a Prosperity Preacher. I’d rather that they call me a Practical Preacher.   Because not everything happens just by praying. (People criticize me for that too. They say I’m too practical. Oh well, you can’t please everyone all the time.)

For example, some preachers say that tithing is the key to prosperity. I once read an entire book of financial prosperity, and for 11 chapters straight, the author just talked about giving and nothing else.

But here’s the big question: Why is it that there are people who tithe and remain poor? Lack of faith again?

Here’s why: Because tithing is only one of the keys to prosperity. There are other practical keys that one has to do to become prosperous. Like what? Like living simply; And saving regularly; And learning how to invest and knowing where to invest; etc… That’s the stuff that I love to teach people.

(Note: If you want to learn more about how to receive financial blessings, attend my How To Be Truly Rich Seminar on November 3, 2007, 9am to 12noon. I want as many people to learn how to reach financial freedom, so we made it very affordable. Your learning investment is P475 only per person. Call Beckie at Tel. (02) 7229562 (Tuesdays to Fridays, 9am - 6pm) or email her at beaconlightevents@gmail.com   Once you graduate from that, you can apply for the Truly Rich Financial Coaching Program.)

That’s another distorted belief of Toxic Faith: Having true faith means not doing anything but waiting on God to do it for me.

Let me give you other distorted beliefs…

Other Distorted Beliefs Of Toxic Faith

Have you heard this before? “God will find me a perfect mate and give me signs that it’s him or her.”

No, He won’t. He’ll ask you to think and use your mind.

I met a woman who’s married to an incredibly irresponsible guy. He doesn’t have a job, lies to her constantly, and is addicted to gambling.

“We met in the prayer meeting,” she said, “and when he courted me, I prayed to God if he was the man for me. I knew he didn’t have a job when I met him, and couldn’t keep one for a few years. So I asked for sign from God. And He gave them to me. So I thought it would be a great marriage…”

So what if you met in a prayer meeting? That means only one thingâ€"that he’s charismatic. But is he responsible? Is he honest? Is he faithful? Use your mind, sisters! Find out for yourself. Don’t depend on supernatural signs. Look for natural ones! The mere fact that he couldn’t hold a regular job for years was a natural sign to choose someone else!

Here are three other insane beliefs of Toxic Faith I have no time to explain:

·        A strong faith will protect me from problems and pain.

·        I should accept everything that happens to me as God’s will.

·        If it’s not in the Bible, it not true or relevant.

There are others, but let me now go to the fifth symptom…

Symptom #5:

You’ll Have A Distorted Faith System:

You’re Spiritually Abused
           
Toxic Faith is usually supported by a Toxic Faith System.

Which is spiritually abusive.

          I must confess that my community, Light of Jesus, had, at one time in our history, elements of this Toxic Faith System. Why? Because I was the leader of the group, and I had Toxic Faith. When the leader of a group has Toxic Faith, he creates a Toxic Faith System in his group. I think any religious group is open to such tendencies, and we need to be very careful. (I have asked for forgiveness for being spiritually abusive from my community many times.)

          To find out if your group, family, community, ministry, organization, or church has a Toxic Faith System, look for these 7 Elements:

1. The Leader claims special access to God and maintains control and authoritarian rule

     Only he or she (or they) can make decisions for the group and the individuals within the group. You can’t question this Leader or you’re seen as questioning God. You need to totally agree with the Leader or get out.

2. The Leader is punitive, judgmental, and castigating

There is a constant purging from the ranks. If you ask a question that is deemed questioning his authority, you’re labelled a rebel, someone with a critical spirit, and will be removed.

3. The Leader isn’t accountable to anyone

This is very dangerous. Even the Pope has a College of Cardinals and Bishopsâ€"and his teaching authority is linked to them.

4. No real Communication between Leaders and Members

     Someone or some peopleâ€"the Leader’s inner circleâ€"shield the top Leader from what the members are actually saying or experiencing.

5. Members feel it’s their group “Against the World”

The members feel that their group is in the cutting edge of God’s work in this sinful world. That their group is the best. That their group is especially chosen by God as either the only way of Salvation, or at the very least, His hand-picked SWAT team against evil. Other groups simply cannot compare.

6. Members are suffering

But in reality, members are suffering. Emotionally, they’re burned out; Physically, their tired; Financially, they’re not growing (the organization may be getting richer, and the Leader is getting richer, but the members are not); and spiritually, they’re stagnantâ€"because their highest loyalty is not to God anymore but to their Leader and the System.

7. The priorities taught to members are as follows:

·        Submit to the Leader at all times.   

·        Don’t ask, don’t doubt, don’t think. (This is what submission means.)

·        Never express feelings except positive ones.

·        Don’t trust outsiders. (Just listen to our teachings.)

·        Don’t do anything outside your role.

·        You need to give money or else.

·        Protect the image of the organization at all costs.

Jesus said, Beware of the false prophets, who come in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly are ravenous wolves.[3]  False prophets don’t have to be cultic leaders or strange guys who call themselves Messiah. When any leader-a priest, a bishop, a pastor, a lay leader-robs people of their ability to think, controls them by his use of guilt and fear, manipulating them to strengthen his power or to enrich himself, he is a false prophet.

When a Leader creates his own exacting standards and tells people that unless they follow them, they’ll not enter the Kingdom of Heaven, he is shutting Heaven’s gates to them. About them, Jesus said, Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You shut the kingdom of heaven in men’s faces. You yourselves do not enter, nor will you let those enter who are trying to.[4]

God, a Woman, and a Tiger

Let me end this chapter with a beautiful story.

One day, a young woman went to the mountain Hermit seeking help.

“I need a potion for my husband’s depression,” she cried to him. “He came from war and doesn’t speak to me. He doesn’t listen to me. I try to caress him but he brushes me aside. I serve him food and he pushes it and angrily leaves the room. He then goes up a hill and just stares out to sea… Oh kindly sir, make me a potion so that I could give it to my husband and heal his depression!”

The Hermit closed his eyes and thought for a long while. After what seemed like a very long time, he then said to her, “I will make a special potion for your husband. But it needs a special ingredient. Get me a whisker of a live tiger.”

The woman was shocked. “Sir? I cannot get that…”

“But if you want your husband to get well, you will,” said the Hermit.

The woman ran home, prepared a bowl of food, and carried it deep in the forestâ€"where a tiger lived inside a cave. She placed down the bowl of food at the opening of the tiger’s cave and called on the tiger. “Tiger, I brought food for you. Come and eat!”

But the tiger did not come out.

The next day, the woman came again with a bowl of food and called on the tiger to eat. But the tiger did not come out again.

She kept doing this everyday, and tiger was getting used to her voice.

After one month, the tiger would peek through the opening, but he still would not eat her bowl of food.

After two months, the tiger finally left the cave and felt secure looking at the strange woman giving him food.

After three months, the tiger would finally eat the food as the woman watched from the distance.

After four months, the woman could actually sit beside the tiger as he ate.

After five months, the woman could wrap her arms around the tiger as he ate. She was now a friend and he was totally at peace with her.

After six months, as the woman caressed the tiger and as the tiger playfully rested his head on her lap, she whispered to his ear, “I hope you won’t get angry, but I will get something from youâ€"for my husband whom I love.” She then snipped one of his whiskers. The tiger did not even flinch.

After which, she ran to the Hermit and said, “I now have the whisker of a live tiger! Please make the potion for my depressed and angry husband…”

The Hermit took the whisker from her hand and threw it into the fire behind him.

“Nooooooo!” the woman screamed, “why did you do that?”

“You don’t need a potion,” the Hermit said, “because you are the potion to your husband.”

“I don’t understand,” the woman asked.

“What is more fierce? A tiger or a man? A tiger of course. But for six months you learned how to tame his anger. You were able to bring him out of his cave. With patience. With care. With love. Now I want you to use all that and bring your husband out of his cave and heal his depression.”

Do You Know The Difference Between

Toxic Faith And Real Faith?

I share you this story because I believe that God is like that woman.

We are that tiger. We are in darkness. We are in that cave. Like that woman, God comes to us with a lot of gentleness and a bowl of food. The food of His love. The food of His grace.

He will not force us to eat His food. He will not impose His power, His rule, His authority over us. Instead, He will wait, patiently and gently, for us to learn to trust Him. Day after day, week after week, month after monthâ€"year after year.

When we are ready, He will feed us.

When we are ready, He will wrap His arms around us.

That’s the difference between Toxic Faith and Real Faith.

Toxic Faith imagines God as a Judge that condemns and forces us to follow Him, using threats and intimidation. Toxic Faith requires that His followers do the sameâ€"impose, judge, label, pull rank, and intimidate.

Real Faith is very different. It imagines God as a woman patiently waiting for the tiger to leave his cave, so she could feed him and caress him. Real Faith requires that His followers do the sameâ€"love, forgive, share, care, bless, and serve.

          I choose Real Faith.

          Real Faith heals my addictions. Toxic Faith worsens them.


          Choose Real Faith.


          I remain your friend,


          Bo Sanchez

I just got this e-mail from a friend (who loves her margarita), and I thought it quite funny...

As Ben Franklin said: 

In wine there is wisdom,in beer there is freedom, in water there is bacteria.
                       
In a number of carefully controlled trials, scientists have demonstrated that if we drink 1 liter of water each day, at the end of the year we would have absorbed more than 1 kilo of Escherichia coli, (E. coli) - bacteria found in feces.  In other words, we are consuming 1 kilo of poop.                                   

However, we do NOT run that risk when drinking wine &beer (or tequila, rum, whiskey or other liquor) because alcohol has to go through a purification process of boiling, filtering and/or fermenting.
               
Remember: Water = Poop, Wine = Health
                     
        Therefore, it's better to drink wine and talk stupid, than to drink water and be full of s***.
                       
There is no need to thank me for this valuable information: I'm doing it as a public service.

Thanks, Mike.

How are you? I know this is a silly question to ask, given the current situation, but we are all hoping you are well.

What's the best way I can reach you at?

Take care.

Six year-old Brandon decided one Saturday morning to fix his parents pancakes. He found a big bowl and spoon, pulled a chair to the counter, opened the cupboard and pulled out the heavy flour canister, spilling it on the floor.

He scooped some of the flour into the bowl with his hands, mixed in most of a cup of milk and added some sugar, leaving a floury trail on the floor which by now had a few tracks left by his kitten.

Brandon was covered with flour and getting frustrated. He wanted this to be something very good for Mom and Dad, but it was getting very bad.

He didn't know what to do next, whether to put it all into the oven or on the stove and he didn't know how the stove worked!. Suddenly he saw his kitten licking from the bowl of mix and reached to push her away, knocking the egg carton to the floor. Frantically he tried to clean up this monumental mess but slipped on the eggs, getting his pajamas white and sticky.

And just then he saw Dad standing at the door. Big crocodile tears welled up in Brandon 's eyes. All he'd wanted to do was something good, but he'd made a terrible mess. He was sure a scolding was coming, maybe even a spanking. But his father just watched him.

Then, walking through the mess, he picked up his crying son, hugged him and loved him, getting his own pajamas white and sticky in the process!

That's how God deals with us.. We try to do something good in life, but it turns into a mess. Our marriage gets all sticky or we insult a friend, or we can't stand our job, or our health goes sour.

Sometimes we just stand there in tears because we can't think of anything else to do. That's when God picks us up and loves us and forgives us, even though some of our mess gets all over Him.

But just because we might mess up, we can't stop trying to "make pancakes" for God or for others. Sooner or later we'll get it right, and then they'll be glad we tried...

I was thinking. and I wondered if I had any wounds needing to be healed, friendships that need rekindling or three words needing to be said, sometimes, "I love you" can heal & bless! Remind every one of your friends that you love them. Even if you think they don't love back, you would be amazed at what those three little words, a smile, and a reminder like this can do.

hello gulle_brms, welcome!

What a nice way to tell us about you, RV.

You are good with the written word, you failed to mention.

Hello RV!

Welcome...

Love is when I get thirsty in the middle of the night, wakes him up, and he gets me water (with ice)...he grumbles and complains, but he gets it anyway.

Mine is combination...

which is frustrating...

my t-zone's so oily, my cheeks are so dry...

it's tricky trying to find products that'll suit my problem skin

waaahhh...

this is depressing...

it reminds me I'm disintegrating

Mag sakit atong dughan noh, Miss Ginger?

Hehehe

It's a big, big, big loss to women jud. Wahehehe.

Ako pud, anything but hard metal.

Mr Sigbin, kanang Lamanok, is that a barrio in Anda?

I loved the self-portrait.

Sir Sigbin, how is Ma'am Nene related to the Borjas of Iligan, or nilang Cesar or Caste Borja?

teng: wala ko'y pic nila. hehehe.

oist musta? asa ang kumbera ron?

Hahaha!

Tuo jud ko ani Miss Ginger, adtong nagpa member ko sa gym last year, natingala nalang ko kay gapa member pud si banana...then, when I started drinking more water and less soda, sundog pud siya. Then when I started eating lean cuisine meals, sundog pud siya. So when I quit all those healthy things and went back to being unhealthy, sundog pud siya. Sundogan kaayo.

Here's a pic of Fafa Wenty and partner, Luke McFarlane...



source: perezhilton.com

Hinaut pud unta nga ang mga tawo nga ga dawat ug remittance sa Pilipinas, dili mag tinapolan. Naa ko'y mga nailhan nga mga tapolan kaayo, gahuwat ra sa alote kada buwan, wala sila maluoy sa ilang ka pamilya sa abroad nga kayod kalabaw intawon para maka padala ug dollars.

We will miss you too, Mike.

Murag kuyaw kaayo nang mag dokdok nga mag tindog, to the next level na gyud na...

hehehehe,

ning luktad jud imong PacMan

Hehehe,

sayang para sa mga girls, Mikey...

coz the more nga mo daghan nga guapo nga gay,

ang mahabilin nalang nga straight guys for the chicks,

mga fangets

hehehe, wala pa man gud ko ka adto sa Dumaguete, Mikey...

sige, i-apil nato ang Dgte...ang Ilo-Ilo ug Bacolod pud kuno,

daghan pretty girls...

Sayang kaayo ang mga guapo mahimong gay...

It's a big loss for girls...

Pero makalipay man pud labi na ug iyang mapislat ang mga mushrooms hehehe

Yeah, I find her so gorgeous pud. Usa na sa akong project nga magpa autograph ko niya sa Cebu kung maka uli ko puhon sa Pinas. Hahaha. I'm a fan.

She's Chinese-Spanish, dong. Nindot kaayo pagka mix ang blood.

Based sa akong mga na adtoan nga lugar sa Pinas, these are the places where you can find gorgeous chicks...

--Bohol
--Cebu
--Davao
--Zamboanga City
--Pampanga