9. Create a new world.
This is especially important if your world has collided with his, meaning that mutual friends who have seen him in the last week feel the need to tell you about it. Create your own safe world â€" full of new friends who wouldn’t recognize him in a crowd and don’t know how to spell his name â€" where he is not allowed to drop by for a figurative or literal surprise visit. Take this opportunity to try something new â€" scuba diving lessons, an art class, a book club, a blog â€" so to program your mind and body to expect a fresh beginning… without him (or her).
This is especially important if your world has collided with his, meaning that mutual friends who have seen him in the last week feel the need to tell you about it. Create your own safe world â€" full of new friends who wouldn’t recognize him in a crowd and don’t know how to spell his name â€" where he is not allowed to drop by for a figurative or literal surprise visit. Take this opportunity to try something new â€" scuba diving lessons, an art class, a book club, a blog â€" so to program your mind and body to expect a fresh beginning… without him (or her).












