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#21201
Photos Unlimited / Re: World's biggest bloom
June 29, 2013, 06:27:18 PM

Titan Arum, Royal Botanic Gardens, Melbourne, Victoria, Australia, December 27, 2012
#21202
Photos Unlimited / Re: World's biggest bloom
June 29, 2013, 06:26:36 PM

Second of two plants, Kew Gardens, London, May 1, 2009
#21203
Photos Unlimited / Re: World's biggest bloom
June 29, 2013, 06:20:59 PM

First of two plants, Kew Gardens, London, May 1, 2009
#21204
Photos Unlimited / Re: World's biggest bloom
June 29, 2013, 06:17:51 PM
Due to its odor, which is reminiscent of the smell of a decomposing mammal, the titan arum is characterized as a carrion flower, and is also known as the "corpse flower", or "corpse plant" (Indonesian: bunga bangkai â€" bunga means flower, while bangkai means corpse or cadaver). For the same reason, the title "corpse flower" is also attributed to the genus Rafflesia which, like the titan arum, grows in the rainforests of Sumatra. (wikipedia)


Two titan arum in Sumatra, Indonesia (ca. 1900-40); one in leaf, which can reach up to 6 metres (20 ft) tall, and one in bloom.
#21205
Photos Unlimited / Re: World's biggest bloom
June 29, 2013, 06:14:43 PM
Amorphophallus titanum (from Ancient Greek amorphos, "without form, misshapen" + phallos, "phallus", and titan, "giant" ), known as the titan arum, is a flowering plant with the largest unbranched inflorescence in the world. The titan arum's inflorescence is not as large as that of the talipot palm, Corypha umbraculifera, but the inflorescence of the talipot palm is branched rather than unbranched. (wikipedia)

#21206
Photos Unlimited / World's biggest bloom
June 29, 2013, 06:08:27 PM

Blooming great
At 2.27 metres (7ft 5in) high, the Amorphophallus titanum at the Botanical Garden in Basel is the largest flower in the world. (Copyright: Getty Images)
#21207
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 05:23:32 PM
Exhibit cruelty to animals or children

This is a person who punishes animals brutally or is insensitive to their pain. They may expect children to be capable of things beyond their ability. They may tease children until they cry. They may be very critical of other people's children, especially any children you bring in from a previous relationship. An abusive partner may threaten to prevent you from seeing children you have no biological rights to, or punish children to get even with you. About 60% of people who beat their partner also beat their children. Of course the OPPOSITE of this can be true also. Abused women often say that they stay "for the sake of the kids." Unfortunately, one parent abusing another is one of the greatest risk factors for child abuse as well as for children to sink into depression, anxiety disorder, other mental and physical illnesses, and criminal, even violent, behaviors of their own. Abuse also models the role of violence to the children as THEY grow up and into relationships of their own. Dr. Phil McGraw hits the nail on the head with his oft repeated line: "Children would rather be FROM a broken home, than LIVING in one".


more at http://www.aardvarc.org/dv/batterer.shtml
#21208
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 05:21:49 PM
Present dual personalities

Often the most frustrating thing for the victim, many abusers are also excellent actors. They may appear to function well at work, with friends and family, etc. Sometimes only the victim is aware of the true "nature of the beast". This often makes it difficult for a victim to reach out for support from friends and family, because those persons may try to talk the victim out of thinking that their spouse is abusive. Often friends and family of the victim will go on and on about "what a great partner you've got there" - because the abuser has successfully hidden their violence at home. It's even MORE frustrating for the victim when members of their support system try to turn the tables and say things like "well, just don't make him/her mad". They're putting the blame on the VICTIM and not on the offender where it belongs! When this happens, the violent partner gets backup from the very people the victim NEEDS for support and they too fall into the trap of myths about the nature and causes of relationship violence!
#21209
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 05:21:03 PM
Are prone to hypersensitivity

Abusers are easily insulted, and may take the slightest setback as a personal attack. They will rant and rave about the injustice of things that are really just a part of living, such as having to get up for work, getting a traffic ticket, or being asked to help with chores.
#21210
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 05:19:46 PM
Blame others for their actions

Commonly, abusers use the actions of others as excuses for their own behavior. They blame the person who made them angry, as if that person were pushing some magic button that released violent behavior. How often have victims heard "why did you make me do that"? If your partner is chronically unemployed, someone is always doing them wrong or is out to get them. They may make mistakes and then blame you for upsetting them so that they can't concentrate on their work. They may tell you that YOU are at fault for almost anything that goes wrong. Abusive people will might say, "you made me mad" and "I can't help being angry". Although they actually make the decision about how they think or feel, they will use feelings to manipulate you. Abusers see themselves as the "victim" in the relationship, and do not take responsibility for their own feelings or behaviors.
#21211
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 05:18:01 PM
Use negative behaviors (drugs, alcohol, battering) to cope with stress

Studies suggest that batterers, in general, have a higher incidence of drug and alcohol abuse than non-batterers. This does NOT mean that drugs or alcohol CAUSE the abuse, rather it lowers inhibitions making an already frustrated and violence-prone person more likely to fall back on violence as a crutch, especially when confronted with their lack of communication skills and feelings of inadequacy.
#21212
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 05:17:08 PM
Have poor communication skills

Some people talk with their words, while others talk with their actions (fists). Abusers typically have trouble with discussing "feelings", especially very strong ones like anger or frustration. Some may feel that "having feelings" and talking out problems goes against the sterotyped role that they have bought into (see above). Without the skills or self-permission to express themselves in constructive ways (ways that feels uncomfortable or where they feel inadequate), they can lash out with violence.
#21213
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 05:16:15 PM
Use of force during sex

Abusive partners may show little concern about whether you want to have sex, and use sulking or anger to manipulate you into giving in to sex. They may start having sex with you while you are sleeping, or demand sex even when you are ill or tired. This should send the message that the abuser is just in it for themselves and/or they are enjoying the power of coercing sex knowing that you are less than willing. They may want to "make up" by having sex after they have just been physically or verbally abusive to you. Sex under these conditions is just an extension of the power and control exerted by the prior abuse.
#21214
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 05:14:36 PM
Believe in male supremacy and the stereotyped masculine role in the family

Batterers are often obsessive about appearing to the "the man of the house" and they tend to hold very high and rigid rules about how they get act because they are "the man" - often leading them to feel the need to dominate and control and to expect their word and their needs to be catered to at all times, including in the bedroom. These abusers see you as unintelligent, inferior, responsible for menial tasks, and less than whole without the relationship. They will often tell you that no one else would want you or that you are nothing without them. They will remind you of their "provider role" - everything they have done for you...thus using guilt and convoluted "logic" to pressure you into servile behaviors.
#21215
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 05:13:44 PM
Use isolation to keep you centered on them

Frequently, an abusive person tries to cut the partner off from all resources. If you have friends, you are a "whore", a "slut" or "cheating". If you are close to family, you are "tied to the apron strings". Abusers will accuse people who are supportive of causing trouble, and may restrict use of the phone. They can gradually isolate you from all of your friends. They may not let you use a car (or have one that is reliable), and may try to keep you from working or going to school. Some abusers will try to get you into legal trouble so that you are afraid to drive or go out. Sometimes this process can take years and then suddenly a victim looks up and realizes that they've been moved across the country, away from family, friends and a support system and without a job or resources of their own - making them completely isolated and totally dependent on the abuser.
#21216
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 05:12:50 PM
Have unrealistic expectations or demands

Abusive people often expect their partner to meet ALL of their needs: the perfect partner, lover, and friend. They say things like "if you love me, I'm all you need and you're all I need". They may expect you to take care of everything for them; emotionally, physically, and sometimes economically. However, this is not natural or healthy in a relationship. Instead, partners in healthy relationships encourage each other to pursue their dreams, to have friends and interests outside of the relationship and take pride in their partner in these things.
#21217
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 05:12:00 PM
Exhibit controlling behavior

Often at the beginning, a batterer will say that this behavior is because they are concerned for your safety, a need for you to use time well or to make good decisions. Abusers will be angry if you are "late" coming back from the store or an appointment; you might be questioned closely about where you went, who you talked to. As this behavior gets worse, the abuser may not let you make personal decisions about the house, your clothing, or going to church. They may keep all the money; or may make you ask permission to leave the house. These types of behaviors mimick the parent/child relationship and thus be definition cannot be part of an equal and healthy relationship.
#21218
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 05:07:19 PM
Are excessively jealous

Abusers often say that jealousy is a sign of love. Jealousy has nothing to do with love; it's a sign of possessiveness and lack of trust. In a healthy relationship, the partners trust each other unless one of them has legitimately done something to break that trust. Of course not every twinge of jealousy is a sign of doom to come, but when that jealousy becomes a negative aspect or a disruptive force in a relationship, red flags need to be going up.
#21219
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 05:05:19 PM
Rush in to relationships

Many victims dated or knew their abuser for less than six months before they were engaged or living together. Abusers can come on like a whirl-wind claiming "love at first sight", and using flattery such as "you are the only person I could ever talk to" or "I have never felt loved like this by anyone". They may need someone desperately, and will pressure the other partner to commit to a relationship before they are truly ready.
#21220
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 05:00:00 PM
Characteristics of Batterers

Often have low self esteem

Even though a lot of batterers might appear to be 'tough", "strong", and "confident", more often than not they really suffer from low self-esteem. If they are emotionally "needy", and they have become dependent on their partner, the thought of losing that partner feels threatening and thus behaviors of controlling and jealousy follow. This holds true not only for heterosexual relationships, but in gay and lesbian relationships as well. For male abusers, they may feel that they fall short in the area of their own sex stereotype and so they overcompensate with hyper-masculinity.
#21221
Philippine Business News / Re: Storms, Typhoons
June 29, 2013, 04:42:19 PM
Quote from: taga tigbao on June 29, 2013, 04:31:12 PM
Hi Te. Yes, and it is starting to get stormy na. Hehehehe.

I am glad that you are back! Take care! ;D

thanks, bai tigs.  feels good to be back.

OT: still praying for my sister.  her battle is already half-won (successful surgery).  now i wait for the chemo, which is a very great possibility, or the homeo, which is what i'm hoping for.  mother of perpetual help, pray for us.
#21222
Facts and Trivia / Re: I Can't Believe it
June 29, 2013, 04:37:08 PM
himos lagi siya.
#21223
General Topic / Re: Cats Triplex
June 29, 2013, 04:36:05 PM
lamia uy kun himoan ko ani ni bugsay uy... sigh. :)
#21224
Facts and Trivia / Re: I Can't Believe it
June 29, 2013, 04:33:47 PM
hehehe, arang saktoha gyod ni groucho marx.  kining tinuhoang pahak gikan pa man god ni sa ancient england, when it was an unknown island peopled by barbarians whose progeny are now the stiff upper-lipped englishmen/women. ;D
#21225
Philippine Business News / Re: Storms, Typhoons
June 29, 2013, 04:28:58 PM
baha na pod unya... hahay ning manila.  andam sa imong shorts, bai tigs.  thanks for the info.
#21226
hahaha!  ka-cute.  buslot gyod hinoon atong bulsa anig pakaon.  oh, i have a big cat too, weighing a little more than 10 kilos.  fortunately he isn't much of an eater.  timi-timi man gani intawon mokaon.  dako lang gyod siya.  we call him our "gentle giant".     
#21227
Facts and Trivia / Re: I Can't Believe it
June 29, 2013, 03:24:09 PM
#21228
Facts and Trivia / Re: I Can't Believe it
June 29, 2013, 03:23:25 PM
Quote from: Lollapalooza on June 29, 2013, 03:18:06 PM


700 year old Iranian Home.

Allegedly, these homes in Iran, carved out of solid rock, were built on the order of 700 years ago and are still inhabited by people who have given them modern touches (you know, the little things like windows, doors, and electricity).

hayahaya.  pag-uli dinhi, ingon dayon tag "aaahhh, home sweet rock."
#21229
Facts and Trivia / Re: I Can't Believe it
June 29, 2013, 03:22:27 PM
Quote from: Lollapalooza on June 29, 2013, 03:05:34 PM


It is Velella (SN Velella velella). Velella is the only known creature of its kind.

so what is this unique creature?  is it a fish, a bird, but not superman?  mora man nig futuristic engagement ring, hehe. ;D
#21230
Health and Food / Re: Crocodile's Meat
June 29, 2013, 03:17:06 PM
my gastronomic tastes were never adventurous, so i will never eat crocodile meat.  in fact, lately, i've turned vegetarian.  nisundog ko sa diet sa akong sister who's battling breast cancer.  i feel lighter and cleaner.  animal meat is one of the enablers of cancer, according to the homeopathist.  go for fish, specifically those with scales, she said. (surprisingly, this is in the bible; no different from the kosher of jews and the halal of muslims.)

another reason why i will never touch crocodile meat nor even contemplate seeing it out of curiosity: one of my cats had come a long way, from another country, where i saved him from being fed live to a crocodile.  i left that place in tears, terrified that there are people after all who can dare throw live cats and kittens to gaping mouths of crocodiles like they're basketball rings. :(
#21231
Health and Food / Re: Crocodile's Meat
June 29, 2013, 03:04:13 PM
Crocodile meat is consumed in some countries, such as Australia, Ethiopia, Thailand, South Africa and also Cuba (in pickled form); it can also be found in specialty restaurants in some parts of the United States. The meat is white and its nutritional composition compares favourably with that of other meats. It tends to have a slightly higher cholesterol level than other meats. Crocodile meat has a delicate flavour; some describe it as a cross between chicken and crab. Cuts of meat include backstrap and tail fillet. (wikipedia)
#21232
Facts and Trivia / Re: A milyon dalar kwistyon
June 29, 2013, 02:49:33 PM
ay, kakapoy ba anang mo-click pa tag lain.  diretsoha na lang god.  the wrench is special kay maoy niy gigamit ug ibot sa imong bag-ang.  period. ;D
#21233
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 02:40:59 PM
To determine whether your relationship is abusive, answer the questions below. The more “yes” answers, the more likely it is that you’re in an abusive relationship.

SIGNS THAT YOU’RE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP

Your Inner Thoughts and Feelings    

Do you:

feel afraid of your partner much of the time?
avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner?
feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner?
believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated?
wonder if you’re the one who is crazy?
feel emotionally numb or helpless?

Your Partner’s Belittling Behavior   

Does your partner:

humiliate or yell at you?
criticize you and put you down?
treat you so badly that you’re embarrassed for your friends or family to see?
ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments?
blame you for their own abusive behavior?
see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?

Your Partner’s Violent Behavior or Threats    

Does your partner:

have a bad and unpredictable temper?
hurt you, or threaten to hurt or kill you?
threaten to take your children away or harm them?
threaten to commit suicide if you leave?
force you to have sex?
destroy your belongings?
   
Your Partner’s Controlling Behavior

Does your partner:

act excessively jealous and possessive?
control where you go or what you do?
keep you from seeing your friends or family?
limit your access to money, the phone, or the car?
constantly check up on you?
#21234
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 02:21:09 PM
Signs of an abusive relationship

There are many signs of an abusive relationship. The most telling sign is fear of your partner. If you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around your partnerâ€"constantly watching what you say and do in order to avoid a blow-upâ€"chances are your relationship is unhealthy and abusive. Other signs that you may be in an abusive relationship include a partner who belittles you or tries to control you, and feelings of self-loathing, helplessness, and desperation.
#21235
dako pag puruhan nga bazooka, hahaha! ;D
#21236
Quote from: Mike Ortega Ligalig on June 29, 2013, 12:40:19 PM
hehehe. unsa kahay ikasulti ni hubag bohol ug balong ani?

psssttt... ato ra ni ha?  duda ko nga mas dako ang armas de fuego nga gition nilah, hahaha! ;D
#21237
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 01:30:15 PM
because i am an absentee neighbor kay tagsa ra ko sa cebu, kausa many christmases ago, padung na mi sa subdivision christmas party.  niadtong panahona, kami pa ang kinaduolan nga balay aning pamilyaha.  nag-ilis na ko para sa party, purya, nakadungog man kog verbal riot sa ilaha.  the abuse was unthinkable.  then i saw them at the party.  di to ako panghilabot, pero nisurok akong dugo pakakita sa laki.  hubag ang mga mata sa baye, but she pretended that nothing happened.  unfortunately, her husband's abhorrent behavior was carried to the party; he was drunk pre-party, and all he did was hug the microphone during the party and talk and talk. 

i regretted attending that affair.  the rest of the neighborhood celebrants must have noticed my anger and my glares.  someone said nga aristokrata ra kuno ko kaayo for the group.  they didn't know that i wanted to wring some guy's neck.  since then, wa na gyod ko imbitara sa subdivision association christmas party bisan mopauli ko kun pasko.  di na pod ko interesado. 
#21238
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 01:20:05 PM
there are exceptions, naturally.  di man tawon matawag nga maledukada among silingan sa cebu.  sa private school nagtrabaho ang asawa, sa usa ka government office ang bana.  purya kun ma-violent ang laki.  magtagalog raba kun mag-verbal abuse na.  aguy, physically violent man pod kun mahubog, na, kausa morag public showing nga sine kay hasta mga silingan sa sunod eskina nanagan kay nanan-aw kun unsa ba, manggawas ba kaha sa ilang balay ug magpinaakay kay sige na man ug siyaok ang babaye.  iyang mga amiga nga silingan nahadlok intawon ug patyon, mao nga kausa nagpasumangil na lang ug tawag-tawag niya. 

the scene, according to those who saw them: gadala tawon ang asawa ug mattress, gigamit nga shield against the bunal-bunal sa bana.  wa gyod hinoon moestorya ang asawa ni bisan kinsa kun unsay nahitabo.  but the whole neighborhood knows that she is a battered wife. 
#21239
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 01:08:54 PM
the one in the middle of the cycle, the DENIAL, is said to be more common among the more affluent or educated filipino families.  maayo pa tong naa sa squatter areas kay mosiyagit lang ang asawa, way uwaw-uwaw mao nga mahibaw-an dayon sa katilingban.
#21240
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 12:48:45 PM
SEXUAL

Sexual abuse can be confusing if you are married. You may mistakenly believe that rape only happens as a crime by someone you don't know. Unfortunately, rape and sexual assault can run rampant in a marriage. Sexual abuse by a spouse constitutes any time you're forced into sexual behavior, be it watching a sexual act, participating in an act that you've protested to or being penetrated against your will, according to the Michigan State Police. You may believe that it is simply part of your marriage to go along with what your spouse wants sexually, but if you protest or feel uncomfortable and your spouse forces you, it's considered sexual violence and spousal abuse.


more at http://www.livestrong.com/article/145260-different-types-of-spousal-abuse/#ixzz2Xdm6Yq00
#21241
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 12:45:16 PM
ECONOMICAL

Economical abuse is just another way for your abusive spouse to control your actions. Through economic abuse your spouse may limit your access to money, dictate where you work, how often you work and when you quit. There also may be the constant requirement for you to account where the money is going. You may feel scared or apprehensive of the reaction when you spend money on something necessary, or be forced away from your chosen career path, according to the Conference on Crimes Against Women.
#21242
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 12:43:00 PM
EMOTIONAL

Emotional abuse is sometimes also known as verbal abuse. It is the seemingly subtle actions of a spouse or partner to make you feel bad about yourself, to belittle or control you psychologically. Your partner may call you names, discount your worth, embarrass you in front of other people or isolate you from your friends and family, says the American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress. Emotional abuse doesn't leave visible scars, which is why it is such a lonely and confusing type of spousal abuse.
#21243
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 12:41:30 PM
PHYSICAL

Physical abuse is largely recognizable because it can leave visible signs behind. It constitutes any abuse where your body is at risk; pushing, shoving, punching, biting and any other action that is meant to cause you pain. Not all physical abuse is visible to the naked eye, though. You may mistakenly believe that because the physical abuse was minor, or a one-time happening that it doesn't constitute as abuse, says HelpGuide.org, but all spousal abuse is a serious affair.
#21244
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 12:40:04 PM
Types of Spousal Abuse

Spousal abuse is an alarming trend [in the United States], with the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reporting that over 22 percent of women and 7 percent of men suffering abuse at the hands of a spouse or partner. Sometimes spousal abuse goes unreported because it is unidentified; you know that your spouse is making you feel bad, but you're not sure what it means. Understanding the different types of spousal abuse can make you more aware of what constitutes abuse so you can get the help that you need.
#21245
Jokes and Humor / Re: GITIK-GITIK
June 29, 2013, 12:17:45 PM
Pedring: Doc, regular lagi ko malibang, kada alas 6 sa buntag!

Doc: Maayo noon na! Unya unsa may problema?

Pedring: Alas-7 man gud ko tigmatahan.
#21246
Jokes and Humor / Re: GITIK-GITIK
June 29, 2013, 12:15:07 PM
Teacher: Juan read your 500-word essay in front of the whole class.

JUAN: “My Doggy.” Bow! I have a doggy! My doggy is lost. So, I went outside the house and looked for my doggy! Tokoy, tokoy, tokoy, tokoy, tokoy….. (478 times)
#21247
kun wa ka makaagi ani, ug hinaot unta nga di gyod, ambot ba kaha si pikoy... ;D
#21248
dapat.  labi nag naay tuno.  di kabayran ang kauwaw. ;D
#21249
Introduce Yourself / Re: Picture of Yourself
June 29, 2013, 11:59:36 AM
asa na man si pikoy... angay ni niya makit-an, ahora mismo. ;D
#21250
Facts and Trivia / Re: I Can't Believe it
June 29, 2013, 11:06:38 AM
grabeh!  truly this world has endless possibilities.
#21251
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 03:53:20 AM
Can men be the victims of domestic violence?

According to the U.S. Department of Justice, 95 percent of the victims of domestic violence are women. The National Crime Victimization Survey consistently finds that no matter who initiates the violence, women are 7 to 10 times more likely to be injured than are men.

It's important to realize the climate of intimidation and control that occurs in abusive families. Most men will say they are not afraid of the woman with whom they live, even if they had also been hit, scratched, or punched by her. However, you'll often hear that women are terrorized and live in constant fear of being battered by the man with whom they live.

The difference in strength and physical size puts a woman at more risk than a man.

http://www.pbs.org/
#21252
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 03:49:36 AM
How does domestic violence affect children?

Children are traumatized by witnessing violence in their family. The children in these homes are at high risk of being battered themselves by either the batterer or the victim.

In addition, the long-term effects of witnessing such violence can create a cycle of violence that spans generations. We know that many men who are abusive witnessed their mothers being abused and many were victims of physical abuse themselves.

We also know that women who come from a family in which they witnessed their mother being battered are more susceptible to developing what is called "battered women's syndrome." Such women may come to believe there is nothing they can do to get out of an abusive relationship.

Both men and women who come from abusive homes may come to view the violence they have witnessed as normal, and carry it into their own relationships as adults.
#21253
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 03:47:00 AM
What is the cycle of abuse?

A cycle of abuse occurs in some families. The family's life becomes a cycle of violence. Life begins to revolve around anticipating violence; coping with actual acts of violence; or recovering from the violence.

Ironically, a family can become tremendously close in the recovery phase. The man who was terrifying and intimidating turns into a remorseful, needy, and dependent man. The woman who was battered then will feel sorry for the man and recommit to him in a fantasized hope that the abuse won't happen again. But the cycle of abuse will begin again, often becoming worse.

The cycle of abuse can only be broken with awareness and professional help.
#21254
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 03:45:06 AM
Why don't men leave relationships that are supposedly so unsatisfactory to them?

If we listen to men who abuse their wives, what we hear is how terribly inadequate these women are for the men. At the same time, we know that abusive men are tremendously dependent on their partners.

Fear of rejection, emotional withdrawal, and/or abandonment are major factors that actually cause these men to be violent. Men who batter women are often psychologically incapable of leaving the relationship.
#21255
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 03:43:35 AM
Why don't women leave abusive relationships?

Leaving a relationship, no matter how abusive, is never easy. Women who leave relationships often have to opt for living in poverty. That's a very difficult choice to make.

There are many social, cultural factors that contribute to encouraging women to stay and try and make the situation work. Often, violence is a familiar pattern for the woman, as well as the man. In addition, women often love the men who abuse them, or at least love them initially.

Men who batter are not 100 percent hateful, but they can be loving and attentive partners at times. Some women remain emotionally and/or economically dependent on the batterer despite the fact that she faces continued abuse if she stays with him.

Women are at highest risk of injury or violence when they are separating from or divorcing a partner. Women can be very intimidated by a partner and the consequences of her leaving. It takes a long time for a woman to give up hope in a relationship and to recognize that the only way she can be safe is to leave him.
#21256
Family & Parenting / Re: Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 03:41:09 AM
Is there a profile of men who batter their partners?

Most experts say there is no one profile of men who batter or beat women. Domestic violence crosses all social and economic boundaries.

According to Dr. Susan Hanks, Director of the Family and Violence Institute in Alameda, California, men batter because of internal psychological struggles. Usually, men who batter are seeking a sense of power and control over their partners or their own lives, or because they are tremendously dependent on the woman and are threatened by any moves on her part toward independence.

Some men batter because that's the only way they know how to be close to or relate to a partner. Some men grew up in violent households, where they watched their mothers abused by their fathers and where they themselves were abused. Some men become violent under the influence of drugs or alcohol, although the substances themselves do not cause the violence.
#21257
Family & Parenting / Domestic Violence
June 29, 2013, 03:38:03 AM
apropos the story behind the story (if there is and if entertainment news is to be believed) of cdo outgoing congressman benjo benaldo and brazilian actress-model daiana menezes...


Domestic Violence 101

Introduction

Women may be afraid of strangers, but it's a husband, a lover, a boyfriend, or someone they know who is most likely to hurt them. According to a U.S. Justice Department study, two-thirds of violent attacks against women are committed by someone the woman knows. In the United States, one of the most dangerous places for a woman is her own home. Approximately 1,500 women are killed each year by husbands or boyfriends. About 2 million men per year beat their partners, according to the F.B.I.

There is no excuse for abuse. 
#21258
Health and Food / Re: Crocodile's Meat
June 29, 2013, 01:30:42 AM
eeek! 
#21259
Quote from: Lorenzo on June 26, 2013, 01:17:26 PM
he he he, a friend told me that those who really are rich are quiet about their wealth. ;)

quiet baya pod ko sa akong poverty.
#21260
di lang experts sa kaon ning mga manag-oyab, judging from their name calling.  experts pa gyod sila sa biological process.  unsay kaonon, mahigawas ra gyod.  kaayo ra unta kun magpinahitay na lang sila.
#21261
General Topic / Re: halo TB!!
June 28, 2013, 10:05:35 PM
hello, piks.  balik na bi.  dugay rang nangita si hubag nimo.  bisag tukhi-tukhi lang usa kutob ma-addict dinhi. ;D

hope all's okay with you.
#21262
Inspiration & Hope / Re: Undying Love
June 28, 2013, 03:20:59 PM
mamahid usa ko...
#21263
Quote from: islander on June 28, 2013, 03:16:45 PM
pikason na lang.  usa ka leg hair stocking, the other leg stocking nga ibitay for gifts from santa claus.  syarog naay pay moduol.

kining kalakiha hasta atong bana ug anak maglikay na nato ani. ;D
#21264
pikason na lang.  usa ka leg hair stocking, the other leg stocking nga ibitay for gifts from santa claus.  syarog naay pay moduol.
#21265
Analysis

NOT TO be pedantic, but mermaids â€" defined as half-human, half-fish denizens of the deep once believed to lure lovestruck sailors to their death â€" have been a staple of myth and legend for thousands of years. They don't exist.

There's a related tradition of more recent origin, perhaps dating back 1,500 years, which consists of manufacturing fake mermaid carcasses for public display using the body parts of dead monkeys and fish. The photographs you have just seen document one such artifact.

A similar specimen fabricated in Japan is believed to be 1,400 years old. Yet another, and by far the most famous, is P.T. Barnum's Feejee Mermaid, purchased secondhand by the great showman in the mid-1800s and exhibited throughout the United States as a sideshow attraction.

The glaring irony in all this mermaid fakery, with respect to the ancient tales on which it is based, is that the mummified specimens one typically finds on display are, without exception, hideous in appearance â€" "the incarnation of ugliness," as one American critic described Barnum's creature â€" while the classic mermaid of folklore and pop culture is invariably represented as beautiful and alluring. It is a discrepancy no one ever bothers to explain.

Update: These same images surfaced once again in early 2005 as part of a message claiming the mermaid carcass was washed up on a beach in Chennai, India by the Indian Ocean tsunami of December 26, 2004.

http://urbanlegends.about.com/
#21266
as for other reported sightings of mermaids elsewhere in the world, here's one.

Pictures: Dead Mermaid Found in the Philippines

By David Emery, About.com Guide

Description: Email hoax / Viral images
Circulating since: 2003
Status: False





#21267
Quote from: Lollapalooza on June 28, 2013, 11:37:29 AM
You judge it.... heheheheh





o, most beautiful lorelei... ;D
#21268
Quote from: Lorenzo on June 28, 2013, 11:20:00 AM
::)


hey, blondie, look down here... ;D
#21269
Poems and Poets / Re: Ave atque vale
June 28, 2013, 11:23:06 AM
Quote from: hubag bohol on June 28, 2013, 09:49:16 AM
He he, sa kalawang ka naman madadale. Tay-an jud imong tinai... ;D

silver bullets ang tinutukoy ko, ginoong tukoy hubag.  rustproof yata yung ginagamit para sa werewolf, hanep. ;D
#21270
Philippine Photo Gallery / Re: Cockfight in Bohol
June 28, 2013, 11:20:46 AM
Quote from: hubag bohol on June 28, 2013, 10:07:56 AM
He he, medyo talisayon pud ang buhok ni Ondoy... ;D

mao nay taga-talisay, di taga-mandaue.
#21271
the photo source, gmw.cn, is a chinese website with the blurb "Guangming Online / Ideology and Culture in China".  a search for this mermaid image in that website produces only this same picture as a controversial photo without clearer explanations.  the website though has pictures of dancing swimming humans in mermaid costumes performing for tourists in gigantic aquariums.
#21272
and by jove, what is a sonoprobe?  sono could only be a derivative of sonar, and there's sonoprobe for oil drilling and sonoprobe as a surgery device in medical biotherapy.  a submarine using sonoprobe to probe the seas' depths isn't farfetched.  i just couldn't find one.  help.
#21273
first, the sonoprobe mission by a submarine...

what submarine, what country, what sea or ocean, all the works.  i couldn't find it.  (i hope somebody else can.)
#21274
Tira-Pasagad | Saksak-Sinagol / Are mermaids real?
June 28, 2013, 10:08:52 AM
i wish ariel and her friends were real.

from lolla's post (9 of the World’s Most Controversial Photographs, June 27, 2013), this board:



1. Mermaid

Readers ought to understand that these photographs are here for a reason. These photographs have been subject to huge controversies at one time or the other. A submarine captured photos of a diving mermaid during sonoprobe mission (Photo Source: gmw.cn).
#21275
Poems and Poets / Re: Ave atque vale
June 28, 2013, 09:31:30 AM
the original latin:


Ave atque vale

Gaius Valerius Catullus

Multas per gentes et multa per aequora vectus
Avdenio has miseras, frater, ad inferias
Ut te postremo donarem munere mortis
Et mutam nequiquam alloquerer cinerem.
Quandoquidem fortuna mihi tete abstulit ipsum,
Heu miser indigne frater adempte mihi,
Nunc tamen interea haec, prisco quae more parentum
Tradita sunt tristi munere ad inferias,
Accipe fraterno multum manantia fletu,
Atque in perpetuum, frater, ave atque vale.




Gaius Valerius Catullus (ca. 84â€"54 BC) was a Latin poet of the Roman Republic (509â€"27 BC). His surviving works are still read widely, and continue to influence poetry and other forms of art. (wikipedia)
#21276
Poems and Poets / Re: Ave atque vale
June 28, 2013, 09:05:34 AM
Quote from: hubag bohol on June 27, 2013, 12:37:29 AM
Nanaway, ay. Islandie Baby, dalawang farewell ka lang... ;D

hindi ako takot, lord hubag.  kumakain naman ako ng bala kagaya ni kapitan inggo. ;D
#21277
it's peter pan who didn't grow old.  as for pinocchio...

#21278
theme song of pinocchio:  when you wish upon a star

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c6RoRRdyTxw#
#21279
mopalit unya ko anig duha.  red and blue kay patriotic god ta.  ipa-customize nako nga way ligid. ;D
#21280
Photos Unlimited / Re: The art of kendo
June 27, 2013, 09:08:15 AM
i like their fashion sense.  by the way, where are the women?  no kendoistas?
#21281
Photos Unlimited / Re: The art of kendo
June 27, 2013, 08:59:40 AM
diabetes food...
#21282
namatay intawon sa kamingaw.  may it rest in peace. :(
#21283
Philippine Photo Gallery / Re: Fish trap
June 27, 2013, 08:53:26 AM
Quote from: hubag bohol on June 27, 2013, 12:35:12 AM
Hmm, as in da bigist krokodayl? Unsa gani to iyang ngalan? Lalong? Bolong? Nakalimot na man ko, oi...

:P

mao nay gitawag ug senior moments.  stop hunting na lang kaha, and start knitting. ;D
#21284
Weird and Extreme / Re: Weird beings
June 27, 2013, 08:51:36 AM
weird?  not at all.  i've seen worse... ;D
#21285
"Russians and Chinese often find that the US is on its white horse ... and all of a sudden this information comes out that the US is engaging in surveillance ... so there is a sense that the US is getting its just deserts here. And so I think that's one of the reasons that even though Russia and China do not want have a falling out with the United States over Snowden, they see this as an opportunity to push back against what they see as overzealous democracy promotion from Washington."

- Charles Kupchan, a former US National Security Council official

more at http://www.aljazeera.com/programmes/insidestoryamericas/2013/06/2013625101535803833.html
#21286
Edward Snowden gives countries a chance to thumb nose at US

The US has long emphasized the importance it gives to the human rights of the citizens of the nations it is dealing with. Now, countries aiding Edward Snowden as he tries to evade US justice can turn the tables on the US.

By Howard LaFranchi
Christian Science Monitor
Mon, Jun 24, 2013


The carefully planned journey of Edward Snowden from Hong Kong to Russia â€" then to Cuba possibly, before ending up in Ecuador to seek political asylum? â€" underscores just how many countries, big and small, are happy to have an occasion to stick it in the eye of the United States.

The US and the Obama administration in particular are quick to emphasize the importance they give to the human rights of the citizens of the countries they are dealing with. Needless to say, however, those countries don’t always take well to American lesson-giving.

With the case of Mr. Snowden â€" a former National Security Agency contractor who leaked details of top-secret American and British surveillance programs and who is now sought by the US on espionage charges â€" those countries have a chance to turn the tables on the US.

more at http://news.yahoo.com/edward-snowden-gives-countries-chance-thumb-nose-us-212841209.html;_ylt=AwrNUbEgActRHSoAmNbQtDMD
#21287
Philippine Photo Gallery / Re: Fish trap
June 26, 2013, 10:44:45 PM
Quote from: bugsay on June 26, 2013, 08:40:40 PM
duda ko nga lain ang dakpon ni Hubag...;D

kanang bahalag buaya basta baye lang? ;D
#21288
Philippine Photo Gallery / Re: Fish trap
June 26, 2013, 08:07:06 PM
sure ka wa pa ni kadakop ug buaya?
#21289
Family & Parenting / Re: Superfather
June 26, 2013, 08:06:10 PM
no, no and no.  let your son look for his own future partner when he so wishes.  i don't want to go to jail thrice over. ;D
#21290
Poems and Poets / Re: Ave atque vale
June 26, 2013, 07:59:32 PM
Quote from: hubag bohol on June 26, 2013, 06:47:03 PM
translated by Kyle Pope


Through many nations and over many seas having been
driven I come, poor brother, to (these) offerings,
that I might give (them) at last for the service of the dead
and I, in vain address ashes, unable to speak.
Since fortune has carried away your own self,
Alas, poor brother undeservingly taken away from me,
now however, not withstanding these things, by the ancient
custom of (our) parents
(these) offerings are handed over with sad service
Take them with much wetness from fraternal weeping
and for ever, brother, farewell and farewell.

sipyat.  glaringly so.  para unsa ang 'ave' kun farewell diay.  could be a typographical error...
#21291

Demiaw nga si-aw-aw
#21292

Cat-igbianon
#21293
oh, please.  let the girl be.  clinton had moved on, and so should she.  profiting from someone's pains and embarrassment smacks of ill will, what else.  even the news item itself is bitchy.
#21294
Facts and Trivia / Re: The Island Of Stone Money
June 26, 2013, 04:23:56 PM
i would refuse becoming a millionaire with this kind of currency.  it's backbreaking.  i prefer coins i can save inside a plastic piggy bank.
#21295
Quote from: Lorenzo on June 26, 2013, 12:56:37 PM
No, it is not safe to use the same needles without sterilization. He probably meant to say that he would sterilize the needles again prior to reusing them. Sterilization of medical equipment would be done via an autoclave.

;)

yes, that doctor made it clear with his instructions to the nurse, according to my sister.  something like "sterilize those needles and see to it that they don't disappear."  my understanding is that there are many who may be interested in those needles.  (my sister landed in that particular hospital-- perpetual succour in cebu city-- because those specific needles were available at that time only in that hospital, which happens to be the farthest from our place.)  she decided to go the whole hog and have her surgery there as well. 

we feel god's hand in all this.  tomorrow, june 27, when we will know whether or not she would need chemotherapy, the feast of the mother of perpetual help will be celebrated throughout the philippines.  we have every reason to be grateful.
#21296
Photos Unlimited / Re: Will you love me? Please?
June 26, 2013, 10:43:31 AM
bff forever--



my looks may change, but you can only grow bigger and remain my little pooch...
#21297
Photos Unlimited / Re: Will you love me? Please?
June 26, 2013, 10:40:47 AM
no harm has been done.  that's a fact.  but i like your disguise anyway... ;D
#21298
abat bitaw ug titling ni si hubag.  nakuyawan god kog ang akong boyfriend ang naghikog.  maayo gani kay on call ko by hollywood.  this is catwoman. ;D
#21299
Family & Parenting / Re: Superfather
June 26, 2013, 10:06:49 AM
dili, kay 11 years old pa.  remember, i don't mind going back to jail. ;D
#21300
haaay, i wish i could live in a place like that.  wish ba lang.