I'm late to this, but very intrigued by these findings. It's ironic that women
prefer the effeminate man, because as an effeminate gay man, I find just
the opposite. Gay men do not prefer the man with a feminine demeanor,
such as myself. We are, rather, considered something of an embarrassment
in the larger gay community. Perhaps because, with our feminine demeanor,
we are a stereotype of the gay male. And this is something many gay men
are trying to overcome.
prefer the effeminate man, because as an effeminate gay man, I find just
the opposite. Gay men do not prefer the man with a feminine demeanor,
such as myself. We are, rather, considered something of an embarrassment
in the larger gay community. Perhaps because, with our feminine demeanor,
we are a stereotype of the gay male. And this is something many gay men
are trying to overcome.