So, how does this help anyone else?A common complaint I hear is height, or the lack thereof. Being kind of tall myself, I can appreciate it when a girl wants a taller man. I’ve given it a lot of thought over the years and decided it’s because:
The feeling of being protected and totally enveloped by a man’s embrace is wonderfully soothing.
For whatever reason, that has come to be associated with height, and thus, girls vocalize that desire and attraction by looking for men taller than them.
It could be just me, but I think how tall a person is has little to do with their height and more to do with how they carry themselves.
Take, for example, my first Asian boyfriend who was short. At 5’5†(and remember JT Tran, your Asian Dating Coach is a “mere†5 foot 5 inches too!), I was taller than him by four inches (Jocelyn from Speaking of China had 3 inches on her husband), and I’m sure we got stares for that difference. It was a rare occurrence for me to think of him as shorter, however, because he made his presence known.
He had perfect posture, high self-esteem, and amazing confidence. In other words, confident and attractive male Asian body language! My memories of him reflect this; I even remember him either at eye-level or taller. I doubt he fully understood how he came across to me or how attracted I was to him, but height is and never will be an issue for him.
Another short Asian man I recently dated made it clear early on that he would never tell me his weight. I knew I weighed more than him, and he had a somewhat petite build, but his short Asian stature, or the way he carried himself, actually made me feel smaller than him.
Even looking at pictures where we’re standing side by side, a short Asian man with a tall white woman, he looks bigger than me.
He even appears taller than me, and I had at least an inch on him. I wasn’t slouching or sucking in – he just had that confidence about himself, knowing that how his body was and how he felt about it shouldn’t have any impact on how he felt about mine.
That made me more comfortable and attracted just being with him; I didn’t have to worry about him thinking things like “she has bigger legs than me,†or “I wear smaller pants than she does.†I knew that it didn’t matter to him, which made me like him so much more.
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