To all who are married

[Gener]

Hi All, I read this article and I would like to share this one to this group.


Protecting Your Marriage from Its Greatest Threat
by Bryce Klabunde

“We never intended to fall in love. We were just friends at the office,” the woman confessed through bitter tears. Her affair had finally come to light, and she and her devastated husband sat in their pastor’s study, desperately trying to mend their shattered marriage.

Their story is another tragic statistic in an alarming workplace trend. More and more often, men and women are working closely on projects, traveling together on business trips, celebrating successes together, and consoling one another when the business deal fails. These intensely personal experiences give workplace friendships an emotional charge that can threaten any marriage.

How can you protect your marriage from a workplace affairâ€"or any affair? One word: boundaries. A common assumption is that loving marriages are immune to affairs. But research suggests that it’s not necessarily the strength of your love that protects you, but the strength of your boundaries.

A boundary is an inviolable, personal conviction. Unfaithful spouses often claim to be victims of forces beyond their control: “I couldn’t help myself.” Yet everyone who has an affair willfully decides to compromise a conviction.

The boundary that usually falls first is the “shared secret.” You may feel an attraction toward a workmate. However, not until you “share your secret” do you break the boundary. A boundary-breaker may be a flirtatious touch. An e-mail with a double meaning. An overly personal compliment. If the other person responds in kind and neither of you tells your spouse, you give each other a silent signal that your feelings are mutual and the secret is safe. Like a spark igniting fuel in an engine, a shared secret revs up a relationship and begins the affair.

So, don’t cross the “shared secret” boundary. If you sense that a coworker is testing that boundary, immediately tell your spouse. Exposing the secret immediately defuses it . . . and builds trust.

What are other boundaries?

Never pair up on business trips
Never share marriage problems or dissatisfactionâ€"this signals that you want emotional intimacy
Never give overly personal compliments
Never violate personal space by sitting too close or touching
“The marriage bed is to be undefiled” (Hebrews 13:4). The phrase, marriage bed, represents the physical and emotional intimacy that makes marriage sacred. “Protect your marriage,” the writer is saying. Don’t give the intimacy that you promised your spouse to anyone else. Keep your boundaries firm.

[A Layman]

True! Relationship in marriage is just like testing your internet connectivity. When there is a strong signal, browsing speed, picture transparency and sound fidelity are high. With this kind of situation you can work well with high efficiency using your laptop companion. When signals become low because of some interference, then one begins to suspect the cause. Sniff doon...sniff dito...may dumikit ba dito...may ibang amoy ba dito, atbp. The level of stability in a relationship of married couple depends on how each partner connects with each other. When connectivity becomes low,  trouble arises, then war.

[bol-anon nga cebuano]

openness to one another is another key to a long lasting relationship plus understanding. if you are so ppen to your partner, there is no way you can resolve any conflict plus the fact that you are not hiding anything from him or her. if something bad is brewing talk to your partner, be open to it and discuss it one on one. if there's a conflict, resolve it immediately before it grows bigger and escalates to a much bigger quarrel. that's what me and my wife are trying to do. my wife is really a nagger and if she doesn't like something, she will not tell me but instead she will not talk to me or lest hide it from me. she will just reveal it when another thing happened. i really don't like it. so i talked to her, explained to her everything. asked her not to do it again. encouraged her to speak up everytime she felt angry or upset with something. and slowly she's going with the flow. and hopefully we can master this routine and praying that this could lead us to greater heights in our relationship.

[A Layman]

It's true! Openess serves as a lifeline cord that binds each couple to be in union with each other when they committed a vow 'Til death do us part.' What a wholesome thing to imagine how lucky you are that moment, as you walk towards the altar, filled with such a fascination that you are meant for each other! Married couple just have to translate this imagination into reality one at a time to strenghten the cord that binds them together as years go by.

[A Layman]

Ha hay! Morag nangitago ang mga minyo diri! Way reaction. They don't want to come to the open for fear of being busted. Hey guys, come one. Don't you worry, daghan man pod ang moangay sa mga minyo. Caution: Huwag magpahuli ni Mrs, lagot ka! LOL

[lindy]

Layman, mao niy akong problema kon unsaon paglikay. Mao nga permi na lang ko mangayo ug permit ni komander. hahaha ano ka sinuswerte!

[bol-anon nga cebuano]

akong misis member man tingale ni sa xmen. lisod tagu-taguan akong misis kay murag si wolverine kung mosimhot. murag si jean grey kay makakita sa future.

[glacier_71]

wa pa koy labot ani diay...heheheheh