Women Are the Bosses?

[pioneer]

Men might throw their weight around at the office, but at home, women are the bosses.

A study, which was just released, finds that wives have more power than their husbands in making decisions and dominating discussions.

"The study at least suggests that the marriage is a place where women can exert some power," said lead author David Vogel, a psychologist at Iowa State University (ISU). "Whether or not it's because of changing societal roles, we don't know.”

The results counter past research.

“Most of the research literature in psychology has suggested that women have less power,” Vogel told LiveScience. “They have largely based that on the fact that traditionally men earn more money and so therefore would have the ability to make big decisions in the relationship.” That wasn’t the case in this study.

Spouse survey says

Vogel, Megan Murphy, also of ISU, and their colleagues surveyed 72 married couples in which the spouses were an average of 33 years old and had been married for about seven years. Most of the participants (66 percent) were Caucasian, followed by Asian (22 percent), Hispanic (5 percent) and African American (4 percent). The final 3 percent represented “other” nationalities.

Each spouse answered questions about relationship satisfaction and overall decision-making ability. Then, each spouse noted a relationship problem that could not be resolved without the spouse’s cooperation. While money and housework were popular picks, sex didn’t come up much as a marital issue.

Topics chosen by husbands/wives included:

    * Moneyâ€"18 percent (husbands) / 13 percent (wives)
    * Houseworkâ€"15 percent / 15 percent
    * Friends and familyâ€"10 percent / 19 percent
    * Feelings and emotionsâ€"10 percent / 13 percent
    * Time togetherâ€"13 percent / 10 percent
    * Making decisionsâ€"18 percent / 4 percent
    * Sexâ€"4 percent / 1percent
    * Intimacyâ€"1 percent / 1 percent
    * Communicationâ€"3 percent / 4 percent
    * Childrenâ€"husbands never chose this topic; 3 percent of wives
    * Other relationship changesâ€"4 percent / 17 percent

The scientists videotaped the couples while they discussed each of the issues for 10 minutes.

Women power

Trained volunteers coded the videotapes using a scale that rated couples’ interactions based on words and behaviors associated with blame (blames, accuses and criticizes the partner); demand (nags, pressures for change, requests); withdrawal and avoidance (avoids discussion the problem by hesitating, changing topics, diverting attention or looking away); and discussion.

Wives were more demandingâ€"asking for changes in the relationship or in their partnerâ€"and were more likely to get their way than the husbands. This held regardless of who had chosen the issue.

The women were not just talking more than their husbands.

"It wasn't just that the women were bringing up issues that weren't being responded to, but that the men were actually going along with what they said,” Vogel explained. “[Women] were communicating more powerful messages, and men were responding to those messages by agreeing or giving in.”

One reason for in-charge wives could be that they carry the weight of making sure the family farm is running smoothly.

"Women are responsible for overseeing the relationship, making sure the relationship runs, that everything gets done, and that everybody's happy," Murphy said.

Wife power could signal a harmonious couple. "There's been research that suggests that's a marker of a healthy marriageâ€"that men accept influence from their wives," Murphy said.

The study, published in the April issue of the Journal of Counseling Psychology, was funded by the National Institute of Mental Health along with ISU.

source: news.yahoo.com

[C2H4]

I agree. I agree.

[PreciousAngeL]

gusto ko equal lang walang lamangan!
mas okay man gyd na kamo duha mag-asawa share mo sa lahat ng bagay!

[Moyhua]

share man jud...kami akong bana..share sa opinion pero kung ako na gani mo ingon..mo decide nga mao ni mao na....ingon jud akong bana.."YES ANGIELYN!" (pakapin...ang tapang mo, Angie)

[Lorenzo]

I disagree.

[windgate]

share man jud...kami akong bana..share sa opinion pero kung ako na gani mo ingon..mo decide nga mao ni mao na....ingon jud akong bana.."YES ANGIELYN!" (pakapin...ang tapang mo, Angie)

sugot na lang na siya kay ang unya

[Lorenzo]

I would never say that a woman is always the boss. First and foremost, I will make sure that my wife knows where I stand on family and issues. She will have to accept the fact that my loyalty, first, lies to my Mommy, Daddy, and siblings. As I came from my Mother's own womb.

Man and Woman are both bosses. It's all about compromise, baby.

[Moyhua]

hehehehehe..kanang akong bana..medyo masunurin na sya nako.... maldita lagi kono ko!

[buwadsanga]

hahahahahhahhaha! - never and wemen never entertain or even think youre the bozz!!! that's bad and ugly!!!

[Happy]

I would never say that a woman is always the boss. First and foremost, I will make sure that my wife knows where I stand on family and issues. She will have to accept the fact that my loyalty, first, lies to my Mommy, Daddy, and siblings. As I came from my Mother's own womb.

Oh oh, so is this means that your wife to be is just 2nd in the rank, dong?
Naks! diko sugot ani kung ako babae oi.

[bol-anon_ko]

Men = Women ? Who is the Boss
Everybody on earth dies and goes to heaven. (Don't ask why or how, it just happens...)

God comes and says, "I want the men to make two lines. One line for the men that dominated their women on earth and the other line for the men that were dominated by their women. Also, I want all the women to go with St. Peter."

With that said and done, the next time God looked, the women are gone and there are two lines. The line of the men that were dominated by their women was 100 miles long, and in the line of men that dominated their women, there was only one man.

God got mad and said, "You men should be ashamed of yourselves. I created you in my image and you were all whipped by your mates. Look at the only one of my sons that stood up and made me proud. Learn from him! Tell them my son, how did you manage to be the only one in this line?"

And the man replied, "I don't know, my wife told me to stand here."



Comments:

   Anonymous said...
  Yep
   This is the reason why I just date and never get married to my GF


 
   

[bol-anon_ko]

Wife Vs Husband       
A couple drove down a country road for several miles, not saying a word.

An earlier discussion had led to an argument and neither of them wanted to

concede their position. As they passed a barnyard of mules, goats, and pigs,

the  wife  asked sarcastically, "Relatives of yours?"

"Yep," the husband replied, "in-laws."

[Moyhua]

hahahahaha....dah lagi! nakapiso ang wife.

[bol-anon nga cebuano]

yes, my wife is my boss. siya ang magbuot kanus-a ko niya kasab-an.

[Moyhua]

Sweet!

[bol-anon nga cebuano]

Sweet!

unsay sweet?

[Moyhua]

yes, my wife is my boss. siya ang magbuot kanus-a ko niya kasab-an.

sweet! ?

[bol-anon nga cebuano]

sweet! ?

ahahahaha. kana diay imong gi mean nga sweet.
sweet unta ug dili pa kasaba.

[thegirlnextdoor]

please note mostley caucasian took the survey and most of us are pretty charachteristic and now how to entertain.

I do beleive as I have observed living here in Bohol when I see two people sitting at a table together one is a Filipino man and the other his flavor for god knows how long I observe the Filipino man is waiting on her hand and foot as she just sits there looking sad and is silent the whole time.

I have observed many Filipnomen loving to cook more then caucasian men as well while the woman just sits on her but watching her Filipina Drama's that she can not miss on t.v.during dinner timehours.LOL!

Its my own observation but there are older women here who know haw to kick up their heels compared to women much youngerthen them now a days.

Someof my male foreiger friends saysomeyoung women are like quiet and kill joy behaiving grandma's.

[bol-anon nga cebuano]

women are really bossy and nagger, aren't they?

[John Mars]

Yes they are the bosses,afterall they decide when "we get it" or not.  But, they still need us to equalize or the relationship will be a long bumpy ride..

[bol-anon nga cebuano]

im already prepared for that bumpy eversince we are still in the relationship. after all, we were together for 12 years before we got married.

[windgate]

sometimes...

[buwadsanga]

what bosses? it should be balanced for domestic power. women should always be loved, respected and always made to laugh.