Is it natural to be attracted to friends?

[Lorenzo]

Is it natural to be attracted or develop some sort of attraction to a friend who happens to be a girl? Well for me, in my personal situation, am friends with a lady in my class. We're also batchmates im med school, and I think all this studying with her, exchanging notes, going to lunch together, as well as talking about clinical aspects has made me realize that I have some kind of attraction to her.

I submit that women in general are beautiful and that I can be carried away or a woman's beauty can steal my attention at times, but this sort of attraction that I am talking about seems and feels genuine.

As a young man in my early 20s, I will admit that I don't really know the full meaning of Love because--well--who knows? haha! I just don't know.

Do you, fellow Bol-anons or curious visitors who happen to court our site and read for fun, think or know that being friends with someone in the opposite sex lead to attraction? Attraction in the sense of developing actual feelings of affection?

Because, I admit, I think I'm developing those--or have already developed it.

To tell you the truth, one of the reasons why I'm even excited to attend study groups is to see this particular individual; that and to learn, of course. But yea. You get my point?


Hmmm

[hofelina]

Fascination?

[-<GEC348>-]

Most Learned Sir Lorenzo,

The more, you get to know the person, the more you either get to like or dislike her.
Like leads to attraction which leads to love which leads to intimacy.
Dislike, on the other hand, could lead to hate in the extreme.

So on your question -- it's only natural.

[Lorenzo]

Que Romantico y lattisimus Gec,

This feeling is natural? I fear, Gec, that if I acquiesce to my primal human feelings, I will ruin our friendship. I am a pitiful individual when it comes to showing affection--as I do not show it physically--but internally is there.

Gec, ayudame!

Por favor,


Lorenzo su amigo.

[kiamoy]

Of course! We are not made of stone. Just don't entertain the feeling if it's plain physical attraction. It will for real ruin a true or genuine friendship.


But if your intentions are good, then go for it.

[hofelina]

Kon Manok sonoy pa, laboka gud dajun, , this is a normal game people play. How would you know love if you don´t take the risk and give your heart away? Go go go !

[lindy]

Thats right. Kay unsaon nimo sa pagbasa sa usa ka libro kon dili nimo pak lion ang matag palid niini. But do it like a song " killing me softly"

[-<GEC348>-]

Matod pa, no matter how far we advanced in our civilization, men are still cavemen in the desires of the flesh      We may not show it, but we sure do feel it!

[ms da binsi]

pak-pak-pak jud ko nimo GEC!

Tinuod man jud na! di lang cavemen, animal behavior jud. Im serious. Male animals desire to all female of their kind man jud. Im not against your desires fifol pero tinuod man jud na.

[Lorenzo]

Thank you for your advices, everyone. I think, for the good of friendship and to preserve the harmony of my study group--I shall choose to repress these feelings.

It is easy to give into temptations and whims of the flesh, I agree to that, indeed, the primal instinct is there in us men.

Mo kuan na lang ko--mo smile lang ko when I see her. To see, but to never have. To touch but to never caress. Perhaps, just perhaps, it is for the best.

[hofelina]

I agree to that, indeed, the primal instinct is there in us men.

Yes Ondoy, do that labi na kong mag release siya ug ripe egg, mo release pud siya ug scent mga ma hot gajud ka! you are both at this age where mating is an optimal activity, but since you are not a cave man, just suppress you feelings and sing all by myself!

[alfonso_potane]

all by myself ..... hehehe...

[Lorenzo]

I agree to that, indeed, the primal instinct is there in us men.

Yes Ondoy, do that labi na kong mag release siya ug ripe egg, mo release pud siya ug scent mga ma hot gajud ka! you are both at this age where mating is an optimal activity, but since you are not a cave man, just suppress you feelings and sing all by myself!

hahaha!

*in tenor voice*--Allllll by my selfffff

[proud2B-a-BOJOLANA]

Hi, Dong Lorenz!

What is wrong with being attracted to the opposite sex? 

Are you aware that repressing your feelings ... might lead to imbalance ... hu?  As the song says ..."di na makatulog ... di na makakain ... taghiyawat sa ilong ... pati na sa pisngi?  Sa kakaisip sa yo ..." ...

naunsa man ang apo ni Dagohoy ... bugnaw ba ug simod?  Hahahaha!

But seriously ... she might also have the same feelings for you ... HU?  A young man as good-looking as you, and as intelligent?  But how will you know ...

I think ... if I were in your shoes ... I will play it cool ... show her you like her; that you like her a lot in NO uncertain terms ... BUT NOT be too pushy or too maniac-ish?  If you are concerned about "ruining" your friendship ... you can try for the "UM" style of courtship initially?  (meaning UNDERSTANDING METHOD?  Some I think call it "MU"? ...

Hahahah! Just let me know if you feel keen to consider this option ... I will be glad to "ayudar" you --- provide you with strategic details of winning her, with the least damage if ever, in the most unlikely event, your feelings would NOT be returned?

Kinikilig ...

Lola Annabelle

[ms da binsi]

hahaha!

*in tenor voice*--Allllll by my selfffff

bwahhahhaa

Dodong i can hear your voice!

[ms da binsi]

Hi, Dong Lorenz!

What is wrong with being attracted to the opposite sex? 

Are you aware that repressing your feelings ... might lead to imbalance ... hu?  As the song says ..."di na makatulog ... di na makakain ... taghiyawat sa ilong ... pati na sa pisngi?  Sa kakaisip sa yo ..." ...

naunsa man ang apo ni Dagohoy ... bugnaw ba ug simod?  Hahahaha!

But seriously ... she might also have the same feelings for you ... HU?  A young man as good-looking as you, and as intelligent?  But how will you know ...

I think ... if I were in your shoes ... I will play it cool ... show her you like her; that you like her a lot in NO uncertain terms ... BUT NOT be too pushy or too maniac-ish?  If you are concerned about "ruining" your friendship ... you can try for the "UM" style of courtship initially?  (meaning UNDERSTANDING METHOD?  Some I think call it "MU"? ...

Hahahah! Just let me know if you feel keen to consider this option ... I will be glad to "ayudar" you --- provide you with strategic details of winning her, with the least damage if ever, in the most unlikely event, your feelings would NOT be returned?

Kinikilig ...

Lola Annabelle

Lola kumusta na!

I miss you.

[taga tigbao]

Okay lang man na makaangay sa friend, ako man ganing bestfriend aho naangajan but I choose the friendship lang.

hehehehe. Nindot man gud ug friend lang sa.

[hofelina]

Shalan ka Taga Tigbao, kini ang plan A, romantic friendship, kon masipyat, plan B, normal friendship, in this way you got the best of both worlds.

[taga tigbao]

Shalan ka Taga Tigbao, kini ang plan A, romantic friendship, kon masipyat, plan B, normal friendship, in this way you got the best of both worlds.

Bestfriend naho to sija manay. Lisud kaajo ug romantic friendship kay implaw ta. hahahahah

Dili man ko si Hannah Montana. hahahaha

Kahibawo man pud ko nga may feelings pud sija pero gusto sa ko ug friendship ra una sa. Asa ra man na, ug kami kami gajud. no? hehehehe

[hofelina]

Tawag ni-ana sa Bol-anon TALAWAN! he he he he

[taga tigbao]

Tawag ni-ana sa Bol-anon TALAWAN! he he he he

Unsay talawan manay? Kinsay talawan kay atong kuhaan ug itlog? hahahaha

Sagdi, magpost ko ug picture diria kung kami na. hahahaha. Makapanguyab lamang ta ug ahat nimo manay. hahaha. Dugay2 pa ra ba ijang balik kay nagtraining pagkapulis.

[AsPo]

pag ayo tigs kay kong imo sya binuangan pusilon jod imo bayag

[manilyn]

yes...

[cujo]

Be careful Bran{I can call you that ?}.You seem to be easily attracted with women who has brain and beauty.You're young and my advice concentrate in finishing your studies.Enjoy the company of that lady.If it is meant to be then its meant to be.

[islander]

pag ayo tigs kay kong imo sya binuangan pusilon jod imo bayag

nanghinaot ko nga wa pa unta ka mabinuangi, asp.  kay kun human na, makasiguro ko nga naay nilalang karon sa kalibotan nga nagtakiang ang linakwan kay imo nang nabuslotan iyang bayag ug uzi.

karong mga adlawa, hain man tuod ka?  nangita ug laing buslotonon?

[hubag bohol]

pag ayo tigs kay kong imo sya binuangan pusilon jod imo bayag

Kana kon makaigo...

[bugsay]

Kana kon makaigo...

bitaw...kay lisod baya kaayo ig-on kon mura la'g toothpick ka dako.

[hubag bohol]

bitaw...kay lisod baya kaayo ig-on kon mura la'g toothpick ka dako.

Basin maihap ra ang mga tungaw nga makakumbitay?

[islander]

Basin maihap ra ang mga tungaw nga makakumbitay?

kaya gihapon na ni asp.  she's not a sharpshooter for nothing...