Can A Love Triangle Be Healthy?

[hubag bohol]

by Rich Santos, Marie Claire, on Fri Jul 15, 2011 7:38am PDT


Why don't people refrain from repeating bad actions that have actually caused them harm in the past? Jennifer Aniston lost Brad Pitt to Angelina Jolie, but she’s now seeing actor Justin Theroux â€" who the tabloids speculate she started dating while he was still with his live-in girlfriend Heidi Bivens.

I'm not one to follow celebrity gossip (I swear), but I was intrigued by Dr. Jane Greer's analysis of the Aniston situation in her Huffington Post article, Jennifer Aniston: Is She The Other Woman or the New Woman? And I do agree with some of Greer's points.

Dr. Greer mentions that couples work to keep a relationship alive in the face of "the never-ending fight." Often, one person in a union gives up when they feel there is no solution. In fact, many relationships continue despite one person's emotional detachment. The fights stop because someone has given up, but the other person in the relationship perceives this as healing. The couple stays together because they fear that final break. Relationships with only one investor can continue but they certainly aren't healthy. A two-engine plane can still fly if one engine fails, but who wants to sit on that plane?

I disagree with Dr. Greer's points that the other woman, or man, is somehow saving a failing relationship. Dr. Greer goes as far as to say that affairs save some relationships because the bored person is now being satisfied elsewhere. So, they go through the motions of their relationships, drawing passion from other sources. Call me old-fashioned, but I don't think it's ever helpful or healthy to have an affair.

Maybe a new and exciting person can save someone from his or her dying relationship and put it out of its misery. This other woman or man is essentially pulling the plug on the original relationship that was on life support. That's all fine and good, but there's still someone who wants to keep the relationship alive â€" he/she is the victim.

Love triangles are selfish. Everyone involved is satisfying their own needs, without considering anyone else's feelings. The victim must let their disillusioned lover go. The cheater should open his/her mouth and explain that he/she can't be in the relationship. The other woman or man should wait in the wings until said love interest has wrapped up the other relationship. It's healthier for two people to end a relationship themselves than to have someone else end it for them. Life is short, be honest and save time when your relationship is flying on one engine. Don't wait for someone else to do it for you. Don't hold on to someone who doesn't want to be there, and don't pretend you want to be there if you don't.

Can a love triangle help end a relationship? Or do you agree with me that a relationship should be ended by the two people in it? -- http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/can-a-love-triangle-be-healthy-2511862/

[hubag bohol]

Hmm, love quadrange na lang kaha aron way mabakante...

[hubag bohol]

It's healthier for two people to end a relationship themselves than to have someone else end it for them. Life is short, be honest and save time when your relationship is flying on one engine.

Indeed...

[chicogon]

Threesome? 

[islander]

it is never healthy.  frankly, while i admire many things muslim, specifically arab, i cannot for the life of me understand how it works when one has two wives, never mind the maximum limit of four wives.

i know of people though who are on emotional life support, and for their own emotional survival they won't give up on a very bad relationship yet unless there's already someone else for them to fall back to.  i'll never forget this advice of a friend to another friend whose relationships were all devastating:  you rest first.  don't jump from one failed relationship to another; give yourself time to ask yourself what it is you really want.   

[hubag bohol]

Threesome? 

He he, simplest solution if acceptable to everyone concerned...

[Lorenzo]

it is never healthy.  frankly, while i admire many things muslim, specifically arab, i cannot for the life of me understand how it works when one has two wives, never mind the maximum limit of four wives.

i know of people though who are on emotional life support, and for their own emotional survival they won't give up on a very bad relationship yet unless there's already someone else for them to fall back to.  i'll never forget this advice of a friend to another friend whose relationships were all devastating:  you rest first.  don't jump from one failed relationship to another; give yourself time to ask yourself what it is you really want.   

isles, have you read the q'uran as well as read about the hadiths of the prophet muhammad concerning marriages?

[lindy]

sa kadaghan sa babaye karong panahuna ug nagkadaghan nasab ang mga bading murag dili na gyud ni ikatingala...plus kana pod maka afford sab sa gasto...

[Lorenzo]

sa kadaghan sa babaye karong panahuna ug nagkadaghan nasab ang mga bading murag dili na gyud ni ikatingala...plus kana pod maka afford sab sa gasto...

bitaw, nong. naa bitaw baje nga gusto sila tanan nakit-an, ang resulta ana-- mahal kaajo
pero naa pood bajeh nga dili mo gasto, pero mahal gihapon ilang requests.

[tohnichi007]

by Rich Santos, Marie Claire, on Fri Jul 15, 2011 7:38am PDT


Why don't people refrain from repeating bad actions that have actually caused them harm in the past? Jennifer Aniston lost Brad Pitt to Angelina Jolie, but she’s now seeing actor Justin Theroux â€" who the tabloids speculate she started dating while he was still with his live-in girlfriend Heidi Bivens.

I'm not one to follow celebrity gossip (I swear), but I was intrigued by Dr. Jane Greer's analysis of the Aniston situation in her Huffington Post article, Jennifer Aniston: Is She The Other Woman or the New Woman? And I do agree with some of Greer's points.

Dr. Greer mentions that couples work to keep a relationship alive in the face of "the never-ending fight." Often, one person in a union gives up when they feel there is no solution. In fact, many relationships continue despite one person's emotional detachment. The fights stop because someone has given up, but the other person in the relationship perceives this as healing. The couple stays together because they fear that final break. Relationships with only one investor can continue but they certainly aren't healthy. A two-engine plane can still fly if one engine fails, but who wants to sit on that plane?

I disagree with Dr. Greer's points that the other woman, or man, is somehow saving a failing relationship. Dr. Greer goes as far as to say that affairs save some relationships because the bored person is now being satisfied elsewhere. So, they go through the motions of their relationships, drawing passion from other sources. Call me old-fashioned, but I don't think it's ever helpful or healthy to have an affair.

Maybe a new and exciting person can save someone from his or her dying relationship and put it out of its misery. This other woman or man is essentially pulling the plug on the original relationship that was on life support. That's all fine and good, but there's still someone who wants to keep the relationship alive â€" he/she is the victim.

Love triangles are selfish. Everyone involved is satisfying their own needs, without considering anyone else's feelings. The victim must let their disillusioned lover go. The cheater should open his/her mouth and explain that he/she can't be in the relationship. The other woman or man should wait in the wings until said love interest has wrapped up the other relationship. It's healthier for two people to end a relationship themselves than to have someone else end it for them. Life is short, be honest and save time when your relationship is flying on one engine. Don't wait for someone else to do it for you. Don't hold on to someone who doesn't want to be there, and don't pretend you want to be there if you don't.

Can a love triangle help end a relationship? Or do you agree with me that a relationship should be ended by the two people in it? -- http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/can-a-love-triangle-be-healthy-2511862/

Threesome? 

Cool diay ni ron??? 

[lindy]

Naa koy nabasahan nga dunay mga babaye karon nga gitawag ni silag mga husband hunters. kay kuno kasagaran sa mga minyo nga lalaki once nga ila na mapa inlove mo commit gyud but it is a gumble daw sa side sa baje ky kadaghanan sa laki or husband dili man mobiya sa ilang mga asawa. ang nakaporki ky kasagaran sa mga asawa mao man mo give-up mao makuha gyud ang husband.

[bugsay]

Naa koy nabasahan nga dunay mga babaye karon nga gitawag ni silag mga husband hunters. kay kuno kasagaran sa mga minyo nga lalaki once nga ila na mapa inlove mo commit gyud but it is a gumble daw sa side sa baje ky kadaghanan sa laki or husband dili man mobiya sa ilang mga asawa. ang nakaporki ky kasagaran sa mga asawa mao man mo give-up mao makuha gyud ang husband.

testimonya man tingale ni sa nakuha....bwahahahha

[hubag bohol]

testimonya man tingale ni sa nakuha....bwahahahha

Komentaryo sa padung makuha...

[bugsay]

Komentaryo sa padung makuha...

tubag ni sa kadaghan na giuli....

[lindy]

kamo ra gyud duha maoy makatubag ana ky murag mas daghan mo ug kasinatian siguro ani. hehehe.

[hubag bohol]

tubag ni sa kadaghan na giuli....

Bwahaha! Giuli kay naay factory defect? Yataps, bisto si Botoy!

[Lorenzo]

A Love triangle can never be healthy. Period.

[chicogon]

testimonya man tingale ni sa nakuha....bwahahahha

Komentaryo sa padung makuha...

tubag ni sa kadaghan na giuli....

kamo ra gyud duha maoy makatubag ana ky murag mas daghan mo ug kasinatian siguro ani. hehehe.

Bwahaha! Giuli kay naay factory defect? Yataps, bisto si Botoy!

Bantog ra kay naay tawo deri nga wana mopatim-aw... factory defect tingale maong geuli sa nakapanag-iya (sa aplikante) hehehe  

[hubag bohol]

Bwahaha! On the contrary, perming nalugpitan!

[chicogon]

Motingog diay basta malugpitan?!! 

[hubag bohol]

Mogawas ang daotang hangin, with a bang!