DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

[jorgeanna]

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?"
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?"
In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse/partner. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit) .

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience.
You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?"
And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else.
This is when marriages or relationship breakdown. People blame their spouse/partner for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage/relationsh ip for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious.
But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else.
You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE/RELATIONSH IP IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage/relationsh ip work. Sure true love can only happen after you've fallen out of love. When you begin choosing to love, even if you don't feel like doing it ---- that's true love. And that's the foundation of a lasting and strong marriage.


Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships.
Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger.
It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. .. you can "make"love.

Love is indeed a "decision".. . Not just a feeling. You'll not just go away with your relationship just because the feeling is gone. In the Bible, love is a command. You make it happen.

Remember this always:

"God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go."
FW: Ruth Beltran

"Marriage is more than saying I Do. Marriage, like a precious plant, needs constant tending for it to grow, flourish, and bear fruti to last a lifetime, and beyond."
-David and Evelyn Feliciano

[vrglguapo]

There is no perfect marriage..but you can be very close...as nothing is perfect .....

[jorgeanna]

I like this saying:

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

[hofelina]

Love is indeed a "decision".. . Not just a feeling. You'll not just go away with your relationship just because the feeling is gone. In the Bible, love is a command. You make it happen.

I like this line, when I met my present boyfriend it was last 2007, it took me sometime to decide, we worked on our relationship everday, and it functions.

[luckybelle]

Sure true love can only happen after you've fallen out of love. When you begin choosing to love, even if you don't feel like doing it ---- that's true love.

Yeah... sure, even if he leaves you when you chose to love him

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE/RELATIONSH IP IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

Aha, accepting all of him..(his imperfections and shortcomings 'cause you're not perfect either) but even all these he still chose to run away
Remember this always:

"God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go."

Yeah, you chose to make him stay... but even all these he still chose to go away:-\
FW: Ruth Beltran

[luckybelle]

Inspiring Ballet - Hand in Hand (It will make you cry)

[luckybelle]

The boy lost his leg while playing on the road when he was four.

The girl lost her arm in a car accident when she was nineteen.

[islander]

a truly beautiful and inspiring ballet.  tears of joy for the human spirit>>>

[luckybelle]

a truly beautiful and inspiring ballet.  tears of joy for the human spirit>>>

Mao bitaw... may pa ni sila nagkasinabot pa... I hope ang nangayo ug resibo natagaan na para PEACE NA... Peace mga silingan... Merry Christmas na baja

[islander]

Mao bitaw... may pa ni sila nagkasinabot pa... I hope ang nangayo ug resibo natagaan na para PEACE NA... Peace mga silingan... Merry Christmas na baja

mag-ballet na lang kaha sila, unya putlan na lag dila si you-know-who pagkahuman?

[islander]

as for this thread, yes, i married the right person because we got married.

[luckybelle]

mag-ballet na lang kaha sila, unya putlan na lag dila si you-know-who pagkahuman?

Bwahahahaha... ajaw pud madam... bahak... sakita pud ana woi

[luckybelle]

as for this thread, yes, i married the right person because we got married.

Approved!

[hubag bohol]

as for this thread, yes, i married the right person because we got married.

I hope your banana republic has no problem with your logic, Ms. Isle... 

[Vito Andoline]

I hope your banana republic has no problem with your logic, Ms. Isle... 

hahahaha dilikado mapakog to bai

[islander]

I hope your banana republic has no problem with your logic, Ms. Isle... 

none whatsoever, hubs.  let me rephrase it; yes, i married the right person because he was right enough to marry me.

[islander]

if this logic still defies understanding, you could go to the thread on receipts for donations.  the logic of cheers is easier to understand, i promise.

[hubag bohol]

none whatsoever, hubs.  let me rephrase it; yes, i married the right person because he was right enough to marry me.

Hmm. That he was right enough to marry you was evidently your idea, not his. Right? But then you're asking yourself, and so the answer you give can only be right. But rightly or wrongly, in the end the operative word is not "right', but "marry".

Three cheers for marriage!

[islander]

Hmm. That he was right enough to marry you was evidently your idea, not his. Right?

no.  it's not right.  he gave me the idea.

But then you're asking yourself, and so the answer you give can only be right. But rightly or wrongly, in the end the operative word is not "right', but "marry".

i definitely have the right answer to a question asked by this thread, not a question i'm asking myself.  it's wrongly, not rightly, because the operative word is 'married', that is, whether or not i'm married, rightly or wrongly.

Three cheers for marriage!

the worst thing that could happen in a marriage is to have three cheers of the receipts for donations fame in it.  one is already enough to boil the stew to the brim, but three?  maybe even tb would short-circuit of it had three of those.  

[hubag bohol]

i definitely have the right answer to a question asked by this thread, not a question i'm asking myself.  it's wrongly, not rightly, because the operative word is 'married', that is, whether or not i'm married, rightly or wrongly.

I can't say outright whether you're being sophistic or solipsistic, or both or neither, but I suppose as an educated married woman you are familiar with both suppositions and suppositories--wherever the insertion occurs, he he. I therefore suppose we should pull out this issue and leave it for the sphincter, er, sphinx, to resolve.

- sphincter in denial mode

[islander]

I can't say outright whether you're being sophistic or solipsistic, or both or neither, but I suppose as an educated married woman you are familiar with both suppositions and suppositories--wherever the insertion occurs, he he. I therefore suppose we should pull out this issue and leave it for the sphincter, er, sphinx, to resolve.

- sphincter in denial mode

suppositions are my privilege while suppositories are your support system.  let's leave the sphinx to the greeks and the sphincter to lorenz and statesville as they would know how to use it on you, er, on the sphinx.

- hubag after the application of a rectal sphincter

[BolBuhol]

I can't say outright whether you're being sophistic or solipsistic, or both or neither, but I suppose as an educated married woman you are familiar with both suppositions and suppositories--wherever the insertion occurs, he he. I therefore suppose we should pull out this issue and leave it for the sphincter, er, sphinx, to resolve.

- sphincter in denial mode

hang masul sang ubos kag arang padanglog pero kag tuohon sang marry indi gid lalaki kag sulbad gid

[hubag bohol]

hang masul sang ubos kag arang padanglog pero kag tuohon sang marry indi gid lalaki kag sulbad gid

Indi jud bakyano sang padanglog kung kulang sang praktis bla, iba gid ang disiplina para sang talinghaga sang masul kuntrul.

[Kerstin]

Kolikot pas siling kagokö:

We got married b'cos he wanted to marry me,
He was the left person but i tried to see him right,
We walked life,left and right @ da same direction 

Yaboha oy..logitic comBAT..! curse 10 

[hubag bohol]

Kolikot pas siling kagokö:

We got married b'cos he wanted to marry me,
He was the left person but i tried to see him right,
We walked life,left and right @ da same direction 

Yaboha oy..logitic comBAT..! curse 10 

Wayok. Buak man pud atong itlogic ani! Mas lisod pa man ni espilingon kaysa maghawok nga nagtinutokay... 

[islander]

hahaha!  ahat lagi kag nabudlat ug balik sa logic nga wayok ni curse 10.

[Kerstin]

tua pa lagi..tanawa..

[hubag bohol]

hahaha!  ahat lagi kag nabudlat ug balik sa logic nga wayok ni curse 10.

Hmm, unsa diay ang curse ni Curse 10? 0-10?

[Kerstin]

Hmm, unsa diay ang curse ni Curse 10? 0-10?

Oh ten dog
playing in bee lot
they are like oh flock
driven by their oh c'lock (w/o "c")


^_^

[hubag bohol]

Oh ten dog
playing in bee lot
they are like oh flock
driven by their oh c'lock (w/o "c")

^_^

OK if some pack in the bay song, not in the low boat...