When arguing with your friends

[Lorenzo]

When you argue with your friends about something, please keep a sense of forgiving in your heart. Petty things such as owing money, girls, boys, parties, pride etc is not worth ruining a strong friendship over. Friendship is a gift and it is in your friends that you can hide your secrets or get comfort in times of need. In reality, your friends are an extension of your own persona. Be kind to them, and forgive them for their transgressions as they forgive you for yours.

And remember, real friends are there for you; through thick or thin.

[Bambi]

You have nothing to worry Pare.....I have/had a girlfriend before in which I considered as my bestgirlfriend on that time. Yes, "Friendship means loving, sharing and forgiving".  First....she felt in love with my actual bf on that time, secondly,  she got her part to share him with me - she got pregnant!....They got a baby boy, had visited her in maternity house with his presence and I have/had forgiven her/them .....she couldn't help about it...."a game of love must be played for two" - now, they have 10 grown-up children and got separated. What is the moral of the story? You can't trust to anybody even your closiest friend and someone whom everyday telling you...."I love you"

[Lorenzo]

10 children, pare? Wow! Daghana pood!

And you are a good friend for forgiving them both, pare. You truly are a good friend.

[Glen]

You have nothing to worry Pare.....I have/had a girlfriend before in which I considered as my bestgirlfriend on that time. Yes, "Friendship means loving, sharing and forgiving".  First....she felt in love with my actual bf on that time, secondly,  she got her part to share him with me - she got pregnant!....They got a baby boy, had visited her in maternity house with his presence and I have/had forgiven her/them .....she couldn't help about it...."a game of love must be played for two" - now, they have 10 grown-up children and got separated. What is the moral of the story? You can't trust to anybody even your closiest friend and someone whom everyday telling you...."I love you"

Ate Bambi kalooy diay pod nimo ato iya man kang gi ilogan.Pag ka bootan pod nimo niya kay sa uban pa maglagot na niya bisan unsa ka sood. So asa naman ron ang bana niya? Pagkadaghana man pod og anak?

[bulak]

You have nothing to worry Pare.....I have/had a girlfriend before in which I considered as my bestgirlfriend on that time. Yes, "Friendship means loving, sharing and forgiving".  First....she felt in love with my actual bf on that time, secondly,  she got her part to share him with me - she got pregnant!....They got a baby boy, had visited her in maternity house with his presence and I have/had forgiven her/them .....she couldn't help about it...."a game of love must be played for two" - now, they have 10 grown-up children and got separated. What is the moral of the story? You can't trust to anybody even your closiest friend and someone whom everyday telling you...."I love you"

wow ate Bambs...what a terrible story...in this case dile ka looy at least dile ikaw ang makalolooy karon...based in myexperienced... my closiest friend happends to be my best enemy too as she knows  all my secrets,, so from then on i learn to trust more than myself before others...

[ligiah]

You have nothing to worry Pare.....I have/had a girlfriend before in which I considered as my bestgirlfriend on that time. Yes, "Friendship means loving, sharing and forgiving".  First....she felt in love with my actual bf on that time, secondly,  she got her part to share him with me - she got pregnant!....They got a baby boy, had visited her in maternity house with his presence and I have/had forgiven her/them .....she couldn't help about it...."a game of love must be played for two" - now, they have 10 grown-up children and got separated. What is the moral of the story? You can't trust to anybody even your closiest friend and someone whom everyday telling you...."I love you"

i had an experience similar to this...

i have this closest friend who also sorta 'tried out' my boyfriend... i was heartbroken at that time because they are two people who mean a lot to me and i felt absolute betrayal... but then i have forgiven them.

i broke up with that boyfriend two months later after that happened... and as for my closest friend... she's a single mom now (although my ex is not the father). but i know that deep inside her heart... she deeply regret what she had done.... she will always be my closest friend...

[swakee]

Dong, depende man fud na sa friendship if it's worth keeping... i learned from experienced that kung naay mawala, naa man fud mopuli... usa ra jud akong bestfriend, si Cholo ra jud... kay bisag unsaon pa nakog libak dili jud modumot... hehe...

[Lorenzo]

I'm very selective jud, like you guys, when making friends. I agree that we all must be careful in who we relay information to, specially friends as they do come and go. However, I only have few best friends in my life; one of which was my amigo of amigos. His name was Rob Matson, and I wish that he would have trusted me more to tell me of his own inner demons. He is no longer with us, and I somewhat blame myself for not having been more observant to his clinical depression. He hid it from us, all of his friends jud. He was like my own brother, God knows how I told all my secrets to him. His suicide will always be lingering memory on me, and is a lesson for me. Ang meaning ani is it is better to forgive your friends and rectify wrongs because we do not know how much time we have to live. Life is very unpredictable. It is always to be at peace with your friends.

For those who can forgive the hurtful actions of your friends, then I say to you: Blessed are you!

[swakee]

hala ka-sad ana Dong oi... but thanks for sharing ha? i learned something from this...

[Lorenzo]

One thing I learned through my 22 years is this: Grow thick skin.
Take everything as it is and nothing more. Sometimes our friends say things that we perceive to be worse than it actually is. Just let it go.

Its part of life diba?

[kiamoy]

stick to the cause of the argument.  if the friendship is worth keeping

[mochajava]

dont point fingers.

[kiamoy]

talk. don't shut up

[mochajava]

true. and when talking
do not 500 words per minute.

[kiamoy]

only say sorry when you already know the reason of the fight.

[ms da binsi]

You have nothing to worry Pare.....I have/had a girlfriend before in which I considered as my bestgirlfriend on that time. Yes, "Friendship means loving, sharing and forgiving".  First....she felt in love with my actual bf on that time, secondly,  she got her part to share him with me - she got pregnant!....They got a baby boy, had visited her in maternity house with his presence and I have/had forgiven her/them .....she couldn't help about it...."a game of love must be played for two" - now, they have 10 grown-up children and got separated. What is the moral of the story? You can't trust to anybody even your closiest friend and someone whom everyday telling you...."I love you"

Tinuod jud Bayat.

[glacier_71]

distansya gyud kay aron way maigo sa komo...

[LanggamTamsi2]

stick to the cause of the argument.  if the friendship is worth keeping

sakto na kiam.

[kiamoy]

and in making the first move to patch things up,

shouldn't always come from the one who made the mistake

but from the one who understands and knows the value of communication.

[Ginger]

be patient and open minded.

[Lorenzo]

Sometimes, its best to listen to them vent, to allow them to talk.

In our own self legitimization of our own arguments, we try to silence them or interrupt them, but don't do it. Allow them to talk, it helps them in that regard.

A friend, a true friend, will be truthful to you even if you don't like the words said, nor the assumptions. But it is best to maintain transparency between you and the friend.

Yes, even if it means swallowing your pride once and a while. Learning process.

[kiamoy]

A friend, a true friend, will be truthful to you even if you don't like the words said, nor the assumptions. But it is best to maintain transparency between you and the friend.

agree. true friends are always permitted to be harsh. else, who else will tell us the truth when we are wrong or when we are doing something nga dili na acceptable sa society? if wala kay friends nga harsh in a caring way, then wala kay true friends.
puros rana plastic.

[colliers]

kung di ikasinabot, bungol.

[Lorenzo]

Mao jud, Bem. A true friend will always correct you if what we're doing or saying has crossed the line.

My best friend would interrupt me and say, "Al, hold your horses there bud." lol!
And continue on with his typical phrases. And, you begin to cherish correction. In my take on things its better to be corrected by family members or good friends. By those who love us.

[kiamoy]

Tumpak!! Because they always want the best for us..  Even if they are aware that we sometimes need to fall in order to learn, gusto jud na nila smooth sailing ato life

So always, always listen and realize what they say even if wala kay plano to follow it.

[Lorenzo]

Frealz, dude.

[glacier_71]

when friends argue
coz they're not babies
they're grown-ups

[kiamoy]

when friends argue
coz they're not babies
they're grown-ups

hehe grabe ka poetic ang approach wala nako nakasabot glac!

[Moyhua]

When arguing with your friends, listen.

[swakee]

I hardly argue w/ friends but i luv to have a debate w/ my co-workers w/c can lead to massive arguements hehe

[glacier_71]

there's always some who love to argue...

[ms da binsi]

I hardly argue w/ friends but i luv to have a debate w/ my co-workers w/c can lead to massive arguements hehe

I know you Swaks! hahahha ma sabunotay pa gani ug buhok!

hahahaha!

[swakee]

Bella hago sigeg argue oi, ajo pay magpinsar ug unsay lung-agon rong adlawa, demanding ang bitok di kamao mo-puasa!

[ms da binsi]

bwahahhaha!

way krisis ang bitok Swak! wa na sila ana...

[kiamoy]

when arguing with friends, biya-i kung walay kwenta.

[Moyhua]

When arguing with your friends, argue pod usahay.

[glacier_71]

way probs akong friends nako kay di sila nako awayon
di man pod ko padool nila.lol.

[Lorenzo]

As a saying, "When arguing with your friends, be read to prove a point, but with the other hand, ready to reach out to offer friendship even after the argument."

[jorgeanna]

for more than 20 years now, i still call these girls my bestfriends for truly we are.. yes we went through a lot of struggles but our friendship still remained the same no matter what... even if we are in different countries now, we still make sure we keep in touch and be there for each other no matter what

[jorgeanna]

i "lost" my bestfriend because of a guy and i still think about her until now even if we rarely speak to each other and sometimes avoid each other.. she was this one friend that i considered my very bestfriend but sadly, we parted ways

[Lorenzo]

My closest friends know how to take my words, can see through my cynicism and can debate with me for hours.
And in the end of the day, can laugh with me after hours of heated debate.

With coffee in one hand, and a smile in our faces.

Hail to True Friendships!

A Gift of God in Heaven!

[ms da binsi]

naa man uban nga nag argue nga dalang dumot (unsa ininglis sa dumot?). unsa may tawag ana? I dont know how to describe that  but naa jud uban nga when they argue bisan dili ikaw ang concern, maka feel ka nga nag dinumtanay. Is that pride? or what just plain anger?

now i would like to ask everyone, what do you call that person, shall we say that person who knows heaven's law,  nga nag dumot sa ija isigkatawo?

sometimes this things make me confuse.

[Lorenzo]

In that case, Ms Da Binsi, it is best to forgive that person. Or as I always tell people, "Take everything with a grain of salt."




Cheers!