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Son, you are in your 2nd year of being a college student. Dalawang taon  na lang magtatapos ka na sa kolehiyo at sana kapag dumating ang panahon na iyon, kung may choice ka, huwag kang mag-abroad.

Marahil marami ang magtataas ng kilay o di kaya’y magtatanong ng “Bakit?” kapag nalaman nila na ganito ang payo ko sa iyo. Sabagay marami pa rin sa mga kababayan natin na ang paniniwala ay ‘mayaman ang mga OFW’, ‘masarap ang buhay sa abroad’ o kaya’s sikat ka kapag may kamag anak ka sa abroad. Siyempre naman, halos puro imported ang gamit sa bahay, ‘stateside’ wika nga. Pero ang hindi nila alam ay kung ano ba ang kapalit ng mga materyal na kasaganahan ito.

Karamihan sa mga magulang na nagtratrabaho sa abroad ay hindi maikaila ang ‘sense of loss’ na kung minsan ay may pagsisisi dahil sa hindi nakagisnang paglaki ng mga anak na naiwan sa Pilipinas. I grope for words to describe the passing of an era which part of my life have been sacrificed. Mula ng ako’y nagtrabaho sa abroad, I have looked at you and to other siblings of yours wishing that I could see all of you to grow into fine human beings wishing that I was there every step of your way. Pero ang reyalidad, hindi kasi malayo ako sa inyo. Nagkakasya na lang ako sa pagsasaya ng mag isa na malayo sa inyo sa panahon ng inyong kagalakan and perhaps bled profusely in my own when I know that one of you is in pain. Lagi ko kayong naaalala when I visit a nice place or eat an unusually fine meal kasi ang lagi kong sinasabi, “Sana kasama ko ang pamilya ko.” I worry for your safety and I cannot imagine not being able to recognize you and your other siblings in your mature years. Naalala ko tuloy minsan ng tanungin ko si mommy mo kung sino yung binata na nasa picture na ipinadala niya sa email ko. Sabi ni mommy mo, “Ano ka ba Dad, si Glenn yan, panganay mo!”

Sa panahon ngayon ng ‘absentee parenting’, the communication of love has taken the form of steady stream of ‘balik-bayan box’ every Christmas. Pero sa kabila ng dami ng reagalong natatangap, this however cannot compensate for the erosion of intimacy in the family. How easy to measure the benefits from overseas work but remain doubtful if one can ever quantify what a migrating parent has given up in terms of love. Kaya anak, if ever may choice ka after your graduation at kung makakahanap ka ng trabaho sa Pilipinas, kahit hnidi kalakihan ang sweldo basta disente at marangal, huwag kang mag-abroad. Diyan ka na lang sa Pilipinas kasi balang araw magkakaroon ka na rin ng sarili mong pamilya, mas masarap na abutin ang pangrap ninyo sa buhay ng magkakasama.
 


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Bible Study / Knowing Your True North
« on: March 03, 2010, 08:28:51 PM »
Would anyone believe if I were to take yellow pages, open it up and proclaim that this book will tell us who has a red car. You will probably say, “That’s not the purpose of the yellow page. Its purpose is simply to reveal name and number of people.” Only by understanding its purpose can I accurately use the yellow page in the same way only by understanding its purpose can I accurately use the Bible.

The problem is not that God hasn’t spoken but that we haven’t listened. Understanding the purpose of the Bible is like setting the compass in the right direction to know your true north. Calibrate it correctly and you’ll have a safe journey. But fail to set it and who knows where you will end up.

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Family & Parenting / Review of the movie: FIREPROOF
« on: February 25, 2010, 04:40:00 PM »
(Last night, I had the opportunity of having extra time to watch the movie FIREPROOF, a 2008 drama about marriage that gone astray but saved the last minute. Below are the movie synopsis-Gener)

Captain Caleb Holt (Kirk Cameron) is a firefighter in Albany, Georgia and firmly keeps the cardinal rule of all firemen, "Never leave your partner behind". But Caleb's home life is an altogether different story; his seven-year marriage to his wife Catherine (Erin Bethea) is on the verge of implosion. Neither one understands the pressures the other faces, and after a heated argument in which Caleb screams in Catherine's face, she declares she wants out of the marriage, and takes off her wedding ring.

While Caleb claims to his friends and co-workers that Catherine is over-sensitive and disrespectful, Catherine simultaneously claims to her peers that Caleb is insensitive to her needs and doesn't listen to her. Further catalyzing Catherine's motivation for divorce is Caleb's addiction to Internet pornography and a large sum of money ($24,000, to be exact) he has saved up for a fishing boat he intends to buy, ignoring the fact that Catherine's disabled mother is in need of hospital equipment that she cannot afford, and which insurance refuses to cover. Caleb tells his father John about the impending divorce, and John challenges Caleb to commit to a 40-day test called, "The Love Dare." Caleb reluctantly agrees to do the test, but more for the sake of his father than his marriage. Catherine initially sees through Caleb's half-hearted attempts to win back her heart, which deepens Caleb's frustration. But with his father's encouragement, Caleb continues with The Love Dare, and eventually makes a life-changing commitment to God, unbeknownst to Catherine.

Meanwhile, Catherine begins flirting with Dr. Gavin Keller (Perry Revell) at the hospital where she works. She begins to open up to him about some of her problems, chiefly her mother's need for the hospital equipment which she can't afford, but as she's no longer wearing her wedding ring, Keller doesn't know Catherine is married, at least not until Caleb is brought to the hospital later. Catherine comes up to Caleb in the emergency room as Keller is treating him, and a nurse says that Caleb is Catherine's husband.

Through the guidance of The Love Dare, and as a result of his commitment to Christ, Caleb begins to understand what it means to truly love his wife. He begins pulling more of his own weight at home, doing household chores and running errands, and even leaving real roses for Catherine. Soon Caleb even finds the motivation to destroy his computer and everything on it, smashing it to pieces with a baseball bat. However, Catherine is still intent on filing for divorce, much to Caleb's anguish.

When Catherine goes to the home care store to talk with a clerk about the unpaid equipment her mother needs, the clerk tells her that all the equipment has been paid for in full and is being installed at her mother's house. Convinced it was Dr. Keller that paid the $24,300 price, Catherine goes to Keller at the hospital to thank him and sets up a lunch date with him. Meanwhile, Caleb finds out about Dr. Keller through a card for Catherine that she left at home, so he goes to the hospital and warns Dr. Keller that, even with his mistakes, he will not step aside and let Keller have Catherine without a fight. The doctor gets the message and quickly cools the relationship with Catherine, and the viewer learns that Dr. Keller is married and hides his ring in a desk drawer.

When Caleb finds Catherine at home sick in bed, he decides to take care of her, with food and medicine. Bewildered at his new bedside manner, Catherine asks Caleb what's happening to him. Caleb starts to tell Catherine about The Love Dare, and she pulls Caleb's book out from underneath the blanket next to her. Caleb tearfully apologizes for his selfish behavior and asks her forgiveness. While Catherine admits she sees some change in Caleb, she still cannot bring herself to trust him and believe he has changed. Caleb understands and gives her as much time as she needs to think things over.

Days later, Catherine returns to the home care store to purchase linens for her mother's new hospital bed, mentioning to the clerk that linens were the only thing Dr. Keller didn't pay for. But when the clerk reveals to Catherine that it was Caleb two weeks prior who paid $24,000 (Keller contributed only $300), Catherine bursts into tears and leaves the store. Now fully convinced of Caleb's genuine change of heart, Catherine runs home crying to put her wedding ring back on her finger. After freshening up, she goes straight to the fire house to tell Caleb that she now forgives him, and the two lovingly embrace. (Also, in a deleted scene, Catherine discovers Gavin flirting with a nurse shortly after learning of Caleb's payment for the hospital bed.)

Caleb's parents come to visit. While talking to his son, Caleb's father reveals that, contrary to what Caleb had believed, he did not do The Love Dare on his wife, she did it on him. This causes Caleb to recognize the impact his mother has had in his life, and rushes home to reconcile with her. Caleb and Catherine renew their vows in an outdoor ceremony, this time as a covenant with God.

Case in Point:

The movie tells 2 lessons that couples must learned.
First is by protecting your marriage from its greatest threat--shared secret. Catherine begins flirting with Dr. Gavin Keller (Perry Revell) at the hospital where she works. She begins to open up to him about some of her marriage problems that eventually lead to flirting moments. How can you protect your marriage from a workplace affair—or any affair? One word: boundaries. A common assumption is that loving marriages are immune to affairs. But research suggests that it’s not necessarily the strength of your love that protects you, but the strength of your boundaries.

Second, know more about your spouse. There are many reasons when a husband or a wife strays away. He or she could be longing for attention and appreciation from other company which he or she didn’t experience from his or her spouse, something couple ought to do. When Caleb accepted the “40-days Love Dare” challenge given to him by his father, he begins to understand what it means to truly love his wife.
In order to give love, one should understand its meaning well enough in order to give it and received it in return. One shouldn’t be confined in just one dimension in defining love as merely a feeling but must beyond that translating it into an action rather than thought. Truly, love is not only a feeling but also an action that may lead to a certain action; that is to love and to get love in return

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Family & Parenting / Marriage is a Continuous Learning Process
« on: February 25, 2010, 03:43:12 PM »
You had tried everything to save your marriage but despite of everything you have done, it came to a point that there’s no use of turning back for your spouse is slowly drifting away from your marriage life.

Probably, you have heard advices like in order to save your marriage, you have to pray for your spouse or listen to her and any other advices for that matter but still nothing happens. But let me asked you this, have you tried to studying her again?
When a man is trying to win the heart of a woman, he studies her; her likes, dislikes, habits and hobbies. But after he wins her heart and marries her he often stops learning about her. If the amount spent studying her before marriage was equal to a high school degree, he should continue to learn about her until he gained a college degree, a master’s degree and ultimately, a doctorate degree. It is life’s long journey that draws his heart ever closer to hers.

So do you study your spouse? For me, I am but I don’t think I got my college degree yet so I have to keep on learning until I got my PhD.

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Jokes and Humor / The Last Hour
« on: February 24, 2010, 03:55:16 PM »
The old priest lay dying in the hospital. For years He had faithfully served the people of the nation's capital. He motioned for his nurse to come near. "Yes, Father?" said the nurse.. "I would really like to see JOSEPH "ERAP" ESTRADA and GLORIA MACAPAGAL ARROYO before I die", whispered the priest. "I'll see what I can do, Father" replied the nurse.

The nurse sent the request to them and waited for a response. Soon the word arrived. ERAP and GMA would be delighted to visit the priest. As they went to the hospital, ERAP commented to GMA."I don't know why the old priest wants to see us, but it will certainly help our images. GMA couldn't help but agree.

When they arrived at the priest's room, the priest took GMA's hand in his right hand and ERAP's hand in his left. There was silence and a look of serenity on the old priest's face. 

Finally GMA spoke. "Father, of all the people you could have chosen, why did you choose us to be with you as you near the end?" The old priest slowly replied "I have always tried to pattern my life after our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ." The old priest continued, "He died between two lying thieves. I would like to do the same." 

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Family & Parenting / Migration and Keeping the Family
« on: February 24, 2010, 01:17:21 PM »
In today’s era of Pinoy migration where either the father or mother is forced to live miles apart from their family, the love and respect that the children see between their father and mother, despite of the distance will keep them feel more secured and loved. Distance should never be an excuse for love knows no boundaries.

The best way to love your kids is to show them that you love their mother.

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LGU Philippines / Which is better, now or before?
« on: February 22, 2010, 04:18:50 PM »
I partly agree with FM, Jr. about his observation posted at http://globalnation.inquirer.net/news/breakingnews/view/20100222-254693/Edsa-1-proved-to-be-a-failureMarcos-Jr#commentbox.

Corruption is worse today than before. During the time of FM, corruption is centralized only in Malacanang Palace but now corruption is seen even in the level of Barangay. During Marcos time, there were many monumental landmarks that made Philippines known globally like the CCP, FAT at the expense of the hungry Juan dela Cruz. Today, as Filipinos continue to be hungry, there are no projects that would make Philippines as the center of arts. The C-5 extension project is more of an avenue of vested interest of a businessman turned politician. During the time of Aquino government, all they have done was to change the name of the streets and airport in memory of Ninoy. During the time of FM, there were numbers of political opponents that were missing in the drive to eradicate FM's political opponents but is there something new today? Worse, NGO's are being arrested by the military and took some time to present the MORONG 43 despite order for the SC. During FM time, lands were being acquired by FM for his own benefit but at least, partly for the government. During Aquino' time, Hacienda Luisita used to be acquired by the Cojuangco clan using government instrument under the agreement that these lots be distributed to land tillers but worse, Hacienda Luisita is slowly being converted to industrial, commercial lots and highways instead of its original intent as agricultural land.

As an OFW, during the 70's, Filipinos have a choice whether to work abroad for a better paying job or stays in the Philippines and settles for low paying jobs but at least still available. But now, there's no job available even for a Janitor despite having a large number of globally-competent Filipino workforce. Blame it to population explosion? Nah--that was the same mistake in the policy made by Singapore that their government of today resented. Now, it takes more head ache to manage the aging population of highly industrialized countries like Britain, America, Canada and Singapore where the Philippine government takes pride by prostituting our caregivers and other “Bayaning OFW” to these countries with aging population leaving almost nobody taking care of our very own country’s elder generation.

Now, if someone will ask me which is better--now or before? FM is lesser evil than Aquino, Estrada and GMA combined but Ramos time is better.

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Family & Parenting / Love and Marriage
« on: February 17, 2010, 05:52:32 PM »
(Got this from my inbox)

A student asks a teacher, "What is love?"


The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the wheat field and choose the biggest wheat and come back.
But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick."

The student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one big wheat, but he wonders....may be there is a bigger one later.
Then he saw another bigger one... But may be there is an even bigger one waiting for him.
Later, when he finished more than half of the wheat field, he start to realize that the wheat is not as big as the previous one he saw, he know he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted.
So, he ended up went back to the teacher with empty hand.
The teacher told him, "...this is love... You keep looking for a better one, but when later you realise, you have already miss the person...."

"What is marriage then?" the student asked.
The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick."
The student went to the corn field, this time he is careful not to repeat the previous mistake, when he reach the middle of the field, he has picked one medium corn that he feel satisfy, and come back to the teacher.

The teacher told him, "this time you bring back a corn.... You look for one that is just nice, and you have faith and believe this is the best one you get.... This is marriage."
 


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Family & Parenting / Right Love at the Wrong Time is still Wrong
« on: February 13, 2010, 06:05:48 PM »
You are married to a man who cannot reciprocate your profound love. A man who doesn’t even know what love is and worst of all, you found out that he has an extra marital affair. You showered him with all the material things more than he can ever imagine compensating the lack of physical intimacies brought about by your physical absence being thousands of miles away. But after all it is said and done still he didn’t mend his ways. Suddenly, you found a new love in the arms of someone else’s man. In short, an affection from a married man. He makes you feel ‘being wanted’ and you feel important as if you are always at the center of his attention. Something you never felt before and now you’re asking--is it all worth to give yourself a chance to make yourself happy? This is the scenario painted in one of the threads posted by a married woman which I have read and replied from a social networking site.

LOVE'S YARDSTICK

Love is not and cannot be measured by the number of "I love you" or number of SUV’s or neither by the number of tears you shed in the name of love. Material things cannot and will never provide an assurance that love invested in that kind of relationship will last a lifetime. Worse, the more he/she (person on the receiving end of such frivolous attention) will feel that whatever is consummated between the two of you is nothing but superficial. The connection that binds between couple cannot be established by material things or calls of endearment but on how either partners or both makes the relationship evolves into the next level until it reaches certain level of maturity. This maturity depends on many factors like upbringings or experiences we may have seen or witnessed from our parents. The kind of relationship that we have seen from our parents greatly influenced our emotional maturity and outlook with regards to our marriage relationship. The number of years that a couple has been married can never be the sole yardstick in measuring relationship maturity but by the ability of one or both to make their marriage work come hell or high water.

LOVE IS NOT ONLY A FEELING BUT A DECISION

As I always said in most articles that I have written, love is not only a feeling but a decision. We should consider redefining love more than just on the premise of feelings but that of an action. As love translated from a “noun” to “verb” will spell the difference between making and breaking it. An action that will lead one or both to a certain decision whether to fall out or to remain in love to the same person over and over again is a decision that only and for yours to make.

MISTAKE CAN NEVER BE CORRECTED BY ANOTHER MISTAKE

whilst it is given that your partner has wronged you and hurt you that much to the point that you want him to feel how is it like to be hurt. Whether this newly found love appears as your saving grace, it is something like a double-edge blade ready to slice your heart anytime. And the sad part of it, by being the other woman yourself, you become exactly the person you dreaded once in your life resulting to two family lives shattered into bits and pieces, yours and the family of that married man.

Right love at the wrong time is still wrong and no amount of justification can correct a love that is wrong from the beginning lest you really wanted to be home wrecker. The truth is, true love means, albeit of its imperfections is never meant to hurt others for it never finds joy in someone else’s failure.


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Bible Study / Freedom of Choice and Freedom from Suffering
« on: February 01, 2010, 09:15:55 PM »
Just recently, I have found a forwarded message in my inbox with a subject title: Why God allows pain? I have come across this forwarded message a long time ago but it’s only now that the subject title struck to my line of thinking. Suddenly, it reminds me of an article I wrote with almost of the same title (Why does God allows suffering) In that piece, I reflect almost exactly the same as that article I found in my inbox— minus the elaboration to answer the question—Why does God allows suffering?

The truth is, God never allows any of us to suffer but it is our wrong choices that lead us to suffering. Although God being the Supreme Being, who has the power to do whatever He wants but refrain from dictating us what to do. Instead He gave us the freedom to do whatever pleases us which more often than not lead us into chaos.

If we are clearly to understand why God allows suffering, we must squarely face another important question. How can we have true freedom of choice and still gain freedom from suffering? We desperately want both. But are both possible at the same time?
If there is any single ideal that is practically worshiped in the West, it is freedom. Freedom is the bedrock of our social system. Many would be willing to defend freedom and self-determination with their lives.

God Himself has given people freedom of choice. In fact, such is part of God's great design. He does not force us down a particular path, but He allows us to choose the way we will go. On the subject of choice, God told ancient Israel, "I call heaven and earth as witnesses today against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing; therefore choose life." (Deuteronomy 30:19).

Mankind's wrong choices are the cause of most of the suffering we see in the world. But again anyone would surely ask, “Then, who are you to tell me what is right and wrong choices?”

Surely, no mortal living can claim they have the moral ascendency to decide right from wrong but we can make use of that same freedom to seek for the truth. And that truth can only be found in His own Words as written in the Bible—and that will surely lead us to freedom from all kinds of suffering and pain.



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Inspiration & Hope / When Someone is Opposing You
« on: January 31, 2010, 03:54:26 PM »
Yesterday, I had the chance and spare time to talk to an office colleague. We discussed a lot of things about our work and life in general until we come across our common experience—getting measured not in terms of accomplishments but of thins we didn’t do well. And of all the things you have done wonderfully, you will be judged instead with your shortcomings. As I often say, “You cannot please anybody.” If you will ask somebody to tell you what he can see from a piece of paper, more often than not, you will find him in continuous litany of the paper’s inferior aspects.

In today’s column of one of my favorite writers,  Fr. Jerry Orbos reflects on the experience of Jesus as He encountered opposition from the very same people—from His hometown of Nazareth.

Opposition
By Fr. Jerry Orbos

Someone once said that if you are planning to buy a second-hand car, the best thing to do is to take the car to used-car dealers, and tell them you want to sell it to them, and they will tell you everything that is wrong with it.

In today’s Gospel (Lk. 4, 21-30), we are told that Jesus encountered opposition from his town mates—in spite of His growing fame all over the region, and in spite of His gracious words. His fellow Nazoreans, especially the chief priests and elders, focused not on what was right but on what was wrong with Him. Indeed, no prophet is acceptable, especially in his own native place.
We cannot please everyone. In fact, we should not. Otherwise, we will end up pleasing no one. As soon as we take a position, right away there is opposition. So the best thing to do is to take a stand and face the consequences of our decision. In the end, may we not have regrets that in our efforts to please man and ourselves, we did not do what is pleasing to God.

Whatever position or opposition we take is for a mission. A mission always points to something or someone greater than ourselves. Prophets are those who point to something or someone beyond themselves. Are you doing your role as a prophet, or are you one who sees only profits?

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LGU Philippines / This is the way it should be
« on: November 24, 2009, 10:18:37 PM »
Harry Truman was a different kind of President.  He probably made  as many important decisions regarding our nation's history as any of the other 42 Presidents. However, a measure of his greatness may rest on what he did after he left the White House.

The only asset he had when he died was the house he lived in, which was in Independence Missouri . His wife had inherited the house from her mother and other than their years in the White House, they lived their entire lives there.

When he retired from office in 1952, his income was a U.S. Army pension reported to have been $13,507.72 a year. Congress, noting that he was paying for his stamps and personally licking them, granted him an 'allowance' and, later, a retroactive pension of $25,000 per year..

After President Eisenhower was inaugurated, Harry and Bess drove home to Missouri by themselves. There were no Secret Service following them..

When offered corporate positions at large salaries, he declined, stating, "You don't want me. You want the office of the President, and that doesn't belong to me. It belongs to the American people and it's not for sale."

Even later, on May 6, 1971, when Congress was preparing to award him the Medal of Honor on his 87th birthday, he refused to accept it, writing, "I don't consider that I have done anything which should be the reason for any award, Congressional or otherwise."

As president he paid for all of his own travel expenses and food.

Modern politicians have found a new level of success in cashing in on the Presidency, resulting in untold wealth. Today, many in Congress also have found a way to become quite wealthy while enjoying the fruits of their offices. Political offices are now for sale.  (sic. Illinois )
 
Good old Harry Truman was correct when he observed, "My choices in life were either to be a piano player in a whore house or a politician. And to tell the truth, there's hardly any difference!
 
I say dig him up and clone him!!

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When it comes to mating, men go for younger women. It is true! The reason according to scientists is the evolutionary pressure.

Evolutionary pressure is the drive to have more children. It is also the cause of the typical age gap among couples.

Researchers explored the theory that men go for younger, sexually attractive women in order to boost their chances of reproductive success, while women prefer older, successful men to provide the resources and security that increase their offspring's chance of survival.

The investigators trawled through a Swedish population database, covering 11,500 men and women born between 1945 and 1955, to see at what age these individuals became parents.

Among couples who stayed together, the most children were born in households where there was an age difference of four to six years.

When couples split up and mated again, they each opted for partners who were younger than the first.

That was especially so for older men, who went for women who were much younger. Women looking for a new mate generally chose a male who was slightly older than herself.

The study, which appears in the British journal Biology Letters, is written by Martin Fieder, an anthropologist at the University of Vienna, and Susanne Huber, a wildlife ecologist at the University of Veterinary Medicine Vienna.

Source: www.physorg.com

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Bible Study / Confidence
« on: November 22, 2009, 01:21:58 PM »
An excerpt from Fr. Jerry Orbos’ column, Moments.

In today’s Gospel (Jn. 18, 33-37) Jesus confidently answers all the questions hurled at him by Pontius Pilate. What made him so cool and confident through it all? Truth. Truth was on his side, so he had no fears and nothing to hide. A truthful person is confident and free. A person full of lies is fearful and trembling deep inside.

Face the light, and the shadow is behind you. Turn your back to the light, and the shadow will always be in front of you.” Knowing the truth and accepting the truth is the best road toward true confidence and freedom.

How many of us take the road of compromise and spend our whole lifetime vacillating between half and full commitment, ready to mouth our convictions for anyone and everyone to hear, but fold up and do otherwise when no one is looking or listening? The seat of our values must be deeper than what this world offers. We are not saints, but at least, we can be, and should be, truthful.

We all will face our King someday. What will we tell Him then? What will He tell us then? Yes, we all have a mission to accomplish in life. The mission is non-transferable and non-negotiable. And the mission is not indefinite. We all have a mission to accomplish and this cannot be bypassed nor postponed.

A moment with the Lord:

Lord, remind me that you are the source of all the confidence I need in life. Amen.

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Bible Study / Taming the Tongue
« on: November 21, 2009, 03:13:53 AM »
From Book of James 3:1-18

Taming the Tongue

Not many of you should presume to be teachers, my brothers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly. We all stumble in many ways. If anyone is never at fault in what he says, he is a perfect man, able to keep his whole body in check.

When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. Or take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. Likewise the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark.

The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole person, sets the whole course of his life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.

All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and creatures of the sea are being tamed and have been tamed by man. But no man can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God’s likeness.

Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be. Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring? My brothers, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water.

Two Kinds of Wisdom
  
Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such “wisdom” does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, of the devil.

For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peace makers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness.

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Inspiration & Hope / What I Can Give
« on: November 19, 2009, 04:41:03 PM »
What I Can Give

Some of us may say that we owe their riches and fame as a result of our hard-work that at times, we looked down and deny the less fortunate of much needed help thinking that they deserved what they are and assigning laziness as the cause of their poverty. Lest we forget that: It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God. (Mark 10:25)
Jesus said, “Sell all that you have and distribute it to the poor and you will have treasure in heaven and come, follow me.”

I have no silver or gold but what I have is my knowledge so will You show me now how to use it wisely and find a way somehow, to make the world I live in a little better place.
I don’t have material riches but what I have to give You is for me to love and offer kindness and be able to walk humbly with my fellowmen so that when the time comes and we will meet each other face to face, that I may hear You say, “Good job, Gener.”

I suggest that you watch the video link below and let's see if you will be 'moved' by this short documentary film.

http://www.cultureunplugged.com/play/1081/Chicken-a-la-Carte

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Inspiration & Hope / Father and Child Story
« on: November 17, 2009, 04:38:47 PM »
A story worth sharing, got it from a forwarded mail.

4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how
does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must be
feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking care
of the house and the kid. 'coz that is the exact feeling that I have, as I
feel that I have failed to provide for the physical and emotional needs of
my child, and failed to be the dad and mom for my child.

There was one particular day, when I had an emergency at work. Hence, I had
to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that there were
still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after informing my
sleepy child.

With the double roles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am
home. So after a long day, I came home, totally drained of all energy. So
with just a brief hug and kiss for my child, I went straight into the room,
skipping dinner. However, when I jumped into my bed with intention of just
having a well-deserved sleep, all I heard and felt was broken porcelain and
warm liquid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the source of the
'problem'... a broken bowl with instant noodles and a mess on the bed sheet
and blanket!

Boy, was I mad! I was so furious that I took a clothes hanger, charged
straight at my child who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a
good spanking! He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short
explanation:

"Dad, I was hungry and there wasn't any more leftover rice. But you were not
back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But I remembered you
reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any adults around,
hence I turned on the shower and used the hot water from the bathroom to
cook the noodles. One is for you and the other is for me. However, I was
afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under the blanket to
keep it warm till you return. But I forgot to remind you 'coz I was playing
with my toys...I am sorry Dad..."

At that moment, tears were starting to run down my cheeks...but I didn't
want my son to see his dad crying so I dashed into the bathroom and cried
with the shower head on to mask my cries. After that episode, I went towards
my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him, while coaxing
him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the bed. When
everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son's room, and saw
that he was still crying, not from the pain on his little buttock, but from
looking at the photograph of his beloved mommy.

A year has passed since that episode; I have tried, in this period, to focus
on giving him both the love of his dad and mom, and to attend to most of his
needs. And soon, he is turning seven, and will be graduating from
kindergarten. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting impression
on his childhood memories and he is still happily growing up.

However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regret. This time,
his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son's absence from
school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to explain.
But he wasn't to be found, so I went around our house, calling out his name
and eventually found him outside a stationery shop, happily playing computer
games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell out of him. He did
not retaliate, except to say, 'I am sorry, Dad'. But after much probing, I
realized that it was a 'Talent Show' organized by his school and the invite
is for every student's mommy. And that was the reason for his absence as he
has no mommy.....

Few days after the caning, my son came home to tell me, the kindergarten has
recently taught him how to read and write. Since then, he has kept to
himself and stayed in his room to practice his writing, which I am sure,
would make my wife proud, if she was still around. 'coz he makes me proud
too!

Time passes by very quickly, and soon another year has passed. Its winter,
and Christmas time. Everywhere the Christmas spirit is in every
passer-by... Christmas carols and frantic shoppers.... but alas, my son got
into another trouble. When I was about to knock off from the day's work, the
post office called. Due to the peak season, the post master was also on an
edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son has attempted to post several
letters with no addressee. Although I did make a promise never to hit my son
again, I couldn't help but to hit him as I feel that this child of mine is
really beyond control. Once again, as before, he apologized, ' I'm sorry,
Dad' and no additional reason to explain. I pushed him towards a corner,
went to the post office to collect the letters with no addressee and came
home, and angrily questioned my son on his prank, during this time of the
year.

His answer, amidst his sobbing, was :  The letters were for Mommy.

My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to ask
him: " But why did u post so many letters, at one time?" My son's reply was:
" I have been writing to mommy for a long time, but each time I reach out
for the post box, it was too high for me, hence I was not able to post the
letters. But recently, when I went back to the postbox, I could reach it and
I sent it all at once..."

After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing what to do, what to
say....

I told my son, " Son, mommy is in the heavenly kingdom, so in future, if you
have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach mommy. My
son, on hearing this, was much pacified and calm, and soon after, he was
sleeping soundly. On promising that I will burn the letters on his behalf, I
brought the letters outside, but couldn’t help opening the letter before they
turn to ash.

And one of the letters broke my heart....

Dear Mommy,

I miss you so much! Today, there was a  'Talent Show' in school, and the
school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did
not want to participate as well. I did not tell Dad about it as I was afraid
that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went around
looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of the
computer and started playing games at one of the shops. Dad was furious, and
he couldn’t help it but scolded and hit me, but I did not tell him the real
reason. Mommy, every day I see Dad missing you and whenever he think of you,
he is so sad and often hide and cry in his room.  I think we both miss you
very much. Too much for our own good I think. But Mommy, I am starting
to forget your face. Can you please appear in my dreams so that I can see
your face and remember you? I heard that if you fall asleep with the
photograph of the person whom you miss, you will see the person in your
dreams. But mommy, why haven’t you appeared?


After reading the letter, I can't stop sobbing. 'cos I can never replace the
irreplaceable gap left behind by my wife....

For the females with children:

Don't do so much overtime. If you cannot finish the work, it must be some
kind of problems within the company, and it is not your sole problem.
Feedback to your boss. Endless overtime may not necessary be the answer to
the problem. Take care of your health so that you can treasure and take care
of your little precious.

For the married men:

Drink less, smoke less, coz nothing can replace your good health, not even
business or clients.

Try thinking this way, are you able to work till your clients are totally
dependent on you? or your boss is totally dependent on you? In this society,
no one is indispensable.

Take care of your health, so that you can take care of your little precious
and your loved ones.

For those singles out there:

Beauty lies in loving yourself first.

With confidence and loving yourself, you will see the beauty in other things
around you. You will be able to work better and happier. Don't let your
health be affected by your work or your boss, so nothing matters more than
your well being.

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Bible Study / When Sin Becomes Callous
« on: November 15, 2009, 12:35:06 PM »
I couldn’t forget the words that were shared to us by Bro. Inaki, one of our community elders in our marriage Encounter group. He once told us that “Sin is like callous. The more you do; the more you are getting used to it.”

There are times I compromised in ‘little’ things and think that it won’t matter. Yet, as a believer myself, there is inner frustration when I allow things into my heart and mind that I know are in contrast with God. Lest I forget, when we ignore, we find our heart moving toward unbelief. God calls us to be vigilant about keeping our heart soft. It is not always easy but it is always worth it. As it is written, “See to it, brothers, that none of you has a sinful, unbelieving heart that turns away from the living God. But encourage one another daily as long as it is called today so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.”(Heb 3:12-13)

Prayer & Reflection:
Father God, keep my heart soft. Don’t let me allow sin to slow down my reflex to You. I need You in my life. Increase my faith and help me to encourage someone else today to stay firm in their faith too. Guide me and hold me close to Your heart. In Jesus’ name I pray, amen.


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Bible Study / Isang Paalala
« on: November 08, 2009, 09:00:32 PM »
(Mensaheng galing sa email, orihinal na nakasulat sa wikang Ingles)

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Sa isang kapanahunan, humarap si Satanas kay Hesus doon sa Harden ng Eden, at masayang nagyayabang.  (Luke 4: 1-12; Job 1: 6-12)

“Opo, Panginoon, sa ngayon, silang lahat ay sakop ko na, (halos lahat sila doon sa ibaba).
Naglagay ako ng mga patibong, gamit ko rin ang pa-in ng tukso, Alam ko lahat ang mga bagay ng kanilang kahinaan. Halos nabitag ko silang lahat” (1 Ped 5: 8-9; Efe 6: 10-17)

“Ano ang gagawin mo sa kanila?” tanong ni Hesus.
At Siya ay nanalangin sa Dios Ama.

Sumagot si Satanas “Oh, gagawa ako ng katuwaan sa kanila. Palalaganapin ko ang tukso para mawasak ang maraming pamilya pagkatapos nilang magpakasal upang ang pondasyon ng sangkatauhan ay hindi maging matatag ang pamilya.” (Mat 19: 4-6; Mal ak 2: 16 )

“Pag-aawayin ko sila sa isat-isa at mag-aabusuhan silang lahat, malulong sila sa alak, droga, tawag ng laman ng walang pakundangan. (Rom 13: 12-14) Tuturuan ko silang gumawa ng mga armas at pampasabog, upang magpatayan silang lahat. Talagang mag e-enjoy ako ng husto.”

“At kung magsawa ka na sa katuwaan sa kanila, anong gagawing mo?” tanong ni Hesus, habang patuloy na nananalangin.

“Eh di patayin ko silang lahat at ang kanilang kaluluwa'y magiging akin magpakailanman
Panginoon sa lahat ng aspeto, desisyon nila 'yan.” (1 John 3: 8-10)

“ Magkano lahat ang gusto mo para sa kanila?” tanong ni Hesus.

“Uhmn, hindi mo sila kailangan. Wala silang maidudulot na mabuti para sa IYo. Bakit mo pa sila kailangan kung ayaw nilang sumunod ni magmahal sa Iyo? Galit sila sa Iyo! Nakita ko na maraming dumudura sa 'yo, isinumpa Ka a t hindi kinikilala.” Dagdag pa, “mahal na mahal nila ako.”(Mat 24: 10-13) “Hindi mo kailangan ang mga taong ito!”

“Magkano?” tanong ulit ni Hesus.

Tumingin si Satanas sa Kanya ng may pangungutya. “Lahat ng iyong luha at dugo, lahat ng kapighatian sa sanlibutan  lahat-lahat.” (Isaiah 53: 4-10; I Ped 2: 24 )

Sumagot si Hesus, “ Gawin ko.” At binayaran Niya lahat ng katumbas  (II Cor 5: 21 )

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Napakasaklap isipin na hindi ninanais ng tao na hanapin ang Dios, ngunit nagtatanong sa sarili kung bakit ang mundo'y pabagsak sa impyerno.

Mas nabigyang pansin pa ang balitang pang araw-araw hinggil sa trahedya sa ating kapaligiran ngunit hindi natin hinahanap ang Biblia.


Halos lahat ay walang katuturang nagnanais na mapunta sa kalangitan ,
at naniniwalang makarating sila roon kahit walang pananalig, kahit hindi umibig sa Dios higit pa sa lahat ng bagay, ni sumunod sa sinabi ng Biblia--ang kautusan ng Dios.

Napakasaklap na may nga taong nagsasabi “Sumasampalataya ako sa Dios”,
subalit kay Satanas pa rin sumusunod (at sa totoo lang, ni hindi natatakot sa Dios)
(2 Tim 4: 3-4; II J uan 1: 7-11)

Sa palagay nyo'y hindi isang kahinaan ang magpadala ng libo-libong biro o katuwaan sa email, upang ito'y kumalat ng parang salot.

Ngunit pag itoy mensahe na mula sa Panginoon, nagda-dalawang isip pa tayo bago natin ito maibahagi sa iba at kinalimutan na lang natin ang mailboxes ng ating mga kaibigan na hindi nakabasa nito

Sa pakiwari nyo, hindi nakakagimbal na ang mga malalaswa, makamundo at kawalanghiyaan ay kusang umiiral sa Internet, na marami ang halos gusto nang ipasak ang sarili sa 'screen'

Pero ipinagbabawal sa publiko ang magbahagi tungkol kay Hesus, sa mga eskwelahan, lugar ng pinagtrabahu-an, pang kasarinlang lupon, atbp. (Gawa 4: 19-20)

Kahit ngayong malaman ang ginawa Niya para sa atin.
Dahil hindi siya pinatay ng mga Romano--kungdi ng ating mga kasalanan.
Upang lahat tayo'y mapatawad, at makilala Siya sa kanyang kaluwalhatian kasama ng Ama.

Parang hindi kapanipaniwala kung paanong ang iba ay nagiging ilaw.
Sa panahon ng 'Simba' pag pumasok sa Bahay-panambahan, sumasamba at nagpapasalamat sa Panginoon dahil sa kanyang habag sa isang pa muling araw na naragdagan ang buhay.

Subalit sa ibang mga araw ng Linggo  sya ay nagiging invisible na Kristyano! (2 Tim 3: 1-5; Rom 10: 9-13)

Ano kaya, makatarungan ba ito?

Hwag hayaang itigil ni Satanas ang magbahagi ng e-mail na ito para sa kakilala natin sa Web.
Hayaan na lang kahit sabihin nilang 'ayaw nilang maniwala nito.
Hwag hayaang umayong sa kanyang mga balak.

Hwag mabagabag tungkol sa sasabihin ng iba para sa iyo.
Panahon na upang mabahala tayo sa 'kung ano ang iniisip ng Dios para sa atin.

Pakiusap lang mga kapatid , ibahagi mo rin ito.
Ako, nagawa ko na, Salamat.

Pagpapalain ka nawa ng Dios (2 Cor 13: 13 )

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Inspiration & Hope / A Little Encouragement Goes a Long Way
« on: November 02, 2009, 10:44:51 PM »
Once in I a while we experienced a moment of despair caused by a number of reasons like conflicts in the family, lost of loved ones or could be a business transaction gone bad. However, whatever reasons that may cause our feeling of desperation, a word of encouragement would help. A little encouragement goes a long way.

What the Bible tells about encouragement?

Wherefore comfort one another with these words. Cheer each other with these assurances. Tell the mourning ones that when they are called to meet the Lord they will find their own sleeping ones in the glorious company. (1 Thessalonians 4:18)

But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.(Hebrews 3:13)

Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another–and all the more as you see the Day approaching. (Hebrews 10:25)

Have you ever heard of somebody complaining about too much encouragement? In fact we wish that someone would encourage us more .

I have few readers who are patrons of my work in Ezine Article (one of whom is my wife) who made a lasting impression on my life when they complimented me on some articles I had written (42 articles are published by Ezine publisher). Many times I have thought of what they said and that their encouraging words were influential in my daring to write articles that talk about marriage relationship. There were other factors of course, but I thank God for these people. Little did they know that what they said was instrumental in bringing married couples to Christ and inspiring them to live holy lives.

I make use of this “tool’’ to encourage my wife as well if she feels like fretting about domestic concerns that she has to do all by herself since I’m thousand miles away from her. As a father, encouraging my children to face their difficulties in dealing with math subject –their waterloo by showing them easy techniques I learned when I was at their age and struggling just like them.

Recently, I read an article about Padre Pio, a Capuchin priest famous for his stigmata that at one time in 1947 when Father Karol Josef Wojtyla, a young Polish priest visited him to make a confession. Padre Pio encourage the young Polish priest to continue with his good work and told him that he would one day ascend to the highest post in the church. That young Polish priest is known today as Pope John Paul II.

How about you, have you encouraged someone lately?

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