Author Topic: "Why should we defend ourselves when we are misunderstood and misjudged? (Read 3490 times)

Bad Godesberg · « **on:** January 28, 2009, 08:09:12 AM »

ONE OF OUR FAVORITE QUOTES TO LIVE BY!

St. Therese: "Why should we defend ourselves when we are misunderstood and misjudged?
Let us leave that aside. Let us not say anything. It is so sweet to let others judge us in any way they like.
O blessed silence, which gives so much peace to the soul!"

+JLY
Bad Godesberg

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TOPAC · « **Reply #1 on:** January 28, 2009, 01:09:32 PM »

Why? Human instinct of self-preservation!

Anyway, let their own words disprove their claims.

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Ginger · « **Reply #2 on:** January 28, 2009, 10:17:21 PM »

It takes character to examine your character. Treat the event with the possibility of truth and see where it takes you.

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Macky Ferniz · « **Reply #3 on:** January 28, 2009, 10:57:47 PM »

Nakahinumdom ko ug istorya gikan sa Bibliya nga si Kristo ug ang iyang mga apostoles mi bisita sa usa ka lugar. Si Kristo mi sangyaw sa maayong pulong ug mi ingon: "Siya nga mokaon sa akong unod ug moinom sa akong dugo may kinabuhi nga dayon, ug pagabanhawon ko siya sa kaulahian nga adlaw".

Ang mga tao nga naminaw wala sila makatugkad ug nag pusnga sila sa ka lawm. Busa nag hinay-hinay ang mga audience sa pagpanglakaw.

Mi ingon lang pod si Kristo sa iyang apostoles nga "pasagdi sila" nga mo biya. Wala mamugos si Kristo nga "hoy balik mo dire kay akong i-explain ninyo". Iya lang gipasagdan ang mga tao nga mo lakaw.

So ang buot ipa-ibot nga bisan si Kristo wala mabalaka kung siya ma mis-understood or ma misjudged tungod sa iyang gibuhian nga pulong.

Ang nag pabilin nahimo niyang 12 apostles.

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ms da binsi · « **Reply #4 on:** January 29, 2009, 01:56:31 AM »

There are lots of people who misunderstood and misjudged me but i never defended myself. Yeah this is one of my weaknessess as most of my friends told me. I always wanting to defend me but my brain always tells me "who cares?"

This answers best...

got this from gingah

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A Layman · « **Reply #5 on:** January 29, 2009, 10:05:04 AM »

Don't take other's judgements on you blow you offline towards the right direction of your choice. Take them constructively. They are the best source of strength in energizing yourself to be strong and determined to achieve your goal. Fly high like a kite with all the strong winds blowing every inch of your skin, eka nga! Just maintain your balance and poise. Di ba ang tabanog dili molupad sa kahitas an kon walay hangin nga motugpo kaniya paingon dito? Just think of it! When your life becomes a success, daghang mga tawo nga mohangad kanimo ug moingon, "Number cannot be reached!" Di ba, morag low connection na hinoon ka? Wew!

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TOPAC · « **Reply #6 on:** January 29, 2009, 10:25:41 AM »

sakit sad baya. lami man gud pud patilawon ug sukmag. LOL

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #7 on:** January 29, 2009, 05:29:26 PM »

We, in the medical field, are told by our instructors from the moment we enter the halls of Medicine, "You are the saviors of your fellow men." "You must rise, you will argue, you will be challenged, you will be humbled, you will experience loss, you will experience joy, you will save life, you will loose life. But in the end of the day, you will rise and Rise you shall. To begin another day."

We all must stand up, make our voices heard, and use the powers of speech, coherence, and the gift of tongue that our Almighty Creator has bestowed upon each and everyone of us.

For we were not made with a spirit of timidity, but with the spirit of power.

2 Timothy 1:7
For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of confidence.

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kiamoy · « **Reply #8 on:** January 29, 2009, 06:22:54 PM »

ate bell ako na hibaw-an nga version and the one i use (which is basically the same)

never explain to anyone. your friend don't need it and your enemies won't believe you anyway.
mao nang kasabot nalang mga miga nganu tapulan ko esplikar. haha!

i also have; nobody can make me feel inferior without my consent.

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #9 on:** January 29, 2009, 06:31:17 PM »

For me, everything is a learning process.

I admire those who can defend themselves and reflect a barrage from opposition. Resiliency, determination and the such what I admire most about individuals I meet.

Oh, Bem, you should attend a Lincoln-Douglass Debate on the collegiate level here in the 'states. Such debates and discussions are something to be marveled at.

Human rationalization in action.

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Gener · « **Reply #10 on:** January 31, 2009, 08:40:36 PM »

Let your ways of life seeking the rightheous path explain yourself when you are misunderstood. That is more than enough to justify your point.

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #11 on:** January 31, 2009, 09:21:17 PM »

The path towards truth and understanding is never easy, mga higala, sometimes our paths are crossed by those who would subjugate our own understandings and our aspirations.

That is why we must defend ourselves, and continue our pilgrimage in the path towards Wisdom.

Honor Wisdom, and She shall exalt you.

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glacier_71 · « **Reply #12 on:** January 31, 2009, 09:30:05 PM »

i always take things like these in a case to case basis
if in my perpsective, i need to defend, i will do it
if it it's not worth it, i would not give a damn to say anything

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #13 on:** January 31, 2009, 09:33:42 PM »

A wise man once told me, "Stand up, rise to the occasion, talk. Use the mouth that your God gave you. And if you are defeated, don't let that affect you as Fire tests Gold."

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halfulglass27 · « **Reply #14 on:** February 03, 2009, 01:36:39 PM »

how you walk in your life is the best way to defend yourself frm misjudment and etc..i think

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glacier_71 · « **Reply #15 on:** February 03, 2009, 11:42:54 PM »

naay panahon, importante pod ning modepensa jud tas mga sayop nga panglantaw bahin nato kay aron di pod ta tamak-tamakan lang

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Bad Godesberg · « **Reply #16 on:** February 04, 2009, 04:22:47 AM »

youÂ´re right glacier kay naa man tay freedom of speech.
All human beings are born free and equal in dignity and rights. They are endowed with reason and conscience and should act towards one another in a spirit of brotherhood.

dili kani mahimo...

+JLY

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glacier_71 · « **Reply #17 on:** February 04, 2009, 05:32:05 AM »

di jud ta magpakahilum...bay bad.

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A Layman · « **Reply #18 on:** February 04, 2009, 08:26:33 AM »

There's nothing wrong using your right to express what you think is right for you. Caution: exercise also your power of choice.

Choose the right person you want to argue with. He must be open minded as you are.
Choose the right timing when both of you is in the right mood. Remember, anger begets trouble.
Choose the right place or forum to air your right. There has to be some witness to judge the argumentation.

Always remember that there are three sides of an argumentation. One is the affirmative side, the other is the negative side, and the third one is the right side. It is so easy to claim that both of you are right in presenting your arguments, but how sure are you?

For me, silence is still a powerful choice in dealing with non-sense issues. It doesn't either mean you let others tamper your right to express yourself or submit yourself to the will of others. This is seen as a perfect choice not to perpetuate trouble. Otherwise, you will end up yourself also as a trouble maker.

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halfulglass27 · « **Reply #19 on:** February 04, 2009, 10:07:35 AM »

you may win the fight but u will lose a friend

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A Layman · « **Reply #20 on:** February 04, 2009, 10:09:21 AM »

Exactly right!

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Moyhua · « **Reply #21 on:** February 04, 2009, 12:43:15 PM »

Para nako? Who should defend first? Labi na og naa jud ko sa saktong katarungan og baruganan, ako jud!

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Ginger · « **Reply #22 on:** February 04, 2009, 06:06:10 PM »

For me, silence is still a powerful choice in dealing with non-sense issues. It doesn't either mean you let others tamper your right to express yourself or submit yourself to the will of others. This is seen as a perfect choice not to perpetuate trouble. Otherwise, you will end up yourself also as a trouble maker.

Agree jud ko ani, A Lay. To understand the power of silence. During an argument, even a loud one, there is a lot to be gained by going silent for a few minutes or even just 30 seconds.

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kiamoy · « **Reply #23 on:** February 04, 2009, 06:12:30 PM »

uu.. maayu nang di nalang tubagon..

it actually makes the other party more furious.. hahaha!! sa maglagot lang

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A Layman · « **Reply #24 on:** February 04, 2009, 06:24:52 PM »

Kiamoysan, please answer him/her with your haunting and sweet smiles na lang!

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kiamoy · « **Reply #25 on:** February 04, 2009, 06:31:22 PM »

unsaon man kuya nga sa text raman ni ako kaaway..
kay ug kuyog wala man away.. haha lol!

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A Layman · « **Reply #26 on:** February 04, 2009, 06:33:50 PM »

Ayan, gamita kanang imong emoticon sa ubos. Daghanag butang, he he he...

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glacier_71 · « **Reply #27 on:** February 04, 2009, 09:31:42 PM »

naa bitaw poy uban nga maayo og di na lang tubagon
pero, naa poy uban, kinahanglan jud...
ug gwapa, tubagon nako
ug dili, ay na lang. LOL

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #28 on:** February 04, 2009, 11:19:05 PM »

back in college, I was part of the Lincoln-Douglass Forensic Association-an Inter-collegiate debate forum.

I was teamed with another fellow, a junior in college; a red headed vixen.
We were set to debate on the issue of Tax Increases for Social Welfare programs ergo, more into logistics of the said processes.

In the beginning of the debate, I was tantalized by her face and her bright red hair. When she argued her position, my eyes tracked her lip movement, her Irish red eyebrows. It took me at least 25 some minutes to re-establish some semblance of control of the floor, lol.

In the end of the debate she ended her defense with a wink.

That sent me reeling.

LOL

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #29 on:** February 04, 2009, 11:21:32 PM »

A manifestation of a woman using her 'God-Given' gifts.

And what a beautiful woman she was.

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Moyhua · « **Reply #30 on:** February 05, 2009, 08:07:49 AM »

"Why should we defend ourselves when we are misunderstood and misjudged? Coz I know what's important to him (mu student). Today, I use CPI (Crisis Prevention Intervention) to defend my self.

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glacier_71 · « **Reply #31 on:** February 05, 2009, 11:43:52 AM »

defense is the best offense.

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