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Are you lonely? Loneliness is sometimes good
« on: May 26, 2010, 06:01:45 PM »
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Just under half of us have felt depressed because we have felt alone, says a report. But not everyone who is alone is sad about it, so what is the difference between being lonely and being a loner?
Young or old, male or female, rich or poor, it doesn't matter - loneliness is indiscriminate.
Loneliness is not about being physically alone, it's about a person's individual experience of isolation and how they evaluate it, says the MHF. A loner gets pleasure and satisfaction from solitude, a lonely person doesn't.

While human beings are sociable animals by nature, personalities vary and at the opposite ends of the spectrum are extroverts and introverts.

"For an extrovert it is all about seeking stimulation from other people but an introvert's replenishment comes from solitude," says psychologist Ros Taylor.

"A loner can be perfectly content with their own company, while being alone will make another person utterly miserable."

Professor Jenny de Jong-Gierveld defines loneliness as an "unpleasant or inadmissible" lack of certain relationships in your life. Essentially, you can be surrounded by friends but still feel lonely because you aren't emotionally intimate with any of them.

Most of us experience loneliness at some time, but what makes it harmful is when "it settles in long enough to create a persistent, self-reinforcing loop of negative thoughts, sensations and behaviours", says American psychologist John Cacioppo.

"You can't go through life not interacting with anyone, you have to talk and deal with a certain amount of people to function in everyday life. You need to know how to do this appropriately and successfully."

So while it is just as natural to enjoy solitude as it is to feel lonely, like many other things in life it's is all about moderation.



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Re: Are you lonely? Loneliness is sometimes good
« Reply #1 on: May 26, 2010, 06:46:43 PM »
Manay, we used to stroll around the park with my kids at midnights where we are the only crowd and there was never a lonely second.

The last time that I felt lonely was during a party and the topic was out of my interest. That was the most boring moment of my life.

I was bored to death that I keep looking at the watch and counted every second.

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Re: Are you lonely? Loneliness is sometimes good
« Reply #2 on: May 26, 2010, 06:58:11 PM »
Macky, ma lonely ko kon adunay mga Gala sa mga Pinoy dinhe kay kasagaran pa-bonggahay. Wala koy maka-istorya bahin sa progreso sa Pinas.

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Re: Are you lonely? Loneliness is sometimes good
« Reply #3 on: May 26, 2010, 07:06:54 PM »
Manay, ako pod na-obserbahan kung dunay mga tapok tapok sa mga pinoy nga manggawas dayon ang mga dagkong alahas. Ang uban murag magsaguyod na sa mga kadina sa liog. Murag kalag nga nag kondinar ma ilhan raba ang uban nga fancy ang gisul-ob. Hehehe.

Sorry Manay kung naigo ka. Nakakita raba ko si imong picture sa una nga dagko kaayo imong kwentas. Hehehe.

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Re: Are you lonely? Loneliness is sometimes good
« Reply #4 on: May 26, 2010, 10:46:03 PM »
bwahahahaha! na unsa mong duha? hwahahahhah!

Bitaw tinuod jud na! Na realized jud na nako nga para unsa man ang ALAHAS?

for display di ba? but i am not that kind of person so i skipped the gold long time ago. ajo na laman ring mga bato-bato akong gi keep.

Tinuod Macky nga maka associate ko ug mga narcissistics ma LONELY sad ko.

i am always alone but i rarely feels lonely.

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« Reply #5 on: May 27, 2010, 05:26:15 AM »
 @ Manay / Macky / MDB: Aw, di gyud mo magmahay kong matapo mo sa among grupo kay puro estorya ilawom dagat... :D :D :D Kong dili pod ka motapo ikaw rapoy estoryahan :D :D :D hahahaa!

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Re: Are you lonely? Loneliness is sometimes good
« Reply #6 on: May 27, 2010, 05:36:28 AM »
sa among party sa bol-anon ang motif 1960´s, ang akong sol-ot mini ug alahas nga mini, plastik  diha sa dibisorya. ang ubang mga miyembro gikan sa Amerika kay morag psychedelic ang design, ang among musik Chuck Berry, Beatles etc. ha ha ha na-ilad ka sa bitin-bitin sa liog. ;D

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« Reply #7 on: May 27, 2010, 05:41:57 AM »
 Sa didto pakos Bohol, kong makakita kog gikan sa Saudi nga daghan kaayog alahas, masantup sa akong huna huna nga someday mopalit jud kog ing-ana. Pero sa dihang gipalitan ko ni commander dili man diay ko ganahan mo sul-ob. Huna-huna ra diay to :D

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« Reply #8 on: May 27, 2010, 05:46:38 AM »
naay daghang alahas sa prendahanan, gikan sa Saudi puro na remate.

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Re: Are you lonely? Loneliness is sometimes good
« Reply #9 on: May 28, 2010, 01:37:52 AM »
Nyur tinuod jud na! sa una sa Pinas pa ko nakaingon sad ko ana nga mo palit jud ko anang dakgo nga bling! pastilan pag abut tuod nako diri, namalit ko ug bling unya akong mga associates kay puti, di mahilig mag bling na ulaw ko! hangtud karon wa na jud koy bling.

hunahuna ra diay sad to nako! hahahahhaha!

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Re: Are you lonely? Loneliness is sometimes good
« Reply #10 on: May 28, 2010, 06:01:17 AM »
Kini bitaw nga lonely ta malagmit masayop atong hunahuna. Maglain atong ginhawaan bisan walay igong hinungdan. Morag mosakit atong tiyan. Usahay abi nato hangin lang, naay diay sidekick nga solid... ;D

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« Reply #11 on: May 28, 2010, 06:09:23 AM »
butangi Hubag, panohot diay! ;D

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« Reply #12 on: May 28, 2010, 06:15:51 AM »
Manay,

During my 1st year of Medicine, I was lonely always. There were times when i went to the anatomy lab with my partner to review for lab practicals and we would stay in the lab for hours on end, till the dead of night. It was really hard being so far away from home and the stresses of academic life, and dealing with the smell of formalyn. My lab partner would tap my shoulder whenever it would be 2 am to remind me that we needed to go home to sleep, lol, since class was at 8am every morning.

Luuya pood mi, the thing that i realized tho was how i was really homesick the first month of 1st year medicine. Maka mingaw pood ta sa sound of our parents' voices and the laughter of my siblings.

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Just under half of us have felt depressed because we have felt alone, says a report. But not everyone who is alone is sad about it, so what is the difference between being lonely and being a loner?
Young or old, male or female, rich or poor, it doesn't matter - loneliness is indiscriminate.
Loneliness is not about being physically alone, it's about a person's individual experience of isolation and how they evaluate it, says the MHF. A loner gets pleasure and satisfaction from solitude, a lonely person doesn't.

While human beings are sociable animals by nature, personalities vary and at the opposite ends of the spectrum are extroverts and introverts.

"For an extrovert it is all about seeking stimulation from other people but an introvert's replenishment comes from solitude," says psychologist Ros Taylor.

"A loner can be perfectly content with their own company, while being alone will make another person utterly miserable."

Professor Jenny de Jong-Gierveld defines loneliness as an "unpleasant or inadmissible" lack of certain relationships in your life. Essentially, you can be surrounded by friends but still feel lonely because you aren't emotionally intimate with any of them.

Most of us experience loneliness at some time, but what makes it harmful is when "it settles in long enough to create a persistent, self-reinforcing loop of negative thoughts, sensations and behaviours", says American psychologist John Cacioppo.

"You can't go through life not interacting with anyone, you have to talk and deal with a certain amount of people to function in everyday life. You need to know how to do this appropriately and successfully."

So while it is just as natural to enjoy solitude as it is to feel lonely, like many other things in life it's is all about moderation.



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« Reply #13 on: May 28, 2010, 06:17:46 AM »
Makapanuhot bitaw ning loneliness, tungod tingali kay kon lonely ta permi tang magmukmok... ;D

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« Reply #14 on: May 29, 2010, 12:32:08 AM »
Kini bitaw nga lonely ta malagmit masayop atong hunahuna. Maglain atong ginhawaan bisan walay igong hinungdan. Morag mosakit atong tiyan. Usahay abi nato hangin lang, naay diay sidekick nga solid... ;D

solid ba uroy.  liquid tingali, motuo pa ko. ;D


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« Reply #15 on: May 29, 2010, 12:54:14 AM »
Macky, ma lonely ko kon adunay mga Gala sa mga Pinoy dinhe kay kasagaran pa-bonggahay. Wala koy maka-istorya bahin sa progreso sa Pinas.

have seen that myself, sadly.  tawag nako anang mga klaseha 'walking pawnshops' or 'gumagapang na ahensya' or 'limbarok nga tigpatanto'. 

kitang mga baye angay magmata nga pa-bonggahay gani, wa gyoy makalupig kay ang kada usa nagtoo god nga siya ray gitan-aw kay siya ang kinangilngigan.  maayo pay mo-attend nga usa ray dunggan.  klaro pa nga mamatikdan kay way makalupig gawas atong tulo ang dunggan.  vive le difference! ;D 

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« Reply #16 on: May 29, 2010, 04:29:22 AM »
hey you´re funny but there is really truth in what you said. I´m not wearing much jewelries. akong gipanghatag 2 years ago sa akong mga amiga sa Bohol, ang nabilin dyutay lang para kon adunay okasyon, kasal, annivesary mao rah!

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