Author Topic: It is Illegal to call your wife "Ugly" (Read 641 times)

MikeLigalig.com · « **on:** May 29, 2009, 06:26:07 PM »

Calling one's wife ugly may soon be considered an offence under a Malaysian law that seeks to protect a woman both physically and emotionally.

One of the clauses proposed to be amended in the Domestic Violence Act 1994 pertains to emotional violence against women who are currently only protected against physical abuse, the Star newspaper said on Thursday.

Women's Development Department director-general Noorul Ainur Mohd Nur said emotional violence was a form of abuse that scars women deeply and lowers their self-esteem, dignity and self-confidence.

"It could be a case when a husband tells his wife she is ugly or humiliates her until she feels emotionally pressured," she told media at the end of a seminar on how to curb violence against women.

The government is in the process of bringing the proposed amendment to parliament. - Free Republic

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benelynne · « **Reply #1 on:** May 29, 2009, 07:07:44 PM »

In the dynamics of marriage, men sometimes call their wife unflattering remarks such as "ugly" or "fat" to prick her soft spot and gain the upper hand in the occasional war of egoes. According to Dr. John Gray in Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, the woman's deepest need is emotional security and being loved. Men use such language, sometimes without being fully conscious, to bring down her defenses.

The equivalent of "ugly" to a man is to call him "inutil", "walay pulos", "being of no help", "good-for-nothing" or "impotent" because man's deepest need is to feel needed, to be looked up to as being capable and in control of things.

Truth to tell is that women are just as wont to sputter "inutil" as men are to say "pangit" (or indirectly, by saying "maganda ang kapitbahay natin"). To even things out, these lawmakers have to legislate scrapping foul language on both sides.

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Gener · « **Reply #2 on:** May 31, 2009, 03:29:57 PM »

It's one's ego, pride, or the need to be right, that keep us from getting close to our beloved.

Word of advise for us all:

Could your tongue use taming? Try not speaking ill of anyone today, including your spouse, even in jest. Itâ€™s a start.

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benelynne · « **Reply #3 on:** May 31, 2009, 04:08:15 PM »

Hi Gener,

Musta ka na? It's been quite sometime since I read your post. We always pick up gems of wisdom from your insight.

It's one's ego, pride, or the need to be right, that keep us from getting close to our beloved.

Word of advise for us all:

Could your tongue use taming? Try not speaking ill of anyone today, including your spouse, even in jest. Itâ€™s a start.

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Gener · « **Reply #4 on:** May 31, 2009, 04:33:33 PM »

Hi Gener,

Musta ka na? It's been quite sometime since I read your post. We always pick up gems of wisdom from your insight.

Hi there bro, I'm ok, just came from a vacation in the Philippines, that's why I had to 'park my pen' for a while for my family to have undivided attention. Minsan lang kasi kami magkita because of my work outside of Philippines. Thanks for appreciating my articles bro and God bless.

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