Author Topic: Losing A Partner Has Dramatic Impact On Brain (Read 4224 times)

pioneer · « **on:** October 18, 2008, 02:47:02 AM »

A U.S. researcher says a study of prairie voles suggests monogamy may alter brain chemistry, resulting in depression when separated from their mate.

Neuroscientist Larry J. Young of Emory University said close monogamous relationships foster the release of corticotropin-releasing factor, or CRF, that builds loyalty. The compound, however, can also result in depression when the pair are separated, the Los Angeles Times reported Wednesday.

He said the same chemical is found in human brains. "Whenever you form a pair bond, it changes your neurochemistry," Young told the newspaper. "If you lose that partner, it has a dramatic impact on the brain." - source: UPI

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kiamoy · « **Reply #1 on:** October 18, 2008, 06:24:12 AM »

applicable ni sa nagbuwag lang?

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ms da binsi · « **Reply #2 on:** October 18, 2008, 06:26:45 AM »

Mike mas dako ug impact ang naay partner pero boluyagon! maayo bonalan ug baseball bat!

(Ginger take note!!! wa pa maulii dear!)

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kiamoy · « **Reply #3 on:** October 18, 2008, 06:42:49 AM »

hahah..lisura pud ana te..murag mag naa sa prisohan..di pwede maka gawas

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ms da binsi · « **Reply #4 on:** October 18, 2008, 06:44:36 AM »

hahahahha! kinsay nag bulag Kiams kamo sa imong BF? huy pulihi dayun kay makadaut daw na sa brain!!!

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kiamoy · « **Reply #5 on:** October 18, 2008, 06:49:25 AM »

hahah.. maypag shared lage kay walay buwag buwag..lol

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ms da binsi · « **Reply #6 on:** October 18, 2008, 12:35:30 PM »

mao kay ang imo rang ka share ang imong rival!

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kiamoy · « **Reply #7 on:** October 18, 2008, 09:53:55 PM »

hahah.. unya pwede ra ka maka gawas anytime.. kay d man jud pwede maging kamo kay tied man didto. haha

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Ginger · « **Reply #8 on:** October 18, 2008, 09:59:33 PM »

bantog rang daot nani akong brain...tsk tsk tsk

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kiamoy · « **Reply #9 on:** October 18, 2008, 10:01:04 PM »

hahaha. uncountable te? (ym)

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Ginger · « **Reply #10 on:** October 18, 2008, 10:03:33 PM »

mulang! (naa ko lain gi add nga id)

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #11 on:** October 18, 2008, 10:04:50 PM »

God forbid this ever happens to any of us.

Loosing a wife would be like loosing half of my heart.

The mother of my future-children will be a definite part of me.

Beyond words. As I want to grow old and die in the arms of my future wife. In a ripe old age.

To see the sun sets with her, talk of old bygone years, and to look at the rising sun for our anak(s) and mga apo(s).

And find delight in knowing that something part of us would continue on.

God-willing, of course.

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Ginger · « **Reply #12 on:** October 18, 2008, 10:05:35 PM »

Dong, it's not easy to lose a partner. Either a bf or a husband. The pain is unimaginable.

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #13 on:** October 18, 2008, 10:07:15 PM »

I cannot even begin to fathom the pain, Darling.

(Gives you a warm embrace)

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kiamoy · « **Reply #14 on:** October 18, 2008, 10:17:20 PM »

aysus.. hugs pud ko kang ate.. naa pa ang pic te?

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Ginger · « **Reply #15 on:** October 19, 2008, 03:45:00 AM »

I cannot even begin to fathom the pain, Darling.

(Gives you a warm embrace)

aysus.. hugs pud ko kang ate.. naa pa ang pic te?

thanks!

unsa na pic, bem?

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kiamoy · « **Reply #16 on:** October 19, 2008, 03:59:50 AM »

hehe kato sa insik nga imo ra gi guka bisan di cya sugot naa kaw pic

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Ginger · « **Reply #17 on:** October 19, 2008, 04:03:32 AM »

hmmmm lemme check my old wallet.

after 5 secs...

wala na, bem. basin tua sa amo....somewhere

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grazie7y · « **Reply #18 on:** October 20, 2008, 02:11:23 AM »

It must be so, so hard. I can't imagine the pain siguro. My friend Lucy whose husband died suddenly on September 8, she is so sad to the point that she's been talking about "following" her husband. She already had options on how to carry this out. Makahadlok oi!

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kiamoy · « **Reply #19 on:** October 20, 2008, 02:12:16 AM »

te dili na dapat pasagdan mga tao nga ing ana.. they are that capable..naa nagud na sa subconscious nila magpakamatay..courage nalang na and timing..simbako

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #20 on:** October 20, 2008, 02:13:06 AM »

This is a sign of clinical depression as a result of moribundidty.

Ate Ging, I suggest you suggest her to a psychiatric consult. For her own mental and physical health.

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grazie7y · « **Reply #21 on:** October 20, 2008, 02:23:29 AM »

Dodong and Inday Bem, you are both right. Last night after I came home from Lucy's place, when I logged in to my yahoo, she was online. I asked her what she was doing, she said she was researching about life after death and stuff like that. I asked her what she learned so far and so told me that for us to be accepted to die, we should be ready. So then she questioned why her husband accepted his own death if he really loves her. Sus purbida. She also blames herself because she said if she went with her husband that day, she could have had saved him. She talks about all the deaths in her family and that she has been so tested by God, etc, etc. Anyway, after that, I told my husband about Lucy's question too how painful it is to slash the wrist and that one girl said that if you wanna die, why hurt yourself. So Lucy thought that maybe drinking the poison for rats, which she said she has in her garage, is less painful. hay, Ginoo ko! My husband then told me that somebody should take her seriously. She is crying for help now.

Dong, my problem is that if I suggest her to go to psychiatrist, that means money since her husband's office health insurance was cancelled upon her husband's death. And not only that, she said she is ok and that she doesn't need psychiatrist. I know she is really mentally unstable these days and that is so understandable. My husband gave me ideas which offices to contact to help her. I will look into that so I can see if I can take her this week.

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kiamoy · « **Reply #22 on:** October 20, 2008, 02:32:19 AM »

grabe ni iya situation te

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grazie7y · « **Reply #23 on:** October 20, 2008, 02:37:04 AM »

ga research ko karon ug agencies that I can call to help Lucy. Mahadlok ko.

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #24 on:** October 20, 2008, 03:30:26 AM »

Ate Ging,

Please get her indirect help; there are ways for one to get help for a friend, you can contact a local public health official and inform them of this situation. Or you can inform her family members living around her to suggest medical consult.

Last year, I was shattered at the loss and passing of my good friend Rob. His case was suicide. And I tell you the truth that I never thought that he was the suicidal type nor did he show signs of it as he was always outgoing, laughing, at parties, and would talk to me and converse in deep conversations that didn't even deal with death or dying.

This is called hid-case depression. I only learned after his death from his parents that Rob was clinically depressed and was taking medication, however ceased to take medication.

I never knew about this, and I tell you the truth that I was hit so hard at his loss as I just talked to him face to face 2 days before I learned of his death. (Which was the day before our Thanksgiving Break).

I had symptoms of depression after his death, and was in tears for quite some time. It took time, prayers, and talks with friends and loved ones to grow out of that situation.

And I believe that your friend Lucy needs all the family she can have around her, close friends, as well as religious activity that can focus her energy not on the death of her husband and the 'what ifs', but on the progression of life. To move on after this episode.

You have my sympathy in this situation.

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #25 on:** October 20, 2008, 03:35:23 AM »

Dodong and Inday Bem, you are both right. Last night after I came home from Lucy's place, when I logged in to my yahoo, she was online. I asked her what she was doing, she said she was researching about life after death and stuff like that. I asked her what she learned so far and so told me that for us to be accepted to die, we should be ready. So then she questioned why her husband accepted his own death if he really loves her. Sus purbida. She also blames herself because she said if she went with her husband that day, she could have had saved him. She talks about all the deaths in her family and that she has been so tested by God, etc, etc. Anyway, after that, I told my husband about Lucy's question too how painful it is to slash the wrist and that one girl said that if you wanna die, why hurt yourself. So Lucy thought that maybe drinking the poison for rats, which she said she has in her garage, is less painful. hay, Ginoo ko! My husband then told me that somebody should take her seriously. She is crying for help now.

Dong, my problem is that if I suggest her to go to psychiatrist, that means money since her husband's office health insurance was cancelled upon her husband's death. And not only that, she said she is ok and that she doesn't need psychiatrist. I know she is really mentally unstable these days and that is so understandable. My husband gave me ideas which offices to contact to help her. I will look into that so I can see if I can take her this week.

Ate, does she not have health insurance? I am sure there are free health clinics in the area for her to go to?

There are also alternative cases for her, she can enroll in group-talks where people with similar problems and experiences similar experiences can talk about their present circumstance and move on together. Tell her about these groups.

However, I suggest she have psychiatric consult first, in order to dictate whether she is clinically depressed and/or worse. If so, medical intervention must be mandated.

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grazie7y · « **Reply #26 on:** October 20, 2008, 03:47:55 AM »

Dong, I will properly read your two latest posts after I come back from lunchdate. I really need your input in this situation, Dong. The thing is she is doesn't have a single family here except us her friends.

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kiamoy · « **Reply #27 on:** October 20, 2008, 03:56:34 AM »

te kana friend nga maka help niya get over ani nga stage will be her friend and family for life

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Lorenzo · « **Reply #28 on:** October 20, 2008, 07:54:18 AM »

Dong, I will properly read your two latest posts after I come back from lunchdate. I really need your input in this situation, Dong. The thing is she is doesn't have a single family here except us her friends.

This is an interesting case scenario. My sympathy pours for her, 'te. I do hope that she is alright and bears the pain to move forward.

I've read into this in Ethics and there are many instances of such feelings and thoughts after a traumatic event. All of this is part of the grieving process, however, she has to access help if her thoughts are constantly about suicide and the lot.

Please take care of yourself, 'te, and don't be afraid to refer her to the public health office. As they have the resources to look after her and check up on her.

Enjoy your lunch date.

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grazie7y · « **Reply #29 on:** October 20, 2008, 12:38:48 PM »

Ate Ging,

Please get her indirect help; there are ways for one to get help for a friend, you can contact a local public health official and inform them of this situation. Or you can inform her family members living around her to suggest medical consult.

Last year, I was shattered at the loss and passing of my good friend Rob. His case was suicide. And I tell you the truth that I never thought that he was the suicidal type nor did he show signs of it as he was always outgoing, laughing, at parties, and would talk to me and converse in deep conversations that didn't even deal with death or dying.

This is called hid-case depression. I only learned after his death from his parents that Rob was clinically depressed and was taking medication, however ceased to take medication.

I never knew about this, and I tell you the truth that I was hit so hard at his loss as I just talked to him face to face 2 days before I learned of his death. (Which was the day before our Thanksgiving Break).

I had symptoms of depression after his death, and was in tears for quite some time. It took time, prayers, and talks with friends and loved ones to grow out of that situation.

And I believe that your friend Lucy needs all the family she can have around her, close friends, as well as religious activity that can focus her energy not on the death of her husband and the 'what ifs', but on the progression of life. To move on after this episode.

You have my sympathy in this situation.

Ate, does she not have health insurance? I am sure there are free health clinics in the area for her to go to?

There are also alternative cases for her, she can enroll in group-talks where people with similar problems and experiences similar experiences can talk about their present circumstance and move on together. Tell her about these groups.

However, I suggest she have psychiatric consult first, in order to dictate whether she is clinically depressed and/or worse. If so, medical intervention must be mandated.

Dong, the problem with people experiencing depression is that they are not aware of it but I can really tell that she is suffering that na kay she complained to me that her body is always tired and she felt like sleeping without waking up. Also, she tends to always close the windows and without light. I have been telling her to open all windows and lights so she wouldn't feel more depressed that she is stubborn.

Sige lang, tomorrow I will call some Crisis Hotlines that I can take her to. Earlier, I checked on hotlines but it was only for people who acknowledged that they need psychiatric help but in Lucy's case, she doesn't know or believe she needs that. I will do whatever I can to help her. Thanks kaayo, Dong!

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grazie7y · « **Reply #30 on:** October 20, 2008, 12:40:21 PM »

te kana friend nga maka help niya get over ani nga stage will be her friend and family for life

Tama jud ka, Bem. Daghan bya sya friends dire that really sacrificed for her. Friends were taking turns to stay with her at night so she wouldn't be lonely. Karon at least naay friend na ga skwela that stays with her at night time.

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