6 signs he’ll make a good dad
1. He treats his mother well. - What kind of family man will he be? First look at his relationship with his mom. Does he respect her? Laugh with her easily? Enjoy visiting her? Help out with chores or errands? “If the answer is yes, all of this means she did a good job raising him, he naturally likes women, and will like the mom you will become,†says Wendy Allen, Ph.D., a psychotherapist specializing in couples and marriage therapy in Santa Barbara, CA. In fact, respect in general — to other family members, to kids, and to you — should be at the top of the “what to look for†list.
2. He's selfless. - What's the number one thing you learn when you become a parent? You never come first anymore! So if you're with a guy who thinks he's the center of the universe, beware.
3. He's not easily grossed out. - Surprise! Kids are messy. There are dirty diapers, vomit — and dirty diapers and vomit happening at the same time. Being a parent means getting comfortable with the eewwww factor. Good fathers are the ones “who jump in to clean up a gross mess and help out when someone else isn’t feeling well,†says Dianne Couris, an author and parenting coach in Oldsmar, FL, and president of Family Choices & Solutions, Inc.
4. He's a great uncle. “Nephews and nieces are the stepping stones to your own kids,†says Allen. “Does he call them on their birthdays? Does he make dates where he actually has to show up and take them to the movies or an amusement park?â€
5. He doesn't mind taking direction from his partner. - “If a man resents being told what to do, then working with him on his children's schedule and responsibilities could get tense,†Couris says. “Running a family schedule is usually [the mother's role] and the father typically needs direction.†How can you tell if he'll respond well to family life? Notice how he takes to your suggestions and how he reacts to your plans. If you get a positive reaction, you're onto something!
6. He likes ketchup. - And he understands the importance of blowing the paper cover off of a straw and seeing if it can reach across the table. In other words, he has a playful sense of fun, and doesn't take himself too seriously. Those could be the most telling sign of all. You've got to have a sense of humor to get through life with kids.
This means to say my husband Jorge is a good father. He has all the signs stated above. My girls, Nique and Elle, are so lucky!
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