Dear Blue Angel,
Thank God!
Our women and men can sit together in drink and song and in conversation as one and everyone knows how to conversate together and is respected for what is said and many do not sit submissive as if they have no right to speak, smile or laugh. The women do not beg their men to go home especailly when he is enjoying with freinds and family during rare times together.
Funerals I try to avoid as I want to remember my freinds and relatives alive and since I have been here for sometime I have missed my dads funeral , my grandfathers funeral and my best freinds funeral.
Weddings you seen one you have seen them all. and I do not attend any weddings here or abroad when a freind gets marreid after getting pregnant. Back in the days woman did not make having a baby as pre-requisite to marry.
Neither did men but it seems more and more that you have to have a buntis for sure in order that the man will marry. he does not want a woman if she is unable to bare his fruit.
Sorry reality check not all women can have babies, and not all men produce enough sperm to fertilize an egg.
My holidays are spent with my freinds back home not always with my family, and my freinds are welcome to spend the holidays with my family.
Most my life even while growing up I saddled my own horse if I wanted to ride......
I did not make others feel guilty if they did not attend family holidays and events that they were invited too.
I think for the past 28 years I have not spent Xmas at home. and same with Thanksgiving or other holidays.
I have given my presents and helped in the family business during the holidays and since I see them everyday when I am back home spending the holidays away from them it is my time to get away and vacation as the business is closed for Thanksgiving, Xmas and Easter, meaning I am far away out of town enjoying with freinds. And no need to worry about the families business while I am away because it is closed for the holiday. Here business is open on holidays and for religeous holidays business's are closed. (Holyweek and All Souls day) in States we do not treat those holidays like they do here.
We have Easter Sunday Thanksgiving and Christmas in where we are closed down for the entire day.
I am a loner and enjoy doing things alone some people do not want be around others always some people do enjoy what is known as privacy and a peace of mind and not having to put up everyone getting into each others business.
I notice here and hear as well the stories that so and so family member says his kids are better than mine kind of storeis. I always feel like Filipino freinds or families want to see who can out do one another by being better then the other, no matter how much they hurt a freind or family member by always comparing. Look at the school medal system here and look at the parents who have those medals as the only thing decorating their walls as if it seems they do not want you to see any other decoratations. They just put it on the wall and leave it there for a way to boast with-out saying anything.
We do not do the medal thing back home in the states. It is so belittling to those students who are not as bright. Simple grades are handed out and a certificate is given if your in a play a talent show, a school safety patrol, but not because of your behavior or because you were having the best grades.
Awards in schools in states are given on student participation not on performance.
I normally do not attend a party unless I am acquianted with the persons who are inviting me.
I am just responding to your generalized statement. I do not go with the flow when most persons feathers are colored black and white I see my feathers as colored.
I do not consider myself as odd or weird I am straight to the point, do not lie or play games and find my own things to talk about.
I do my best to describe the way of life that is happening around me.
I am open, and I am a good listener if what is being said makes sense and the person saying it has done some personal observation on their own what he/she is talking about. I'm also not one who is sucessable (spelling?) to gossip when I hear it. I know a lot of people here are and it is not my bag. Many would rather burn you before they get to know you by the cruel words said by those who never know the real you.
And most important saying thank you when the time is right.
Simple polite things mean a lot.
That is where I stand I have a mind of my own and do not need to be pursuaded by being in a big group doing things together. I love my independance. I love my freedom to be me and not that of one who has a cloned personality!
I beleive women and men should both be treated equally.
If your being a jerk I would tell you if your neat person I would also tell you your neat!
I am a simple person. Not a push button!
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