By Jessica McDaniel
Everyone wants a “jealous” “overprotective” boyfriend until you can't leave your house without his permission.
Until you start losing friends/family because he doesn’t trust them.
Everyone thinks it's cute having an overprotective boyfriend until you can't wear your favorite dress because it shows too much skin.
Or your phone gets wiped, cause the only phone number you need is his.
It's cute until you get hit and choked when you're trying to leave or disagree with something.
It's cute until you have to watch over your shoulder and live in fear because that man could snap and kill you or punch holes in the wall over the littlest thing.
It’s cute until you try to talk about how you feel, how unsafe you are in his presence, & he reacts like an adult child, and throws a fit then leaves…
Or your stuck trying to defend yourself AGAIN….
A man being controlling doesn't mean he loves you. It’s wrong. It’s sick. He needs help! And you need to get away. FAST.
I learned the hard way, it started off as cute and what I knew as love. Now it makes me sick to my stomach just thinking about it. I ignored red flag after red flag, because that's what I thought love was. That’s what I grew up learning!
Now I have been courting a guy for the last few months, whom I don't have to check in with to prove I’m not cheating.
We discuss things like adults, & if we disagree about something, we talk about it.
I wear whatever I want, I wear makeup, & it doesn't turn into an argument about who I’m trying to impress! He doesn’t feel threatened by my beauty inside or outside! He knows he has my heart.
He doesn’t question me, or threaten me.
He TRUSTS me.
It’s the most amazing feeling knowing that I am safe with him, physically, emotionally, mentally, & spiritually.
It’s been rough at times, working through triggers & trauma from my past relationships.
But he has been patient, understanding, & forgiving. He could’ve walked away at anytime. And he hasn’t.
He is my best friend. I can talk to him about anything and it doesn’t turn into a fight. He lets me know if I do something he doesn’t like. & I feel safe enough to do the same with him.
Don’t settle for overprotective or controlling. Because it will not end well! Find someone that loves Jesus, that loves others, including strangers. Wait for someone that loves correctly.
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