That is something i had to learn the hard way, Anna.
For a long time, i really questioned this notion of ' the right love' kai for a while i was lost.
Too many women came and went, invested upon, some i just played with (and i admit this), too many cries, too many tears, questions of why.
So much that I was numbed to it.
And you know..in the end, it does hit you. Love does come knocking on our door.
And it is only when I actually feel 'Love' that I felt guilt for the hearts I hurt.
But i had to legitimize things, rationalize things.
I could not give them what they want nor give them what i did not have.
They wanted to be loved as they loved; per...that is the thing. I did not love them as they did.
And in my view, had i 'tried' to love them and forced myself...still it would not have happened.
So, better to cut losses and let it go, than to make them wait..and hurt them longer.
One thing i learned is this: We cannot force ourselves to think, believe or love something that we really do not.
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