Gener,
I am reading your thoughts and feel for your predicament. In my youthful adolescence, I would rebel against the judgment of my father and his discipline, which I thought (at that particular age, that is) was too overbearing and strict.
We were never allowed to stay over our friends' place for too long or were detracted away form attending parties while in high school.
My father is also an active disciplinarian, well to me he was--and I mean this in a symbolic aspect considering I was the eldest in the family and am the role model for my siblings. Judgment passed on me by my father was a lesson my younger siblings were to learn from.
As a man now of 23 years on my back, I cannot help but reminisce and analyze the ways of my father. Sure, he may have been strict, sure I may have clashed heads with him in the past. Despite the plethora of arguments we might have had in particular aspects of growing up, from seeing the troubles of individuals my age and from talking to some friends who didn't grow up with a father figure--hearing their stories and personal scenarios--allowed me to re-analyze the view I had of my father.
And though I do not vocally say this to my father, I think he knows that his ways are vindicated. I appreciate the discipline my father bestowed on me.
And in the end, Mr. Gener, I, his first born son, developed a high respect, love, and adoration for my father.
That what he did, was for the best.
I am sure your son will understand your point of view when he comes of age. And as a father, you will be seen, in his eyes, as a role model. The anchor that keeps him from drifting in rough oceans.
Respectfully Yours,
Lorenzo
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