In a society where physical beauty often equates to sex appeal, the idea of sapiosexuality has been quietly gaining traction in recent years. In 2014, “sapiosexual†became one of an expanded list of sexual orientations and identities daters could choose on OkCupid, the online dating app. In March, the CineKink NYC film festival featured “Sapiosexual,†a short film about a young woman named Cass whose attraction to her date increases as he discusses the work of E.M. Forster. As she puts it, “Most people get turned on by rock-hard abs, toned muscles or perfect cheekbones. Not me.â€
With increased visibility has come a backlash: Some say declaring a sexual preference based on intelligence is pretentious, elitist or insulting to people with disabilities.
In 2014, “sapiosexual†became one of an expanded list of sexual orientations and identities available on the online dating app OkCupid.
For Jacqueline Cohen, though, the term describes how she has felt since she was a teenager. “I’ve always known that the one thing that gets me very excited and aroused is the intelligence, and sometimes even the mystery around someone’s intelligence,†she said.
That’s what drew Ms. Cohen, who is 52 and lives on the Upper West Side, to her first husband, a magician. “There’s a brilliance that comes with magic and card manipulation,†she said.
On their first date, he levitated for her. But she was most fascinated with tricks that involved mentalism — subtly planting a number or an image in her mind so that he could guess which card she would pick later on (and sometimes hiding it somewhere unexpected, like the refrigerator).
“I called it his magic foreplay,†she said.
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