By Oscar Lopez
9 hours ago
The text was sent to 2.4 million people by Freddie Bologno: "I've texted for DoSomething as Alysha for 3yrs, but I've been struggling. Im trans, Im Freddie!"
Bologno, 27, works at Do Something, a digital organization that helps young people push for social change through social media and text messaging. For Bologno, the text was a way to both come out publicly and start a conversation about being young and transgender. But before coming out to the world, Bologno had to talk to his girlfriend, Tile Wolfe. "I just started crying," says Wolfe, remembering the moment Bologno said he wanted to start taking hormones to transition from female to male. "Not because I was sad, but because this was suddenly so real."
Wolfe, 23, has lived in New York for five years and has always identified as a lesbian. She met Bologno four years ago while standing in line for the bathroom at Metropolitan, a grimy gay bar in Brooklyn. "I said something like, 'I hope to meet you again in a less gross place,'" Bologno recalls. Wolfe remembers the moment as "deeply corny." They've been living together for two years now, alongside Buddha, their chubby gray cat. "We're so in love," Wolfe says, blushing.
Like Wolfe and Bologno, there are hundreds of couples across the country with one or both members transitioning. And while transgender celebrities like Caitlyn Jenner and Laverne Cox have offered profound insights into what a transitioning individual goes through, there is little out there concerning what it's like to transition as a couple, or even what it's like to date as a transgender person or fall in love. "It's quite common for trans people to wonder, Will anyone love me?" says Walter Bockting, a psychiatrist and co-director of the LGBT Health Initiative at Columbia University.
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