Fighting with your spouse is good for health

[benelynne]

A fight with your spouse could be good for health: study

CHICAGO (AFP) - A good fight with your spouse could be good for the health, a new study has found.

Couples who suppressed their anger have a mortality rate twice as high as those in which at least one partner stands up for themselves, according to the study which tracked 192 US couples for 17 years.

"When couples get together, one of their main jobs is reconciliation about conflict," said lead author Ernest Harburg, an emeritus professor with the University of Michigan.

"The key matter is, when the conflict happens, how do you resolve it?" he said.

"When you don't, if you bury your anger, and you brood on it and you resent the other person or the attacker, and you don't try to resolve the problem, then you're in trouble."

Previous studies have shown that suppressing anger increases stress-related illnesses like heart disease and high blood pressure.

This study looks at how suppressed anger and the resulting buildup of resentment in a marriage affects overall mortality rates.

It adjusted for age, smoking, weight, blood pressure, bronchial problems, breathing, and cardiovascular risk.

Harburg and his colleagues used a questionnaire to determine how the spouses responded to behaviour that they perceived as unfair.

Both spouses suppressed their anger in 26 of the couples while at least one spouse expressed their anger in the remaining 166 couples.

At least one death was recorded in half the couples who suppressed their anger, whereas only 26 percent of the other couples suffered from the death of a spouse.

And the anger-supressing couples were nearly five times more likely to both be dead 17 years later, the study found.

Harburg cautioned that the results are still preliminary and do not constitute a representative sample of current marital relationships.

The study period covers couples interviewed in 1971 and measures survival through 1988.

It was carried out in a small, predominantly white and middle class town in Michigan and most of the women were "housewives" born before the sexual revolution.

An upcoming analysis of survival rates 30 years later will yield more reliable results, Harburg said.

The paper will appear in the January edition of the Journal of Family Communication.

[Lorenzo]

Hm. I need to send this to my parents.

[B:)]

babaay lang (doesn't have to yell) ayaw nang physical

[Lorenzo]

bitaw, no need to get physical. Kai ma sakit pood ang laki intawn. Luuy man gud ning laki..

[B:)]

bitaw, no need to get physical. Kai ma sakit pood ang laki intawn. Luuy man gud ning laki..

ya, right!

[lindy]

daghan bitaw mga husband nga gikulata ug asawa...

[benelynne]

daghan bitaw mga husband nga gikulata ug asawa...

Mao ni ang away nga dili healthy kay pwede sa hospital matiwas.

Nganong bitaw dakung isyu ang wife-beating, pero ang husband-mauling way madungog bisag naa nay black eye ang bana?

[grazie7y]

Intawon pod! Either way, it shouldn't happen to couples who love each other.  Basin spoiled lang ko but I don't think I can still possibly stay in love with my husband kon pasakitan ko - physically or emotionally!  That's no way a way of loving each other.  Discussion - sometimes heated discussion can be just fine.  If it get's so bad, why not just agree to disagree!

[Lorenzo]

hahaha mo ingoon man ahong papa 'mo away-away ko sa imung mama kai na gugma man ko niya ug siya na gugma nako, mao na daghaan mo'

tinuud ba ni? di jud ko kaibao, sigoro..hahaha

All I know mama was my Dad's first woman, and dad was her first and only bf. hahaha
18 pa to si mom and 20 pa to si dad ning start dating sila. Been fighting ever since.
Karoon, 49 na si Dad, 47 na si mom. Hahahaha upat kids later.

[orChids]

Sir Bene ohisashibori!

Bitaw,nganong mag-away man pod no?Kami dili mi awayon sa akong hubz,pero dihay kausa nag-away mi,hapit mi nagkabulag.Grabe jod diay nang panagsa ra.

[grazie7y]

hahaha mo ingoon man ahong papa 'mo away-away ko sa imung mama kai na gugma man ko niya ug siya na gugma nako, mao na daghaan mo'

tinuud ba ni? di jud ko kaibao, sigoro..hahaha

All I know mama was my Dad's first woman, and dad was her first and only bf. hahaha
18 pa to si mom and 20 pa to si dad ning start dating sila. Been fighting ever since.
Karoon, 49 na si Dad, 47 na si mom. Hahahaha upat kids later.

Dong, away2x lang man na siguro imong Mama ug Papa part of loving-loving.

[lindy]

its okey man kanang away kay spices man kana sa love pero ug mag ginukdanay nag sundang dili na kana maayo...hehehe.

[C2H4]

If fighting with your spouse is good for your health, then laughing with him must be better.

I prefer the latter.

[Bambi]

daghan bitaw mga husband nga gikulata ug asawa...

Lindy, could be these men... "mga under the saya" and/or just very helpless and weak.

[lindy]

wala may bana nga under sa asawa kon dili naglikay lang sa kagubot...

[swakee]

lami man nang ginagmay nga away... labi na ug mag- "F" words na... it really turn me on... as in jud...  hehe...

[lindy]

lami man nang ginagmay nga away... labi na ug mag- "F" words na... it really turn me on... as in jud...  hehe...

Saba diha Swaks uy basin kutob ka lang sa sroty telling!!!

[swakee]

morag sakto jud ka Lindy... hehe... ahak oi!

[lindy]

morag sakto jud ka Lindy... hehe... ahak oi!

pila diay imo anak?

[swakee]

pila diay imo anak?
wala pa ka-buo Linds...