10. There are people with much worse problems than you. That's very true, but knowing that some people get third-degree burns doesn't make first-degree burns hurt less.
11. You're not truly better if you're relying on medication. It would be great to get out of bed every morning, do my job, and engage in social activities without psychiatric assistance. But popping a pill every night is way preferable to missing out on everything life has to offer.
12. Just cheer up. You would never tell someone with a cold to just stop coughing. Depression is also a physical ailment beyond our control; the problem is just in our brains rather than in our throats.
So, if you can't say these things, what do you say? I would recommend asking a loved one with depression if there's anything you can do for them. That way, you'll know what they want rather than guessing and potentially getting it wrong. And if their answer is that there's nothing you can do, that's OK. You might feel useless, but how they feel is more important. Plus, even if you can't help, they may take comfort in just knowing you want to.
This post, written by Suzannah Weiss, originally appeared on Ravishly.