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Warning Signs of Predators for Parents
« on: August 23, 2015, 04:56:51 PM »
Jennifer O'Neill
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Yahoo Parenting
August 22, 2015


How can you tell if someone has ulterior motives for wanting to get closer to your child? An expert identifies three red flags you want to watch out for.
 

News about sexual offenders is dominating the headlines — most recently about Subway pitchman Jared Fogle, who is reportedly planning to plead guilty to child porn charges and crossing state lines to pay for sex with minors, and admitted teen molester Josh Duggar.

But parents who assume their child could never be a victim should know that the reality is nine out of 10 children who are sexually abused are victimized by someone they know — including relatives, family friends, clergy, teachers, and babysitters, according to the National Children’s Advocacy Center (NCAC).

“The offender usually uses coercion and manipulation, not physical force, to engage the child,” reports the American Academy of Pediatrics in a sexual abuse prevention tip sheet for parents. Deborah Callins, prevention director at the NCAC, tells Yahoo Parenting, “They take advantage of a child’s natural curiosity.” So how can mothers and fathers identify the close people most likely to have ulterior motives, or who might want to take advantage of your child?
...than to speak out and remove all doubt." - Abraham Lincoln


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Re: Warning Signs of Predators for Parents
« Reply #1 on: August 23, 2015, 04:57:46 PM »
Here are a few simple ways to see the red flags that are often right in front of you:

Take cues from your kids.

“Parents can protect their children by being better listeners,” she says. “Are they hearing what their child is actually meaning? If a child states he or she doesn’t want to spend time with a particular person, the parents may assume their child thinks the person is boring. But the real message the child might be trying to send is that the person makes him or her feel uncomfortable.” So stop a moment and try to really get to the heart of the matter before you insist that little Madison drive to the park with Uncle Jim to play on the swings if she’s dragging her feet. “Your children could be sending you little hints,” explains Callins. “You need to dig a little for more information.”

Consider whether someone seems to be ‘testing’ your child’s ability to protect himself.
Does a family friend always insist on “hugging, touching, kissing, tickling, wrestling with or holding a child, even when the child does not want this physical contact or attention?” asks sexual abuse prevention organization Stop It Now! in its resource sheet, Behaviors to Watch Out for When Adults are with Children. Such seemingly innocuous behaviors indicate that the adult is ignoring a child’s social, emotional and physical boundaries — and that’s a big red flag.

Take note if a person is sexually suggestive around your kid.

If someone always tends to point out sexual images, or tells dirty or suggestive jokes in the presence of kids, take heed, suggests Stop It Now! That goes for comments about a child’s “developing body” or a teen’s dating details, too. “It may be nothing, or it may be a warning signal that the person is grooming your child,” explains Callins. He or she may be trying to figure out how curious your child is about sex, how much they know about it, and whether they may be willing to participate in it. “Perhaps the parent doesn’t even realize that it’s an issue — ‘Oh, that’s just how my cousin is,’ or ‘That’s just how he talks,’” she says. “But it could also be a test.”

Callins advises removing your child from such a situation if it makes you or your kid uncomfortable, and then talking about it separately afterward with both the person and your child. “That way, it’s out in the air,” she says. And that way there’s no question about your boundaries — and whether you’ll be aware if somebody tries to cross them.
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Re: Warning Signs of Predators for Parents
« Reply #2 on: August 23, 2015, 07:20:07 PM »

Tip Sheet: Warning Signs of Possible Sexual Abuse In A Child's Behaviors

Any one sign doesn't mean that a child was sexually abused, but the presence of several suggests that you begin asking questions and consider seeking help. Keep in mind that some of these signs can emerge at other times of stress such as:

    # During a divorce
    # Death of a family member or pet
    # Problems at school or with friends
    # Other anxiety-inducing or traumatic events
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Re: Warning Signs of Predators for Parents
« Reply #3 on: August 23, 2015, 07:34:29 PM »

Behavior you may see in a child or adolescent

    #Has nightmares or other sleep problems without an explanation
    #Seems distracted or distant at odd times
    #Has a sudden change in eating habits
    #Refuses to eat
    #Loses or drastically increases appetite
    #Has trouble swallowing.
    #Sudden mood swings: rage, fear, insecurity or withdrawal
    #Leaves “clues” that seem likely to provoke a discussion about sexual 
     issues
    #Writes, draws, plays or dreams of sexual or frightening images
    #Develops new or unusual fear of certain people or places
    #Refuses to talk about a secret shared with an adult or older child
    #Talks about a new older friend
    #Suddenly has money, toys or other gifts without reason
    #Thinks of self or body as repulsive, dirty or bad
    #Exhibits adult-like sexual behaviors, language and knowledge
Republic Act 8485 (Animal Welfare Act of 1998, Philippines), as amended and strengthened by House  Bill 6893 of 2013--- violation means a maximum of P250,000 fine with a corresponding three-year jail term and a minimum of P30,000 fine and six months imprisonment

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Re: Warning Signs of Predators for Parents
« Reply #4 on: August 23, 2015, 07:35:33 PM »

Signs more typical of younger children

    #An older child behaving like a younger child (such as bed-wetting or
     thumb sucking)
    #Has new words for private body parts
    #Resists removing clothes when appropriate times (bath, bed, toileting,
     diapering)
    #Asks other children to behave sexually or play sexual games
    #Mimics adult-like sexual behaviors with toys or stuffed animal
    #Wetting and soiling accidents unrelated to toilet training
Republic Act 8485 (Animal Welfare Act of 1998, Philippines), as amended and strengthened by House  Bill 6893 of 2013--- violation means a maximum of P250,000 fine with a corresponding three-year jail term and a minimum of P30,000 fine and six months imprisonment

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Re: Warning Signs of Predators for Parents
« Reply #5 on: August 23, 2015, 07:36:26 PM »

Signs more typical in adolescents

    #Self-injury (cutting, burning)
    #Inadequate personal hygiene
    #Drug and alcohol abuse
    #Sexual promiscuity
    #Running away from home
    #Depression, anxiety
    #Suicide attempts
    #Fear of intimacy or closeness
    #Compulsive eating or dieting
Republic Act 8485 (Animal Welfare Act of 1998, Philippines), as amended and strengthened by House  Bill 6893 of 2013--- violation means a maximum of P250,000 fine with a corresponding three-year jail term and a minimum of P30,000 fine and six months imprisonment

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Re: Warning Signs of Predators for Parents
« Reply #6 on: August 23, 2015, 07:37:05 PM »

Physical warning signs

Physical signs of sexual abuse are rare.  If you see these signs, bring your child to a doctor.   Your doctor can help you understand what may be happening and test for sexually transmitted diseases.

    #Pain, discoloration, bleeding or discharges in genitals, anus or mouth
    #Persistent or recurring pain during urination and bowel movements
    #Wetting and soiling accidents unrelated to toilet training
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Re: Warning Signs of Predators for Parents
« Reply #7 on: August 23, 2015, 07:40:32 PM »

What You Can Do If You See Warning Signs

    #Create a Safety Plan. Don’t wait for “proof” of child sexual abuse.

    #Look for patterns of behavior that make children less safe. Keep track
     of behaviors that concern you. This Sample Journal Page can be a helpful
     tool.
   
     See our Let’s Talk Guidebook for tips on speaking up whenever you have a concern.

    If you have questions or would like resources or guidance for responding to a specific situation, visit our Online Help Center.

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Republic Act 8485 (Animal Welfare Act of 1998, Philippines), as amended and strengthened by House  Bill 6893 of 2013--- violation means a maximum of P250,000 fine with a corresponding three-year jail term and a minimum of P30,000 fine and six months imprisonment


 

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